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Q: ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and his 20 years old im 18.since he graduated high school he just worked as a security guard for $11.50 an hour his always broke because he live with his parents and their house is in for foreclose and his helping them pay the bills.his mom doesnt work cause she got in a car accident and his dad is also a security guard.what annoys me is that he has no goals for the future his parents and i are trying to make him go back to school to get a career but he keeps saying he cant right now he has to help with the bills.he works only on saturdays during the week he hangs out with friends and sleep or help his mom out.his such an awesome guy but im getting frustrated i cant plan for the future with a scub .i love him and its hard to even think about living him i dont know how long this is going to last.

Yea I know what you mean guys are hard to motivate or talk to about the future or going back to school . I do think he is right in the place that he says he has to help with the bills but spending the week with his friends and doing whatever sounds pretty bad he need a major wake up call on that . I think it would help to find out what sort of career hes interested in and finding a place for that and just suggesting it to him. You can't really expect a guy to do something without a little push to it . Have a talk with him and explain your side and everything should turn out great.Good luck !

Q: I have a paper that I have to write about an object in my life that I can use to help tell my life story [autobiography]. However, I have no idea as to how to even begin this. I was thinking of using my hair and the different ways it has been cut/colored etc in conjunction with my life, but I don't know if that is a good idea or not. So, I need objects ideas etc. Thanks soo much.

oh and by the way the class in eng 111

hmm it really depends on who you are like if you can write you should write about how writing has affected and helped your life and how it has changed you. I know how you feel english is hard im in english 11 myself but it just is about how you are . You could also write how school or whatever else you can think of has affected your life.Good luck

Q: He really was perfect for me. But I had just got out of a relationship and I wasn't ready. So I messed everything up. Anyway, we broke about two months ago. And we had dated for a bout two months. (He dumped me, of course) But he said he stll wanted to hang out and be friends and stuff. and he said maybe we can try again later. but i said no (even though i didn't mean it) and at one point he told me he still loved me. but we never hung out or anything, and eventually we just stopped talking. Then a few weeks ago he said Hi (through a text) to me but i didn't answer because everytime he talked to me, i would always jump up and be there for him, so i wanted to make him try a little harder.. so he said it again two days later and i didn't answer. now it's been about three or four weeks and he hasnt said anything. I dont know what to do. Hes not the type of guy that wants the girl to be all upfront and say 'omg i want you back im tired of these games' stuff. That just pushes him away. Its not like he was my only boyfriend, ive had a few, but he's just different.. i really want him =/ i wish i wouldnt have taken him for granted =/

Hmmm. wow this ones a really hard question to answer. I know how you feel everyone makes mistakes since you've admitted that you've made one why can't you just tell him you've made a mistake and you want to get to know him a lot better and maybe have a good relationship. Since he told you he loved you i'm guessing that he still does if it was true you can't really get over love that easily . I suggest just talking to him and not make him try harder than he is guys don't like to try to hard unless they're actually going to get a response.So just talk to him I hope everything works out don't worry everyone makes mistakes .

Q: i want to die, i am having no interest to live, i tried my level best to die but i didnt get success. All doors closed for me i am not in position to live. my proffession is not successful my love is big failure. I am having no interest to live please help me

I feel for you i seriously do but think of it this way dieing doesn't solve your problems at all
your problems will be there until you fix them .
Noones liife is a huge success right away you just have to get up the strength to say I can and I will succeed in my life and then it will happen.
believe me dieing is not the answer hun you have to think of everyones lives and expecially your you are affecting being so unhappy things will turn around in time take a look at the world and be thankful its there.Life has many opportunities and joys you just have to find yours and take it.
If you ever need someone to talk to message me ok I will always be here to help or answer any questions. Life will get better it always does you just have to find a way to believe that.

Q: I'm a huge fan of thirty seconds to mars + realize they are in the UK as of now, but does anyone know when they're coming back to the US? I know they already toured for A Beautiful Lie here, but they must being doing promotional shows here in new england in new york/boston. thanks :]

idk but i just have to say i freakin love 30 seconds to mars to they are like totally awesome .
sorry but i just had to say it .

Q: My bf and i are 16 and weve just started to have sex and soon as we start doing it he loses his erection so i start giving him a handjob
but i cant get him hard again he only lasts no more than a minute not sure if its nerves or anything what can we do?

hmm you can do role play like try to play out one of his fantasies .also Anxiety can certainly cause the loss of an erection.so i would talk to him . hope this helps .

Q: I just joined, now what kind of things will I have to do? (-.-*) I feel like such a fr00b.

well u don't really have to do anything you can
earn gold by playin games like jigsaw cards fishing and stuff.and with that gold you can buy varied things from the shops or you can find deals in the marketplace also you can earn gold by selling your stuff in the marketplace.the one place i would suggest you go to meet ppl is the rally its kool and you meet lots of different and
excitin people . if you need more help message me
.hope this helps

Q: hey im 13 years old and in jr high school their is always soo much drama, and one of my friends alana.. she is ALWAYS sooooo sad.

like one time she was like my cousin died and i miss him so muchh
and it was so awkward because i didnt knoww what to say. i didnt know how to make her feel better.
and she would just be like, saying these deep things and how she was so sad and missed him so much and i wouldnt know what to say.. what do i say to make people feel better with things like this??

also.. she always comes to me like "the guy i like ALOT doesnt like me. he told me who he likes and its not me im so sad"

i dont know what to say to that either. and it just gets really awkward.

so how can i give advice on stuff like this betterr?
help =)

well i would suggest you ask yourself what would i want someone to say to me if i were in this situation.I also feel akward when my friends want me to give them advice thats how i help them.It is hard to help them since its really not your problem to deal with but you should just thonk of things to say to her ok hope this helps.

Q: i have really big nipples! all of my friends call my pepperoni nipples. is it normal for a 15 year old to have that big of nipples?

yes it very normal as you may know breasts come in many shapes and sizes and so do nipples.Its perfectly normal and fine .hope it helps

Q: how can i become more comfortable with public speaking?

ok this may sound stupid but this is actually how i do it i think about all my friends and that they are the audience and think that your like talking one on one with your friends for me it makes me more comfortable with the situation.
as i always say aint no thang but a chicken waang lolz . hope this helpz and don't worry
ive never heard of sumone dyin from makin a speech.

Q: My bf and i are 16 and weve had sex twice and i could hardly feel him he has a small penis
i didnt say anything not sure if i should i dont want to hurt him are there any good positions we can try?

i think you should talk to him about getting some performance inhancers the only positions i can think about is the cowgirl position .
srry hope this helps.

Q: HURTS OF CONDOM

HURTS OF CONDOMS WHICH
USED AS CONTRACEPTIVE TO
PREVENT PRAGNANCY
IN
WOMEN
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When the man using CONDOM as contraceptive the woman
Become mad and crazy... this duo to the semen of man is remaining
In the condom and it was not ejaculated and dropping in
Vagina of women there
is not sweet taste for fucking like that you are drinking tea
Or coffee with out sugar the coffee or tea is not sweet it is bitter.....Semen of man is like
Sugar it make the coitus and sex meeting sweet to woman
The fuck is sweet- fuck with out condom when man is not
Using CONDOM in fucking woman the semen of man will
Ejaculated and dropping and falling in vagina of
Woman then the semen is absorbed by vagina wall and
Inter the blood circulation and reached the brain
Then the women mind become in a convenience
Mood and good feeling she is not be a madden
Or crazy woman
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
ADVICE FOR YOU
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
To good enjoy and pleasure in your sexual live
And good ERECTION of your CLITORIS i give you
This advice
STOP
Practice reading and writing ...
Because practice reading and writing
Loosening and lowering
the SEXUAL ability and power of you. Go to live in
Villages and forestry far from cities and towns
Practice READING and WRITING make you unusual
woman or SADOMITE (SODOMY) women

errm ok

Q: well i have this guy friend that lives an hour away from me and he has a gf but shes on house arest but when he came over to his moms house he asked for my number around christmas and i wrote him and gave him my number, but i also tolled him that i would try a long distance thing with him if he would brack up with his gf(and we both have liked each other since7th grade). i'm know in 9th and i don't know what to do, so please help.

well i guess all you can do is hope he breaks up
with his girlfriend.I warn you though so long distant relationships are difficult so i woould think about that.hope this helpz.

Q: I am a 15 year old female and I was horny so today I took the springy part off of my curing iron and I masterbated with it and now my vagina hurts did I do something wrong or is something wrong with me?

well it may just be because you didn't masterbate with something smooth .and no theres nothing wrong with you its perfectly normal
to masterbate.

Q: oka well my bestfriend for about 5 months or so it just seems like she backstabbed me all of a sudden...
oka heres the story.
this girl that i dont like at all has tried to break both of my bestfriends and i's friendship up like twice and now its my boyfriends.. and my bestfriend said omg i am so mad at her and now..she is like... bestrfiends with her and it hurts soo bad cause she told me she would stay with me through this and all she did was go to kateys side..

this totally seems like she isn't your true friend.if you think she's backstabbing you and you don't think she's being a very good friend then maybe you should talk to her about it .also if she like denies everything your should not be friends with her anymore.hope this helps .

Q: okay i went home to the Philippines a week ago since my dad passed away and i was able to spend time with my cousins and i finally met my sisters that i didnt know about and i got to know them and i was REALLY happy there. and when i had to go back to the states i really cried in the airplane and i wasnt happy when i got back here and also i didnt wanna go back school so i missed 4 days of school, and im in the room just sleeping there till 6pm and sleeping at 5-7am i really miss my cousins and my sisters and when i came back to school i wasnt really happy to see my friends and i really wanna go back there, cant sleep till 6am i think i became kind of anti social around my friends and what should i do to not to feel antisocial or depressed? is this normal?

well maybe you should talk to your sisters and cousins so you won't miss them so much.
its sometimes normal to feel a little depressed or antisocial when you have to leave someone.
hope this helps.

Q: ok well i was just figured for the first time and it hurt bad he did it about 3 times and they only lasted about 20 seconds because it hurt.
is that normal? ive never like masturbated or anything but i was thinking maybe i should so it doesnt hurt next weekend if he does it again.
how many more times will it take before it stops hurting when he fingers me?.

ok for the first time it will hurt but if it hurts again he may be doin it wrong but your shold probably start so you can tell him what feels good and stuff .

Q: Ok , when i get really mad i studder my words to where i have to say it over like 3 times to say it right & it makes me look stupid because im not use to getting really mad at someone , & usualy when im mad at someone im by my self so i dont have to say anything . But when im talkin and argueing with someone in person or on the phone i make my self look like a total idiot and their like laughing and like wtf you cant even talk right ! its so embarrising but its only because im so mad i cant think straight & i aint use to going off like that on a regular basis

any help to make it flowwww

i think it would help if you just stood back when your mad and take a breathe and think befor you say what your going to say so then theres a less chance of you studdering .
hope it helps .

Q: i'm having my sweet 16 next month and i still don't have a dress i'm looking for something really cute but not that expencive...like under 150...i'm tall and thin i guess and can't do strapless. I'm really girly and would like something shortish and flattering to my body...can anyone recomend any websites?

heres a site i found the dresses are cute
its www.designerapparel.com
thats pretty much all i could find that had cute dresses hope it helps .

Q: i like my bestis friend help

well first off does your best friend know you like them ? if not you should start dropping hints . if your ready to tell them you like them
you should tell them no matter how he feels you still want to be friends that will make the situation a lot easier .
hope it helpz .

bio

ok my name is cassy im 16 years old.
i started this column because i want to help
answer some questions people have .
so don't be afraid to ask me because whatever
u need help with im here .
anyways my main focuse is on teens but pretty
much if anyone needs help i'll be here to try and help so plz feel free to ask me some questions .