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not coping with it well
my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do??
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Just know that he is in a better place now and that soon enough you will get over it. Death is a hard thing but you cant do anything about it either. Call your ex and say you feel horrible mabey he can make you feel better since it was his bro.
*sarah
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I'm so sorry to hear that.
You could try doing something to take your mind off it for a bit, I know it's easyer said than done but getting over someones death is a hard and sometimes very slow process.
Eventually you will get over it just think, your ex boyfriends brother wouldn't want you to be sad, would he?
Just think positive thoughts and stuff.
Good luck, sweetie.
♥Em
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Go see a counsiller it wont take long to get you over it lots of people die and you have to keep yourself busy and just deal with it i would have though that your xboyfriend would have been more upset. He is trying his best to keep you happy try doing the same for him.
luv roxie
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go to a counciler they will help just talk with peole xpesially ur x boi friend it must be hard for him to but you will get through this dont worry
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aww.. im sorry. maybe you should talk to your ex... it might be good to just remember for awile.
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send flowers and go to the funeral. it brings closure
-hitler
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Whoa. He just died *today*? Give yourself time to grieve. Even if you weren't particularly close to the person that died, it's still hard when death hits so close to home. Don't try to force yourself to feel a certain way. Death causes all sorts of emotions - sometimes people are angry, sad, relieved, afraid, confused, or shocked - just to name a few. It's ok to feel any or all of them.
Give yourself time - at least a week, even if you barely knew the guy. If you feel better before then, that's fine too - grieving takes different amounts of time for different people. People deal with it differently - some get angry and need to *do* something (I usually suggest jogging/running), some get really mopey and write poetry or paint. Most people cry, sooner or later or a lot, as part of coping with grief.
There's a big difference between being cheered up and being comforted. You need comfort - lots of hugs, people expressing that they care about you and that they will help you get through this. You do not need to be cheered up right away. You need to grieve.
I wouldn't be concerned unless your hurting yourself or someone else in some way. If that is the case, or if you feel you might hurt yourself or someone else, talk to your parents, a councilor at school, or some a trusted adult. Otherwise, let yourself grieve.
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I'm so sorry to hear about this. Theres nothing you can do, except think of good memories of him. Once again, I'm sorry to hear this, but time will help, no it doesn't heal the wounds in your heart, but it will get easier to accept, but it never is completely easy.
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Maybe you could talk to your parents, I'm sure they want to support you. If you feel you're really having a hard time coping, maybe you could ask your mom if she can take you to a counselor. Or maybe you could see your guidance counselor at school.
Hope I helped!
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Deaths of loved ones can be hard. Try and remember the good stuff with you and that person. Don't focus on the bad. God has called your friend to be with him, and he is in a better place now. :) Hope you get to feeling better! RiLeY
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Im sorry, that had to be hard.. but only you can help youself. Remember that hes in a better place and hes still with you. Your sadness wont help, be happy that he did live. All you can do is live your life, cuz your life goes on. Remeber that the good die first and everything happens for a reason.
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