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Hi everyoneI'm open to any questions or comments. I'm a high school student and may be able to relate to most of you and i encourage everyone to speak their minds and i'll do my best to answer the questions.
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It's kinda annoying about my younger sister.(We have an age gap of seven years) Back when I was her age, our family didnt have that much money. And I only attented a decent school that's close to our rented house.When I was in nursery and kindergarten,I had to use a trycicle to get to school. When my sister was born, we moved to a new house--that we owned. And we earned a lot more money too.This year,my sister started kindergarten. And she's enrolled to a big private chinese school.(we're part chinese)And her classes start in the afternoon!When I was in kindergarten.I had to wake up earlier before the sun does!And now that we can afford a car,my family can just take her and pick her up from school. I just thought about it now. I just wanna stop feeling sorry for myself.I don't think I'm envious cause I'm not the jealous type.I just thought that maybe she has a better childhood than I did. I don't wanna think that way, but how do i stop? please help...
i'm pretty sure, if your family was better off when you were younger, then they would have done the same for you. i think you should feel happy for you sister, since she doesn't have to go through what you did before. the 7 year age gap is very big, so there will be some difficulties. just concentrate on what you have now and foget about the past. good luck.
~***Victoira***~
I found out that someone was looking up porn on my computer. It wasn't me, but how do I get rid of it? If my dad found it he wouldn't care, just make fun of me. Uhh
I'll rate 5's
SEND IT TO THE RECYCLING BIN, CLEAR YOUR COOKIES, HISTORY AND THEN DELETE FROM THE RECYLING BIN. this stuff is serious. i think its good that your dad doesn't mind, but we just want to get rid of the porn. i hope this helps.
Good Luck
~***Victoria***~
i've had a crush on this guy for what feels like forever. he seems perfect for me and he flirts with me. he's really nice and really like him. i wish we could go out but both of us are extremely shy about that and so i don't know what to do. if i don't tell him how i feel i'll feel like i'll never be able to tell him. what can i do?
well if he like you and you like him, you should be the one to ask him out. if no one does the asking to go out or the telling how you feel, then nothing is going to happen! you shud definetly tell him how you feel. if he truly likes you, then you two will end up great together. but we have to remember that he's shy, so you shudn't pressure him either. good luck!
~***Victoria***~
okay i was on this website and this guy got my aim s/n from it and we started talking. he kept askin me so many questions like what do you look like? how old you are? where i go to school at? and if i have a b/f. so i answered everything not honestly cuz i dont no if he is a stalker.lol. then he finally asked if we could meet sometime. my question is should i continue to talk to him because it seems like he wants a relationship which would mean we have to meet. and i do not want to meet with him in real life cause of all those sick people out there. so should i continue to talk to him or what do i do? will rate high. thanks!
hey
my big question to you is how do you know he's 17? in the society today, people will lie and do things which are so wrong. just be careful. i don't think its really safe. i've heard a lot of stories like these and they don't have happy endings. its ok to chat with other people, but you have to be smart. if some stranger asked you where you live, you shudn't answer them. if u really want to, talk to him, but keep a distance from him. if he acts really perverted, then it has to end. its really dangerous. some people are ok to talk to, like friendly chatting. but i think that is a little too much. have you asked him any questions about him? hope this helps and don't do anything you think is wrong.
~***Victoria***~
so my dance is on friday i want to go with this guy and we have gone out like twice this year already but i really want to go with him but i am tired of waiting! so i was wondering, do guys think its creepy if a girl asks them out??
thanks
i'll rate high
my friend had the same problem and she was worried that it'd be weird to ask the guy out. it might have been years and years ago but its 2006! anything can happen. maybe its time for us girls to change to lame rules. i think you should give it a shot. what's more flattering than someone asking you out? plus, somethings have to be done yourself rite? lol. i think maybe he hasn't asked you out was because he's afraid too. guys are human too, so put yourself in his shoes too. good luck and i hope all goes well
~***Victoria***~
13/f
I hate myself. I look at myself in the mirror and just want to fricken cut myself, but I won't cut, thats just how I feel. I hate how I look. People are like your perfect weight, but I feel like I won't ever be pretty unless I have a completely flat stomach and muscular theighs. I just can't seam to accept myself. I've been told I'm pretty and stuff. It's just I see all these other girls with perfect hair and skin and I feel ugly! Then, I see these girls w/ all these hot guys, and it makes me feel like I'll never have that. I'm really sad. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it. I don't wanna talk to my parents. I only have one friend who I would talk to but he just tells me to go see a therapist or get antidepressants. I just can't seam to feel happy. So my question is, has any girls or guys gone through this and tell me tips on how to feel better. thanks..
hi
i know its hard for you, believe me. just last friday, i found out that 2 of my friends cut themselves. doing things to yourself isn't the answer. one of my friends had the same problem as you. i know we all get envious of those we "think" are better than us. but we have to open our eyes and realize that we are all beautiful. all those other people don't matter. and besides what makes them so perfect anywayz? just because they may look like they have everything, they don't. some feel insecure like you. plus, you don't have to have a flat stomach and muscular thighs to be pretty. focus on your good features. no one is ugly. one fav saying that i think is inspiring is "no one can make you feel inferior without you consent" i know that at this age, all we think about is having boyfriends and being popular. but all that isn't important. what is? well being yourself and having fun with your true friends. and how do you know that u'll never have a boyfriend? u never know. i think you should talk to someone, you shouldn't be dealing with this by yourself. if you need more advice, please don't hesitate to ask me.
~***Victoria***~
okay i am overweight a little and i really want to lose my weight over the summer. the thing is i have to do it by having fun otherwise i lose interest and stop. so i decided to lose weight by jumping on a trampeline every day for a good amount of time. my question is, is this a good way to lose weight? also can you lose a lot? and what are some more fun activities like this? thanks wil rate high.
my question is if you've tried any other excercising activities. everyone is different and have different ideas of fun too. i think the key to all the excercising activities is to have a positve attitdude to what you try. i personally enjoy bike riding, yoga, aerobics, swimming and tennis. and these things can be done with friends. i don't think the trampoline is a very good weight loss activity. since the trampoline is bouncy, you don't put a lot of effort into the jumping since its basically sending you up and down and again. it is excercise, but you won't lose a lot of weight. hope you find something that's right for you. lots of luck
~***Victoria***~
Our school is going on an 8th grade field trip to Cedar Point on monday. My friend sally is TERRIFIED of them. She says she will give it a chance but she ahsnt been on one at all in her life, her parents and family have all tried to get her on one and she refuses. I try and try and try, she says she will try to go on one. I don't know what esle to do anymore, ROLLERCOASTERS ROCK!! but i can't seem to get it through her head!! HELP
I think you have to put yourself in Sally's shoes. I personally, have not been on a rollar coaster my whole life. i tried one actually and i felt like i was going to die. You can't pressure her, because she might not be ready. i know it sounds silly, but people have different phobias. i think the best thing to do is to support her descions. i think its better to let her try the rollarcoasters when she's ready. i pretty sure it'll be more fun that way. hope you have fun!
~***Victoria***~
It is pretty much impossible for me to empathize/understand people who believe in God and religion. I am fully against both of them, for a long list of reasons that I don't need to go in to. The deal is, people tell me I'm being sacreligous/a heretic/going to hell, but I can't understand where they're coming from AT ALL. To me evangelists and deeply religous people just seem like pitiful, misguided puppets of a nonexistent power. It tends to screw up my relationships with people.... Any advice?
Hey
I can't say i'm as religious as most people, but i do try to attend church every sunday. its ok to have confusion about the religions. i know we all have our doubts about our religon, like how can it be true? it depends on how you take in the information. let's face it, everything can't be explained. No one can tell you who or what you are. it's completly up to you. just to be yourself.also, everyone has their own religion. but i wanted to know if you have given the religion you are talking about a chance. you never know. as for the relationships with the people, we can't change who we are, we are all diferent with different cultures, religion and beleifs. of course everyone should be more opened minded to different things and experience. its what makes life interesting. i hope this helps.
~***Victoria***~
ok i have a bf but i also like this other guy and my friend new it so she talkes 2 him 2.....and she waz sayin all this shit and was totlally glowing about what she would say if he asked her out my friend came over and was talking to him when i waz buessy(away)she told him i got mad at him for doin that...later on after she left he told me what they said and he waz also talking to her she got pissed ang totally lied about what i said (witch i never said that at all) and now she is compleetly ignoring me because he wont go out with eather of us(i wasnt gonna cheet on my bf)but she is hella pissed and i did appologize but...i dont no what to do plz help me thanxz
-trisha
i think that its ok to have opinions about other people...even though u have a bf. i think your friend did something really wrong. if my friend did that, i would be upset as well. sometimes we have to say things that will hurt others to defend ourselves, even when the things are true, some may not accept it. if you and your friend are really close and have a good relationship, i think you should talk to each other about it. she might be stuborn but you have to talk to her and tell her the truth and how she hurt you by lying and risking your relationship with your boyfriend. its never easy, but it has to be done. good luck
~***Victoria***~
i like my friends boyfriend, and i tend to flirt with him A LOT,but not while my friends around.is it ok to flirt with him even though its my friends boyfriend?it must be pretty obvious i like him, because today a kid in my math class yelled STACEY(me) WANTS TREVORS(the kid i like) NUTS!!
should i stop flirting with him so much because hes my friends boyfriend?or what?
It must be so hard for you. Sometimes flirting us harmless, but it can get out of hand. if you want to go out with him, it can cause problems between you and your friend. but u have to consider this. what's more important? your friend or trevor? also if you know that your friend and her boyfriend love/like each other a lot,i don't think its rite to come between them. if they aren't crazy about each other, maybe you shud talk to him about it too and of course your freind. we can't help our feelings rite? i hope this helps. best of luck
~***Victoria***~
tonights the formal at my school & since your not allowed to being anyone from outside the school my boyfriend can't come. I really didn't want to go since I wouldn't be able to dance with anyone (like grinding) But one of my guy friends says he does it with other girls during dances (and he has a girlfriend) and that the point is to have fun & he thinks it's not cheating. Is grinding with another guy, just as a fun thing not like like you have feelings for the person, considered cheating? thanks.
you have to run it by your boyfriend first. i mean, would you like it if you boyfriend was dancing like that with another girl. if he doesn't mind, then party on. if he feels uncomfortable about it, i wouldn't dance (grinding) with any other guys.also, it depends on what you think about the dancing. you shouldn't do it just because ur friend's doing it. do wat u feel is rite. hope this helps. have fun
~***Victoria***~
ok well ive kissed 2 guys (im 15) but like, they werent like real.. like i didnt even like those guys .. and now whenever like a guy likes me or wants to get with me and like even if i want to too, i get really like nervous and akward, and it just ends up never happening. and its so frustrating because i want like a relationship like some of my friends have, but i just get so hesitant like i dont wanna do something wrong or like im scared to let someone into my life. how can i just let go and go for it?
It's hard to change who you are. You're problem reminds me of a fav saying of mine. "Listen to your heart, but bring your brain with you" i know its hard to begin a new relationship, and its scary. but sometimes you just have to go for it. we all make mistakes sometimes and we learn from them. People walk and out of our lives and we some stay in our hearts forever. but before that can happen, you have to give them a chance. i'm not saying go out with any guy who asks you out. at least know a little about him and make sure you have feelings for him. never let guys or anyone else force you into doing things you don't want to do.
Good Luck
~***Victoria***~
i met a guy 4yrs back he was 2yrs senior 2 me nd ever since i like him.earlier he dnt show much intrest in me but recently he found out my id nd sent me a mail saying that he's been miserable without me .do u thnk he likes me?
i am from india
i think its totally cute that he sent you an e-mail like that. since i don't know him, you have to consider if he's the type of guy who will play jokes or a really sincere guy who was just afraid to express his feelings for you. If so, then he definetly has a thing for you. i wish you the best and i hope all goes well.
Victoria
i am always fine around boys-except if they are my boyfriend. like, if i know i like a guy, and i know that they like me, but we arent together, i am fine and not nervous. but then if we were like a couple... and we were like talking or something, i get so nervous and stuff. how can i help this?
i'll rate 5's for stuff that helps me = )
i think the best thing is to be yourself. of course you are going to be nervous, starting a relationship or being in one isn't easy. it takes time. you should talk about the things that interest you and him. some tips are:
-Chill out with soulful tunes and soothing sweet talk.
-nice smiles
-Surround yourself with people who are like you. You'll be amazed how much more easily good things will come to you.
-Be sexy and spontaneous.
-Retain a little mystery and enigma.
-Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere on a date. Be nice.
good luck
Victoria
I am not huge but I have a little fat around my stomach and thighs, and I have love handles. I never wear tight shirts and I feel weird in swim suits. I really would love to make my love handles smaller and my thighs that is my main goal. I have been working pretty hard but it seems like even though I am eating more healthy and working out more than I ever have, I am just gaining weight! I do situps every day and I play sports every once in awhile but the main reason for my weight gain is that I am taking Seasonal, birth control pill, and it makes you gain weight easily. I am 14 and I have always been so small but recently I gain weight so easily. I eat healthy every once in awhile but I still LOVE my junk food. I try my hardest to cut back and I wish I could still eat the way I do and lose weight. With that said I am going to have to work extra hard and excercise twice as much because of the pill and my not-so-good eating habits. Now that you know about me, what I need help with is how do I lose weight quickly and how do I lose a lot without making myself miserable? Please help me. I keep gaining more and more weight and it makes me so sad! Thanks.
hey
sometimes when you go on diets, they don't always turn out the way you want it. if you have been working out a lot, the gained weight are the muscles.but i think u shud stick to the regular activities. working out and keeping healthy should be you top priorty. before you know it, the extra weight will magically disappear. just have fun. the junk food has to go if you have no self control. junk food is alrite once in a while. encourage less junk food in the household. but always remember you are perfect the way you are.
Good Luck
Victoria
I've been waking up say 5 or 3 in the morning for the past few nights.
I don't even know why, it's so weird.
I usually wake up with my covers kicked off my bed.
I don't remember having a nightmare or dream or anything. I don't know why this is happening?
Any ideas on why it's happening and how to prevent it? 5 stars to anyone who helps!
Well, i think that you have something on your mind. It could be friends,family or school. i always say that you should never go to sleep with a grudge or pain with or from someone. Problems should be resolved ASAP! i know its weird to say this cuz i don't know the story but life is precious. another reason is something you eat. some people get different reactions to what they eat before bed. try changing things a couple of times each night to see the results. good luck.
Victoria