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What is this hairstyle called? I know it's sidebangs, but how is the end styled? Is it layers, cause I asked my hairdresser to layer my hair and I showed them this picture and everything, but it's not layered :( please help. Thanks

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Ask your hairdresser about razoring and texturing. It gives it that uneven-ness at the ends


how can i tell apart a chinese and korean?



if you have time you can also include a viet, japanese, =]



but yeah chinese and korean .. how? (link)
The most obvious difference between Chinese and Koreans is that generally, Koreans have larger eyes. Chinese basically all have small eyes. Or maybe that's just me...

Japanese people have paler skin and narrower faces.

Viet people are kind of hard to explain =[ Sorry

Mostly, you learn how to tell them apart just from seeing them a lot


Can anyone tell me what shades of eyeshadow, blush, lipgloss/lipstick, mascara, lip liner and eye liner look good on me?

I know how to APPLY makeup, I just do not know what shades look good on me. I am fairskinned, with blond hair and blue eyes. I have full lips, and I wear glasses. My eyes are about average, and I always choose to accentuate my lips, so if using eyeliner would accentuate my eyes as well, then I won't bother with it.

I have searched all over the internet for information on how to properly find your shades, but none of it helped! Thank you soooo much!! (link)
Ok, if you want nice, dramatic lips, do a really subtle brown on your eyes and bright red lipstick (but the nice kind). That way, your lips will be the center of attention, but your eyes still look nice. By brown, I just mean like, a little eyeliner on the bottom (thin line, not at all think), a medium brown on your lid (on fair skin, too dark brown will look strange because it won't blend that well). Put a tiny bit of blush on so you look a glowy and stuff. That's a good "night on the town" kind of look. For a day look, just do the light-medium brown for eyes and a neutral lipgloss. As far as eyeliner goes, a dark brown would be good because it's not too dramatic. But Almay does have that play-up collection for certain eye colors so you might want to look into that. Wearing something the same color as your eyes is good too


Hi. Ok, here is the problem. I want to dress more cute than I have been. I wear t-shirts and jeans, mostly, but I'm getting rid of all my t-shirts soon. I like clothes, I just don't care what is in and what is out. We don't have money for things like abercrombie and fitch, or aeropostle. Usually, my mom goes to thrift stores. I do have some cute shirts. I just don't know how to put outfits together to make them cute. Thanks for answering! (link)
Check out Charlotte Russe, Forever 21, Wet Seal, etc. You can get some good buys there. Even though a lot of the stuff is expensive, sale racks at Macy's can be pretty cheap.

DO NOT GET RID OF ALL YOUR T-SHIRTS!!!!!
T-shirts, casual as they are, can get really dressy-ed up. Like, if you have a plain white t-shirt and you wear a little one-button sleeveless blazer or a vest or something. And, anyway, don't you want something loose and comfortable to wear when you just go to get some groceries?
Besides dressy-ing up a shirt, why don't you try making something out of it, or doing some DIY on it? You can find great and easy things to do on Google and such. Search "DIY shirts". You'll get some good stuff

Main thing to remember is to not overdo it. If you have a patterned top, keep the bottom solid and vice verse. Same thing with dark and light colors (i.e. light colors on top with a dark bottom or v.v.). If you have a really simple outfit, like a neutral color dress or tunic, try wearing a bright chunky belt over it. When you wear turtle necks or something with a high neckline, wear a long boho-style necklace or something. You know, just experiment and try to shake things up. Inbox me if you have any other questions =]


Well Hi, I was wondering if i should go out with my ex-boyfriend again? I broke up with him for a dumb reason but he still likes me and i feel bad. (link)
I don't think so because I almost did that, but then I realized that I really didn't like him. Don't just go out with him again because you "feel bad". Because, believe me, after you go out with him and want to break up again, you'll feel even worse.

Give it some extreme deep thought to whether you think it's the right thing to do


any ways to subtly seduce a guy?
bcs there is a guy i've been talking to and we've gone a few dates only one was solo though
so i want some small ways to drop hints in class or during passing period (link)
I don't know about "seduction", but these might help:
- Always kind of glance over at him all the time. But if he looks at you too, hold his gaze, but just for a second or two. And then go back to how you were before, like nothing happened
- When you're talking, try to touch him. Like, on the hand or lean against him or something
- I can't exactly remember an exact situation when the girl did this, but sometimes, if it feels appropriate, kind of look him up and down. It's really hintful
- Winking helps too. But not too much. Just once in a while
- Smile a lot when you're with him. Confidence is what guys love the most about girls


my mom just told me that my pregnant aunt is in the hospital because she fell on a flight of stairs this morning and had bad stomach pains every since then . mom thinks that she lost the baby . could you loose a baby from falling down a flight of stairs ? and if the baby is dead inside of her , are the doctors at the hospital going to suction the baby out or is it going to be alot of blood when she pees then the tissues and ambilicull cord and everythign just gonna come out when she pees ?

im so concerned about my aunt. please tell me everything you know about a baby dying inside of you!! (link)
Where you pee is different from where a baby comes out so of course you can't pee a baby out. If the baby is already dead inside, most likely it won't miscarriage. It'l probably be a stillborn, meaning it's born dead, but it's still kind of like, "born"


There has been some controversy with myself and one of my friends if there is a C# or not. I have looked it up on the internet but my friend still don't believe me. So if you would send me some of your infomation on it so I can prove to my friends that I'm not the only one that is sure there is a C#. I appreciate it. (link)
Um..I don't know how musically trained your friends are, but there is 100% a C#. I don't have physical proof but go to any piano book and look for something in the key of D. There will be, in the key signeture, an F# and C#. C# is the black key to the right of the white key
Try: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/D_major
It mentions the notes that make up D major


If some girl was forced to give a guy a blowjob from her school, and she has a boyfriend, she obviously thinks he will break up with her but she was forced, does that considered as cheating? (link)
Technically, a forced blowjob is almost equivelant to sexual harrassment. Of course if it was forced, it's not cheating, but the guy might think the girl is lying or something. It just depends on how close the couple is and how much they trust each other


i know that breaking up with someone you love is hard. especially for me.

well let me tell you about my relationship.
his name is josh. hes smart, sweet, and sensitive.
we been together for about 2 months or so. Although its been a very short relationship, i think that its time to say goodbye.

Josh moved to california about a month ago, and he is not coming back to hawaii for another year or so. and there is no way whatsoever that i can go to california due to expence.

the question is, i still like josh, but i dont want to have this kind of relationship. Everyone tells me that the worst way to break up with someone is in email, text, letter, or phone. but how else am i going to breakup with him. There is no way we can see each other, and i am NOT going to wait a year.

so what i am asking you is... How do i do this the nicest way possible??? I cant see him, and i want to break up. but yet, i still love him. So how would i break up with him? tips are welcomed:)
[just to let you know, josh is very sensitive, and i dont wanna hurt him]

i thank you in advance. you have no idea how much you would help me:)
thanks.

sorry this is long.... kristy:) (link)
Ok, given your certain circumstances, I think it's considered ok for you to call him to do it. Also, when you call him, let him know everything you said. About how you still love him, but the distance thing is kind of hard for you and you don't think it'll work good like that


ok well i met this guy a while ago.he is really cute and i really like him he is about to turn 17 and im about to turn 14(3yrs).he had a girlfriend before and then he broke up with her and one day i went to go talk to him and he was like hey how old are you and i told him and he kinda looked upset and said damn i cant mess with you unless i wanna go to jail =[.well then i saw him back with his ex-girlfriend like two weeks later.now when i see him he is always lookin at me and smiles he also comes by me sometimes.i think he thinks me but im not sure.my parents dont seem to mind when i tell them i think cuz they are about two and a half years apart and all my friends think it would be cute and that the age isnt a ig difference.and one day he also called me his snowbunny which if you dont know is a fine,curvy white girl who likes colored guys and im not quite sure if it was kinda a joke or not.i would like to date him cuz he is like the perfect guy for me.anyway how can i tell if he really likes me or not and like what are ways to like get him to notice me more as more then a younger friend? thank you (link)
Ok, if he thinks he'll go to jail for going out with you or even messing with you, he's not well-informed. It's only illegal if he's 18 so maybe you should let him know that. Because I have a friend who couldn't date a guy because he was 18


so most of the guys that i have liked have been preppy.
cute type boys.
but then one guy came up and started flirting.
callin' me "beautiful" and "baby" and all this stuff.
its kind of obvious he likes me.
[not to sound conceded]
and i didnt think he was cute or like him really before, but every sine he called me those things and we flirt or wahtever i have grown to like him.
is this because he likes me?
is this the wrong thing to do?
im prepppp and he is hardcore!
weirdd. (link)
Ok, the fact that you use the excuse that you're prep and he's not is snobby. It's so clique-y. Most of the time, when you find out that someone likes you, obviously, you'll tend to pay more attention to him. Thus, you might grow to like him. If you like him, why on Earth should it matter what kind of person you are or if it's "right"


hey so i recently started going on yaz birth control and i have gained like 10 pounds. i usually stay the same weight so i was shocked to see this change. since i think it is because of the pill, does that mean i cannot loose it? or just have to work harder? do i have to go off the pill if i ever want to get back to how i was? (link)
I'm 14, and I've been taking Yaz for about 4 monthes now. I think if you've been gaining weight, you need to talk to your doctor or whoever prescribed you your medicine about it. When I started on it, that's what they told me to do


I was wondering were I might find vintage shirts. From like the 80's with cartoons of like Popeye the sailor man. For a girl by the ways.

Thanks in advance.
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A lot of times, you can find some at Delia's, if that helps =]




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