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okay i know this question has been asked a million times and i get the same answer: crunches, but it doesnt work so here:

i want to lose my lower stomach fat and i have tried exercises like crunches, situps and walking. what are some really good exercises or something i could do to get that lower stomach to be flat? it gets annoying because i cant wear shirts that show a little belly and such, so does anyone know anything/exercises i could do that you know will DEFINETLY work? please help because i have been trying to get my stomach to be flat but it never happens and i have waited for like months. and please dont say crunches or running, ive tried those and dont work well.. thanks ill rate high

Short answer:

Pilates, water, and multi-vitamins.

If you have a scale, throw it out. Scales will just freak you out. Numbers don't matter. If you really need to have the numbers for a goal then ask your doctor to measure your body fat.


The Long, but much more informed Answer:

Pilates. They work so well. It's a low-impact workout that works your core and balance system. I got results without even looking for them.

The biggest thing is doing your workout properly. You need to make sure you aren't stressing a part of your body. If you stress, it's just going to hurt and then you won't be working proper muscles.

If you can't take a pilates class then look up some moves you can do at home.

Also, drink your water. I know everyone says it, but really, water is better for you than you may know. The colder the water, the better it is for you. When you drink cold water it lowers your body temperature and your metabolism boosts in order to keep you at 98.6.

Have a multi-vitamin, but don't overdo it. Too many vitamins can be harmful. They will give you energy and make you an overall healthier person.

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Im 15. I think I want to invite my boyfriend over to my house to just hang out, but when we get hungry I want to be able to cook him something special and really delicious?

any ideas / recipes?

It depends on how fast you want to cook. Most special dinners are going to take at least thirty minutes, most likely more. I could easily give you a recipe (just send me a message, I'm a culinary major) but it may be nicer if you find out his favorite food and then practice it. Most guys are pretty simple when it comes to food. If he says something like pizza, then make a really fun dessert so it's still personal.

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ok how can you pop a cherry without having sex and how do you no if u popped it?? well wat exactaly is popping a cherry?

'popping a cherry' is just slang for losing your virginity. you can't do this without have sex.

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I'm a 14 year old female tha tis in 8th grade. My so called "reading and writing" class is doing reports on the holicoast, each student in my class got to choice somthign to write at the minumum of 2-3 pages. I choice Concentration Camps- and im writing about Dr. Josef Mengele (The Angle of Death) and i was wondering if ther ie anything that you guys think i should put in there since little kids will be reading it (6th and 7th graders). It was a horrible thinga ndi would appraite if there is asopmthing you find i should shair. if you could just give me the informatino and a website that its ons o i can confermine its accurate. thanks so much


ps. dont tell me none of that never happened. It did. and well if you dont belive it did, then dont anwer me because its been proven and there people alive to prove it.

A good point to include is how the Americans reacted. Most people don't want to hear it, but Americans didn't offer much aid and, in many cases, actually abused Jews themselves. New York would be the easiest to research since it has so much culture. America's reaction to the Holocaust was not one we should be proud of. It may be hard to find old newspaper articles since most American newspapers didn't report on the mass killings.

Anything else you need, I'd be glad to help.

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i`m 14/f. i don't wear a "real" bra. i wear camosals with the built in bras. they seem to work good for me but i was wondering if you think i need a real bra. and if you could, state a reason why. thanks.

Only wear a bra if you want to. You have the rest of your life to "need" one.

Despite common myth, bras are not needed for support. If you put one on and feel more comfortable then, as a personal preference, wear one.

Bras are worn mostly because of social norms and to heighten sexual appeal.

If, and when you start to wear a bra, limit your time wearing it. This goes for everyone. Wearing a bra to bed or in excess is starting to be studied as a link to breast cancer.

When you get a bra, go some place you are comfortable. Ask for help. That's what the salespeople are there for. It may seem embarassing, but if you get a bra that doesnt fit then you are spending money for no reason.

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I AM TERRIFIED. so i went tanning today.
and when i went in i accidently forgot to press the button to make the lid go down. and i wanted to know how much room you have. like the open area on the side.

and will tanning 3 times really hurt you

The Short Answer:
Tanning in a salon is just as bad for you as the Sun. Use common sense when tanning. Three times may not hurt you. It depends on you as a person. The box DOES NOT prevent you from sun damage and DOES give you higher chances of skin cancer. Monitor your time and pay attention to the guidelines.


The Long, but much more informed Answer:

The harmful stuff is the UV rays. UV stands for ultraviolet radiation which is hitting the earth's surface at a given point in the day.

There are actually two types of UV rays: UVA and UVB. They're both bad.

Let's assume that the following DOES NOT apply to you:

*You have a Type 1 Skin Type (People with Skin Type 2 are advised to build up a tan VERY slowly with low exposure times.)
*You were badly sun burnt in childhood, or have a history of it.
* You have a large number of moles or freckles
* You have a medical condition that can be aggravated by UV exposure
* Your family has a history of skin cancer.
* You are pregnant.
* You are not taking any medications with Tetracycline, Thiazide, or Interferon
* Be careful with any medications used to treat depression, skin conditions, and diabetes.

So now that's out of the way.

Experts have recommended that we stick to no more than 20 sessions a year on the tanning bed (the International agreed Standard recommends no more than 50.) So pay attention to your baking time.

Make sure to have at least a 48 hour break between sessions.

Keep Watch:
Check and lookout for any abnormal skin reactions that occur during your tanning sessions. As soon as you notice anything or even suspect a problem stop the exposure straight away and consult a doctor or dermatologist. Moles especially should be watched and checked regularly by your doctor.

!!!Protect Your Eyes!!!
All tanning beds need to be used with eye goggles to protect the eye from the UV light. For a safe tan these need to be worn at all times from the very moment the machine is switched on. Merely closing your eyes will not shield them and WILL result in serious damage to you eyes. Really, they may look silly, but it will hurt SO bad if you don't wear them.

Any questions you have can be easily answered with a call to your doctor's office.

Don't really feel like tanning anymore? The sunless tanners won't always turn you orange. The orange comes with people who don't do it correctly. Check out sunless.com for reviews and info.

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Ok well i'm 16 and cute (lol if i do say so myself :D ) ok well I have pretty thick hair. Its not like obesely thick or whatever but it's thick... and its not like extremely frizzy or crimpy or anything... but it gets a bit frizzy after blow drying it and its naturally wavvy. Do you have any advice for me? I hate that it's as thick as it is. I dont even shower every day BECAUSE that means i would have to do my hair all over again and it takes forever to straighten. When I blowdry it straight it not only takes forever, but it poofs out and i have to sleep on it like 3 nights in order for it to look good. some days I even had to go to school with it greasy just because it sucks when i wash it. ugh its so annoying! any ideas besides chemically straightening it and getting it thinned out (already done the thinning and chemically straighening it isnt an option for me)

After your shower in the morning run mousse through your damp hair with your fingers. I wouldn't blow dry it anymore because it's just going to damage it.

Another soulution is to braid it the night before after your shower so that when you wake up the next morning it's curly. Run mousse through it to avoid friz throughout the day. I know making it curly doesn't seem to be the brightest idea, but it will be managable, plus it will seem a bit thinner.

Let me know if you try it.

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I'm trying to find a nice dress to wear to my cousins wedding in June. I dont really know of any sites that have cute ones, so does anyone have any websites? I dont really care about the price. Thanks !

for a bold colourful look:

www.custo-barcelona.com

for formal and traditional:

www.loralie.com

for high quality and wide selection:

www.armaniexchange.com

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Well, there is this guy that I really like. I mean, the feelings I have for him are undescribable. He is amazing, and wonderful, and everything I could ever want. The only thing is, I'm 14. I can't be "in love" right? So what could these feelings be? When I am with him or just talking to him on the phone or computer, I am as happy as I could be. The feelings have stayed the same for about a year, only I have liked him more and more. Everytime I see him it's like I can't breathe for that second. Even when he signs on AIM, I am so happy. I even get the chills just THINKING about him. And I never stop thinking about him, I mean it's like someone just mentions a guy and I'm like omg, I love him. and people tell me it's love, but it can't be. I am too young and I don't know what love feels like. What are these feelings I have? Is it really "love"? Or just a crush? Whatever it is..can I get over it?=/

I hate to call it puppy love, but that's what the lame term is for it.

a better way to describe it is just to start talking about it. you feel like the love they describe in the movies and that seems genuine enough. love in real life is very different. you know it's love when you'd give your life for them. you care about them more than yourself. everything about them - their flaws, faults, and all - you love, because that is what makes them who they are.

another thing to think about is how much you really know about him. the reason it takes so long to really fall in love is because you need to know everything about that person, and that's a lot. you see couples that finish eachother's sentences and know exactly what the other is feeling even if they try to cover it up - they usually have been together for a long time.

if you are still confused, ask someone that has been married for a long time. if they seem a bit outdated then ask someone who has been married for at least 5 years.

you can ask me if some of this doesnt make sense, just leave a message in my box.

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theres a guy i really like, but he has a gf. i cant stop thinking about him, and its really making me sad. how can i get my mind off of him?
ps-i do a lot of sports and activities, but that doesnt help. any other ideas?

Sounds like you like him because you can't have him. don't take that the wrong way, I do it too. we all do at some point. as far as getting your mind off him, you kind of have to wait for another to come along. it's really difficult because he's right there in your thoughts already, but start looking around and you may find someone who is interested in you that you just didnt notice before. if there seems to be a "guy shortage" at your school, try a local concert or some place else that would have a guy with the same interests as you have. maybe a friend knows some cute guys for a fun blind date. don't dwell on this taken guy too much, he's just not worth all that attention!

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i liked your response for this question and i was really hoping that you could help me a bit more. the fact is i can't ask him out..its just not my style-im a bit too shy and i don't want to get rejected. i get the whole "be confident" thing but i'm not sure if i should just forget it because he'll be graduating next year anyway so i won't see him. but i really like him..and he's so adorably cute...also..almost everyone knew that i liked him so maybe that could have been a turn off? how do i fix the problem? please help! thanks.

you have a lot of time before he graduates. go for it! i highly doubt you'd be rejected, but i can understand not wanting to ask him.
the problem with you telling everyone could make him think that you gossip or something and he could be a more private person. if he has heard that you like him, and he very well may not have, then he may not believe it.
if there's anything else just let me know.

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My girlfriend and I have been going out for 9 months, and its the first time I've loved anyone. Yesterday we were talking about looks and why it does/doesn't matter in a realtionship. She told me she wasint that physically attracted to me but my personality was enough. I didn't know how to react, I just smiled. She basically told me I was ugly and I dont know what to do. It sucks because I love her so much and I feel so low right now. I dont know what to do/what to think/ etc.

-17/male

I really dont think that she meant to be mean and i definately wouldnt break up with her for that. it seems like she was trying to compliment you, but it didnt come out perfectly.

as far as what to do, say something if it really bothers you. i know its not easy, but it will be better for you in the end.

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i like a guy who is a year older than me. He's amazingly cute and a lot of girls like him. at the beginning of this year we saw each other at these student forum meetings at school and he always came and sat by me and talked and smiled-i could tell he liked me so at the homecoming dance i asked him to dance and it was great- at school we usually just say hi and smile in a flirtacious way during passing periods-but lately we don't say anything and i don't think he likes me anymore-how do i get his attention and get him to like me again?

He's probably wondering what happened. the chase may have been too long and he took all your flirting for just flirting and nothing more. you may need to drop a hint that you want more. maybe go bold and ask him out for an evening. you'll find that a lot of guys respond better if the girl makes the first move because they know that you are interested in them. Be careful not to make it too casual if you want a relationship. guys dont always respond to the "obvious" little hints we drop.

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I've gained like, 20 pounds since I broke up with my boyfriend a month or so ago, and i relaly want to lose at least ten of them again. I eat rather healthy, veggies every day, no cokes, and just a cookie at lunch. i just eat a lot, like, I'll eat so much, and won't realize I'm full until I stand up from the table. And then, I'm always so stuffed! And there is nothing i can do about it. Ever time I tell my friends I wanna lose the 10 pounds, they call me anerixic. well, haha, If you've ever seen me eat, you couldn't be more wrong. I couldn't ever not eat, but I want a way to control my eating so I can keep my tummy flat. I'm not fat, but my stomache is a bit bigger than I'd like, luckily, i haven't gained fat anywhere else.
I was wondering if i should throw up food sometimes if i eat to much. Not like, every day or anything, just if I accidentally over eat. How do you make yourself throw up? Does it hurt?
Thanks. and please, i don't think i have a confidence issue, I've always had a high self esteem, but i want to lose 10 pounds.

If this has started over a guy then I'm glad it's over because that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.

with that out of the way, weight loss isn't that hard, but it is a lot of dedication. you need to set up a daily work out that is as simple as sit-ups and a weekly run. in the end, your entire body will feel better.

if you aren't into working out and/or want fast results then try Atkins. before you start any diet you should check with your doctor.

if you eat more than you'd like then instead of eating do something else. such as:

-dancing
-write
-make jewlery
-write to someone
-go for a walk with a camera and take random pictures of nothing in particular
-play in the park
-go to a movie or play
-design new clothes out of old ones
-etc.

whatever you do, dont throw up. not only does it hurt, but it tears up your internal body because you are bringing up digestive acids. enough gross stuff said.

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