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Got into a fight?
My friend and I just fought over something that happened weeks ago. Apparently she never let it go and felt she had to bring it up again. She won't leave me alone and keeps texting me about it and I'm getting sick of it. What should I do?
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Tell her how you feel and make sure you dont raise your voice and get angry, and PLEASE make sure you do this in person, it's the best, most effective way to solve most problems
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There are people in this world who for unknown reasons like to harbor grudges. Age doesn't really matter as people who hold onto a grudge know no age restriction.
The best advice I can give you is to try and patch things up with her. Apologize even if what you fought over isn't your fault. Most people who hold onto a grudge do so because they feel they are the wronged party. By apologizing you correct that feeling.
When and if you do as I suggest and she continues to hold a grudge then simply ignore. There is no law or rule that says you must read or respond to her texts. If you don't respond then she will soon tire of a one sided fight.
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You get sick because of the bad toughts that go into your head. Go talk with her and make everything ok so you wont have a reason to think negative. Once this goes away you wont feel sick or awlful anymore.
Nick
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you should just talk to your friend about what happened and after we have a talk about this, just let it go, because if you don't it will just haunt you all your life and your just wasting your time and effort. we have to let it go and grow up and focus on other stuff.
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Wondering what your ages are. Sorry if you are collage age or older, but what you are talking about sounds like the kinds of issues that plague young hormonal teens going through puberty. If this age bracket applies, then she is most likely angry and irritable more due to her hormones and not over the actual nature of the fight, not when it was weeks ago. If you aren't aware of this, long before a period starts, but hormones begin being release in the female body, the hormones change the body, true...but they also affect the emotions so that it is normal for all teen girls to go through some version of the emotions being affected. Some become weepy and easily sad over things that shouldnt warrant such a reaction, crying for no reason (that was me at that age) and others more commonly become easily irritated or angry and want to fight over things that arent worth fighting over, or irritated for no good reason at all. That was my 3 daughters and they fought each other. I had to remind them that at their age, it was their hormones causing them to be this way, that they are not bad people but they Will need to exercise a bit more self control and try to get over things. Its as simple as that. You might let her know about this and that you understand she's still angry but most people would have gotten over it by now and the fact she hasn't might mean it due to her hormones affecting her emotions. tell her to talk to her mom if she doesn't believe you, or better yet, tell her to write to me and she can title it, weeks after and still upset with friend or something like that. Another thing to be aware of is that females with their emotions run amok, tend to take it out on the females closest to them in life, like Mom, sisters and best friends. So dont take things personally, but switch from the texting to a phone call in which you explain what I said and let her know you still care about her and consider the fight to be over and done with and do not care to revisit it as it serves no purpose that will help your friendship move on. Let her know that if she texts you about that fight, you will ignore her text. (dont just ignore without warning her as its not fair) If she texts you about any other subject, you will answer as you still value her friendship. And thats it. If she begin to harrass you in person where you can't avoid it, you tell her to deal with it, or you will talk to her mom about it. Her mother needs to know if she has trouble lettiing it go as she may be one of teen girls whose hormones are over high and if so, theres no way she can control her emotions but just sheer willpower. SHe will need meds during her teen years to bring her hormones down to normal levels again where she can be her old self again. If it gets to this point and she claims she'll hate you if you talk to her mom and shes not willing to talk to a school counselor or me or reach out to anyone for help, then as her friend, if you really care, you will do it. Once she
is on meds if that was the problem, she will be her happy self again and not experience such wide mood swings unless it is something else like a mental disorder which seeing a Dr. may help reveal.
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We're not sure what your fight was all about since you didn't state it, but I'm gonna say, your fight's something mediocre, but of course it's gonna cause you two to fight.
Here's the thing, if you love your friend and you don't want her to leave you, you should try to be understanding. If it's something you did, everytime she texts you, just say "I'm sorry", it doesn't have to be sincere, just text her everytime she texts you, I'm sure that'd be easy since you don't have to act and cry and everything, you're just gonna type, unless you meet, then just do it with more emotion ;)
If you don't care about her, and you don't exactly want her to be around, then just ignore her until she gets tired of saying it over and over again. That's not that hard. Or at least say "I don't want to bother you anymore, I'm getting out of your life." then ignore her forever.
Typical teen problems ;)
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