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Can I Deal With My Depression On My Own Without Seeking Help
I think I may have depression. I don't know if it is temporary or not. I have shown several classic symptoms of depression for nearly three months now, and I am so afraid to ask for help. I feel like there shouldn't be anything wrong with me, and I can't talk to my family about it, because I don't want it to become a huge ordeal. My mom has three sisters - the way they gossip, my problems would be all over the family before the words even left my mouth. I really don't want to draw any attention to myself because I am ashamed that I can't shake this feeling. Are there tips for dealing with possible depression without seeking help? Should I just treat the symptoms as they appear?
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DO NOT TRY TO TREAT THIS ON YOUR OWN!!!
Sorry, but this is something that could have killed me. I do not take it lightly.
Yes, it is possible that is is not serious. It could be teenage hormones. But if it has been three months and you can't shake it, that is probably not the case. Please, please see a doctor or a counselor. Let them know how long it has been that you have felt this way. Go ahead and talk to your family. Talk to your mom. Tell her that you are concerned about the way others will react and ask her to please not talk about it with others.
Depression is very hard. It is harder when you feel like you are alone. If you just treat the symptoms, you may not be treating the cause. The cause could be chemical or external. External means something has happened in your life to trigger it. You haven't said anything about that, but perhaps you just didn't feel like it.
Take a look at my column. I have answered a couple other questions on depression. Perhaps that will help you. And please feel free to contact me if you need any help at all. I know the effects of depression first-hand and will do whatever I can to help others avoid the pain I have had. And sometimes it just takes being able to talk to someone who understands.
So, please see a doctor, talk to your mom, and let me know how things are going for you.
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well, first of all how old are you?? depression usually comes from hormonal imbalances and if you're in your teenage years then it's normal... what helps with depression is being around your friends and maybe eating some pieces of chocolate once in awhile... maybe you need to vent so just talk to your friends and just say whatever it is you want to say... you'll get through this but don't do it alone. That's why God made the concept of friends ^_^ I was depressed last year but i got over it with the help of my friends, lots of baking, and being able to just relax and think about whatever it is i want to think about. Hope this helps <3
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I tried doing it by myself, trust me, it doesnt work. I just got worse and got into hurting myself and suicide and what not.
so, if you don't want to ask someone for help try a helpline. I haven't any idea where you live, so I can't really tell you what ones are good but they have really helpful people on the other end.
Another idea is see your school counsellor. I really didnt want to do that once, but my friend sent me to her, and she honestly cared. That was quite scary, because for a year i felt like no one cared. So as hard as they maybe to talk to, they are really good people!
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Well if you ever wanna talk you can give me a shout. I delt with depression for 2 years by myself, before getting help, so I know how you're feeling.
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There is NO way to deal with a mental illness without seeking help.
Only treating the symptoms is like treating a flesh eating disease by gaining weight. The disease will be as bad as ever; it will just take longer to eat you all up.
The truth is, the feeling that you should be able to fix it yourself, the guilt and the shame, are all parts of the mental illness. Those emotions are the way the illness traps you, pins you down, and never lets you go.
I have been there. Trust me, it gets worse. I tried self-mediating, meditation and yoga, herbal remedies… If you can think of it, I tried it, but it only helped me cope a bit longer. I didn't get better until I asked for help. No one does.
If you are worried about going to your mother, start with a school counselor or trusted teacher. Really, any trusted adult will be good. They can help you and guide you through the rest. Talking to your mother about your need for privacy might help a great deal, but at some point you are going to have to just say "Screw what other people think, I want to feel better!"
I can see JC see already suggested this, but seeing a physiologist or therapist would be my advice too. I saw a physiatrist for a few sessions, and I didn't like her, but then I went to a cognitive behavioral therapist and I found somebody who I could really open up too, and she helped me to totally defeat a lot of those terrible thoughts floating through my head.
Getting better is hard work, but getting better alone is impossibly hard work! And you don't have to work alone.
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This website is about bipolar disorder, but if you look at the top right-hand side you will see information on depression. Don't substitute this info for a doctor's diagnosis. You still need to see a doctor, this will just help you understand depression.
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Hi, It's JC again. You raised a very good point about some psychologists not being very good. It's true that some are better than others. It needs to be a good fit for you where you think you can make progress with them. I also believe that some professionals just tell you what you want to hear; a good counsellor should challenge you and actually push you our of your comfort zone at times. I would suggest that if you don't think it is working after a few sessions, ask your doctor for a new referal. Keep in mind that often it can take a few sessions to feel like you are making progress.
All the best,
JC
First off, there is absolutely nothing for you to feel ashamed about; depression is very common. Most everyone will experience some form of depression at some point in their life. Depression can be situational (short term) or more of a condition. A psychiatrist would be very helpful in helping you to determine your level of depression and then help you with a plan of treatment, which could include medication. Depending on what form the depression is taking, medication can make a big difference. It soulds like you could really use someone to talk to as well. I would recommend that if you see a psychiatrist and they only prescribe medication then also ask to be referred to a psychologist who will talk with you.
To see a psychiatrist or psychologist, ask your family doctor for a referal.
Good luck with it.
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