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~Hello all! I'm a 16 yr old girl. My name is Jamie and I'm open for any questions or you can just add me if you wanna talk.~
~I go to Glen Ferris Apostalic Church and I try to be as good as possible. Just because I'm good now doesn't mean I haven't had my downs. So I do know how to talk about tough things.~
~I have 2 sisters and a brother. Luckily I still have both my parents which is rare where I live. My best friend is Jessica and she is a great girl but alittle diffrent. We love her. I have a wonderful boyfriend of 6 months who I am going to be with the rest of my life. No questions asked. Doubt me if you will you are NOT it my shoes.~
~Ask away all of you. I will aswer you the best I know. And if I don't know...I will find out!!!~

~*~Jamie Leigh~*~

advice

hey can you let me kno some good home exercises and good foods to eat for losing weight in about a week?? thanks!!

~Well, just letting you know the max. amount of weight you should lose in one week should not exceed 4 pounds or it will be unhealthy.~
~I know this stuff because my parents are health freaks but I'm not. I do it my own way and it works well.~
~Okay, for the exercises. For your arms while you watch tv or something that doesn't use arms much you could start just grabbing weights or if you don't have them just books or something alittle weighted. Start light(no more than a couple pounds) and do some curls. You can also hold them down to your sides and lift straight up to sholder level and put them back down. Do this as many times as you can until you feel it burning. After you get used to that you can get heavier weights or objects. Also in the arms you can do girl push-ups. I can't do regular ones yet but Im working on it. A girl push -up is like a regular one ut instead of having your whole body off the floor you cross your legs at the knees and have from your knees up off the ground. It is much easier. Now for your hips, butt, thighs, and such. There are many diffrent things to do for them but my number one would be walking. Now to get the effect you want you will want to walk fast. Power walk if you will. Don't push yourself too far but make sure that your heart beat rises and you can feel it. For the first few weeks after walking your legs may feel stiff and hurt alittle but that's just because they aren't used to it. Also for the legs are leg lifts. You lay on your side and you kick up. You don't have to kick far but it is a good strech too. Do it slowly to feel the effects. You then kick forward and back ward but make sure your hand if in front of you to hold your top from moving all over the place.(While laying on your side) That can become a problem. Now a couple for you tummy are crunches. You probably know what they are but just in case. Get in the sit-up position but when you go up you pull your tummy in with the muscle that is slightly above your belly button and don't go up all the way just enough to get your head and sholders up and feel your tummy muscles working. A hard one for that is to lay on your back and hold on to something sturdy reaching directly above the top of your head...not your face. Lift your legs either one at a time or together up as straight as they go. My hamstrings are tight and yours probably are too so I doubt you an but it straight up and not have your knee bent. Don't feel bad, I can't either. Lower your legs as far as you can until it is hard to and then lift them back up straight slowly. You will feel that one fast and probably can't to it much. I have been doing them for weeks and still can't do it more than 10 times. Last thing....If you like to dance and jump around. Turn on some upbeat music and do so. Sooner or later you will get tired and start sweating. That means you are burning calories.~
~Food! The best way to do this is to just watch. Set your mind on it and tell your family to help. Tell them to tell you when you are eating alittle bit much and don't be offended when they say you are. It will happen. You can also count the calories or everything you eat. Make sure you go by the serving size. So if you eat two serviings count the them twice. A healthy diet consists of 1500 calories. You would be surprised how fast that goes. It's hard to do but if you are serious aout it then it will work. Last way, you can take what you usually eat and cut it in half. Get your dinner plate and put what you would usually eat on it. Then cut it in half and put half back. It works well but do NOT go back for more food. Throw away the left overs or just put them away. A good way is to put them directly in the fridge so by the time you get them out to microwave you can catch yourself and put it up.~
~Drinks! This can be a big factor in weight loss. If you drink alot of soda. That will have to stop. I used to and I only do now maybe a glass or two a week. It's hard but it has to happen. Don't drink alot of jucies and stuff if they are full of sugar. It is just like drinking soda. Concetrate on Orange juice, Milk, and most importantly WATER. Water is the best thing to drink. It has NO calories and it keeps you hydrated. I HATE water but I have to drink it. It's something else to deal with. Oh, and get fruits. If you are in between meals and there is a candy bar and a peach sitting next to each other fruit is always the better substitute.~
~Will you try and let me know how things go for you??? I would love to be a support and you could help me too. My AIM is kodysgirl1688 and my e-mail is gauleygurl_322132@hotmail.com please stay in touch. Good luck and if you need anything at all. I'm here!!~

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i rly like my boyfriend but when he asks me to do sumtin gi dont really want to bt i rly rly like him so... idk i think its becuz im shy around him and dont tak much but i want to be able to talk more around him and not be shy anymore.

~What sort of "things" is he asking you to do? Just go out things or like sexual things?~

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fthere is this guy and i really like him but i am going out with his brother and his brother is 17 and im 13 and the guy i like is 14 and i just dont no wan to do please help

~Choose which one you like better. Someone might get hurt but it is better than you being unhappy.~

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i want to loose weight i know i need to and i want a boyfriend and ive never had one!!! ive tryed to do stuff to loose weight and ill be going strong and then ill like lash out and go food crazy!! but i weigh 235 and im only 16 and im 5'6 & 1/4 please help me i want a boyfriend soo bad i have lots of guyfriends but never a boyfriend!

~I am currently on the weight struggle. It is hard and I understand. You don't need a diet and you don't need a machine. Just exercise and walk. Those are the best things. And watch what you eat. If you find yourself eating something not too good just put it down. Have a parent help you with what you are doing. If you mess up and gorge. Don't let it stop you just shake it off and try harder. If you need some advice on good things to eat or exercises let me know. I was 200 and I'm worked down to 182 now. So obviously something I'm doing is right.!!!~

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Well i have been friends with this one guy who wears his mom's thongs, bras, and pantyhose. Everytime i'm talking to him on AOL, he always asks me if i can give him one of my thongs. He also always asks me if i get creeped out by it. I always lie and tell him no even thought it does. I don't want to hurt his feelings but he starts to creep me out because he swears he's not gay. Should i be supiscious...and how do i know if he's lying. I need some advice...Thanks

~I think it is cheepy and I wouldn't lie about it if I were you. Some people do those things and you just really have to grin and bare it. But you don't have to lie to them. He might get upset but if it bothers you then you shouldn't lie. He may not be gay. Some guys just like the feeling of womens clothing. From what I know they are usually not very good with the ladies and just get curious. Let me know if you need anything!~

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hey i really need help on this one..ive been with my b/f for 2 years and whenever i tell him to call at a certain time..he doesnt!!!! it gets me all worried that hes cheating on me since he has b4 .. and if say lyk call at 11 ..hell call at around 2 or even later and say he forgot to call or w/e or wasnt thinking bout it..but it also worryz me too cuz i wana kno hez ok and wen he dont call it makez me worry!! i mean, i kno all of his friendz and everything too.. i talked to him about this about a million timez and said everything i can possibly imagine to him about this and he keepz promising me he'll call wen hez supposed to but he doesnt!!

~Hun you have been dating this guy too long to be treated like that. If he was my man I would tell him what I think and if he does it again tell him you are going to end it. No man is worth that sort of abuse. Then actually end it if you have to. If he really loves you he will do a turn around and come back and treat you right. My boyfriend had his head in his butt for awhile and I told him how it was he turned around and is doing good now. You just have to share your feelings. If it doesn't work then he doesn't love you and obviously isn't worth it.~

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Ok, i really ReAlLy like this boy named Naz. This whole year, i worked hard at getting to know him, and it finally worked! So now i'm really really good friends wit him, and i tell him everything, like he tells me. My parents dont really care about me liking him, as long as i dont do anything. But then one night wen i wuz talkin to Naz, he found out that i was a virgen still, and he said, "i guess whoever u give it up to, u really luv them." Then he asked me if i wud sleep wit him. I sed i dont know. (And i know he's not usin me becuz for one thing, i'm really close wit him, and also becuz he knows i liked him this WhOlE year, so if he wanted to use me, he cud've tried to a long time ago. And i DiD kiss him before.) So anyway, i really want to, becuz i luv him. And i KnOw this is luv becuz....well i jus know. Everyone who's been in luv knows. So i want to sleep wit him, but then my brotha Miguelle cums into the picture. He says if i do that, i'm a slut and a hoe and that i shud be ashammed of myself. He made me feel really bad. But it's My lIFe, isnt it? I wanna listen to him cuz he's my brotha, but he jus has no idea how much i luv this dude. He doesnt understand, cuz he's neva been in luv before. But wat shud i do? (sorry its so long! I ReAllY need help on this, pleaz dont delete it! Thanx!)

~Okay. This isn't an easy one but listen. I can't change your mind. I can only influence your choice. I personally don't feel it has been long enough. I think you should probably give it time. Make sure that everything is really really gonna work out because if you give that to him. The only most special thing that you have to yourself then you will regret it. I had to be close to my boyfriend for 3 years before I did and I still think I should have waited. If something happens to your relationship it will tear you up. If you need anymore advice on this jut put it in my colum. I am open to help as much as I can. Please just be careful in the desicion you do make.~

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i liked this one guy for like 2 years or so and i think he likes me but i didn't talk 2 him for like 3 months and then i saw him at the fair and started talkin 2 him again and i think i like him again cuz when i wasn't talkin 2 him i didn't like him nemore. but i talk 2 him online and sometimes i think i am talkin 2 him and it is one of his friends and they tell me not 2 talk 2 him and stuff and tells me he is gay but when i talk 2 him and i know it is him it seems like he likes me. could he like me and what should i do about his friends say that stuff cuz it gets annoyin and sometimes hurts what they say??? HELP !!!!

~Simply ask him. I know that seems WAY out there and probably hard but you have to sooner or later. Ask him to his face. If he doesn't then say okay and ask him if he could tell his friends to butt out. If he does...good. Still...ask him to ask his friends to butt out. If they won't see if he could change the password to his name...or have one just you two know about.~ Ask me anytime!~

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ok i wrote this like b4 but i was wondering..

see i have a bf namd chris.. who i love with everything i can love someone with.. ive been with him for 9 months (i knew him for 3 years prior to that) and im still CRAZY about him. I want to be with him forever. I love him so much. and im 15. i would die for him and theres like 3 other ppl i can say that about. i lost my virginity to him bc i wanted to always remember him no matter where in life we went. i think about marring him and having his kids. (not now of course!) and like when i think of him ever moving away i cry! like it upsets me that much! or like if something bad would ever happen to him like say he dies.. i cry! i mean i hear ppl on here talk about love.. but i kno im in love. and with the things with my mom and how she doesnt want me to be with him cause he is black (im white) well it just makes me want to stay with him more and it makes me fall more in love with him! its like i dont care what ANYONE has to say about me and him.. i love him and i cant help it. i would do anything for him! and for me to be 15 and think like this.. well when i told my cousin about it she thought i was dumb and that i shouldnt be tied down like that. but i tried to tell her i dont want to be with no one else besides him! i want to be with him forever. and dont think im some 15 yr old girl thats talkin outta her a$$ here.. i never said this about no one and probally wont for a long long loooooong time. but im dead serious. is it ok for me to feel this way? i just want ur opinions. its not like gonna change the way i feel for him if u guys say no its not normal. but i just want to hear from you all.

thanks a bunch
Manda

~Thank God! I know how you feel! Everyone thinks I'm crazy but my boyfriend and I know for a 101% fact we will get married and be together forever. I'm only 16 and he is about to be 17 but we just know. We have been together for 6 months but on and off prior to that. We have known eachother for 3 years and have been bestfriends for ever. I love him more than I ever could another person. I would be here all night if I were to try and explain it all. I understand that everyone thinks you are tieing yourself down too. My sister got pregnant when she was sixteen and is now 19 married and has two kids. Everyone thinks I'm going the same way but we are really safe and we know that even if that did happen we wouldn't be tied down. It would just be a happy change of plans. Don't think you are weird. You are totally right. Your mom will think you are wrong to but if you love him as much as you say you could wait a couple years if it was necessary. I almost got that one but I got lucky. You be careful but love while you can doll!!! Good luck!!~

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