I know I give decent advice. I don't make fun of people for their mistakes or the silly things they do. I don't just pull out the negative things and tell you how wrong it is and how you shouldn't do that. I read it over try and answer all the questions you ask and give you my advice. I am not mean I am honest and understanding. I have made million and 1 mistakes in my life so I can most likely compare myself to others. I can tell you about what I did to solve my own problems. I love helping people. However, I am wicked picky with topics. I don't answer mostly Sex questions because I'm a creep, but because they interest me the most and I am very experienced with that and what not. I chose Love Life for my second choice because I have had so much experience in that and I could probably help you with any Love Life stories you throw at me. And well I chose Friendship for the same reasons I guess. I have been through 20 million friends and 40 million different people + friend situations. So please ask me anything. I am here to help people because I never really ever had anyone around to help me through life and still don't. I never want anyone to feel like they have no one to go to. So I am here ask away.....!
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whats good to mix with vodka? (link)
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I prefer orange juice.
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17/f
I hate where I live. Everyone hates me. My friends are distancing themselves from me so that they aren't harassed too. Everytime my parents see me cry I know I'm hurting them.
I am hated for who I am. The people here are too insecure to accept anyone who is 'above average.' In ten months I am definitely moving out, but I don't know how to deal with this situation for that much longer. I don't deserve this. Help? (link)
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Just by reading this hurt me. I hate when people are unhappy with themselves. I completely know how you feel. I suggest that you should see a counselor at your school or even go and pay for a good therapist. I have been at that super low point where you have no idea what to do, you hate yourself, sometimes maybe you just wish you could disappear. I always wanted to see someone, but I thought people would think I was crazy. Don't think it's a bad thing. You need someone to talk to. You clearly need to get your feelings out somehow. When your angry go for a run or a walk, listen to music. When your sad watch one of your favorite movies that makes you happy. When you feel so helpless like you really need to talk to someone keep a journal and write about how you feel or write poetry. Any of those should help, but like I said you should ask your parents if you can go see someone or go talk to your school counselor. You can't change who people are and your friends really suck if they are leaving you when you're feeling so low. So f*ck them. I really hope I helped.
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so last saturday, i was talking to this guy i REALLY like on aim.
he was always asking me who i liked.
and he was like, this is gonna sound weird. but i'm just wondering....are you really prude?
and i was like probably, like i haven't done anything.
but i'm just inexperienced, not really like prude. but i can go back and say that, because that was over a week ago.
anyways, i found out that on sunday, him and one of my friends (they dated twice, and she doesn't know i like him) went to the movies.
he gave her his sweatshirt, and then they started making out a bit, and he pushed her head down to his dick. so he got like a blowjob out of her.
i don't know if he still likes her, or if he's just using her for that. he did give her his sweatshirt.
i don't know. i'm so confused.
do you think maybe he wanted me to do that, since he asked me?
probably not though. ha (link)
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I think that this guy sucks. Ha! But honestly I think he just wants sex and blowjobs and whatever else. If you want you can continue liking him and then end up hooking up with him. However, he may break your heart because maybe all he wants is sexual things. I'm not so sure if he still likes your friend. He did give her his sweatshirt, but maybe he's the kind of guy who just doesn't give a shit and just gave her his sweatshirt because she asked for it. I would just give up on him if I were you. Even though you may not want to. Then in that case, you have a great chance of getting hurt or maybe you may even date. Ha this story even confused me. This is the best I can give.
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First, I apologize that this is gross.
I am 17/f and insecure about "down there." It is ALWAYS moist or a little bit wet, I always have discharge (sometimes clear, sometimes white and tacky), and sometimes it smells really bad! I have been to two gynos in the past few months and neither one thought anything was wrong. But there must be! The smell can be so bad if I don't shower every day and it makes me really insecure in public. Can anyone help me? What is the problem? Is there anything I can do to fix this? This has been an issue for months... (link)
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I am going to tell you now that this is so normal. No one else can smell it so don't feel insecure. Just make sure you shower everyday and wash it. It's normal for it to be wet, completely normal. Don't worry about it and if you continue to worry go back to the gynecologist and ask them if they have any creams or what not. Or ask them to check it out again because you really think there's something wrong.
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f/15
everytime my parents leave the house..I watch porn and masterbate...
i watch hbo and wait for the sex scenes then i masterbate to thoses...i masterbate all the time...do i have a problem...i havent had a boyfriend in a while could that be the problem..i havent been touched for a while!!like 2 years..what is my problem..should i stop will this affect me when i have sex for the first time..will it make having an orgasim harder??? (link)
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Masturbating is normal, honestly I had the same problems when I was about 13 or 14. I think you do it so much because you haven't been touched for a while. There's no need to stop. I doubt it will effect your first time because when I first started doing sexual things I was getting fingered for about half a year before I had sex and before I was getting fingered I masturbated and it didn't mess up my first time. Usually girls don't have an orgasm their first time having sex, but then again everyone is different. Continue doing what you like to do there's nothing wrong with it!
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first time have sex in the vigina
or have anal sex
what does vigina sex feel like the first time..did it hurt you and how bad was the pain on a scale 1-10?? (link)
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Having anal defiantly hurts 100 times more than vaginal sex. Even though I never experienced pain my first time having sex I know just from reading about it. If you want to try anal you MUST read about it first or else it could hurt even more than it should or you could mess some things up or so. It is hard to explain how having sex feels, but I can tell you that it feel way better than getting fingered. However, if you want an idea of how it feels just try fingering yourself or have your boyfriend do it.
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i was with a guy and he would finger me,
but he would finger me in my vaginia like not in the hole ware the penis gos for sex or tampon goes in,and it felt really good.
then i was with another guy and he fingered me in the hole and i screamed and made him stop!!!!!!!
number one SO embaressing
number two why did it hurt so bad? and how do i make it so that it will feel good?!?!
and when i finger myself i never finger myself in that hole! i just go aorund my vaginia, is that wrong? (link)
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No it is not wrong. You can make it feel good by inserting one finger into the hole and try fingering yourself. It will hurt but once you do it a few times maybe 2-4 times it won't hurt anymore. Then when someone goes to finger you or you go to have sex it won't hurt as badly. And as for why it hurt so bad, I am not sure how to explain it but you can ask your doctor or Google it.
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Dear Columnist,
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..
Sincerely,
PeoplePerson27 (link)
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You and your girlfriend have only been dating for a few weeks so maybe she's not ready to tell you something as big as that. So relax she'll open up about it eventually. You should apologize for pressuring her into that and tell her that whenever she's ready to have sex and what not that it's all up to her and you can wait. That shows that she can trust you and depend on you. That's terrible that she has Hepatitis C and I'm sorry to hear that. Just relax and be thankful that she's trying to protect you. Don't tell her you know don't even hint at it. You both will be better off. I am not sure if i helped but
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i cant seem to stop getting hurt by this boy. we dated for 2 years and i was in love. the first time he broke up with me it hurt so bad. he did it about 3 times and always came back to me. the last time he broke up with me i tried to make it work for a month and then gave up and tried to move on. about 3 months later he started talking to me again. of course throughout the time we didnt talk i still always thought of him and i still had a ton of feelings for him, i just was trying to get over him and it was working. but when we started talking again he had already gone off to college which is only about an hour from where i live. anyways for about 2 weeks we just texted and stuff until he finally asked me to come down. i said i didnt know if it was a good idea and he told me how he still had feelings and that he thinks he might still love me. so that weekend i went down tehre and it was amazing. he was soo nice, it was the good him the him that i missed, the him that loved me. when i got home that night i texted him and he didnt respond. the next day we didnt talk at all. it was strange because before he would text me everyday. so the day after i called him and he didnt sound like he wanted to talk? when we hung up i just started bawling because ive been through his whole i love you i miss you and then i dont like you thing tooooo many times. and i had this horrible feeling that he was going to let me down again even though he had said it wasnt going to be liek that anymore. but the next day he actually ended up texting me. just saying whats up, but i knew he was thinking about me. but i brought up going down there again adn he said "idk" like wtf does he mean idk? just before he was telilng me he still loved me he still misses me and now he doesnt know if he wants me to see him again?! at that moment i knew he was going to try to play those mind games with me again and my heart just cant take anymore from him..... yesterday i got on facebook and his status said he was coming home 2morrow. it just sunk down my stomach. like are you serious? you're coming down and he didnt even say anything to me? especially when i asked about comeing down ther again sometime.. i just cant do it anymore. i have so many feelings for him but i just feel like.... i deserve better?! what do you guys think?! i actually just like 20 minutse ago deleted him from a friend on facebook, and about 5 minutes later he called me. i didnt answer.. i think i need to just let it go? (link)
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I think you should just let him go and move on. You deserve better then that. Just don't even make contact with him and if he starts trying to come around again just tell him to back off and leave you alone. No guy has a right to date a girl for 2 years and then just let her go and show up out of no where like he did. It's good that you started getting over him once before because maybe it will be easier for you to let go this time.
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