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Hey! my name is Marissa, I'm 15 years old, and I am really looking forward to help all of you! Do not be affraid to ask me anything! I'll do the best I can to help you! I will also be very kind and understanding to you. I will not be mean, or harsh like some people when they give advice. I hope you enjoy yourselves, and I hope my advice has helped! ^_^

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so me and my boyfriend
have become soo serious.
and we cuddle.
but he tried to make out with me
and i just said h/o and totally ditched him
cause
..i dont know how to make out
soo could you mabye tell me howw

pleasee
this might be funny
but im desprate

well to tell you the truth, I haven't made out either, but I can help you out somewhat. Just think, half of the people who made out at one time in their life, probably didn't know how to do it either. So your not the only one. If he tries to do it again, don't run away, start out slow, and i'm sure you'll catch onto things as you go on.

As you can see thisn't much help, but I hope it helps you out at least a little bit. I wish you good luck! =D

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What are some ways to improve posture? I stand "sway back" Where I push my shoulders back, my tummy out, and my butt back, curving my back greatly. (Sort of what a pregnant woman stands like) I have Scoliosis and the doctor said thats why I've grown to stand like that.

But now I'm expieriencing back pain from this posture and I need to learn not to arch my back as more. Are there anything tricks or methods I could use to help my muscles be comfortable with a new posture and permanently stand in a better posture?

Well I learned that if you sit in your chair with your back completely against the back of the chair, your legs straight together, and both feet flat on the floor that it will help improve your posture.

Also, here is a web site that gives you good tips on posture:
http://www.spine-health.com/topics/conserv/posture/posture02.html

Hope I've helped you, and I wish you luck on improving your posture! =D

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I started attending a Methodist church when I was 12. (I'd never been to church before- I'm now 14) I loved it! But when I had no idea what the Pastor or muchless ANYONE was talking about I got discouraged and stopped going.

I want to start going again but I do not understand alot of things about God which makes me VERY lost during the sermons. Why do we get baptised? What IS baptism? What IS confirmation? How do you know when a prayer has been answered? How do you know when you've been saved. What IS being Saved? When you read the Bible, do you read it straight thru or random chapters at a time? What are Diciples? Whose Abraham, whose Lot? At my church you can only take Confirmation classes in middle school and I'm now going to start high school (I missed the class session) does this mean I can't get into Heaven if I've never been baptised or confirmed?!

I stopped going to church when I got too frustrated and after six months I've decided I've hit rock bottom and want to get closer to God so I'm going to attend church tomorrow. Answers to my questions and advice to better accepting God and understanding him would be great!

Well I understand how you feel. I'm catholic, and I am very confused on a lot of things too, but I have attened a catholic grade school, and I'm preasently attending a catholic high school now. I learn most of these things because of the school. For trying to figure these questions out, I would maybe attend some classes for your church. It's not confirmation class, it's a class you learn about God and everything you mentioned about. I'm pretty sure almost every church has one, and for confirmation, you'll have to talk to your church about that. They'll probably help you out there and maybe arrange something for you. I hope I've helped you out a bit. And I wish you the best of luck! =D

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14/f

Ok, before I give you the actual question, I'm going ot give you the background.

Here it goes,
It started yesterday, it was my dad and I, watching Jeapordy, and he was making fun of all the contestants, so I hit him in the arm, but then he hit me back, I don't think he realized how hard he hits, but it's very hard. So I hit him back again, and so on, and so on. But at one point he slapped/hit my leg so hard that it left a huge hand print, and I got so mad. My mom wasn't home at the time, I tried contacting her, but she didn't answer. So I took a picture of the mark. It was ok, after that, seeing how I got out of the house for a couple of hours with my friends.Then he and my brother, came to pick me up, we decided to go rent a movie. After that was over, this is going to sound childish, but we were arguing over who got the front seat. And my dad always takes his side, so I was frustrated, so frustrated, that when I got in the back, I said "I hate you both". My dad went "Hate is an awfuly strong word." Then I went "Fine I loathe you, I despise both of you." And it was a quiet car ride after that. When we got home, I had a serious attitude, and my mom wanted to know why. That's when I showed her the picture of my leg[from earlier]. She got really mad, and started hitting my dad. Since I was just as mad, I went upstairs to cool off, and watch the movie I had chosen. When it was over, I wasn't quite as mad, and we[my brother, dad and I] watched the other movie. That was fine.


But, when I woke up this morning, I woke up an hour late, so I jumped in the shower, and while I was in there, my dad comes in and goes "Your too late, Your too late." I have no idea why, but it irritated me. So I snapped back at him; "I can still take a shower!". After I got out, my mom came in and started telling me, that she was going to leave my dad, that we don't get along, and she's leaving us both behind. She asked if I deserved the hit on the leg. Then she goes that stunt you pulled, really screwwed things up.[Refering to showing her the picture, to get my dad in trouble.] And I wasn't allowed to go, where I had planned on going. So I slept. When I woke up, my dad was leaving for work, and he said "Bye." I said "Bye." And he goes, "I hope your happy." And as I sit here now, I can't help, but believe that I was responsible for my family falling apart. My parents have been otgether since they were 14, and I feel as though I ruined it all. That I was some sort of mistake. And I don't know what to do. Does anyone know how I can fix things? I'm feeling very depressed right now,and I have no idea what I'm going to do.

Thanks for anyone who tries.

First,I'm terribly sorry this happend. But don't be down, I promise you everything will be ok. My parents get in fights all the time, and my mom will say she wants a divorce, and she'll say how much she hates him. But Everything turns out fine in a couple of days. But you should really talk to your parents. Sit them both down and tell them that your really sorry for what happened. Let them know how much you love them, and remind them how much they love each other. Also with your dad hitting you, I don't know if you both were just playing around, or really hitting each other with anger. But if you guys were just kidding around, I would point that out to your mom, so that she isn't too upset with your dad. I hope I have helped, and I hope everything goes ok with your family. Good luck! ^_^

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My friend is leaving so me and some friends decided to make her a 'bebo' and 'myspace' flash box with pictures of everyone on. We just need a song. Can you suggest any good songs with lyrics relating to missing people/friendships.
Thanks

A really good song is 'will you remember me' by Sarah Mclauglhin. Also "You'll be in my Heart" by Phil Collins. I can't think of any other good songs, but I hope I have helped! ^_^

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if i started to shave my arms, would the hair grow darker and longer?

ps. my arm hairs are black

Ok, you really DON'T want to do that! There was this one girl at my school who did that, and it looks very strange. She constantly has to keep shaving it because it does grow back longer and darker, especially if you have black hair. I really wouldn't do it if I were you, but it is your choice! Hope I have helped! ^_^

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I need some inspiration.....Its embarrising to get a friend to help me lose weight im 5'2 and i weigh 117lbs please tell me how to get in the mood to lose weight!!?!?!!?! Thanx XOXOX

You should never be embarresed to ask a friend for help! They should be more than happy to help you out! To lose some weight, really push yourself to reach your goals! Maybe go on walks with your friends or family, and eat healthier. Only eat 3 meals a day, and not too many snacks, but when eating snacks, eat fruits or vegies! You'll see improvment! Also, I think being 5'2 and weighing 117lbs is not bad at all! It sounds like the exact weight and height! But if you really want to lose some weight, you may do so! I hope my advice has helped you! Good Luck! ^_^

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I just got a Macbook computer and i really want to get a cover for it. Not like a carry case but kind of like a face plate like those old Nokia phone had where you could change the colors. I have looked in the Apple store and online.
Does anybody know where i can buy one of these websites or stores would be awesome.
THANKS!

I'm sure you can find some on ebay or amazon.com. You can usually buy things very cheap, I'd try those websites. As for a store, I'm not positively sure where you could get one, I would think an apple store, but you said you already checked there. I would go to maybe Best Buy's website and search it there! Hope you find one! ^_^

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I am like the only person that doesn't have a boyfriend. And I have never actually had a kiss i mean i just turned 14 but it is so embarrassing. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

Hey! it's not true! I'm 15 and I don't have a boyfriend, nor did I ever kiss a boy. Don't think that your the only one that doesn't have a boyfriend. There are lots of people older than you that don't have a boyfriend. So don't worry about it! Your not alone! ^_^

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my one friend just told me that my best friend has said really mean stuff behind my back - like im not pretty, fat, boys dont like me, i try too hard, etc. i dont know how to bring it up with her because its kind of embarassing and really hurts my feelings because she's my best friend. this girl who told me said i'm not aloud to tell her but i think i might have to ... i dont want it hurting our friendhsip, she said these things earlier in the year so should i just forget about it or bring it up somehow? i dont wanna get in a fight but at the same time i think about it and im like why would she say that even if it was earlier in the year? i dont think she would say something like that now, because i think we were annoyed at each other when she said those things. but idkk. it doesnt sound liek her so maybe she didn't even say it? but this girl has no reason to lie to me. so, helppp! what should i do? thanks.

Well I don't know why your best friend would say stuff about you behind your back! That isn't very nice! I know how you feel, I went through the same thing. I think you should talk to your friend about it. Be very brave and serious when asking her. Also, for the friend that told you this, I think you should tell her first that your going to talk to you best friend about it. Just tell her its really bugging you, and you want to work the problem out. But if what your friend said about you didn't sound like her, then maybe it wasn't, but I would still talk to her about. The best way to bring it up, is to maybe spend the day with her, then find the courage to just ask her. Maybe start out by saying, "Hey, I heard that you were saying some stuff about me a while back, and it made me kind of upset because your my best friend, and I don't want anything to ruin our friendship." But thats only an example. you may say what ever you like. Well I hope I have helped you, and don't worry, I'm sure everything is going to be alright! Good Luck! ^_^

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Hello, I'm fat, I weight 330 pouds roughly and like hm...

I have acne, but I'm pretty sure I can fix that with some facial hygiene and working out(after all, I'm only 18).

I wanted to know if it's still worth living, because I quit scroll and I'm about 4 years late on high school now, I should've been in college.

I deeply wish I could change all of that, but it gradually accumulatyed/piled up, now my life is a bad bad mess and it's going to take a GREAT effort to recover everything.

It sorta kills all my motivation to take it back when I think of how much it will be hard to heal, so I just sit and wait for my death to happen.

Is there anything I can do to decide to change? Because by sheer self esteem is impossible, I find myself worthless and unloved.

hey, don't be too hard on yourself. And please don't think about death! thats one of the worst things you could do! All you need to do is start working out more, and eating healthier! really push yourself to reach your goals! You'll feel so much better! Also, start up at school again! Hit the books and study real hard! Don't give up! And don't think that your worthless or unloved! You are greatly loved by those who really care for you! And you are not worthless! I have so much faith in you! I beleive you can do this! Just believe in yourself, everything will be ok! ^__^

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