I am someone who likes to help people as best as I possibly can. I have a lot of experience with helping people through hard times, and I really think that my goal in life is to reach out to other people with their difficulties and hardships in their lives. I might not be able to help with every little thing possible, but I will do my best! Let me help you, and trust me, I will not give up on my charges.
Website: Ask CHRIS ~and he shall answer~
E-mail: chrisgundel@msn.com
Gender: Male
Location: Long Island
Occupation: high school student
Age: 15
AIM: chrisgundel2
MSN: chrisgundel
Member Since: December 30, 2006
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i never tried this ask a random columnist thing before but oh well. Im 15 years old, female, from a small small town and like every teenager i have issues. sometimes i just feel so alone and i have friends and they are the best and i have family who are great as well but still i cant help but feel alones sometimes, also i cant help but feel like im not doing what im supposed to be doing like somehow im living a different life than what i was supposed to. i just need someone to talk to and maybe someone who can relate you dont need to answer this but u if do thats great too -PeachEffect (link)
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just be yourself and put yourself out into the world a little more. join a club. talk to someone you haven't talked to. there are many roads in the world, and you never know what the smallest flicker might do to turn onto the road that leads to happiness.
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my friend was shot and killed on december 18 and i cant seem to get her out of my head its upseting me horribly what are ways to help (link)
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just give it some time. it takes a while for someone to move on from such a loss. First you grieve, then you mourns, then things happen in your life that result in your life moving on. Just follow your instincts with things, and just keep looking forward in life. It's very hard to let someone so close to you, go so fast. Just give it time, and you will move on.
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I have a crush on this guy that is in my english class. We are total opposites, but i cant help but to like him. I mean, he is popular, and I am just plain normal. I dont know him very well, but i really want to get to know him. Only, I am scared that he is a jerk (most popular kids in my school are). So anyways, any advice on how to make him notice me? (link)
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just be yourself. star up a conversation with him. Build up his confindence in you as a friend, and then keep building that up until you can become more than friends. There is no easy road to getting into a relationship with someone, but there definately is one.
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My sister has been trying so hard to impress everyone lately. She isn't even herself anymore, and she hasn't been for almost 2 years (she's 14). She spends days on myspace, facebook, and aim. She's become a typical fake teenaged girl who says "like" and "hilarious" every other word.
How do I deal with her? (link)
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you don't need to deal with her. You just need to talk to her. Maybe all she needs right now in her life is someone to talk to. You need to seriously talk to her and ask hernwhy she is doing all of this stuff. There has to be someone in her life that is keeping her from being the person that she obviously is inside. She might be suppressing her emotions and just hiding her real self. You must show her that hiding her true self is not the solution to being a better person. No one can change who they are, they are born a certain way, and no way of talking, clothing, make-0up, and friends will ever change that. Help her accept the real person inside of her. because trying to please others never works.
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I am always stuck watching my baby brother. He just turned 11 months [today]. I get so freaking stressed out all of the time because of him. I realize that he is just a baby, but you have no idea on how much its breaking me down. I don't even get to hang out with my friends as much as I used to. He bangs on my laptop when I'm sitting on the couch and he even shut off my laptop by picking at my power button and shutting it off while I was typing a paper that took ONE HOUR TO TYPE. I mean, I realize that he's a baby, but he drives me insane. It's not easy when you're 13 years old and just want to enjoy being a teenager. I constantly have to take on responsibilities of a 20 year old by watching him.
I watch him Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. My mom is a waitress at the local restaurant so I watch my baby brother from 4 PM to 11 PM. That's 7 hours. I mean, my mom gives me money for watching him. But sometimes, it's not even about the money. It's just much emotional turmoil I'm going through. He needs constant attention. The only free time that I get to myself is when he's sleeping. I have to change his diaper 4 times a day. I have to feed him. Its like he's MY baby. We need the money [my mom sometimes works double shifts] for Argentina because we will be going for a month and my parents obviously won't be getting payed. Anyways, it's just like sometimes I feel like ripping my hair out and screaming at the top of my lungs because this is how much Viggo makes me crazy inside. I've tried to breath and not go crazy, but it's hard if you're stuck watching him for 7/8 hours a day. Even when my mom is here, there is always SOME way I have to watch him. (link)
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you need to talk to your parents about how you feel about this. suppressing your emotions is not the way to say that you are sick and tired of this. Abd maybe you just need to fin different ways to entertain your little brother so that he won't give you so much attention. you need to addressthe situation to your parents exactly how much stress you are under and that you need a break. And if that doesn't work, then I think that you need to find a different way to bond with your little brother. He's going to be growing up with you. Raise him up to like you, not think that you hate him because he had to watch you all the time. You are the older sibling here, there is no greater bnond then the bond of siblings. You just need to take that stress and all that anger, and not suppress it, just channel it into bonding with him, even if it means sacrificing an hour or two o your homework. School is im portant, but the relationship between you and your brother is even stronger.
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I want to hang out with my friends more but every time I ask. No one will answer if they want to hang out.
I tried asking people but they say they are busy or something because of school and that we would hang out sometime later. Sometimes we do but usually we don't.
So it's break and I would love to get out... but what do I do?
I've been asking people for 3 days already and nobody will answer me.
Is something wrong with me? I didn't think I need anything wrong..
They said they should start acting more like friends but it hasn't happened.
Should I just give up and spend my days alone..? (link)
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Giving up is never the right decision. You should call them and tell them the problem like a good friend, andif they don't answer, then then just leave a message. there is no sok,ution to the problem if they are the ones that are busy. And for all you know, they could be busy all of the time, and its not your fault. If they are not trully acting like friends, then you must confront them personally, and if that doesn't work, then say to them that if they want to still be friends with you, then they must say something right now. But giving up is not the right solution to this. You must step forward and stand up for yourself in this situation. be the bigger person and confront them.
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one friend that i have mentioned before has been relly gettin on ma last nerves. i was late for skool one day went up behind her and said "boo" the girl turned around and punched me in the face and i was ready to scream and cry but i didn't.All i could do was hold my nose.Then, another day i was in the lunchroom and i tripped on her bookbag and fell on her and she took he hand and dug her nails into my wrist and i started bleeding. i have been in so many arguements wit her and she says stuff behind peoples' backs. it wasn't pretty. please try to answer me right now!!! THANKS!!! and she said she is very nice. HA!! (link)
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well obviously this person is a complete hypocrit. I mean seriously , if they are beating the crap out of you for completely meaningless reasons, then there is no proof is the subject that she is a good friend. A good friend doesn't punch you, and a good fiend doens't dig their nails into your skin. Not even a good person talks about people behind their backs. So what I would do in this situation is confront the person about the situation and say it straight to their face, "What's your damn problem?!". And if things get ugly, don't add on to the trouble because if you get into a fight with this person, the end result only benefits to the other person. Don't go to fight, go to talk and to figure out why this person is so cold hearted.
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I want to get my exhusband something for his birthday, but I don't know what! It could be something funny because he has a good sense of humor... But it also needs to be special. Some people don't care squat about their ex's but I want to let him know I'm glad we're still friends. Here's a little about him.
He loves country music (esp. Toby Keith) and plays guitar. He's great with kids and has a wonderful sense of humor. Um... I don't know what else to say! (link)
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getting something special for your ex will not show that you are still glad to still be friends, only words can do that. Get him a card, a card that shows how much you feel, but doesn't express it all. Then talk to him, and say what you feel. Trust me, it's easier to say in person, then on paper. And especially when trying to buy something that can match your feelings, but that's quite impossible. Your feelings are channeled in your heart, not your brain. Trust me, talk to him, and just get him a nice card.
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Hey guys I'm 15 and my name is Jackie. There is this guy that I simply can NOT get over. I've alould myself to get hurt. Everytime I begin to sorta get over him, he says something sweet or flirty that gets me to fall for him all over. My head knows he doesn't like me, but my heart keeps getting tricked into thinking that he likes me. so anyway. I need some tips for getting over him.
thanks
xoxo (link)
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Honestly, the power to overcome this guy is inside of you. You have to build up the strength inside of you to be able to get over him. Don't make him take over you. You have your own mind and body for a reason. Don't let someone take that over, just to make you feel even worse in the end. Find your inner strength, and you'll be able to overcome him. Fight it, or it will consume you. Embrace the strength to fight back and be able to move on.
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