so my younger sister never spends any time (out of school) with her friends. she is in 8th grade, and i would think that at least some girls her age are hanging out on weekends, i mean i remember having sleepovers with my friends when i was that age. anyways, i was wondering if this was normal? the last time she did anything with her friends was when she went to the movies one time in the summer...
xeks913 answered Sunday January 11 2009, 6:33 pm: i'm 14, and I'm the same way. I have many good friends in school, but i don't really spend all that much time with them outside of school. it's pretty normal, i know a lot of people who are the same way- some people just aren't the type. [ xeks913's advice column | Ask xeks913 A Question ]
alexxx123 answered Sunday January 11 2009, 3:55 pm: everyone has a period of time in theyre life where you feel too intimidated or insecure to really start letting others know the real you...this phase happened to me once before and your sister will probably get over it. im in 9th grade btw. your sister may need to spend some time with you..a teenager to really get the feel of it first...let her feel confident in herself..something may be bugging her, and she could use the help of her older wiser sibling [ alexxx123's advice column | Ask alexxx123 A Question ]
WittyUsernameHere answered Sunday January 11 2009, 3:41 pm: She is shy and needs encouragement.
You are an extrovert. It means that you extend outside yourself constantly, its where you are comfy. Being alone probably bothers you just a bit if you could be with people you like at any given moment.
Your sister is an introvert. It means she is more comfy alone and has trouble stepping outside herself to be around others, even when she wants to.
You should encourage her a little. Try to ask her why she doesn't go out, why she doesn't try to make plans with her friends. Talk to her about it sibling to sibling and try to figure out whats going on in her head, and give her some advice based on it. [ WittyUsernameHere's advice column | Ask WittyUsernameHere A Question ]
Catlovers141 answered Sunday January 11 2009, 2:01 pm: I am a shy person, and although I do have friends, I don't generally spend time outside of school with them. I sometimes worry that they don't want to spend time outside of school with me or that it would seem weird. It doesn't make sense, but fears generally don't, right? Maybe this is true for your sister. Or, maybe she just likes the solitude. A lot of people aren't socialites and would much rather spend time alone. This is just a difference in personality types. Unless you are noticing other problems then I wouldn't worry. [ Catlovers141's advice column | Ask Catlovers141 A Question ]
Brandi_S answered Sunday January 11 2009, 12:43 pm: When I was that age, I didn't spend a lot of time with my friends, either. However, I did spend some time with them.
I was just a home body, I guess. Maybe that's true with her.
Have you tried to sit down and talk to her about your concerns? You are her big sister, and she looks up to you more than you surely realize.
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