So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do?
A lot of their rules do seem overbearing, especially for a teenager. I can tell you a few things though: one, when you move out and away from your parents, you\'re going to appreciate them a lot more. I never thought I would feel the way about my mom the way I do now that I live over a thousand miles away and see her only every 3 months or so. Secondly, I think your best bet is to reflect on times you may have disappointed, angered, or disobeyed them. Try and think if they have anything to hold against you. Either way, your best resolution is to communicate with them. In all relationships, you never get anywhere without communication. Ask them the reasons why they hold those rules, (try and be as calm and respectful as possible), because if they see that you can act more like a mature young adult, they may treat you like one. If not, ask them what it is that YOU can do to obtain and earn more freedom. Tell them what you would like to happen, and ask them to help you get there. After all, they are your parents, and if they have rules at all they\'ve gotta love and care about you and would most likely be more than happy to help you grow.
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I feel really good when I laugh and I love laughing. The problem is that I find almost nothing funny. A lot of people laugh when other people get hurt which is what most "funny videos" on youtube are about. And I honestly don't think they're funny ._. I also don't like most "funny" movies. Can anyone give me some ideas what I can watch? The only person I can think of that makes me laugh is ellen degeneres ._.
Sounds dumb, but, smoke some weed, get high, and watch Family Guy.
No joke.
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I'm from Berlin, Germany. I can read and write English almost as well as anyone else. Recently I have lost my dear identical twin brother, tragically. My father doesn't seem to care much, he didn't even blink when he died but I can't stop feeling this hole. I feel lost now, and confused. I can't cry for some reason. I'm depressed and alone. My mother is with my brother and my father is always at the bar. So what can I do to ease this pain inside of me?
Wow, I\'m sorry to hear that, although I\'m sure you\'re sick of hearing about how people are sorry for you. Because I\'m sure you feel sorry for yourself. I know I did when I lost my father tragically. But here\'s the best thing I learned about healing in death: not everyone can be as strong as you. I know that you feel lost and alone, and probably somewhat incomplete. I know how that feels. But, it is what it is. And as much as you don\'t think it\'ll get better, it will. I realized over time how much the broken heart that was a result of losing my rock, my father, my provider, has been beautifully painted over by the cities in which he instilled into me. You and your brother being twins, you probably were similar in some ways. Bringing out the best in your brother through your actions is what is going to help you heal and also to keep him alive within yourself.
I\'m sorry that your father is reacting that way...my mom had an opposite reaction to where she was pretty much in zombie mode because she was so depressed. The most important thing you need to remember while watching your family grieve is that they are all going to do it differently. Your father feels obliged to be the man of the house - the strong one who keeps holding the weight of everyone\'s fall on his shoulders while he remains standing with it. It\'s the best way he knows how to deal with it because I\'m sure he\'s never lost a child before. You\'ll always see new sides of people when you experience different things with them.
I\'m devastated for your loss, because my older brother is my hero. My father was my hero as well. Just remember that you cannot control what has happened, but you can always control how you react to it and how you decide to deal with it.
I hope this helps & I wish nothing but the best for you and your family.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a week now we are both 17. Our first date is on Saturday. We were talking about sex. And on the 5th or 6th date he would like to have sex with me. I really like him and ik he really likes me. He is not a virgin but I am... And he doesn't want to hurt me so he wants be to be on top.... But I'm heavier than he is . He is skinny an I have a muffin top and stretch marks. What should I do!?!?
Well first off, you need to ponder on whether you're ready for sex or not. Besides being protected and careful, you need to evaluate yourself emotionally. You NEVER forget your first. I lost my virginity to a guy that was my first everything, and I was his too. If you decide that this guy is really worth it and you feel confident about your decision, go for it. I mean, I know some people may discourage having sex so early in the potential relationship, and sometimes it doesn't turn out well. I don't think losing your virginity to a guy who actually has asked you for it so soon is such a good idea, mostly because it seems like that's all he's looking for. It's like getting a chocolate bar without paying for it: it has no value to you. He hasn't necessarily worked at it yet.
But then again, I met this guy by chance through some mutual friends I had never met before, but had known for years. They lived about 2 hours away, and so did the guy. After constant conversing for about a month, I decided to take a random trip to see him, and within hours of first physically meeting each other, we had sex and now he's my boyfriend and I really haven't ever been happier, and we see each other every weekend.
As for the self-image issue, I have the same problem.
The EXACT same one. But my boyfriend made me feel comfortable in my own skin, so until the person you decide to have sex with makes you feel that way, just don't have sex with him, or refuse to do it in anything more than pitch darkness. Haha, that's what I did!
But really, you can become emotionally attached to this guy if you so choose to lose your virginity to him, and in reality, a lot of guys are players and most of them only want some ass. But if you don't really care who you lose it to and you're like me and have a lack of emotion, then I say go for it and just be confident about it. In the darkness. Darkness is like a security blanket for us girls! At least until we feel comfortable with our man. Don't worry about it, just focus on performance and forget your insecurities and be that experience he'll NEVER forget. :)
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So...I have a guy-friend who I've developed feelings for...(I'm putting this in the "friendship" category because he is taken, and I've made it clear to him that I have no intention of trying to break them up, I just think me liking him might be relevant in some way)
Anyways...after he asked me whether or not I liked him, he told me it was okay and that he understood and that we would still be friends...we talked, texted, hung out quite a bit...and then he just stopped. He vaguely told me he was upset about something, but nothing more...I've tried to break the ice a few times, but I have not been badgering him or making him feel like he is obligated to me or anything...I DID tell him he could talk to me about it if he wanted, but has said nothing to me at all ever since.
What the heck?! We were getting along so well. It just sort of...happened. One day we were hanging out, and then he just stopped all contact with me. I really miss him. =( I never put any "moves" on him unless we were jokingly flirting with each other...but I do that with a lot of my platonic guy friends...I honestly don't think there was anything I did wrong, but perhaps some of you might have experienced something similar? Please tell me what would cause this kind of behavior...
First, no guy who likes you enough to date you will be afraid of losing the friendship, because you'll be worth taking the risk.
I honestly just think it's the issue of a jealous girlfriend, and that happens. But when he gets over his relationship peak, he'll realize who was really there and who wasn't. Most likely he felt himself developing feelings, and it's probably a good thing that he stopped talking to you, so that the feelings wouldn't grow. I saw it's a good thing because then you know he's a TRULY loyal guy. If the shoes were switched between you and his girlfriend, I'm sure you wouldn't want your boyfriend developing feelings for another girl, and even though sometimes it's inevitable, you would feel secure and proud that he took the responsibility and self-control to keep loyalty. And that is a trait of a keeper. In the end his psycho jealous girlfriend will be long gone, and most likely it'll open his eyes to whose the true keeper.
Goodluck!
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i'm a girl and my boyfriend wants me to be on top the next time we have sex but i have never been on top before so i don't know what to do.Could you tell me what to do or how should i do it??
Considering you've never done it before, and this coming from someone who, quite frankly, SUCKS on top, I would say, if possible, do it on the floor or a couch, because it's hard to ride him while the bouncy bed is ruining your rhythm. But just make sure it doesn't hurt you first, because sometimes it hurts being on top and sometimes riding can be painful. As soon as your comfortable with it, then begin. I'm sure he doesn't expect you to be perfect at it. And if you can't bounce, then just tell him to do the thrusting while you're on top and you just caress him and seduce him with your hands in other places. Like run your hands through his hair and tug at it a little, or nibble his earlobes or kiss his neck. Maybe even a little running your fingernails from the bottom of his mid-lower back up the two sides of his spine, very gently, almost hovering. We were given hands for a reason! No worries, practice makes perfect! Goodluck.
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I'm going to try to shorten this the best I can. It'll probably end up really long though..
Ever since the end of my freshman year I had a thing for my friend. He's 20 and I'll be 18 next month. I already graduated from high school and I'm about to go to the same college as him.
So pretty much, I've had a thing for him for 3 years.
We became really close my sophomore year. I had a boyfriend at the same and he helped me with some of those problems.
During my junior year we started texting a lot more. Eventually we told each other how we felt. It was complicated because we weren't sure what to do since he was leaving in January. He said we'd talk about it the next day, we didn't. We didn't talk about it for a couple weeks. I just thought he gave up on me and I became interested in someone else. Eventually I start dating someone else and he gets mad. We ended up becoming friends again though.
I had suspicions on my boyfriend cheating on me and I always went to him for help so he called me and we talked all night on the phone. He told me he still had feelings for me and he wished I was older so that we could be together, stuff like that. He said a bunch of sweet stuff.
Maybe a month later, while I was at their house, he and I hooked up. No sex, just making out and a little more.
After that, he ended up leaving and he'd text me a lot and call me and talk about his life in college. One phone convo ended badly though. He kept talking and talking..I can't exactly remember what happened. Then I said I was gonna go and he said, "Oh ok." I said, "Bye" He said, "I love you" I said, "Bye.." Afterward I ended up crying. I guess something he said hurt me. Then he texted me saying, "I'm so done with you."
We don't talk for 3 months and he texts me and he said that he needed time to grow up. So we became friends again.
He comes home during the summer, we hook up again like 3 more times.
He leaves, we stop talking. I start seeing someone else. Then he texts me again asking about the new guy. No mention of feelings or anything. Maybe a month later he asked if me and my boyfriend have made out. I said yes and he gets all upset. I was clueless.
From then on, we kept it as a friends thing. Until we start talking a lot more like 2 months ago. Like a week before he came home he told me that he still has feelings for me, he wants to try again, no games. I figured it was because he was lonely and his friends had girlfriends or he was homesick. So I kinda just blew that off then he came home and everything was cool. We'd hang out and all that. Then one day he gets so cold. He stops talking to me, hardly looks at me, doesn't text me or anything. I asked him what happened. He told me he didn't feel the same as he did before. I cried in the bathroom for like an hour..
I didn't talk to him for maybe two weeks. Then he texted me saying he missed me. Then we become friends again. We ended up making out again like 2 weeks ago.
At this point, I'm not sure what to do. He hardly texts me and I feel like it's going to be the same thing again. We probably talk like once or twice a week. I feel like I'm in some dramatic movie. I know I should probably call it off but I don't have the guts to do it. I care about him way too much. I haven't texted him, I'm really stubborn.
We're going to the same school at the end of this month. Should I just wait and see and not text him? I don't want to make myself look like I want him if he doesn't want me. I'm thinking maybe he texts me and we start reminiscing about our past, I'll say that I don't want to mess around anymore. I want something more serious.
Idk..and this whole thing between us is a secret. I'm really close to his family..they only know we use to like each other 2 years ago. So I really don't have anyone to talk to about this.
Sorry it was so long. I felt the need to explain everything so you could get a better picture of him and how he is.
Entering college, you're going to meet soo many new people. I wouldn't limit yourself to an old flare. You can't rely on him to decide what he wants, because you want a man who is SURE of what he wants. If he was sure, he would have made you his. So many guys in college are going to see you as worth-while, so don't settle yourself for less than. Any man would be able to make the decision, and it's not ultimately up to him. Don't give him that power. If he wants you before someone else does, he better step up his game, and make sure he respects the hell out of you. Let him make the effort because he's hurt you. The ball is in his court, and he needs to communicate.
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i dont fall in "like" often.
as in i dont ever feel the instant spark or connection with someone but when i do... its bad.
recently i felt it and i cannot stop thinking about this guy.
i hate when i go through this because it makes me go crazy.
i hate liking guys because of this feeling.
i feel like i text the guy im into way to much and think about him way to much and flat out obsess about him.
how do i turn this off? and stop this craziness. and just be mellow and normal when it comes to a guy that im into.
Well, feelings for someone aren't exactly something you can just "turn off". Never obsess, let the man do the chasing. If he wants to talk to you, he will. No matter what, he'll give in. No matter how hard it may be for you, just kick back and try to get your mind off him and don't contact him first. Because when he finally does contact you, it'll be when he can engage in a better conversation, and you'll feel so good that you know he thought of you, just the way you think of him. Relationships are a two-way street, and require communication. Especially the growing ones! Just keep calm and carry on.
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I have a friend that I like alit He told me that he likes me also but now after a convo that we had he now tells me that we should be friends nothing more. But its not as easy as he thinks it could be , we have been sexually active with each other . He its the first person I did alot of sexual things with ! I don't want too be only his friend I want too be more but now he questions if we can move forward because of what I said ! What should I do?
I'm sorry to say, but that's the trigger. If a guy really cares or has intentions of caring, he will want to get to know you BEFORE doing sexual things. Us girls get used, and it happens to the best of us. Drop him. Why try to pursue something with someone who never had intentions of pursuing something with you? No one likes to be used. Just keep your head up and never give in too easily unless you know your emotions won't get in the way. He's definitely not worth your time or effort. Always let the man do the chasing.
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I start getting to know someone and once we have a connection and even if I really like them, then at one point I stop trying to talk to them and start avoiding them and abruptly stop talking. and then time goes on and then I feel guilty over not talking to them and then more time goes on and then I feel more guilty but at the same time feel like I can't just start talking like I used to because I think they'd be wondering why I'd stopped communicating with them in the first place. it's like a vicious cycle. I don't have any close friends right now and I hate it because I want to be close to someone and go to parties and movies and etc. and not just be on the computer but then why am I doing this to myself? I feel like I self sabotage myself in so many ways and I don't understand why, when people are supposed to be doing things in their best interests. I've been this way for the past couple of years and it only gets worse and worse. I'm starting college this year and I'm afraid if I'll let this screw things up in college too (with regards to relationships with others and grades)
I've met many people like this, so no worries, it's not just you. I have a milder case of this problem. My guess is that you've built an emotional wall up because you've either gotten hurt or back-stabbed so many times in life. If there isn't a catalyst in your past to trigger this problem, than it's just part of who you are. The best thing you can do is teach yourself to trust. If you're not good at reading people, then it's more difficult to determine who you can and can't trust, but that's the whole deal of making relationships. Relationships are ALWAYS a gamble. Don't be afraid to take risks. Almost every person I've let into my life has let me down, and boy does it hurt. But when I sit there and ponder, it was always their loss, not mine. Trust me, when fate decides to have its way, it'll kick into your brain and your brain will tell you to keep this person in your life. College is a big change and people are different as well. More mature, and more trusting. Your situation will get easier as you meet a bigger diversity of people, even people like yourself. Hakuna matata.
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