Hello, my name is Sarah. I am currently attending college, and my major is psychology. One day I hope to be a therapist, then I'll be paid to give advice :P
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I'm now starting to question my relationship with my supposed "amazing" boyfriend. He acts completely different with me than with his guy friends. He treats me like a princess and does everything a good boyfriend should when he's with me and I love it. When he's with his friends he turns out to be an *** and a douche bag. He talks like SON ARE YOU WHIPPED ON HER?! or like he calls his friends F-A-G-S :/ wtf and they all just act like douche bags together. He talks about me like I'm a freaking accesory rather than a girlfriend. They talked about if I like to take charge and ride him on top WTF?! I wasn't even there when they were talking about this but my friend said he heard them talking about me/other girls like that. I was really pissed off by that. First of all I WAS OPEN WITH THIS GUY ABOUT PRACTICALLY EVERYTHING MOST GUYS DON'T EVEN GET PASS A FIRST DATE WITH ME. I'M THAT PICKY AND VAIN WHEN IT COMES TO BOYS. HE'S SUPPOSEDLY OPEN WITH ME TOO. WHO KNOWS MAYBE HE LIED ABOUT HIS PAST ALSO! I'm starting to question him and our whole relationship. I'm freaking out. I really really like him like A LOT. ENOUGH TO ACTUALLY BRING HIM HOME TO MY PARENTS TO MY MOM'S BIG SOCIAL EVENT with all these gross socialites in Socal. Any help?? What should I do? (link)
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How a guy acts with his girlfriend, and how a guy acts with his guy friends are flipped pictures. Guys have to impress guys, on occassion by trying to be the biggest dousche in the room. It is ridiculous, but they see the two situations as completely seperate. They also talk about filthy things when it is just the guys, it's what they do, and really can't be helped.
Don't think that how he acts when he is alone with you is a lie, it isn't, but he can't look whipped in front of his friends, that would make him look bad. He has to keep up his fascade.
I would talk to him. Tell him that you don't want to date a jerk. Respect means something to you. I hope this helps.
Best wishes.
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18/female.
i'm still a virgin. never been fingered or anything. when a guy fingers me .. obviously he will realize i'm tight but will he then know that i've never been fingered before? (link)
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No, he won't know, well unless he is a gynecologist.
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Okay, I'm kind of a shy person, so I don't really ask my boyfriend for what I want. I got him out of being shy, but I don't know how since I'm shy! I want him to kiss me really passionately, but I can't just go up and ask him! help me! (link)
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Guys are really bad at taking hints, so it will be difficult to get him to do what you want without just blurting it out. Sometimes just looking deeply into his eyes with 'bedroom eyes' will work, other times he'll just see you looking at him and be like, "What?".
You can try staring at his lips while biting on your own, it's worked for me.
Or when he gives you a peck (assuming he does) stop him by holding him closer, or putting your hand on the back of his neck or head. Some girls will put their hands on the guys chest but it can send the wrong message.
Females are usually in charge of being romantic, guys are usually in charge of being horny. I hope this helps.
Best of luck!
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I want to start the special k diet tommarow and i plan on doing it for ever! I am so sick of myself. so...... if you have been on the diet before can you tell me if it worked. Tell me what to do what to eat, idk just help me? (link)
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I went on the Special K diet, the cereal is great and works but when you see how small the serving is you may change your mind. I hope this helps.
Best Wishes!
P.S. Yes it worked for me, I was also doing a light workout that included a jog and some basic exercises.
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This Christmas will be the first one with my boyfriend. We've been together just under a year, so I think it'd seem rude if I didn't get his family something for Christmas.
Now, his older sister has just got her belly button pierced - so I know what I'm getting her. His little sister (10) I'm thinking maybe a small necklace or bracelet?
But then, I have no idea for his mum, dad and his nan, I can't spend too much as I barely have any money and seeing as it's my 16th on Christmas, my parents will have absolutely nothing.
So any small gift ideas for his parents and nan, I would be grateful :) (link)
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It is a kind gesture to bring your boyfriend's parents gift, but unnecessary. If you still wish to give them gifts, I would consider exercising your baking skills. Cookies, brownies, cake, or pie, these are usually all good ideas and low budget.
I would try to get the inside scoop from your boyfriend, the likes and dislikes of his family. If you aren't the best in the kitchen you might ask a friend or relative for help. Also, because Christmas is still awhile away, consider having a run through and baking some goodies for your own family, just to see how they turn out. I hope this helps.
Best Wishes!
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alright this is going to be a very long story so bear with me. Im a 16 year old female. Ive known this guy for a while now his name is collin. He lives three hours away from me. I NEVER got to see him at all until recently. THe first time i saw him was early september. For a little background information on our relationship. We have known each other for about a year now. When we first met we tried dating but it didnt work well for one we figured out id never be able to see him. So we broke up. We talked alot, well had phone sex alot.He started dating this girl named april and kind of stopped talkin to me a little but still wanted to have phone sex. I was like no. We didnt talke for a couple of weeks then started talking again. His friend aaron was always over there so we started talkin and got kinda close. He began filling me in on collin a little about how hes a big player and things of the sort. I didnt really care seeing it really wasnt my business anymore. Well collin kept talking to me but not all the time. We would go days even weeks without talking sometimes and most of the time i had to make the effort to call. HE IMed me first most of the time. We there got to be a point where me and aaron talked alot more than me and collin did. He told me that collin had said that all he had talked to me for was the phone sex. I was like oh okay. It hurt my feelings because I liked him alot. Over the months me and aaron talked, collin kind of backed off thinking that me and aaron had something goin on. Which in fact we didnt. Through talking with aaron I developed the theory that i was just being used and it fit together perfectly. Collin told me that he 'loved' me but i knew he didnt like really love me. I knew he liked me in some form. Well A few girlfriends later he finally decides to get a cell phone. HE texts my number and we talk a little bit, he asked for a picture of my downstairs. I was like alright hes single im single there is no harm. I talk to aaron two days later and fine out he indeed does have a girlfriend I got pissed. I called him up and asked if he had gotten the picture he was like no can you send another one. I told him no because he had a girlfriend and he freaked he was like how do you know i have a girlfriend. I told him not to worry about how i knew. I cussed him out and made it clear on what i was and that i wasnt about to be the girl on the side. He didnt say anything really. A couple weeks later the opportunity arose where i could finally go see him and aaron. I got in my car and drove up there. I saw aaron first and then went over to collins. When i got to collins He gave me a big fat kiss on the lips and a huge hug. It of course made me feel all warm and tingly inside. Keep in mind at this time he still had a girlfriend. We chilled for a few minutes and started to makeout. Then one thing lead to another and we ended having sex. I went home and we texted later. HE was like you really made me fall in love with you today. I thought was a bunch of bullshit because I still had that he's a player idea of him. SO i played a long a little. I was kicking my self in the ass for being so stupid as to sleep with him. The next day he texted me as soon as he got up and was bein all sweet and for three weeks after that talked to me non-stop and told me he was goin to step up and start talking to me more and paying more attention to me. He wanted to show that he really did care about me. Well during those three weeks i began planning to see him again.. HE still had a girlfriend throughout this. So i told him that if he even so much as wanted to hug me he would have to break up with her. HE got a little upset and we discussed it for a few days and he told me he would. WEll I didnt believe he would but i gave him the benifit of the doubt. So i went to see him, when i went over there it went how i expected it to, he gave me a hug and a kiss and about twenty minutes later we were at it again. After we were done he went to the bathroom and i looked at his phone. THat girl he was dating had texted him and it said 'i just dont understand why you broke up with me' so he really had broken up with her. It made me feel better and we pretty much screwed like jack rabbits that time i was there.We cuddled a bunch to and chilled some. Well after i went home that time he didnt talk to me as much as he did the first time. HE would call and stuff and text me but not like before. Which was fine. Well last week he barely talked to me at all. I talked to aaron and he had said that he had asked tesla back out. I got all upset but i asked collin about it and he was like no i didnt. We got into another small arguement about that last time I was up there and how i felt kinda like a piece of ass. HE got really upset at me and was like i cant believe you would even think that. Friday night i drove out to see him again. It went exactly like the last time. I got there we cuddled then screwed. He got up and got his phone because it was vibrating. Long behold it was tesla. I took a look at the text messages and they were all pretty much saying around the lines of why are you ignoreing me. She called twice within a half an hour. He got all irritated and was like she wont leave me alone. I looked at her staus on myspace and it said that she was all sad because she still loved her ex collin and she had messed it up. So it was true that he didnt ask her back out. Well we spent time together as usual and we screwed some more. Then went to bed. I had to get up early and leave. Well the only thing ive heard from him today was when i texted him to see if i left my shirt there and when he texted to see if i was home. When im over there we do have sex alot but we also spend alot of time not having sex and just talking. I dont know if its because we cant see each other that often so thats why we screw alot while im there or what. BUt im just worried that he's using me. I mean he really does care about me i know he does because he's offered for me to come live with him and his mom said i could. I cant obviously but anyway. Were not techiqually together but he called me his gurl when he was on the phone while i was there. He was like i cant man i got my gurl over here. Im not sure what they were talkin about. HE admits to me all the time that he is a nympho. I;m just confused about the situation mostly because everyone seems to be against him and is telling me these things now that turned out to be not true and i believe them because before i went to see him everything Aaron or anyone else said was true. Now collin tells me everything. Its just and ify situation for me because Im scared to trust him and get hurt, and i dont want to over react over the fact that he isnt talkin to me as often as the first time i went over there. I care about him alot, more than anyone before him. Ive lost many realtionships because of the simple fact that they knew i cared more about him. Now that we see each other its grown alot stronger for me. I miss the hell out of him already. So from your opinion what do u think. am i being used in anyway or is he sincere in everyway? if you need more info let me know (link)
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This is an extremely tricky situation, because you and Collin have so much distance between the two of you, there is most likely going to be some insecurity and doubts because you can't reassure each other like couples that are in constant contact.
I wouldn't be so sure of Aaron, are you positive he has no motive in telling you that Collin was involved with Tesla? Possibly he is attracted to you or he has some connection with Tesla, that you are unaware of.
I think Collin is trying to be sincere, but what I would consider doing is that the next time that you visit him, have some alone time, but find something to do where you can be around people. Go to the movies, the mall, anywhere so that you can see how he acts in public. It might solidify your feelings for him and reassure you that you and he are the real deal.
You can also, tell him how you feel and ask him if he wants what you want. i hope this helps.
Best Wishes!
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Hi, my boyfriend (19, 15 at the time) had a girlfriend that lasted for four months four years ago. I have been his girlfriend for 14 months. I saw on one of his AIM conversations with a girl and said that he still likes/loves the girl brittany, but its hard to say love because he loves me. and that he thinks about her all the time and that it kills him whenever he thinks about her. I remember i was in the car with him once and he looked in his rearview mirror and said "OMG ITS BRITTANY!" and i was like "okay, shes ugly as shit" and he goes "hmph." i was like oh okay. We were at a stop sign for about 10 minutes, as he was staring at her in the rearview mirror.
only a couple months into our relationship we got into a fight about a roumer that he heard that i still liked my abusive ex boyfriend. he broke up with me the next day.
do you think i have a right to talk to him about this? the girl that he told said she wouldnt tell anyone and he said good because it was really bad and that if she told anyone he would know it was her, and that no one else knows about it but him.
I mean, i was looking back in his chat history so he would know i was snooping, i could say she told me but her and i arent even friends. but i dont know what i should do. helpp! he goes back up to college tmorrow and i wanna talk about this face to face. (link)
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Wow, that boy is hung up. The relationship was 4 years ago and only lasted 4 months! I would confront him, that is ridiculous, if it didn't make even a half year mark! Snooping, is pretty bad but, in this case you were right on the money!
You totally have a right to talk to him about it. I would be assertive, with out being harsh, because you don't want to find out you completely misunderstood. Although the evidence is pretty damning. I hope this helps.
Best Wishes!
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I'm kind of surprised at myself, asking a question on here about my love life. Usually I can deal things out on my own- but lately I've realized my antics only lead to the same outcome :unhappy and alone. Here's the lowdown-
My friend,we'll call her X, used to really like this kid- Z. So it was fine, I was happy for them if anything were to come out of it.So they were on webcam, and i went on just to say hi. Then "Z", ends up telling my friend X, that he has a huge crush on me. Thing is, i found it kind of odd,seeing as usually to like someone you have to talk to them first.(that's how i am,anyway) So naturally my friend X, was crushed. I felt horrible, because i only wanted the best for them two. X finally moves on from Z, and she gets a boyfriend-who she claims to be "in love" with. (mind you they've been dating for a matter of two weeks- ALSO, a side question before i get to my major one- WHY do people do that? Say they love someone so fast? I think its ridiculous, am i missing something?) Anyway, X is moved on. And lately "Z" and i have been talking. He's 18 and i'm 16. We're okay talking,but i can still tell that X likes him, no matter how much she "loves" her new boyfriend. The thing is- somethings telling me to not go for Z. But; this ALWAYS happens to me when i start to develop feelings for people! I really want a relationship- but every time i get close to some one, i get scared of what they'll think of me and I'll try to fade away. I feel like I'm jinxing myself in from every angle here just writing this, but can someone help me out? How can i never get close to someone? Why do i fear feelings? I've never had a male figure to really rely on, but my inability to let someone in is starting to feel like a disability. I know i'm all over the place with this but i'd really like to get my love life in order :P. Any help on any of the topics i've talked about would really help! thank you. (link)
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To start with, your friend, X probably says she is "in love" because she is caught up in the moment. Hormones and whatnot are pumping through her blood like a fire hydrant, it can make your emotions go wack.
Z, is fair game, yes X is your friend, and you have your loyalties, but you have to follow your heart. X, if she is a really good friend will support you, and understand. I would talk to her about how you feel though, point out that if she was you, she might be tempted to do the same thing. Just for good measure you may want to give X and her new boyfriend another week, before you move forward.
You may be second guessing yourself, and potential suitors because you are scared. Maybe you have seen failed relationships in your family, divorces maybe. You have to remember that you deserve everything good the world has to give you. Be confident. I hope everything works out.
Best Wishes!
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Hi. Okay so this is my problem.
I have a new boyfriend. But I love my exboyfriend, and he loves me. My exboyfriend has a cheating problem (he's cheated quite a lot). Finally, I told him I was done and I got a new boyfriend, who I really like, but not as much as my ex. My ex has been telling me that he never knew what it felt like to be put through what he's put me through, and now he's convinced that he's never gunna cheat again. I want to be with him, but I also don't wanna break my current boyfriend's heart. I really don't know what to do because I'm torn between the two of them. I'm scared that if I stay with my current boyfriend, I'll go through what I always end up going through with my ex where we just don't talk for months and I'm miserable until we start talking again. My current boyfriend is more loyal, but he also lies alot.. he's famous for telling girls what they want to hear instead of what's really happening (he told his last girlfriend he loved her when he really didn't). And he's really bad about like talking to me. We barely talk at all unless we're hanging out, otherwise we almost never talk on the phone or text or whatever. He's also really late all the time which I can't stand. I really don't know what to do. I love my ex, but I don't wanna go back to him just to get my heart broken again. He seems legit this time. But I also don't want to hurt my current boyfriend. What do I do? I'm 16 by the way, and they're both 16, if that helps anyone. (link)
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Your ex-boyfriend cheated on you (assuming more than once.) that is a big no-no, he had his chance. Like they say, fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. That boy is a big load of drama. Would you be able to cope with that? You deserve better anyway.
Your current boy friend apparently has some rough edges, but I think you have better chances with him. You should probably confront him about his lack of communication and constant tardiness, if he doesn't take you seriously, I would consider sending him on his way.
You are 16, that means none of this is terribly serious, there is plenty of time for you to find a fantastic guy, and there are plenty of fish in the sea. On day you'll meet a guy who you fall so hard for you won't sleep at night, so in retrospect this will all seem petty.
Best Wishes.
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