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Pregnant Friend
Okay here is the scoop. I have a friend "Tory" who is pregnant. She didn't tell me her aunt did because her grandma kicked her out when she found out that "Tory" was pregnant. Her aunt wants me to talk to her but I can't bring it up until she tells me. But then again I don't think she wants to tell me because It is like a competition thing between us in her eyes, she always compares things. But I don't look at our friendship like that. But anyways when she tells me what can I say to make her feel like I will be there for her, which I will but I still don't know what to say Please HELP
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You need to tell Tory that. Once she decides to tell you let her know that you are not there to judge her or anything but that you will be there for her and her baby all the time no matter what!! Talk to her grandma and tell her that it was very wrong of her to do that. If she loved her she wouldnt just let her suffer like that. She needs somewhere to stay and people to be there for her. She will go through a lot of rough things and she needs a lot of people who love her to be there for her. Just talk to Tory and tell her that everything will be okay and that you love her no matter what. Make sure you tell her that you will help her with her baby and everything and that she shouldnt feel scared about anything.
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In a way, i think you should bring it up. Explain why you know she's pregnant and really try to help. If she gets mad, just say that you really luv her and you're just concerned and you want to help. If she wants you to always be there for her then part of that is talking about things that she sometimes doesn't want to hear. Like her pregnancy in this case. Just be there for her and that will prove that you really care for her. Hope i helped!!!
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Okay, I have a friend who has thought she might be pregnant many times, and twice, I found out by her brother. I might suggest that you just stand strong and give her this message:
"Tory, I know that you are hiding something from me, and I know what it is. You think your pregnant, and I found out, but I'm not here to discriminate you. I'm here to help you. If your grandma kicked you out, you can always try to find a friend to stay with, or go to a local shelter, and I'm here for you whenever you need me, and I understand why you would want to hide something like this, so I'm not upset and I don't want you to be."
You might also want to talk to your guardians about welcoming Tory into your home until she can get back on her feet, and if that doesn't work out, do some research and find out where the nearest homeless shelter is.
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Tell her just what you told us. In a matter of speaking, tell her that it isn't a compitition to you, and you just want to be there for her. Try to bring it up without telling her that you know, so that you can get her to realize that earlyer. YOu can do that by like asking her when she thinks she will want children, or ask her how many kids she wants to have when she grows up. She shouldn't be able to stand not telling you because if it is a compotition, she will want to rub it in your face that she is more "mature" than you, or something like that. She can't talk herself into not telling you for much longer anyway. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have rate if you don't want to, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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Just flat out tell her you know about it. Don't wait for her to tell you because it might be too late nd she might do something stupid like get an abortion. And being pregnant shoudl affect her eyes on your friendship. Hope I helped.
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when she does tell you that she is pregnant just tell her that if she needs anything to tell you because you there for her. just tell it like it is.
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this is Big and scarey If i was in your shoes i would ask god God is always the there to help
Hope that helped and pray God bless you
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If it's at all possible, you should talk to her and explain that you already know about her pregnancy. Tell her that you'll be there to support her during this hard time because that's what she needs right now. Her aund probably feels that it'd be better for "Tory" to talk to someone her own age about this so that it doesn't feel like she's getting lectured. Kicking "Tory" out of the house was probably the worst thing her grandma could have done for a girl who's going to have a baby. Help your friend research the options that are available to her and support the decision that she makes. If she decides to continue her pregnancy (ie, not get an abortion), it's important for her to see a doctor and begin prenatal care as soon as possible. I hope this helped a little.. ♥ Megan
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