Hi.
*Im not the typical girl.
*I have 2 brothers one of which is a twin (ilovehim)
*My hair is brown and curly and half-way down my back.
*I have a lot of passions such as...
*WRITING (i currently have 2 poems published and Im trying to get a book published)
*God, Im a strong christian girl.
*Listening, I would love to be a counseler
*Thats pretty much it.
PEACE
E-mail: kaleighlashley@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Georgia
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
Member Since: December 6, 2008
Answers: 17
Last Update: May 13, 2009
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Okay... so my breasts hurt really really bad normally about a week before I start my period... I should start my period sometime this week and they don't hurt hardly at all..... I had sex a day after i got off my period but we used a condom(didn't break), he did not cum inside me, and we used spermicidal lube.... should i be worried at all???? (link)
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you shouldnt be worried.
you took all the precaustions neccesary.
dont freak out, its all normal.
if you are really THAT worried you could buy a pregnancy test, but i wouldnt worry about it.
hope i helped...
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15/f
sorry this is so long.
i used to SI (self injure) like cutting and burning myself but i had to tell my boyfriend about it. i told him about 5 months ago and we have been together for about 8. after i told him i really tried to stop and i did for a little while. i havent cut (which was what i usually did) in about 4 months but now for some reason the urges i get seem to be uncontrolable. i knew that before i tried to stop i was going to get urges but i havent cut in so long and i figured they would be gone by now and they are not. well i tlod my boyfiend about the urges i still get because he is the only person i cant anything and everything to and he made me promise i would talk to my mum about it but i dont see the point because she cant do anything about it to help me. only my dad can because he has custody of me and he wont, he would just call me crazy and resent me like he did last time. i have seen a couseler before and the guy i saw was really wierd and i hated talking to him, although some of what he said helped me. i wouldnt mind gonig back into counseling with a different person but i cant tell my dad because he doesnt think i need to. and maybe i dont but whatever. i just want the urges to stop so i dont start cutting again. i know the little tricks like snapping a rubber band on my wrist. i tried that but it's not enough. i like the feeling of pain. i know how corny this all sounds.
anything to help is wonderful. thanks (link)
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First of all its not corny its a serious situation.
second, i understand almost exactly what you're going through, it will be my 5th month of not cutting this month. I'm sorry to say the urges never go away, you can try everything in the book but until you settle it in your mind that it is just as satisfying then you wont feel like it is.
about the whole going to a counseler, i think its a good idea, only becuase thats what helped me. telling your parents may not help you alot but they need to be aware of whats going on in your life. you dont have to tell them every little detail, and i dont suggest it, just tell them the basics. you can also go to your local bookstore and look at some books on it,
if you want more advice feel free to talk anytime.
hope i helped a little.
-kaleigh
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Well i really like this guy i told him i liked him he said he didnt like me just only as a friend but i really like him. I always have and i dont think ill stop liking him.
What should i do? (link)
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you'll get over it.
crushes dont last forever.
and if you think you wont, just be there for him as a friend and maybe eventually he will like you.
hope i helped
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You answered this question of mine about cutting recvently, this was you reply.
First of all...
thats something im struggling with right now, ive gone to numberous counselers and they've all said the same thing, do something else replace it. Ive tried rinning writing singing dancing almost everything in the book. Ive not replaced it with drinking or smoking only becuase i know that i have a problem now and i dont want another one. Its so hard to stop. last year i stopped for 4 months but then i slipped up and did it agin. Right now I am on a 3 1/2 month streak, and still struggling. All i can tell you is look to the people around you. surround yourself with people that love and care about you. try not to be alone when you have the urge to cut, call your friends cry to them let them be your shoulder to cry on. I know it almost seems impossible and that sometimes its like you just cant stop or live without it, but like when you want to the most think of it like your not only hurting yourself, your hurting the people you love the most. Theres no real cure for cutting, all you can do is TRY and replace it, like i know its getting tough but this is the time that matters the most. try and replace it, find your passion. replace it with fun. thats the only way you will overcome it.
I hope i helped maybe just a little.
if you want to talk ANYTIME, feel free.
Do you have AIM? So I could talk to you.
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yeah...its
kaleighlashley
but i dont get on that much becuase we dont have internet at home, and the only time i am able to acess internet is at the library. but feel free to talk anytime you need to.
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Ok im an 18 year old male. I recently met this 22 year old girl, she is turning 23 in like july or something. Im pretty sure she is into me. My question is, is she too old for me to date? (link)
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when you fall for a girl, it shouldnt matter at all what age she is unless its like a 14 year old with an 80 year old thats just gross.
but love knows no age.
i think if yall are into eachother then go for it.
i wish you guys the best of luck.
hope i helped.
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Could you name some Grunge bands?
Like Nirvana and Smashing Pumpkins.
Thanks.
xx (link)
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um some of my favorites are...
stone temple pilots.
pearl jam.
screaming trees.
soundgarden.
those are just some of my favs.
hope i helped.
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Alright so theres this guy at uni.hes just a normal guy doesnt really stand out from the crowed and kinda quiet.it seems like everytime i look at him hes looking back at me.its as if we have this subconsious conection..i dont no if he feels it but i do.i dont even know him i dont no anything about him but i think now i have a crush on him.today i saw him walk past and my heart started to burn and my stomache tingled..does this mean i liek him?i havent noticed him looking at other girls like he does with me(ok this is actually starting to sound very stupid) but why would he be looking at me would it be because hes interesting in me or just because he likes to look at things?im so confused and dont no what to do should i forget him?i have tried to smile but by the time seem to have the courage to smile he looks away or the smile doesnt come out. i want to talk to him but hes never really alone.The only time he was was at the library but i was with my friends..what should i do?are there ways i can talk to him and not look like a fool?any advice at all would be appreciated!im f/19 and havent had a bf in over a year due to the last one being abusive and cheating on me and threatning me... (link)
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i mean you could give him a chance, i know its kinda hard to trust again, but try talking to him get to know him, be friends and see if you can develop a relationship out of that.
hope i helped!
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Can anyone tell me who originally sings Baby one more time? Thanks (link)
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Brittany Spears.
hope i helped!
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I used to have thick, nice hair. UNTIL I CHOPPED IT OFF ALL THREE YEARS AGO. Biggest mistake I've ever made...I cringe when I think about it.
I got it short and thinned out. now, three years later, my hair is medium length at best and so damaged.
I refuse to cut it. seriously. I won't even trim it. I haven't gotten it cut in over a year.
It's so thin and ugly ugh. it's just past my shoulders. I want it past my boobs.
HOW CAN I MAKE THIS HAPPEN. Over the summer, I'm going to condition it every day and not use any heat tools. but until then, what the hell can I do?
does damaged hair even grow?
ugh. (link)
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Hey
im sorry about your hair.
do what you said your gunna do like condition your hair alot and stuff like that.
But about damaged hair growing? Im so sorry to say but youre gunna have to trim it at least to cut off the damaged ends for the healthy hair to grow. Thats the only way. I'm not saying get alot cut off but just enough for them to cut off the dead ends.
hope i helped.
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(16/f)
About a month ago, my boyfriend and I broke up. We were together for about four months, and it really hurt me when it ended. I was super upset about it, but figured I'd feel better eventually.
Like I said, it's been a month and I'm not feeling any better. I haven't talked to him much (because I want to give him some space), but it's really eating away at me and I feel like I have to do SOMETHING, because I miss my ex boyfriend SO much.
Should I talk to him about it? I was thinking of writing him a note and giving it to him (we have a class together), is that a horrible idea?
Any help is really appreciated =/ (link)
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It's a hard thing to get over someone you like really alot.
If it's already been a month well I dont know about your situation exactly like all the details like why you guys broke up and stuff but,
If I were you, I would talk to him about it, not in a note but in person. Sit him down and tell him how you feel like speak from your heart.
Hopefully he will know you're sincere and mean it.
I hope i helped a little bit.
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So my mom is super pissed off at my dad for some shit that went down on Sunday. I think she's being a bitch, but, that's not my issue. How do I make her stop being mad? It's really annoying and its extremely unnecessary. (link)
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all you can really do is to leave her alone, or help her around the house.
just really try and not be a nuisence.
she'll chill out soon enough.
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A couple weeks ago I posted how my brother was spying on my room from his closet and i didn't know what to do. Since I posted this alot has happened. I tried to close the hole with a poster. A few days later, I walked into my room and it was pitch black (the lights were off and the shades were closed) except for a thin beam of light coming from my brother's clost through the well disguised hole my brother put in the poster. That's when I decided to do something. I wrote him a note telling him I know about the hole and he better stop. I wrote that I don't want to discuss it with him ever and that if he doesn't stop, I'll tell our dad. I put up a different poster, and the little perv did it again. He put a hole in it. I was so pissed, I showed my dad. Sure enough my dad, after hearing my brother's "side of it" (he tried to deny knowing anything but the chair and he tissues sorta gave it away) did what I knew he would do. He made my brother strip naked and then beat the crap out of him with his belt. He didn't just hit his bottom. My brother kept moving around and the belt hit him in his belly and even "down there" a few times. My brother shrieked and screamed so much he lost his voice and he's still hoarse. This all happened on a Friday night so by Monday he was able to go to school, but he was in alot of pain. A teacher saw him walking really funny and asked him what happened and my brother told her the whole story. The school called the police and my dad was arrested for child abuse. He's out of the house. My mom and brother blame me for everything. He told my mom about me having guys over, and now my mom thinks I'm a whore. I don't know what's worse, being spied on or this..
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wow thats alot to happen in just a short amount of time.
forst of all you have to realize this ISNT your fault. you did what you thought was best and just cause some lousy crap cam out of it, its still not your fault.
If your dad did that yes he deserves to be put where he is supposed to be. I know you and your brother apparently dont get along but your still his sister and you know he shouldnt have to go through that.
As for youre mom, sit down with her and just tell her the truth, she might deny it for a while but giver her time and the truth will come out.
all i can say is KNOW that this IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
i hope things start to get better soon, and i hope my advice helped.
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Hey Metal hads out there, i bought the new Lamb of God album from play.com (it came a day early! lol) long story shoooorrrt, the song off the album "Grace" is awesome, shivvers me up everytime i hear the first part turn heavy. was wondering if any of you knew of any other songs like this by other bands? or parts in the song that go soft then blast back through with an excellent riff?
anyways heres a youtube link to the song im listening to, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CR_9hXB3Xm0
thanks you's in advance, ill leave feedback as well seeing as most people dont seem to do it anymore :/ (link)
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well haha
theres always the classic bohemian rhapsody- by queen lol
alot of songs by underaoth
and theres this local band that has good osund is athanitos and anerin.
hope i helped some
ilovemusic
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My boyfriend and i just started having sex about a month ago. And a couple of times i have bleed. I did lose my virginity to him but i didnt bleed the first time. is it normal to bleed after the first time? we do it more than once at a time ...could it be that? please help (link)
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after you have sex, you pop your "cherry"
thats why you've been bleeding.
dont worry, after a couple of times it should stop. but i have heard of girls bleeding till thier 15th time.
it might take time but dont worry its totally normal.
hope i helped.
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Hi, I'm hoping you can help me. & Not tell me to go talk to my school couslar or a professinal, my friends, or even my family. I won't do it.
I use to cut in 7th & 8th grade. (Wrists) I recently (about 5 months ago) cut on my leg because I couldn't take it. I told myself it's the last time I'd do it.
Well, I can't take it any longer. We're reading a book in English 2 where this kid cuts himself because of his life, Wanna know what I did when I had to read it? I cried. & I didn't read the rest.
I don't know who I can talk to without them telling my parents, or me going on 24/7 sucidide watch. I'm not that bad. I wanna talk to my favorite teacher, but I CAN'T.
What can I do to make myself not cut myself? I hate writing, running doesn't take my mind off anything, and I feel like my life is going down the drain. I never use to drink, I'm a huge drinker now, I think about smoking to cure my problems almost daily. & I even skip school now. Please, what do I do before I screw my life up?
I'll rate 5 if you answer asap, please. (link)
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First of all...
thats something im struggling with right now, ive gone to numberous counselers and they've all said the same thing, do something else replace it. Ive tried rinning writing singing dancing almost everything in the book. Ive not replaced it with drinking or smoking only becuase i know that i have a problem now and i dont want another one. Its so hard to stop. last year i stopped for 4 months but then i slipped up and did it agin. Right now I am on a 3 1/2 month streak, and still struggling. All i can tell you is look to the people around you. surround yourself with people that love and care about you. try not to be alone when you have the urge to cut, call your friends cry to them let them be your shoulder to cry on. I know it almost seems impossible and that sometimes its like you just cant stop or live without it, but like when you want to the most think of it like your not only hurting yourself, your hurting the people you love the most. Theres no real cure for cutting, all you can do is TRY and replace it, like i know its getting tough but this is the time that matters the most. try and replace it, find your passion. replace it with fun. thats the only way you will overcome it.
I hope i helped maybe just a little.
if you want to talk ANYTIME, feel free.
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What is more effective, shaving, waxing or using that hair removal cream (such as Nair) on you legs? It'll be my first time so which one will stop hair growth on my legs for the longest? If it helps im a 13 year old female. (link)
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Shaving will make hair grow back faster, and you'll have to shave more often. Dont wax unless you want serious pain, becuase it hurts like crap. Nair is good but it just smells kind of weird but it will give you the smoothest legs with the least amount of "shaving"
hope I helped
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hi. im 14/f and hes 15/m. so theres this guy, lets call him....mike. so mike and me have been flirting a lot and i have like an emotional connection with mike and he likes me but im not like physically attracted to him. i love talking to him but i dont really feel attractied to him. he told me he liked me and i said i liked him too but now i kinda regret it because idk if i do....like i trust him so much and i feel like i could like him but idk i just cant think about being with him...what should i do? (link)
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If you really love him you will look past just the physical part of it. Try and make up for the lack of physical attraction with so much emotional and heart attachments you know? I experianced the same thing with my b/f and idk once i was ready to just take a leap of faith and say oh well that im not really that physically attracted to him i love everything else about him and that makes up for it, he turned out to be the sweetest guy ever, so just give it a chance.
I hope everything works out for you.
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