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okay well like 2 weeks ago i was in school and my friend asked the kid i liked to sit with me at this assembly because i gave him a dollar.. and he acctually said that to him, so he said he thought i was different but im just a bitch who bribed people with money.. but then the next day my friend pushed me to go talk to him, so i told him what happened and he said he already knew because the kid who asked him had told him everything, and he said they only reason he said that was because he was scared and he wanted to work up some self esteem because he couldnt find the courage to ask me to sit with him.. and then he asked if we could walk to lunch together so we did, and we sat together during class. So then the day after that he accidently told me he was moving, and i didnt talk to him for a while, and then he told me the only reason he didnt tell me was because he didnt know how to, so we talked again. Then he wrote me a letter and it said how he doesnt think he can be with me for the remaining 2 weeks he's here because he cant give me the attention he should give his girlfriend and he thinks he can give me the right amount of attention for what we will be. Then he told me to go out with my best friend. And when i told my 2 best friends, ((ones a boy, ones a girl)) they both agreed. So i went to the dance with him, and i brought him on vacation with me my brother, my grandparents, my brothers friend, and a bunch of family friends. But i don't really feel right. I mean, i love him, but i feel like a player because i didnt even wait 2 days after i broke up with my boyfriend. Is this normal or should i not feel this way?

Love is love, it happens in the strangest ways and situations. The only reason the fact that you didn't wait two days after your boyfriend and you broke up is in the picture, is because your afraid of what people might think, and when it comes to love, that shouldn't matter. So don't be afraid to fall in love, or it will be afraid to fall with you, and the worst thing you want to be in a situation like this, is alone.

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Okay here is the scoop. I have a friend "Tory" who is pregnant. She didn't tell me her aunt did because her grandma kicked her out when she found out that "Tory" was pregnant. Her aunt wants me to talk to her but I can't bring it up until she tells me. But then again I don't think she wants to tell me because It is like a competition thing between us in her eyes, she always compares things. But I don't look at our friendship like that. But anyways when she tells me what can I say to make her feel like I will be there for her, which I will but I still don't know what to say Please HELP

Okay, I have a friend who has thought she might be pregnant many times, and twice, I found out by her brother. I might suggest that you just stand strong and give her this message:
"Tory, I know that you are hiding something from me, and I know what it is. You think your pregnant, and I found out, but I'm not here to discriminate you. I'm here to help you. If your grandma kicked you out, you can always try to find a friend to stay with, or go to a local shelter, and I'm here for you whenever you need me, and I understand why you would want to hide something like this, so I'm not upset and I don't want you to be."
You might also want to talk to your guardians about welcoming Tory into your home until she can get back on her feet, and if that doesn't work out, do some research and find out where the nearest homeless shelter is.

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i used to be a cutter right? And at some times i still am. I went through a lot in my childhood and am just recoving from a consequential 3 years of depression. But thats not the problem its this: i have this crazy compulsion with picking at my skin. it has nothing to do with cutting, and i dont think it has anything to do with depression. Like, i do it all the time, even when im happy. theres no emotion at all attached to it, except sum kind of bizzare need, i guess. i cant help it. i did it like a little bit before, but no its so much worse! once i start i cant tear myself away. i make myself bleed. i cause scars and i hate it. Does anybody know anything about this? Anything similar? Any ideas? i'll rate high for good answers.

It seems like you are confused about your feelings, but all in all you have described a post depression/obsessive compulsive symptom. The cause of you starting this could have been what you might call a break away. As you grew stronger in your need to stop cutting, you needed other things to sattisfy you. Its like smoking. When a smoker wants to quit, they may use a chewing gum containing little amounts of nicotine so that they can sattisfy there craving. When you feel the need to cut, your body recognizes it as a need to pick at your skin.
This also may be a symptom of obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), which is when you start something, that seems to become an addiction. The more you don't do it, the more you crave it.
As a former cutter, and phsyciatry patient, I can tell you this; a good way to stop doing these sort of things to yourself is to start a new addiction. As you quit cutting, you started picking your skin, so as you sop picking your skin, start something new, and non-harmful. My counselor suggested a very good therapy, which worked. My therapy was wearing a rubberband on my wrist and when I felt the need to self-mutilate I would pop myself with the rubberband. Yes, it may have left welps or bruises, but in the end, it wasn't harmful to myself.
I might also suggest telling someone and getting proffessional help from a counselor.

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