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Q: i don't wear much make up except quite thick eyeliner (im not gothic though). i have really pale skin and i haven't been able to find foundation or concealer to match my skin tone. the closest match i have found is avon creme to powder foundation but even this makes me look like i have orange splodges on my face in certain light.

i dont want to spend more than £10 and i live in england - i dont want to have to buy over the internet, mail order and telephone order are ok though. please give actual products not just brands and where i can find them to look at on the net or the high street. if what you tell me doesn't help me i won't rate high just to be nice, i will rate you fairly though.
ok I used to live in England then i moved to the USA :( But anyway you can got to asda's cosmetics section and find Loreal TruBlend i think it's called that will help you find something with a key they have

Q: My brother and I dont have the greatest relationship in the world. I just turned 16, and he will be 12 very soon. the reason we dont get along is that we lose patience with each other, or we just want to annoy one another. I love him very much, i dont know if he loves me, but we do get along from time to time. this is just some background information.

Ok, so my brother is homeschooled, and was homeschooled for three years. he is in sixth grade. I am homeschooled too, for four years, but i am gonna go to school next year for my junior year. (i am in 10th grade right now).i am an extremely social person and all of my friends go to school.

well, everybody know that homeschoolers can turn into these wierd kids, ones that dont know how to socialize, etc. well, my brother is a bit behind on the maturity level.

the reason this worries me is that both of us are going to go to school next year. My brother (who wil go on to middle school, seventh grade) will have a great shock at how much more mature, or umm... different, everyone else is from him. i am afraid he wont find any friends, and that he will be the outcast and miserable.

in my opinion, his maturity level is that of a 3rd grader. his social skills are that of a first grader. these are some of the things he does:


he has a stuffed animal of an whale that he gaurds with his life, takes it with him everywhere, but he leaves it in the car when he goes to public places. he named the toy whailey.

he plays with legos, bionicles, etc. he is actually pretty advanced at building things.. my mom buys him kits made for adults sometimes: he is very smart. school smart.

he cries. a lot. it is EXTREMELY easy to make him cry.

he has no idea what sex is. (he knows what reproduction is, but only "a baby forms when sperm from a man meets an egg from a woman". thats as far as it goes)

he insists on wearing his jeans at his belly button.

he is greatly apalled when someone swears. then he runs to me and asks me if the word was a swear word, and becomes obsesed with retelling everyone how someone swore, etc.

he cannot talk on aim. like he doesnt get the concept of lol, all he can do is say the sky when you ask him wuts up (very clever... for a preschooler)



anyways you get the picture. i am really truly worried about him. i tried discussing it with him but he just doesnt get it. usually he throws a tantrum before i get to finish.

he does socialize, although not very much. like he is exposed to only five or six people a day that are his age: he does gymnastics, and they are the same people every day, and he is not exactly close friends with them. (they are actually ten to elleven years old)




anyways, what should i do about my brother to help prepare him for social situations at school? i will not be geting any support from my mom because she believes that he is school smart, and that is all that counts. in fact she sees nothing wrong with my brother. i dont know about my dad, but it would be rather akward approaching him on the subject.

at home treatments please (lol but we both have busy schedules and doing things like get togethers for him is out of the question)


oh ya i forgot to say. all my friends little brothers are alot more mature than my brother, so i do have something to base my comparison on.

sorry its so long... any feedback would be very appreciated!!!
I really know how you feel well with not being able to talk to your brother and that you annoy each other even though you love him because-well he's your brother. but anyway-i find with younger brothers all you have to do is just expose them to the real life stuff invite over your friends maybe previously fill them in and go around him and make sure he can hear what you talk about and do. sure maybe he'll get disgusted and "tell mommy" but I really think that every little sibling looks up to their older sibling so eventually he will want to impress you. I hope I helped and This is really A difficult question and this is only an idea.

Q: i like this one kid so hard, he was totally flirting with me and i froze. i was like, "ha.. haa.." *AWKWARD SMILE* hhaha, it really sucks. i've never liked someone so much.

so tips on relaxing and flirting back please? :\
not possible I tried it's natural to break so it's not freaking possible to act normal

Q: If I eat 2-3 apples a day, and some small piece of meat, and drank 3-4 bottles of water a day for 1 month, about how much weight could I lose? I probably wouldn't exercise that much.
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Q: why do girls shake their legs?
im sitting in class and im looking around and five of he girls in my class arre shaking their legs really fast
why do they do this?
This is the most retarded thing a girl can do and I notice it too. I think maybe it's because they're bored?

Q: hey.I want you guys to write me down a list of your top 10 favorite songs,they dont have to be in order.I just want to hear some new different songs.THANKS
Okay. here goes I have many more so just ask
Snow Patrol:Chasing Cars
Augustana:Boston
Nicole Kidman:Something Stupid
Three Days Grace:Pain
AFI:Miss Murder
Flyleaf:Fully Alive
Disturbed:Land of Confusion
Breaking Benjamn:Diary Of Jane
U2:Sometimes You Can't Make it on your own
Coldplay:Speed Of Sound
just ask for more this is just a fraction of the good songs out there!



Q: Okay. So I'm an 18 year old (almost!) 2nd year Graphic Design student and my rents are giving me my own design studio for my 18th bday present. I am so excited and all the happy stuff and emotions, BUT I have no idea how to decorate the interior.

I wish I had the time to go on sites and research about different interior decors and all that, but I honestly don't have the time since I'm attending this design conference now and everything's so hectic and busy.

If you know any websites that give you ideas and all that (nothing that requires payment though), please let me know...It's fine if the site's about selling products and stuff. I just need to see the pic or instructions on how to blah blah.

And please - don't tell me "But you're a designer, you should know about this stuff already". I have other things to think about such as my midterms and a little inspiration and influence won't hurt...

So there it is. Thanks in advance.
great I'm aiing to be a designer too and i can relate to school pressure.
so im looking for you right now since i obviously have more time than you
oh gotta go again
try this
http://www.getdecorating.com/
xox hope i helped

Q: Alright, well it seems that my boyfriend has sort of mood swings and I am used to them. I mean, one day he will be all excited to talk to me and the next he basically doesn't he even wanna communicate at all. Even when he doesn't he still would contact me somehow during the day. Well anyway, so yesterday I was looking forward to talking to him near the end of the night and he had yet to come on/call me. So I waited and waited but still nothing. Now either he didn't want to talk to me or he was too busy playing with this one game .That game he started getting into online and it basically is slowly starting to take over his life. It's almost like he chooses that over everything else and makes me feel like some third wheel. And to a game, it's really unfair. I might be overreacting but I need to know. And should I call him or text him today?
whatever you feel is what you should do. talk to him. talking helps. talking not shouting.
xox
hope I helped

Q: English is not my first language (it's my 4th, in fact) but I don't I'll have trouble getting my point across.

I'll turn 18 on the 28th of March. But here's the deal: I don't know how to throw a party. Last year, only 4 out of 20 people showed up...So I'm in deperate need of advice here.

Thing is, I won't be in the country for my birthday. I will be somewhere abroad for a field trip with my university. I will return back home on the 29th (afternoon). I want to relax for the rest of that day then throw an awesome party/gathering the day after. BUT I have not idea what to do...my taste in music sucks, I don't want to celebrate it at home where my family will most likely be to embarass me like every year, and I don't want it to be boring...

More details: I've 10 people that I want to invite, boyfriend included, no family members, car/transportation is available, money is not an issue, party can 'last' for more than 24 hours (since it's my day [basically] and I get to stay out till whenever)

If party starts at home then ends up somewhere outdoors, that's fine too. I just don't wanna spend it at home and only home.

Thanks for reading this, I'm sorry for making it too long...

=)

you could have the party at a beach if you have enough transportation for all the people-it's always fun you can just rent a few jetskis bring along some music and player and just like a net to play v-ball or something and just party til you get tired (lol) it is just an idea so if you don't like it's fine

Q: Hm well. My boyfriend & I have been going out for 8 months, and I love him more than anything. I know for sure I do. It's just sometimes I get really depressed, and when I'm listening to music alone or something like sad songs I just really upset with myself, and think I'm not good enough for him. He treats me amazing, and we're together constantly, everyday! It's just I don't know. I know he loves me, I do. I just have the lowest self asteem. I need it to be better. Hm. Is there anyway I can, cause like I don't really wanna tell him. Thanks.
lists. it sounds retarded like the sort of thing a first grade teacher would tell her students to do. but it works make a list of good and bad see which wins I'm not saying just sit there and make a list at once-but every time you get complimented or you compliment yourself write it down and the same with the bad and downing stuff do it for a week and then reply telling me which side "wins"

Q: How do I stay on a diet..? I'm 13 and HUGE, and it isnt healthy.. I want to look awsome by the begining of school of next year. Im tired of the way people look at me, Im 13 and weight probably 215 pounds and Im not exadrating! And I like this kid well im a joke to everyone so Im thinking if i look thiner and prettier maybe they wont so, that and I have low self astem so.I was thinking if my friend Josh called me fat maybe I would stick to it but he refuses to do it because he says im pretty. Flattering as it is i know its not true.Im Huge in the belly area but no where else.. my arms are like greenbeans and ok my legs could use some work too. Well first is my stomach my mom has a ablonge how many do u think i should do and what should i eat and how much.... sorry im being really demanding.... and I want an butt! I dont have one and i only have one in sweatpants and in certain jeans so how do i gain weight it the butt part too...
Please help me!!!
I know exactly how you feel
personally I hate giving advice on low self esteem topics but i do anyway. I think you should work on your weight first-workouts and lots of exercising don't starve yourself actually eat aot!-here's the downfall you have to eat healthy you know the food pyramid. stick to it strictly and you will do good!

Q: Normally I get 8-10 hours sleep...but recently I've been goin to sleep at 12 and 1 and gettin up 6 or 7 am. Today I realised I got those black pouches under my eye. I forgot what you call them...but i need to get rid of it. Futhermore...I'll be using this pattern more often to stdy for test...what to do to get rid of them???
ahhh the famous bags under the eyes yes we all have them at one point. well unless you're really rich there isn't much you can do and i know you don't like this answer but if you have enough at macy's they have this new bag remover set in the cosmetics section and it's quite alot of money but it'll last for ages and you remove your bags for real.

Q: Before christmas a friend of mine said he loved me, i told him the same thing. But i didnt want to start a relationship as he lives in America and i dont want it based on just words. Hes says hes coming over to see me again soon. I told him that it cant be until June as i have alot of things on. I havent spoken to him in 2 months and i have no idea why. I've been really down because of this so i made a choice the other day to forget him and lose all contact with him because i think hes messing with my head and it seems to be working. I left him a message on yahoo to let him know that Im deleting yahoo then for the first time in 2 months he comes online. This made me think i was right.
what should i do? Do u think im being to careful?
Hey, I think honestly you are being a little too careful but that's okay. I think he really has feelings for you. maybe he never gets on yahoo and when he realizes you do but soon won't he jumps online. but you have to consider if he's your type

Q: So my History teacher gave me a 0/200 becuase my neightbor copied off of my paper. She is one of my best friends, and I completely understand why the teacher gave us both 0s. What I don't get is that I let her copy because she was absent. We had to take notes on a video and she missed the video so I let her copy my notes. When we turned them in we both got complete 0s. I'm well aware that copying is wrong, and me being the one she copied from understands because if I did all the work while all she did was copy, I wouldn't ever let her copy. But the fact of the matter is that she was absent and I wanted to let her have the notes. (She's the teacher that doesn't allow make up ANYTHING.) I am going to talk to this teacher about maybe changing the grade, or asking for some extra credit to make up the score, but do you have advice on how to talk to her about this?
just explain to her why and what you were doing and ask her what she would do to give you a second chance

Q: Ok, so I am 17/f and I was with this guy from 8th grade until April of last year, so for 2 and a half years we were together. When we broke up it broke my heart, we continued talking and I have a strong bond with his mother and his siblings, so we have remained in touch. Well the other night we were hanging out and he we were driving and he said to me the 3 reasons why we never lasted as a couple, he said because I play around too much, I ask too many questions and because I hit him once. So I was thinking that maybe if I stop doing those things he would take me back, because he was saying all kinds of things to me last night that he hasn't said to me since we were dating, like he kept calling me beautiful and pretty and gorgeous so I was wondering, does it sound to you like I have a chance if I change my ways a little??? Also he decided just to start telling me all kinds of things he likes, and what he doesn't like. It was very random, but he kept telling me like what he likes when girls do and what he doesn't like, what do you guys think????
i think he wants to start his realationship over. you know ive you a clean fresh start and this time communicate what he likes and doesn't like

Q: I have this friend, and I've known her for... my whole life, however I'm not sure how much I can trust her with things, because I don't feel like her friend sometimes. I feel as if I'm second best; a last resort. If I'm there, I'm always there: reliable as always. It's like she considers me around to serve a purpose, and once that purpose is gone she doesn't want me any more. I need to know how to communicate this to her, and not make her angry/annoyed with me, and make her think I'm just being harsh and overly sensitive. I'm not going to just drop her, because I really do care about her, I just need to know how to speak with her about it.
i am very extremely familiar with realationship problems.you should start off talking about all the good times you've had and how mmuch you like her as a friend. then you tell her that recently you haven't been happy with the way she is treating you and you really want to be friends but that she needs to play her part as a friend
***tell me what she says****

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