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is this pathetic?
On weekends, and such, I go out with my mother and grandmother. I'm very close to them, and they're really cool. We relate a lot even though we're all different generations. I guess I'm a lot closer to my family than most people my age.
I look at other seventeen year olds though, and they're always out with their friends, partying and stuff. I very rarely go out with my friends, because a lot of them annoy me and I have a lot more fun with my family.
But I'm starting to think I'm the only teenager who goes out with both my mother and grandmother, and I should be going out with people my age doing more "teenagery" things, as I don't want to look back on my youth and think of all the things I missed out on.
Firstly, is this pathetic? Should I be doing things with people my own age? If so, how do I meet some new people?
Be honest! I can take it. And thank you.
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This is not pathetic at all. It is great you have a good relationship with your family. You'll realize that they'll be the ones that are always there for you no matter what, and if you are having a good time with them, then you won't look back and think of all the things you missed out on. The teenage years are about having fun, and if you have fun with your family, then nothing else should matter. And sure, you COULD be hanging out with people your own age, but that's really up to you. There are a lot of people your own age out there that aren't annoying like your friends, and you can find them anywhere, even at school. So, I hope this helps.
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No I don't think it is pathetic at all. The fact is that there are a lot of teenagers out there who would rather spend time with their friends, getting drunk, taking drugs or doing something completely meangingless. You on the other hand, are making the most of your family, which is something you will come to realise in the future is time that has been very well spent. You will grow up really knowing your family and being an active part of it, rather than abandoning them to pursue superficial hobbies and so on. Now I'm not saying all teenagers act this way but I think it is very important to spend as much time as possible with your family. You never know when they won't be around when you want them.
If you want to do things with people your own age, then do so. You should balance your life as much as possible. The best thing I can suggest you do to help you meet new people is to take up some sort of club or activity outside of school, so you can meet a whole range of people. However, don't think you missed out on anything. In years to come, all the teenagers you think you should be joining in with will look back on their teen years and regret the way they ignored, shouted and were generally horrible to their parents. You will never have to do that.
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Its not pathetic. Don't worry about what other people do. Its good that you are your Mom and Grandmother are close, especially at your age.
If you want to hang out with your friends, which is good so yous remain friends, maybe go out with them friday and saturday night, spend the day with your Mom & Grandmother and than Sunday spend the entire day with them. I hope everything works out for you!
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No, it's not. You sound like me. I love my family and love to spend as much time with them as much as possible, especially as I'm by far the youngest one, and I know that they won't be around forever. Plus, I suck at dancing, so my interest in dance clubs is nil. ;)
It would be one thing if you wanted to go out or even had an interest in 'teenagery' things and were denied it. However, if you don't have any interest in it at all, why bother? You might get interested later on; it's not like there's an age limit on partying once you hit 18. Anyway, most 'teenagery' things aren't necessarily limited to being a teenager. You might not have found anything or anybody worth getting involved with yet. I'm 19 and have only just started hanging out and participating in uni societies and the like, but that was because I just felt more outgoing than a few years ago.
If you want to meet new people, I suppose you could just talk to friends of friends. =) However, you could also follow up your interests, or take up a sport. Also, on working full-time, travelling, or going to university, you'll probably meet so many new people it'll be overwhelming.
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I think it's wonderful that you have a close relationship with your mother and grandmother.
When I was a teenager, I was far too concerned with being alone and hating the world. My mother and I have never had a good relationship and I don't have a problem with that. However, when I was a kid, my Grandma was more like my mom than anything else. She took care of me, she encouraged me, she loved me. She passed away when I was 24. By then I had calmed down and was spending more time with her. When she passed, there was still so much that I hadn't taken time to learn from her... so much that I hadn't given back to her for taking care of me and raising me.
For the rest of my life, I will regret not having taken full advantahe of the time I was given with my Grandma. There are so many stories of hers that I will never hear, so much of her life that I feel like I missed out on by being the teenager that I was.
You have a very special gift. You have the oppurtunity to spend time with two generations of women who have have so much to teach you, so much to share with you.
Think about this... when you are my age (34) what do you think you would be looking back on and having wonderful memories of? Friends? Parties? Stuff? Or quality time spent with peole who love you?
I know what I feel like I missed out on through every fault of my own.
Parties come and go. Time with the people you love is a treasure to hold on to forever.
I envy the gift you have been given.
bound.
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I don't think it is pathetic. I am eighteen and know certain people who are close to their parents. Some people who aren't end up regretting it later in life.
Personally, I am more of a staying-at-home-by-myself type of person. I enjoy it a lot more than hanging out with my friends, or others I am forced to coexist with. Everyone has different interests. Just do whatever you like doing best.
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i think that hanging out w/your mom and grandmother is the most awesome thing you can possibly do
cause some people never get to do that like me. appreciate every moment w/them.
but you stillmight want to try to do stuff your own age because you Might regret it in the long run but falling into the paty scene and all that junk isnt always that glamorus
because if you drift apart from your mom and grandmother they might end up being just relatives and not your friends they end up being a figure of athourity the relatives that lecture and punish you.
All im saying is go out once in a while but always make sure to still spend time w/ur mom & grandmother because you never know how long your going to have them with you
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I think that's so great that you are close to your mom and grandma. Don't ever pressure yourself into thinking that is pathetic....I think it's awesome!!!
I think you also need to spend "some" time with people your age. Maybe you just haven't found the "right" friend.
Why don't you join a team...sports or otherwise. If you find someone with similar interests then you've already been given a head start.
Nonetheless, you are NOT pathetic. As you grow up you will become even closer to your family, and that is so important. Good for you!!
Brenda
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Wow, you sound JUST like me. I hardly go out with my friends because they annoy me sometimes as well. I don't hang out with my mother or grandmother but I hang out with a few of my cousins. I love hanging out with them, even though they can annoy me sometimes, I can't live without them. On weekends I'm either with my cousin or I'm home alone while all my friends are out at parties or spending the night @ eachother's houses.
Back in January and took a look at my life and I realized the type of thing you're realizing now. Will I look back and regret not going out with my friends? So I did a little turn around and I started hanging out with my friends a little bit more, but not to where everything was totally different. The past 3-4 weekends I haven't gone out at all and I'm a senior in high school.
I don't think its pathetic at all. You said you enjoy hanging out with them, so why would it be? But I also agree that you should set some time aside to hang out with people your own age. You might be like me, sit there and think "ohhh I don't want to go out. I don't want to plan anything either... its too much." but once you do, you'll be glad you did it because hanging out with your friends is a lot of fun outside of school. I'm assuming you go to a regular school and not homeschooled. If so, just get to know some of the other people in your class and start hanging out with them. Another thing is, if you don't have one get a myspace. IN NO WAY am I encouraging you to meet people through it, meet them in person and hang out. What I suggest, is adding kids from your school. Fill in all your interests, etc. and then go around and look @ everyone else's. Start leaving people comments & stuff and ask if they want to hang out.
Also, if you're not really into the high school party scene theres always college. I've been told that the best memories of your life come from college, not so much high school. So that'll give you something to look foreward to. As for me I've joined the Navy and even though I haven't had an extremely memorable 4 years in high school, I'll always remember the places I've gone and the many people I've met in the military.
I hope I helped some.
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