I am really angry at my parents and need some help
Question Posted Saturday February 11 2006, 8:43 am
hi people
well you know parents they should help u grow up and stuff but i am 13 yéars old and i dont need stupid parents like mine! they wont leave me alone they say: brush your teeth ever morning dont forget to wash your hair and then when we eat my dad always goes like: your holding your spoon uncorrect blablabla and i am not aloude to say anything than! well i dont know if every parents are like these and by the way once my mom said: dont listen to your music to loud and why dont you listen to jazz and not hip hop I LOVE HIP HOP! well what should i do now? please help!
Nallie answered Sunday February 12 2006, 11:51 pm: Most parents are just like you describe, except for those that don't give a darn about their kids. On the brighter side of things your parents must care very much about you! The nagging does get a little annoying doesn't it? Explain to your parents that part of growing up is independence. I am sure they want you to be a productive independent adult someday! You should be able to remember to do self care tasks without their prompting. Perhaps if they see you are in a regular routine of washing your hair and brushing your teeth, maybe they will stop reminding you. I know it's not fair, but you probably have to prove yourself. As far as the music..we all have different taste. Asking you to listen to Jazz would be like someone trying convince them to listen to hip hop. It works both ways. [ Nallie's advice column | Ask Nallie A Question ]
Thief answered Sunday February 12 2006, 10:29 pm: parents parents parents, what a bunch of hardasses eh? well the reason why they act lik this is mainly cuase their parents did the same. the way you're feeling is how they used to feel too. It's another way of revenge cuase they're old enough. I know it sounds cruel cuase my moms an alcholic, and im probably goona get back too. So they say no Hip-hop eh? well to be honest all that rap and hip-hop sounds like the same thing; big cars, being black, ganstas, hoes, bitches, bling blong and all that jazz. why not have a CD player and listen to it while walking to cool, otr when they go to sleep play it on you're cd player low while i unno playing games. i did the same when i was in middle school. just find some weak points in the parental system and expose it for youre advantage. Hope it helps [ Thief's advice column | Ask Thief A Question ]
Lovelycrombiebabe answered Sunday February 12 2006, 9:20 pm: My parents are like that about my music. so you're not alone. you can't really change that, everyone's parents are like that. and im sorry if this is the last thing you want to hear but all you can do is talk to them. just try talking to them about how you feel they're treating you like a little kid. and tell them that you know when to brush your teeth. just try to be nice about it or they'll just be even more mad
i hope i helped
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HectorJr answered Saturday February 11 2006, 1:26 pm: Even though you probably don't want to hear this, this is all something that you won't appreciate until later. How? Well all of the annyoing and petty things my parents told me [trust me, I've heard them all] I tried to listen to most of them anyway. Did it help? Yeah, becase it wasn't until recently that I realized that I do the same with my little brother, whose 10 years younger than me [he's 6 now]. So is it bad? Nah. Annoying? Sure! I mean your parents tell you all those things to protect you. Protect you from hip-hop? Haha, no offence, but I get that one too, and I asked why and my mom told me so that I wouldn't be so influenced into doing the things they talk about [she meant sex, drugs, alcohol, violence, etc]...you know how it goes.
Umm I guess when your parents tell you those things, just go with it and do it. Try to if you can to do things that you would expect them to say, before they say it. How? Well I know that every day after dinner my mom yells at me for leaving my backpack on the kitchen floor. So before dinner, I put it in my room. Stuff like that, you know what I mean? Bear with them, because no matter what, its not going to last forever. Hope that helped and good luck. [ HectorJr's advice column | Ask HectorJr A Question ]
hyperNerd05 answered Saturday February 11 2006, 1:01 pm: I think the only reason that your parents say theas things because they are trying to look out for you.Try not to mind the usual stuff about the hair and the teeth they just want you to have good hygean thats understandable.When it comes to the music you lision to just tell them that your not comfortable with jazz.The same way there not comfortable with hip hop but you will respect their wishes and not play it so loud when your in the house to disturb them.
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twistedsister17 answered Saturday February 11 2006, 12:45 pm: I have a similar situation. My parents expect me to act so mature, but they never let me do anything or go anywhere. My dad always tells me to "chew my food good." and "take a buddy to the bathroom."
Here's my advice: Your parents are just trying to help you. You are at that point in life where you are bridging the gap between being a child and being an adult. They are probably having trouble letting you go. They realize you are growing up but they want to take care of you. Afterall, you were once their baby and now that you're older, it's hard for them to let it go.
So just keep that in mind. Also if you know the exact times when your parents are going to tell you to wash your hair, brush your teeth, etc, you could tell them, "I already did because I am very responsible."
And as for your hip-hop music, you could always listen to it on headphones. lol.
xomegaroni answered Saturday February 11 2006, 12:32 pm: i think you should talk to them. make it respectfully & tell them that you know that they're trying to help & you appreciate it but you can do some things on your own. since they're your parents that's all you can really do.
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