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Boyfriend is still in love with ex.. from 4 years ago
Hi, my boyfriend (19, 15 at the time) had a girlfriend that lasted for four months four years ago. I have been his girlfriend for 14 months. I saw on one of his AIM conversations with a girl and said that he still likes/loves the girl brittany, but its hard to say love because he loves me. and that he thinks about her all the time and that it kills him whenever he thinks about her. I remember i was in the car with him once and he looked in his rearview mirror and said "OMG ITS BRITTANY!" and i was like "okay, shes ugly as shit" and he goes "hmph." i was like oh okay. We were at a stop sign for about 10 minutes, as he was staring at her in the rearview mirror.
only a couple months into our relationship we got into a fight about a roumer that he heard that i still liked my abusive ex boyfriend. he broke up with me the next day.
do you think i have a right to talk to him about this? the girl that he told said she wouldnt tell anyone and he said good because it was really bad and that if she told anyone he would know it was her, and that no one else knows about it but him.
I mean, i was looking back in his chat history so he would know i was snooping, i could say she told me but her and i arent even friends. but i dont know what i should do. helpp! he goes back up to college tmorrow and i wanna talk about this face to face.
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Wow, that boy is hung up. The relationship was 4 years ago and only lasted 4 months! I would confront him, that is ridiculous, if it didn't make even a half year mark! Snooping, is pretty bad but, in this case you were right on the money!
You totally have a right to talk to him about it. I would be assertive, with out being harsh, because you don't want to find out you completely misunderstood. Although the evidence is pretty damning. I hope this helps.
Best Wishes!
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Honestly i would talk to him. Just bring her up in your conversation one day. Be like babe i feel like our relationship is strong and is going really well but ever since that time we were driving together and you saw brittany it has made me worry and wonder if you still have feelings for her... If he tells you know you'll know that he is lying and you are going to have to confrint him about this.
If you want to keep looking at his conversation history then dont let him know how you found out.. if you dont care then tell him that you were just messin around and happened to come up on this conversation with that girl.
If he tells you that he still likes her then maybe give him space to figure out what he wants. Bring up the time when he broke up with you becase of a rumor and that you know this is true. I know this will be hard but its something that needs to be brought up that way you dont get hurt in the future!
Hope i helped && good luck! =]
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