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Q: When i was a kid in grade sckool hanging out with girls was pretty cool.Not that i "liked-liked" them or anything, i just liked the company.Now i go to an all guy's school for high school and seeing guys everywhere is a drag.I keep in touch with my old friends but most of them are busy.What can i do to balance my everyday life between hanging out with guys and girls.

you could have a party meet some guy @ your school who has a couple of girl friends and have a party and/or you can call your girl friends and have them meet you somwhere and hangout or you can go to their house @ see whats new and what r they up to. like after school you can go to their house and hangout, chill , relax

Q: i have really thick hair and i want to know how i could maby make it thinner. im looking for natural things that you could find around the house. But anything would help.

I have think hair 2 but I got my hair in layers it does'nt really work but it you want you can go to supercuts or a hair salon and they can thin it out 4 u make it like thin and feel thin I did that.

hope I help

Q: Okay, so I really really like this boy James. But he hates me. For no reason! Omg. Hes so sweet/cute/fine and I really like him. People try to convince me he likes me but I just know he doesn't. I know this sounds dumb and all but I started cutting myself just because I think my life was horrible [in my opinion] and now this to make it worse! I cant stand It but i like him so much. I want to stop cutting SO bad because its really not the right thing! Please help me with suggestions to stop! I really dont wanna ruin my life by a stupid mistake I made.

Sincerely,
Bloody Wrists.

yes, look whatever you do DO NOT cut your self frined can't say names but she's been doing that but ever since she hanged out with me I hav to take everything away next thing you know your gonna try to kill yourself naw don't be like her don't cut yourself for dum reason .OK about your Q THIS might seem dum but when boyz said they hate you , they really like you they say they hate you or your fat ,or W/E ok but he really like you just don't want you to kno like for Ex. this boy said he hate me and does'nt like me I did'nt care but then he told me when we were alone that none of what he said is true he just wanted to get my attention well he end up asking me out. so your friends are right if they say he like you he just don't want to admit it

sorry 4 it being so long hope I help
-lilT

Q: i didnt really know what category this was but i have a little bit of bacne(back acne in case u didnt know) and i have scars from it..how do i get rid of the rest of the bacne and get rid of the scars w/ out spending too much money

well what you can do is go to the doctor and ask for I precription for acne (so it can be free for you, if you have medicate) it might be called BENZOYL PEROXIDE it's an ACNE GEL you apply it at night when you takes a shower and since it's on your back let it dry before you put on your shirt ok

hope I help
-lilT

Q: What do i do when i want to get close to someone i barely know.I'm not totally sure but people say she interested in me.Under ther circumstances i can't get close to her.She's hardly on aim and doesnt have a myspace and she barely picks up the phone.We've only met each other once but that day there was good chemestry between us and I know we could have a great relationship if i just make the right moves.The problem is, i dont know what kind of moves to make...
what do i do???

since you barely know her don't try to act all big s**t if you know what I'm saying ok,just make her laugh by telling her jokes and if you want a hug(like a friendly hug)from her let her kno the real you and try to hug her a lil bit and see if she hug u back ok if she does that means that she like they way you are and feels comforble around you. soon enough you and her are going to be hugging when ever you see each other and well you can take it from there, well

hope I help
-lilT

Q: I am a thirteen year old female and I have tried babysitting, petsitting, house sitting, house work, and pretty much everything. I dont have much money and I would like to start making some (I dont get allowance either) so anyways my point is, is there any jobs that I can get anywhere or do I have to be fourteen? Like can I get a job at a small shop or something?

I was just like you doing all those things for money but I had to buy my own cloths and shoe all my mom did was buy my school supplies, well it is hard being 13 trying to look for a job but where I from there a place called I forgot but my mom takes me there to get a job when I went there I got a job @ the boyz and girlz club. u can write back to me if you want to find out the place but I really depends on where you live if you live and austin I can tell you, just write back and I'll ask my mom

hope I hope :)
-lilT

Q: (sorry if it's long =/)
15/f
Okayy so I met this boy like a few months ago. We have only hung out like 3 times(not alone with a group)but we always talk online and stuff. Lately I have really started to like him. The other night he was talking to me and asked if I liked anyone. I said yes, and then he asked who. So I just sucked it up and told him it was him, but I would like to hang out more before anyhting happened. He said he felt the same way and I was really happy. But here's the problem, I am normally really shy and about stuff like that. I have never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. So my question is how do i get this like moving along. I want hang out and stuff but im like nervous but excited. I feel really comfortable around him but we havent hung out alone yet. Please help. Any advice is appreciated.(sp?)

when you hangout with him and your friends ask him if he wants to hangout with you later just you and him, well when you are alone with him just talk about things you usually talk about.He might try to get close to you let him if he stars @ your lips that mean he want to kiss you but since you have'nt kiss anybody just let him make the move.he's probably already done that before right?well my adive is just let him make the move if you have any Q' u can ask me I've been there before ok

hope I help
-lilT

Q: i have a question : this might seem wierd but can a 12 year old boy have six pack abs? thank for you help.

yes, and a younger age then that they can have it when there 10yrs too I can a relative that does he's has no fat or not a lot I kno you'll thinks that impossible but all he does is play ALOT and really does'nt eat but is can happen hope I help###

Q: well im Mexican and i live in a place were Mexicans hang wit Mexicans and everyone else hangs with what ever they are but i not only hang wit Mexicans but with these white and black people and they know im Mexican and they know i got to hang wit my people once in a wile but they sometimes can be real mean to them and its not like my people like just stand there they say stuff back and im always cot between so one group is like yeah tell them if they start stuff we are too so they both say stuff and well i don't know what to do i just want them to be cool cuz well im a girl and i like one of the guys who is Mexican and one of the black guys well i grow up with so he looks at me like a lil sis so its like real hard cause i don't know what to do i mean i try for them to be nice but im just real scared cause the black and white guys well they all have a criminal record so yeah i don't what nothing to happen what do i do

I ko how it is being in between two people or 2 group who hates each other, I've tried to get them to like it each but they alwayz end up talking shit.but I hate getting in the middle I won't choose side b/c they're both close to me I just told them that "I don't want to get in the middle of shit, I hate it" but honestly there nothing you could do about it just try not to get in the middle b/c before u know it somthing can happen to you or your friends.

I still talk to them but since they want to fight each other I don't say nothing about the person I hangout with.

hope I helped

Q: ok so i'm not currently single but he was my 1st love and such but we didn't have sex he's 16 i'm 15 we dated for 2 years and were taking a break but then we were thinking about getting back together but then he met someone a girl from a different school and she's a real slut he had sex with her now they broke up he is calling me again and he is telling me that he wants to be my 1st and alll this other stuff and well i still like him he was my 1st love what else is there but to fall for him and i think he just wants to have sex with someone that hasn't had sex yet that would be me what should i do should i continue talking to him or do you think he's useing me just to get sex idk plz get back to me and help thanks alot

not to make you sad or anything but he might be using you ,to make sure keep on talking to him and if he just talking about having sex then he just using you.BUT if he not talking about sex all the time maybe he reget having sex with the slut and still has feeling and wants to be your 1st. I mean it's a 50%/50% he might using u or has feeling 4 you

Q: im not fat, i just want to work out. i dont wanna get skinnier, maybe 1 or 2 pounds would be good but i just want to be healthy and excercise. im about 75 lbs. and i dont know what kind of exercises i should do, any suggestions?

and u could build up muscles by running like 4 ex. playing basketball your running, strecthing and sweating also having fun @ the same time and building up muscle.
But if you want to exercise try doing csince your not fat and really don't need to lose weight you should probably play a sport that you like it's about the same thing as exercising your just having fun @ the same time runchs and push up

Q: Ok so i'm 14 im 5'2 about 104 pounds. Ok well my problem is that i want my stomach to be flat and look good i mean its pretty much flat now but i have that band under my belly button. How do i fix this problem?

you should probably lay down on a mat or something and use your muscles to pick up your legs and putting them down but don't let them touch the floor just keep on puttin them up and down it may hurt your stomach a lil bit but it will make more muscle and burn the fat off

bio

my name is gracie ,I'm 14 I live in the ATX and
I love to hang out with my friends, chillen doing what evea b/c when I'm not with them it gets BORING but only sometimes.well I'm average and a freshmen what else,um I love to go out side and play sports.