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15/f
so this guy im dating broke up with me this morning because there was a lot of drama and people presuring him to brake up with me because this other guy whos kinda popular at my school wants to go out with me so he was getting his friends to try to get my boyfriend to brake up with me because he thinks my boyfriend doesnt treat me right, a lot of people tell me that and i really love him but i found out yesterday he cheated on me with my cousin.. i got mad more at my cousin then him and i said we could work it out, if it was any other guy i would have dumped him but i lost my virginity to this guy and he basically lives at my house and i dont want to leave him but i no i should and so he said today lets brake up for a couple days untill the drama stops but hes comming to my house on wednesday to stay for a week.. should i listen to everyone else and not see him anymore? or should i stay with heart and try to work things out? im so confused and this popular guy i was talking about i dont know i always look to see if hes online and i think i might kinda have a little crush on him ah im so confused? help?! (link)
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Dear Confused,
This boy that you lost your virginity to...well he cheated on you which means one thing and one thing only. Your virtue meant nothing to him...all he wanted was the sex. If this other guy says that your ex doesnt treat you right...honey....that boy is right. Obviously hes going to treat you better. Im not saying go with him because he popular, im saying go with him because hes better, and you my dear, you deserve better. Let that other boy go, like i told you...if he cheated on you, especially after you had sex, nothing meant anything to him. I know you may think i sound harsh, but believe me, im probably right. If that guy loves you, then he will wait for you. But as for you...you need to try something new. And to top all off. Im sorry, but if the dramam effected him that much, if it effected him so much as to make him break up with you......then hes a coward and that proves that he doesnt care, because if he did care, the drama wouldnt mean anything.
~justlikekandy14~
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I am new at asking for advice so I am not sure if there is a way to add on to the last post.
I just want to clarify "lost interest" we still have sex but he has lost excitement.
He no longer cares to kiss or anything, he just wants to get to the point. Me being naked does nothing(I don't think I have a bad body) and he doesn't make it romantic anymore. We have discussed this problem, and I am not sure if anything came out of it. I learned that I want it more than him, and he is sick of doing it in the "same old places". I try to make him happy sometimes it is hard.
I talked to him about the best friend thing, and it was not worth posting until I caught him looking at pictures of her. He knows it hurts me, and he doesn't do it intentionally.
He loves me though; sometimes… it is even hard for me to see it. Well it is when things like this happen. Irony is, he is my first and I want him to be my last. I am content. He is curious. (link)
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Dear Content,
For starters,your way of asking advice was marvelous, it got to the point. Now let's get to the problem. You say that hes tired "the same old places". Go somewhere new, no something exciting, try new things. You also said that you want it more than him. Well..to tell you the truth, it means more for women, and we put more emotion into it than men do. Some men dont put all out until their married. If you're having sex just to get the pleasure and you dont kiss.....then why do it? Why do it if it mean nothing at all? Now lets talk about your Best Friend. Talk to her. Let her know whats going on and how you feel. Let her know this way just in case something does happen, you told her and you let her know, and you did the best you could. Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? About how you feel? You should talk to both of them. But talk to them seperately, for if you sit them both down together, things might get awkward, and then drama appears.
~justlikekandy14~
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I got a sunburn, and it hurts really bad. It's on my face, and the only reason i kinda like it is that it hides my acne. I want to get rid of it though before school starts. is there any products on the market that can take away the redness without adding nast sticky residue on my face? (link)
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Dear Sunburn,
There are a numerous amount of face cleansers that dnt leave a residue. i would reccoment one of the four
1.clean n clear
2.nuetrogena
3.noxema
4.biore
~justlikekandy14~
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So I have like no friends right no for some reason. All of my friends made their own little cliques and I'm NOT in them. Whenever I try talking to them, they'll be like hi what's up and won't talk anymore! Ugh. I ask them to hang out but they are always with their new clique. Until school starts, I can really only talk to them online so what can I say online to start a conversation and work my way up to asking them to hang out?? I don't have a lot of memories with them because I'm so quiet and don't talk a lot. I need advice for talking more and how to start a good conversation that won't end right away. Thanks. (link)
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Dear Nontalker,
Ok...you deffinately need to talk. I would reccomend starting off by a simple hi, then asking them whats up. n then ask them if theyre doing anythng fun with thei friends and if they say no then say you know i really miss hanging out with you so it would be great if we could hang out sometime, and it would also be great if i could meet some of your friends.
~justlikekandy14~
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on an instant messenger..if a person replies to a long pargraph with "hah" or "heh"...would you consider that rude? (link)
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No i would not consider that being rood they are probably just tired or bored
~justlikekandy14~
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what does this quote mean?and is it from something? (book, movie, show, etc.)
"hatred is found in the girl next to you who just told you she liked your hair"
thanks iwill rate (link)
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Dear Quote,
Your quote simply means.....that not everyone that pays you a compliment means it. Look at their facial expression, look at their eyes. The quote is bassicaly telling you that not all people who you think are your friends or are nice to you may be who they come out to be. So just keep a close eye on those around you.
~justlikekandy14~
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ok i really really need some songs like this!!!
i need some songs that can make you cry. really sad songs, but no country please.
also i need some songs that you can really think about and have nice lyrics. kinda like iris by the goo goo dolls. maybe a little bit sad some of them. but ones really like iris that are so nice they make you want to cry.
thanks soo much! i will rate i really need this!
xxx (link)
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Dear Songseeker,
I would reccomend
1. "kiss me"- the cranberries
2. "your guardian angel"- red jumpsuit apparatus
~justlikekandy14~
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I'm going to be a high school sophomore in the fall, and I'm planning on taking the PSAT this year.
I know you can take the SAT as many times as you want, but the score is recorded each time.
Is it the same for the PSAT? Is the score recorded? (link)
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Dear PSAT,
Im pretty sure that all scores are recorded, and dont flake off just because you think they are not going to be. Do your best and study and you wont have to worry about it.
~justlikekandy14~
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Well right now I think I stoped gaining wight I'm also not getting taller or anything. I'm a 15 year old girl and weigh around 105lbs and I'm about 5'5" tall...I would really like to gain weight in my "upper area"...If it wasn't for my "butt area", I wouldn't even be at 105lbs...my arms are really skinny and I wanna get a bigger chest..lol..like, my shoulders are really bony and my spine also sticks out(which is kinda gross..lol..) Also, my waist is pretty skinny to...but I don't have a toned stomach..although it looks toned because you can see my ribs..so it looks like abs! I guess this is all because I used to be aneroxic, but now I wanna gain wight, but I don't know how...What could be a healthy way to gain wight??? (link)
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Dear You,
Look.....all of this you wanting to get a bigger bust...well...it comes naturally. You cant make it happen unless you get surgery...and would not reccomend it until your older. All this skinniness with you body, is a consequence on the choice that you made of being anorexic. The best way to gaing weight would be to eat, obviously, you can work out, but to gain the amount of weight that you want i wouldnt reccomend working out alot...maybe once a week just until you reach you weight goal.
~justlikekandy14~
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Hi..im a 14 turning 15 yr. old girl thats has a BIG crush on this older guy but i don't know how to tell him i want to be more than friends with him...i don't know what to do... (link)
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Dear Miss15,
I think you should just plain out tell him how you feel. Try talkin to him and disscuss things. See how things work out between the two of you and go from there.
~justlikekandy14~
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I had downloaded a free 30 day trial of adobe photoshop and it was on the 13th day it said "you have 13 days left in your trial" Ok, so then I go on the next day and it says "Your trial period has ended" and now I need a serial number to use it again! I don't know what to do, becuase it costs like $700 and i tried to download it again but it said it would take 4 HOURS! (the 1st time it took 30min.) I NEED adobe photoshop cuz I have a website PLEASE help!!!!! (link)
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Dear you,
I cant really help you with the serial number thing....but i assure you that waiting 4 hours is better than paying "$700" for it. You should just wait for it to downlaod in the time it tells you, or there is no photoshop for you. And i strongly advise that you start saving up money for it if you need that much.
~justlikekandy14~
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I have a friend, lets call him nick.
Well ive been through thick and thin with him.
never had i been attracted to him. i just
always wanted to be best friends.
you know how you cant control who you like?
yeah well, i recently find myself thinking of him
all the time. Doing things that i would hope he
would notice. But i dont want to like him. Why? Becuase i jsut want to have a GOOD guy friend like him. When we hangout, its like were just friends, and i dont get all gushy and stuff when im around. but when were not together i do get all those butterflies. SOOOOO.
do you think i like him?
should i start a relationship with him
even though i dont want to like him,
but i cant help it?
what should i do?
tell him? (link)
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Dear More Than Friends,
Nick sounds like a really great guy. I dnt think that you have reached the level of like yet. But it is possible that it will reach there. You said that you dont get gushy around him, so i would guarantee a strong feeling towards him in that manner. I think that because you two have hung out so often, and are really close, that your just used to having his company so its like..."your alone". If things start to heat up between you two then go for the point girl! But if not....then just keep it on a low key.
~justlikekandy14~
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Where I can find a cute, trendy handbag that is not more than $40 and doesn't look too fall/winter yet because I want to use it for the start of school, but I also want it to last me atleast until winter or even the end of winter. Also not too big and not tooo small. Thanks! (link)
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Dear You,
If you have a burlington coat factory near you....i deffinately reccomend it. they have cute quality handbags that dnt cost alot of money....but last a long time. You could always hit the mall too. There are places with affordable quality handbags....and if you have an anchorblue near you...they have inexpensive good sized bags too. I hope i was of great assistance to you.
~justlikekandy14~
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Well .. lots of lads have been asking me out recenly for some reason and all of them are to good of mates .. but this one lad really really made me blush .. and i told him the same as the other lads that it will ruin friendship and things .. but since then i cant stop thinking of him and i say to my self i dont like him in that way but he wont get out of my head .. do i love him but not realise ?? im really confused .. i have been out with him before but he cheated on me ,, so i new then how much he really loved me ! he has been saying that he does love me like no-one else and that he was sorry for what he did .. im falling for him I THINK i keep saying i dont but i cnt get him out of my head !!!!!! what should i do help me someone please !x (link)
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Dear You,
If you are fallin for him...well then your falling him. If it hasnt been that long since the problem, then give it more time. Be friends with the lads, but as for that guy....well just try. I wouldnt say that your in love with him, but i would say that you miss him terribly, and you happy he wants you back which is why you cant get him out of you head. Either that or you still stuck on the fact that he cheated on you, and you never really go to say "goodbye". you have to decide. No one can really tell you what would be right or wrong. Its up to you. So hey.....as the line goes..."listen to your heart when hes calling for you". If it says no, then dont get involved with him. If it says yes, then go for it.
~justlikekandy14~
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there is this girl and she is an ace mate a really really good one .. but she really annoyes me .. she get jealous quick ,, she is really sneaky and bitchy ! but then she is a really good mate and she makes me laugh and can be really funny and ace !
and i dont no what to do because if i say sumet she just snapps at me and gets angry and starts to say nasty things !
what should i do about her ?? (link)
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dear you,
i think that you should talk to her about it. you obviously think that shes a good person, and we all have our flaws. i advise that you just simply talk to her put down gently and tell her what wrong. she sound like a great girl so work it out.
~justlikekandy14~
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