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my man and church
My boyfriend calls himself a Christian but doesn't go to church. I'm not a religious fanatic or anything, actually I'm pretty liberal and my church is too, but he's still really reluctant to go to church with me. He seems to really dislike organized religion. I understand where he's coming from, but he won't even give my church a chance... we're really cool. I'd love it if he'd go to church with me, I think it'd be fun, and frankly it freaks me out that he's so afraid to try new things. What do you think?
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As you said, he may be aftaid to try new things, so maybe you could try and ease him inDo you have any sort of youth club that belongs to your church? Maybe you could convince him to go to it, and ask about your church. This might convince him that it really is ok.
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I think you should tell him what you've just told me. If he still won't go then drop it. He may be at a difficult point in his life and may not want to go right now. When he brings it up again you know he'll want to go.
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Going to Church, or not, does not make one Christian. Believing that Jesus Christ is the son of God and the saviour of man is what makes one Christian.
If he doesn't feel comfortable in church, that's fine. A lot of people don't.
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Organized religion just isn't what some people need. It is the division between religion and spiritual.
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Well try and except this... I would call myself a Christian... but after seeing so much corruption in the churches, little boys being molested by priests and ministers, and going to church and hearing the reverend go on about how Jew’s and Jehovah’s witnesses are all damned and gays are Satan incarnate and hearing from friends these horrible things that were so cold and prejudice I don't want to go to church... I don't think you could force me at this point... I imagine this is his type of protest... just because he doesn't want to go to church with you does not mean he will never try anything new... if it really matters that much to you confront him tell him your concerned.... but try and respect that people worship in different ways and just because they don't go to church does not make them bad or not Christian… they could just want to intrepid religion for themselves... it might be very strange and truly uncomfortable for him... I know the last time I went all I wanted to do was jump up and scream no! to what was being said... perhaps in time he might be willing to support you, but being seemingly the same way as him I really suggest asking him strait up if he has something against organized religion... stay open minded to his views and don't start preaching to him about being wrong, just try and understand why and where he is coming from... If you want him to be open minded then you have to be to… hear him out!
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I think that you should just rest this case. As long as he's not preventing you to practice your own religion that should be fine. Just because a person does not go to church doesn't mean you are a bad person. There are a lot of people who DO go to church but if you look deep into their lives they don't really practice what the church preaches and there are also a lot of people who DON'T go to church but are the one's who is good natured by heart.
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let him do what he wants u cant push things on people let him find his own way.
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What snarfism said: ask once, leave it at that. Maybe his unwillingness is a big problem for you, in which case it might be a sign of more problems to come... or maybe you don't mind so much. Some people have big issues with organized religion (or politics, or going to drag shows, or whatever) and never mind getting those horses to drink, good luck leading them to water.
If it really worries you that he's unwilling (or even if it doesn't), and you haven't had a chance yet, maybe try setting aside a few hours someplace quiet and swapping life stories (I've tended to do it over food and/or coffee, or walking in the rain... be sure to bring an umbrella...). You find out a lot from the big overviews and you may be able to put all this in perspective.
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I think you should start dating guys from your church. Its easier to do that. Though if you really like him tell him that you'll go to his church if he comes to your church. If he still doesnt want to go he'll strike me as an unworthy boyfriend.
-shay :-)
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Ask him to come one time to see if he likes it. Tell him you'll never bug him again if he doesn't.
[edit]"I think you should start dating guys from your church." I don't want to sound mean, but...WHAT KIND OF ADVICE IS THAT??? It's not like a pet. You give away your dog when you move to a complex that doesn't allow dogs. You don't give away your boyfriend when he doesn't go to the same church as you.(of course, if she mentioned that their relationship was on the rocks because of this, and she's looking for a guy that agrees with her on religion, this advice would be fine. But she doesn't.)
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