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A serious shot in the dark
I am a 31-year-old divorcee with a 4-year-old son. I also am charged with caring for my developmentally disabled 33-year-old brother, who has the mental capacity of 8-year-old. My son's father is moving next week, and taking my child with him. I will not see my son again until Christmas, and then after that not until April. I am devastated that the family courts here in Seattle have allowed this to happen (no, there's nothing wrong with me...my ex just won), and I am now at a loss as to how to handle this. I can't stop crying, I can't take the time off my new job to go to therapy, and I have to be careful falling apart at home because it scared my brother.
HELP?
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hey i am very sorry to hear what you are going through. i don't think that there is really anything that you can do to get your kid back. i'm sure that the court gave your son to him because you have to care for your brother. so the only real thing that you can do to try and get your son back is to put your brother in a home and ask the courts to give you back your son. it just might work. if not then i don't know what you can do.
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I know this is a very difficult time and my heart goes out to you but you've got to start thinking about yourself now. You haven't totally lost your son as you obviously still have visitation rights. Now you're going to have to focus on making you as strong as you can be. Sometimes it helps to talk to a stranger because they don't know you and it's harder to judge. It's okay to cry when you're hurting but you have a reserved strength that you need to find a way to tap into. It's hard enough having to deal with a failed marriage but losing a child simply because some judge says that's the way it's going to be, I can't imagine your pain but if you need a ear to listen, I'm here . . . .
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It is a great idea to find out if the company you work for has a counselling program. If they do not, than talk to your family doctor, they may know of some kind of support group or counselling program you can get in touch with. Find out if there is any kind of support group in your area that that may have other mothers that are going through or have gone through the same kind of emotional turmoil yuo are going through. Let me know if this is any kind of help for you
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See if your job has an option for counselling through them. Most places have a particular group to whom they may refer employees needing counselling. Hopefully, if they do, this will not only allow you to seek the counselling that you DO SO need, but, MAY also allow you to not miss pay as you attend. Let me know. if there's anything else I can do for you, feel free to write me and let me know. REALLY.
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ok first you can still talk to your son i know its not the way u want it but at least you can keep in touch and until then you can refiled for ur son and plus with you big borther u should win next time. bout your crying just try and think happy thoughts like butterflys. you can talk to your brother to he make act like an eight year old but u kever know he might be able to make you feel better to and if you need any support u can chat wit me ill be able to listen so if you have yahoo here my s/n insanerubberducky@yahoo.com
chat soon i hope
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