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Okay, so today is our two month anniversary..and I don't know what to get him! He likes music, new shirts.. but I want to get him something unique, something that will remind him of me! I just don't know what to get him..

-Kayla.

Make a batch of mini versions of his favourite dessert... For example, instead of making brownies in a sqaure baking pan, bake them in a mini muffin tin. This way, he can take a couple to school/work, and he'll think of you every time he eats one.

That's what I would do. Good luck!

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Do you know where to find the song Feel Good by Tania? I haven't been able to find it on the Internet nor Youtube.

You mean Taina, right? :)
Did you check the site I mentioned in my original answer (I think it was megatrax.com)? Or maybe try soundcloud.com?

If you can't find it there, you could try playing the episode on your computer, isolating the part where that song is played, and then ripping the audio...

It's kinda tough trying to find these songs, because this show didn't run long enough to have a soundtrack album put out (that I could find... Could be wrong!)... You could always email someone at Nickelodeon and ask them where you could get the song.

Hope that was a little bit helpful... Good luck!

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Here's a little background information:

I'm 15yr old female, and I want to start corset training.
The problem is, I've never worn a corset before, and I'm not sure how a corset will affect my still-growing body. I know how painful they are, so no need to remind me. ;D I'm also well aware of the probability of health issues and lifestyle changes that come along with corset training. However, I'm in good shape, and I take care of myself. I do have a couple of questions, though.

1. I do a lot of singing. This requires a fair bit of control over my breathing. I know that a corset will constrict my ribcage, but I need to know if I will still be able to do it. If not I suppose I could always take it off during practice and performances.

2. Does the material or strings need special attention in the wash?

3. How will it affect my inner organs and bone structure?

4. If I can't start now, when is a good time to begin?

5. Considering the fact that there are about a million health issues related to corsets, I suppose I wouldn't be able to buy one at a lingerie shop or something because of my age. I'm in New Zealand. Would they have that kind of reaction to someone so young?

NOTE: I'm not tryig to make myself ultra-uber-unhealthy skinny. I've just really loved corsets and lace and things like that since I was really young (I know that sounds wierd). I know when enough is enough, and even if I go overboard, I have very watchful friends and family who will say no.

Any advice would be really helpful, especially from corset-wearers. :D Thankies.

I'm not a dedicated corset-wearer, although I do wear them from time to time, and have a collection of them.

Here are my suggestions:

Romantsy has a step-by-step 3-month Waist-Training Plan that you can purchase from their site:
http://romantasyweb.com/Merchant2/merchant.mv?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=R&Product_Code=3-month++Waist-Training+Plan+-+Corset+Wear

Also, check out CorsetHeaven's short guide to waist training: http://www.corsetheaven.com/corsets/corset_advice/waisttraining.asp

And this article from StayLace: http://www.staylace.com/textarea/corascorsetcommentary/index.html



Good luck!

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I need to lose 15-20 pounds in about 20 days I need exercises I can do inside and healthy eating habits please bc I kinda have no will power I've been trying to chew gum to get my mind off the food

> Short answer: it's IMPOSSIBLE; there's no healthy way to lose that much weight that quickly. Even if you managed to lose it, you'd gain it back pretty quick.

> Long answer: ok, it's possible, but it's really not healthy. You'd be better off doing a 2-week internal cleanse regimen.

Here's what you need to know:

1 pound of body weight = approx. 500 calories.

So to lose 20 pounds, you'd need to either cut out or burn off 10,000 calories, or about 500 calories/day. If you insist on endangering your health, it'd be easiest to do the following:

- Burn 250 calories (aerobic exercise)
- Cut out 250 calories (eat less)
- Follow the Atkins Diet style of eating for the next 20 days.

It won't be fun, but it's doable. Just please, be careful!

Good luck.

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Okay so yesterday I was getting a tattoo and inside they were playing what I THOUGHT was Andre 3000 so I didn't ask, but when I tried to look it up when I got home, I couldn't find anything that sounded like him. All that came up was his old Outkast songs and a couple songs that he has a small part in. But they played several songs that sounded like him, and it was like real rap, not pop or the stuff Outkast used to play. Is he under a different name now, or is it someone else that sounds like him?

You probably heard the song "I'll Be In The Sky" by B.O.B.

YouTube it!

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Back when I used to watch Disney and Nickelodeon there were two songs that I remember from a movie and then another from a tv show.
The Disney movie I believe was Miracle in Lane 2 and I could have sworn I heard a song that was something to the effect of, "and I G I T T A G O way, and that I hope you will understand some day (and then it mentions something about best friends)" Does anyone know the name of that song??

Second song is from the tv show Tania and I had a cinnamon toast crunch cereal and inside was a cd with her music. One of them I really liked, but I can't recall what it was. I think it was a one word title, but if anyone can help me find it, that would be great.

These songs came out in 2001 and 2003 I believe.
Also
If anyone knows any songs like "supergirl" by krystal in Princess Diaries or 3lw "no more" songs or any old songs like that please let me know.
Thank you so much!

The first song is called "Gotta Go Away", only place I could find it was on a site called MegaTrax. Song was written by Robbyn Kirmsse & Kevin Cloud, published by JRM Music.


Songs from Nickelodeon's "Taina" (CDuniverse.com)
1. Gonna be a star
2. Carnival
3. I represent
4. Feel good
5. Not while I'm around
6. Not this time
7. I'm in love with me
8. Thought that we were friends
9. In my dreams
10. Voy a Ser Una Estrella (Gonna be a star)

You can also go to YouTube and search "Taina songs"

Hope that helps :)

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My exboyfriend (who broke up with me about a month ago) and I spent some time together recently and his behavior was very strange. First of all, he literally shot me with spitwads like he was a little kid teasing his sister. Also, he was very reserved. Not rude or quiet, but very solemn and maybe even bored. I tried to act casual and behave the way I do when I'm with any other friends, but he didn't ever let down his guard to even smile at things that normally would have made him laugh. He was a complete 180 of the guy I used to know who was enthusiastic and fun. To top it all off, when we hugged goodbye he kept poking me in the back with his car keys. Now I can't tell what's sincere and what's him just being weird. I don't understand why he's acting so strange so I can't tell whether or not I should keep pursuing a friendship, or just give it more time before trying again? I'd think it's because he doesn't love me anymore and doesn't really want me in his life, but then why did he meet up with me when he didn't have to?

May I be blunt?

He enjoys spending time with you, but doesn't have any romantic feelings toward you anymore. He's treating you like a friend to get the point across to you (without having to say it) that he just wants to be friends.

Immature? Yes.
Typical? Yes.
Annoying, hurtful, and unnecessary? Yes, yes, and yes.

But that's what this sounds like to me.

Good luck.

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Hi,
I just started working at a new school. I do enjoy my job but it gets tough and nerve wrecking at times because I believe my boss dislikes me. I have tried it all, from just working, kissing up, or just flying under the radar. What can I do to get her to like me, and how can I deal with her, because we need to work together for a while. Thank you for the response!

You can start by putting yourself in her shoes; are you doing (or NOT doing) something that she needs/wants you to do/say? Consider how your actions/words come across to her.

If that doesn't help you, try sitting down with her (when it's convenient for her!) and being honest; letting her know which parts of your job are stressful for you, and -most important- ask for her advice/suggestions on how you could improve/do things differently.

If neither of those seem to help, I recommend reading "Monster Boss" by Patricia King - it's a business book, but it's totally NOT boring (actually, it's pretty entertaining) and has helped me several times when I've had issues with my job/boss.

Good luck!

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I really love hanging out with her, she's like my only friend, but I'm tired of the lies. First she lies about a boyfriend that is clearly not good for her (never met, doesn't know much about it, he is out of the country until later this year), she chats online to tons of people she doesn't know and I can tell you for a fact it's having a bad influence on her. She tells me her sister is going to call (I know her sister), but I know it's not her sister because she leaves my bedroom and goes down the hall to another room and shuts the door. She tells me she doesn't drink but I know she's been so drunk off her a** she was sick for two days. Do I have a right to be super upset? Should I stop being friends with her? Also, I'm almost 19 and she's almost 20.

Couple thoughts/options here:

#1: She's lying because she wants you to have a good opinion of her, and worries that if she tells you the truth, you might judge her.

#2: She's lying to make her life seem more _____ (exciting, thrilling, badass, whatever...) because she wants to impress you/doesn't want to seem boring.

#3: She's looking for attention, possibly because she's feeling insecure and/or out of control in some way.

#4: She's a pathological liar (unlikely).


I think that yes, you have a right to be upset, but you also have the right, as her friend, to be concerned, and to try talking to her about what's going on in a non-judgemental way. Should you stop being friends with her? Can you be really be friends with someone you can't trust? That's something you'll have to decide for yourself.

Good luck!

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I'm a 13 yearold girl and I hear about people just a year older than me sucking guys dicks and having sex and stuff but I think that oral sex is disgusting. is that normal? I'm not a lesbian I just think that's gross. and should girls shave there down there hair? you all probably think "what is she talking about, she's 13?" but I want to no if I should. It would help if I got advice from girls and guys. and how old were you guys when you lost your virginity? any advice helps. Thanks (:

For the record: I'm a 26 year old girl :)

I'm gonna tell you the same things I told my little sister (who's now 19), or would have told her, had she asked the same questions you did.

- I'd say yes, it's normal; I felt the same way when I was your age.

- Shaving is entirely up to you (and don't believe anyone who tells you different!) I don't think you need to worry about it yet. However, I started shaving when I was a few years younger than you, because I was a competitive swimmer... it's really your choice. If you're comfortable with not shaving, then don't! Either way, be careful :)

- I was 16 1/2 when I lost my virginity. That probably sounds pretty old, but at the time, I was only the second girl in my group of friends (we're talking 20+ girls here) who'd had sex. I waited until I was ready, and until I was with someone I was comfortable with and trusted. I would've waited longer, if necessary!

Good luck, don't stress, and try not to care too much what other people think - it's what YOU think that matters.

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