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Occupation: Failing Algebra
Age: 14
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I wasn't sure what category to put this under by recently my girlfriend / best friend and I just lost our virginity to each other. It was amazing. But then the next night, I get a phone call from her brother saying to go the hospital because my girlfriend's just been raped...by her father. I didn't know what to do, so i just froze and went after her father. I beat the crap out of him and broke my hand. I know that wasn't smart but what he did to her was less smart. He's been abusing her since about the age of 4, I was one of the few people who knew this. She didn't want ANYONE telling the police because her father threatened her. And she didn't want to run away and leave her little sister with her father for fear he might hurt her too.
Well anyway, back on topic, her father went to jail and everyone testified against him. So he'll be in there for a LONG time. My problem is, my girlfriend is still in shock over this. We tried to have sex a few weeks later but she was so scared and still thinks about the rape. I'm not frustrated about the no-sex part AT ALL believe me. But what I'm wondering is if there's anything I can do for her to make her get over this. I want her to be happy again. I love her with all my heart and hate seeing her like this.
Any girls who have been raped, you could probably help me most on this. How did you get over it? Thanks SO much! (link)
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First off I'm very sorry to hear this happened. Second, every on heals at a different pace. She may be over it in a few years, but she also may never move on,The best thing you can do for her right now is give her her space- physically, but support her emotionally. Dont ask her any questions about it, that's what a consular is for. But if she comes to you about it, listen to what she says, and be kind. The most important part of this though is the support. Let her know you are there to talk. Tell her you love her all the time. Hope that this helped, Grace
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Is tape only intercourse? I told my boyfriend I didn't want to give him a blowjob. But he stuck his dick in my face and demanded. I resisted so he just hacked off in my face until he came. Is this considered rape? 15/f (link)
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Report this RIGHT NOW. That is considered sexual assault. You do NOT deserve to be treated that way, and it is wrong on a number of for him to have done that. I know it may feel like it would be betrayal to turn him in, but is it really worth the pain of being loyal to someone who Assaulted YOU? Depending on the state you live in that may also be considered rape. No matter what, report it.
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Does anyone here think that a 14-year-old girl and a 17-year-old boy can't be together? And why?
I would like to know because everyone I've asked for advice about my crush, they just had to make a comment about the age difference.
Thank you in advance. (link)
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As long as the two of you are happy together, and you are being safe, then it's cool. But many people don't think that way, so you and this boy are gonna have to get used to some shocked reactions and teasing. Having been in a relationship with a sixteen year old, (I'm fourteen too.) I know how incredibly harsh people can be. Realize that there will probably be gossip, and you might loose a friend or two. If you are alright with that, then by all means, go ahead! Good luck:)
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me and my boyfriend started getting intimate about 2 weeks ago. he has fingered me and ive given him a handjob. i was wondering what the rules were about me shaving down there and all. what should i do? and any more info on this subject would be helpful (fingering, hj, etc). thanks (link)
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There aren't really any set RULES like that sweetie, sorry. Believe me, I wish there were too. Although, a lot of guys like it if you get a bikini wax, or are at least close shaven. Don't be afraid to ask what he prefers! And it sounds like you and your boyfriend are going to be going all the way fairly soon. You need to start seriously thinking about protection. If your parent/guardian isn't alright with birth control, then condoms are the easiest option, but if you are over the age of sixteen the morning after pill can be obtained over the counter. Good luck Hun!
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For the past two days, I've had this extreme longing to tell my boyfriend that I want to have a future with him. I was trying to tell him all night on Friday, but every time we stopped kissing and had a silence, I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Yesterday, we went on a picnic by the bay and went for a walk downtown. We went into a secluded area and kissed, and I knew this was the time to say it. He held me close and I put my mouth close to his ear, and he could tell I was hesitating on something. "You're thinking..." he said. He always knows me so well. I told him I had something to say, but the words were stuck in my throat. "Are you breaking up with me?" he asked. I managed to choke out, "No...it's the complete opposite." He looked up and stood up and hugged me tight and said, "You know we can't do that now." I could feel tears rimming my eyes. I was disappointed in myself. I wanted to tell him how much I love him and how much he makes me so happy and how much I want him in my future, but I couldn't bring myself to say it. I was too anxious. I wanted it to be special, but I was so cowardly and now he knows and my surprise confession is ruined. I feel selfish and stupid. I cried when he dropped me off home. I was just so intent on telling him face to face. It was so much easier in my imagination. Am I right to act like this? Is it okay to feel disappointed and upset that I ruined my own surprise? (link)
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It's perfectly fine to want a future with your boyfriend. If he makes you feel bad about your feelings, he isn't worth it. You aren't selfish or stupid, and he's probably just as nervous as you are.
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I am in an odd situation (to me anyway). I am going to start with a few months ago. I told my best friend that I had feelings for her but she said that she didn't feel the same. So I tried to move on from her and I thought I did.
So then this girl asked me out, she lives too far away for me to meet but we Skype everyday. So I've been going out with her for a month or two now (not counting the time I knew her before she asked me out)and I've recently realized that I still have feelings for my best friend.
I can't understand why I am feeling like this. I should have been over her ages ago. I don't believe that this is fair on my girlfriend. So why am I feeling like this? Should I tell anyone about this? (link)
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Coming from a girls point of view, I wouldn't tell your girlfriend unless something happens between you and your best friend (i.e., you kiss) Telling her now would alarm her, and probably ruin the realationship. But if something DOES happen, or the feelings don't go away in a few months, you should sit her down, tell her, and work things out from there. Weather the decision is to break up or stay together is up to you.
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ok so.. im 14 , girl with light brown hair, light blue eyes, average weight, i wear glasses, people say i have a beautiful smile....i smile alot... i like this guy (14) .we have been friends for 2 years or so now we just see eachother in school. nothing has happened between us. i have started to like him A LOT but the problem is he is a total man whore and loves sluts,he also smokes. i dont really know if he likes me, but i always see him looking at me while we are in class and he is always teasing me in a fun way, my friends say he likes me but i dont know. i dont think he would ever like a girl with glasses..... does he like me too, and if so should i go out with him even though he likes sluts and smokes?
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You are not a slut sweets, but if this guy is a woman eater, you should proceed carefully. But most important.... Don't chase him!!! If you do, he will dangle your ass by a thread until you'll do anything for him. If he likes you enough, he'll come to you.
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