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Friend who thinks she's better than me!
OK I have this "friend". Really she used to be my best friend, then I went away for the summer and she really started irritating me by talking about all these hot guys she's saying and how they all hit on her and how when I come back I get the less hotter one because she saw them first. WTF is that?! Do any of your friends do this? And plus, I KNOW for a fact that all of them do not hit on her because 1) She's honestly not that attractive. I'm prettier than her, and I don't really think I'm all that pretty anyway. 2) Whenever we went out together, which was quite alot, nobody ever hit on her. She'd always approach the guys she knew first.
Well anyway, back to what I was originally saying...over the summer things got different. After I got back things were not the same between her, me, and our other mutual friend. The mutual friend and I would still get online and call each other and hang out and stuff. But the main girl barely wanted anything to do with us. The one thing that set me off was one day we were all supposed to go to Ryan's (a steakhouse) which is 30 minutes away but this "friend" called and bailed on me (telling me she had a headache and didn't want to drive) like she always ALWAYS used to but I always took it from her. So I was pissed and asked my other friend to go hang out so we went to Wal-Mart and guess who pulled up right as we were walking home?
Yup you guessed it. So the other friend asked for a ride and the "friend" looked kinda irritated then hesitated. Since then I haven't spoken to her till a few days ago. Today she was suposed to take me to pick up my check from Subway, but she didn't. I called twice, left a message on her phone and on AIM but nothing. I knew she wasn't going to come which is why I made plans for someone else to take me.
My problem is, she wants me to go to her birthday party on Friday and since she's been such a terrible friend to me and done nothing but made me feel ugly when we were out together (by saying the hot guys were looking at her not me), and never keeping promises or plans...should I go? I mean normally I'm such a loyal person but I think she's just gone overboard with this. I'm sick of it.
I'm so sorry this was long...I just thought you all should nkow the whole story. Thanks for answering and I will rate you a 5 if you even put one sentence just because you read all this! :D
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i was going through the same thing as you only with two friends of mnie. They ganged up on me basically and i hated it. But i think you should go to the party and just have a good time. Have you tryd talking to her? Maybe there's something going on with her.. you never know. But if shes just being gay then don't talk to her no more. Still go to the party and have a good time for your self! I'm just saying what I would do, hope you like! lata
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She has been a really bad friend and all but I think you should go to her party. Maybe if you talk to her there things will go back to normal between you. Plus if you don't go she'll think you're ditching her and ignoring her and then things would probably get worse. Maybe she has a good reason for all this, like family problems or something, but probably not. Just go to her party and see what happens from there. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything else for you! =c)
Love, RacheL
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Ok First your "Friend" is being a bitch to you, which isnt right. Im kind of a what goes around comes around type of person, so i think you should str8 up say to her. I dont think you really want me coming to this party because youve been treatin me like shyt, and if i go youll probally treat me bad therr to. So I would just go to the party give her a card, and say well im leavin now and leave. It will leave stumped, and realise what a bitch she was being, if she was really your friend at all. Good Luck hope i helped
MZ_LAUDIE
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wow... well all i can say is that is not a tru friend... however friends come and go... life goes on... if you wanna go and u are comfortable going than go... but if u really dont feel like it... than dont... just tell her u have a headache hehe
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This "friend" of yours is obviously very insecure about herself. She thinks that by putting you down, she can make herself feel better and prettier. However, it's not right of her to be treating you that way. She is not a very dependable person. It seems like she only wants to be friends with you when it's convenient for her. I know you are a loyal friend, but you shouldn't let people walk all over you. I had a similar problem with a friend of mine a few years ago and let me tell you..it can only get worse. Don't call her for awhile and if she comes around later and asks whats up, just let her know how you feel and tell her you're not going to put up with it anymore. If you decide to be friends again, just do it on your own terms. Never let this girl walk all over you again.
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I read it all, my friend has a thing for typing 2 page letter things, so I don't mind. :D
Anyway, I suggest you go to the party. I know people like her. They make stuff up to feel loved and everything, but seriously they just need friends. She's going to be lonelier than ever when she realizes that the guys really don't hit on her, and she's blown off all her friends, and she's all alone. I say go, and make the best you can of it.
~Laura~
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No, i don't think that you should go to her party. it's good that you're a loyal friend and all, but why should you go to her birthday party after she kept blowing you off, makeing you feel ugly and not talking to you. Would she have heard anything a/b you *like you talking bad a/b her*? i mean that's still no excuse for not talking with you and blowing you off bc you should really talk to your bestfriend if something was bugging you a/b her. if i were you i would prolly juss try having a talk w/her, like go to her house or something sit down and tell her how you've been feeling a/b everything lately and see wats up with her. if she refuses to have a talk w/you then i say screw it until she has the nerve to come back to you and apologize! good luck w/everything!
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haha..It's aiite that its lengthy..I've seen LONGER!
Anyway, I know exactly what you are talking about because I used to have a friend like that.
People who acts this way are not neccessarily bad ones at heart. Not that I am accusing you, but just to tell you your friend just might be acting the way she does to hide her jealousy and insecurity.
Maybe during the summer you have been asked out?
Or perhaps while you were gone, she was irritated by how she was never asked out/barely asked out.
It is very likely that she just wants to show herself that she is likeable girl too, simply out of jealousy and insecurity.
You might have to watch out for her, because I know that, out of desperation for true love, these kind of people often are willing to do anything, including drugs,sex and alcohol, just so they could be "loved".
Now, I'm not saying she will. But I've seen many of my friends get out of control like that, and I want you to know this before it happened if it does.
My advice of solution?
Go to her party.
I KNOW it WILL be irritating for you, but if you do not go, then she will feel like she was stabbed on the back.
"First she takes all the hot guys, and NOW THIS?!"
Also, if she feels as much insecure about her looks, take her to shopping.
Bring some one your fashion-know-it-all friends along so she could get all the hottest trends of clothes and make-up.
This "sharing of beauty" will lessen her jealousy.
I truly hope my advice helped you
I also thank you for reading my equally lengthy answer :)
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