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My name is Leslie..I got to Assumption High School..lOViN mY bAbY dReW!!!I'll update this layder!!
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OKAY I WENT OUT WITH THIS GUY AND WE WENT OUT FOREVER LETS CALL HIM *BOB* BUT BOB CHEATED ON ME A WHOLE LOT AND I DUMPED HIM AND NOW IM GOING OUT WITH THIS OTHER GUY LETS CALL HIM *GEORGE* AND NOW THAT IM WITH GEORGE BOB HATES ME AND WONT TALK TO ME AND I THINK THAT I WANT BOB BACK WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO GO BACK TO BOB OR STAY WITH GEROGE?
Please help me on this one!
Well if george treats you better than bob, stay with george, unless you miss bob a whole lot...tell bob whats goin on...if your willing to take bob back and end your relationship with george, then do it. It might be a mistake, but it's probably a mistake worth making..Good luck!!
my best friend really likes my little brother.Hes only 12 and were 13 so hes not that much younger.but 2 of my other friends went out with him and while they were dating him our friendship wasnt that great.the one when she went out with him we fought horribly.and we used to be best friends.im just worried that she will go out with him and we will start fighting.
wow...I'm in the same situation...i have a twin brother n he goes out with my friend n she tells him all of my secrets and it's startin to piss me off...i honestly dont know what to say about this one but when i figure it out i'll write...sorry :-(
hey...i am goin through this thing wit this guy see we went out last year nd we broke up for reasons but now we are friends nd juss friends but i dunt know how to be friends wit him i mean i am still madly in love wirt him nd i dont kno how to act around him can yu please help me i dunt kno whud to do!!!!
-*-JuSs A fRiEnD-*-
Aw girl i know EXACTLY how you feel It's so awkward bein around him and "frends" doesn't sound like a strong enough word to name what you wanna be with him. Who broke up with who? If you broke him and think you have another chance with him, then tell him. If he's the right guy, he'll come back. If he dumped you, on the other hand, play "hard to get". It's the best idea if you were the one dumped. Then he'll realize what a jerk he was. He may not go back out with you, but atleast now he'll remember to think twice about what he does...and what he doesnt do...Hope my advice helps!
lets see..my boyfriend and i just broke up a couple months ago from a 2 year realationship and now he lives in a different state. we still talk a little bit but not like we used to i could tell him nethang and he could do the same..before he left he said that he wouldnt try to find a new g/f because he only wanted me n that he loved me to much to give me up n that he didnt want me to go out with ne1 else either. everywhere i go i find something that reminds me of him i dont go to abercrombie anymore because he always wore "fierce" n so it reminds me of him and other things too.but mi question is should i believe that he doesnt want another g/f or should i try to move on too and let him do the same n see wat happens when he comes back to visit???
confused
okay...what i see is a little case of jealousy. My advice would be to date around because most likely, he's doing the same thing, he just doesn't want to tell you. I think he said that because he doesn't want you to be happy with anybody else because he was so use to making you happy and he's not yet adapted to the fact that there is distance involved now and since he's gone you might come across somebody else, therefor he's TELLING YOU "don't see anybody else and I wont either," even though we all know that isn't true. Guys will be guys. So be a smart girl, look around and see what else is out there...If the feelings for him are still there when he comes to visit, then try to work out a long distance relationship. Good luck!!
Hey.. well me and my friend have been friends for about 8 years now and shes the best thing i have in my life right now! and this year we started high school and its soo different not being with her all the time and we are making new friends but i dont want our friendship to get ruined. we r still really close but not like before : we dont talk or hang out as much and i dont want our friendship to all just go down the drain! i used to be able 2 tell her anything and everything but now things seem weird around us and i dont feel that i can tell her everything like before. Should i tell her how i feel or should i just let the whole thing play out? please help!!
..cUnFuSeD fRiEnD..
Wow i am going through the same thing. High school is really hard on everybody, especially friends who don't go to the same school. It's very hectic and its hard to find time for old frends. Yes I think that if you want the friendship to truly go back to how it was, i would tell her how u feel, definitely. I mean there's a chance of you all becomming the frends you used to be then why not take a shot at it, and if it doesn't work out, try hangin out more on winter vacation or summer vacation. You might have lost a little bit of the friendship, but wouldn't you rather it be losing a little bit of the friendship over losin the whole thing? Good luck!
Hey Leslie....well ok here goes. i like this guy ok lets call him bob. he knows i like him i tell him all the time. well this girl (lets call her mary) used to date him. she moved on but when she found out i was talkin to him...she came crawlin back! and of course he takes her! they arent really datin...neither we're me and him but i mean i think im lovin this kid and shes gettin in the middle! now he will talk to me a lil bit but hes all over her...EVEN IN FRONT OF ME! what do i do? i have confronted him and everything, one time i went to his house and i come home and she found out so she tells him that i never wanted him im usin him and then he wouldnt talk to me for dayyyys! i finally got that worked out and now hes all over her...please help
confused
Wow...EXCUSE ME but this girl seems like a bitch..."Bob" Should really get his head out of "Mary's" ass and quick. See, the good thing about this story is, two can play the game she's playin...Are you and Bob still friends atleast? If so, call him. Tell him how you feel and tell him whats going on. If that doesn't work, then screw him, he doesn't deserve you.And you're probably only a teenager too, so you've got plenty of time to settle with somebody else... I went through the EXACT same thing. And I found somebody else and I will never let this one go. You just need to realize that if he doesn't want you and wants her, then let them be happy together because they'll get theirs in the end...you'll see! Good Luck!
Hey. umm my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months.. almost 9 and i had to move away. we talked every single night and everything was going good, until he said that he didnt want a g/f who lived in a different state. so we broke up but he swore that everything was still the same and he loved me and only me and he wasnt going to try to find another girlfriend because i was the only one he wanted. but then some of my friends from where i used to live told me that he was holding hands with another girl and that he had went to a dance he swore to me he wasnt. if he tells me that none of that happened should i believe him?.. or my friends?
confused..
ok...9 months is a very long time...if he hasn't lied to u in the whole time you all have been together, then i would definitely believe him when he told you he loved you. But you shouldn't believe that he wasn't holdin another girls hand because what should he do since he can't hold yours, you know? He probably DOES love you and doesn' have the heart to tell you that he's found somebody else but he does love you. A long term relationship is hard for anybody, no doubt. And sometimes it's better to move on. But I would jsut ask him about it and tell him to be completely honest, and if it IS true, then you should move on too. There's always gonna be a special place in your heart for him, but surely there's somebody else out there who can fill the rest. Good luck!
leslie,
i heard about your advice column and i really need some help.see, my boyfriend and i were best friends while we were going out and then he found out that he had to move. When we broke up we were still good friends but after awhile he started acting weird like he wouldn't return my calls and stuff like that and then one day he told me that i ruined our friendship and that we would never be able to be friends again. ihave tried to ask him what i did to ruin our friendship but he won't tell me. what should i do because i really love this guy and i miss him. should i keep askinghim what i did? or should i just ignore it?
a friend in depression
Well, it seems to me that it's not you that did something wrong. Maybe that's his way of showing that he needs you ni his life still and he wants to see how long you stick with him until you "ignore it"...Or maybe you did do something, but if you did then he should be a good best friend and stop you from worrying and forget it because people make mistakes every single day whether they mean to or know it or not. If he means that much to you, i would stick with him a little bit longer, but if it starts getting out of hand and he still hasn't budged, i would just drop it because what else is there to do you know? i hope everything works out!! if not, write back and i'll keep giving you advice!!
Leslie
i really like this guy..and i have for over a year now..but nothing seem's to pull us together..i meen he has liked me before but he had a girlfriend..and when he brokeup with her i had a boyfriend and we just never worked out..and we have done stuff but never been more..do you think he is just using me? and now we are planning on doing stuff cause where like friends with benifits you know? but i don't know if i should cause i want more out of him you know? but i don't know what to do..should i just finally try and let him go..or keep working at it? and if i should work at it..what should i do to get him? cause he already know's i like him..
love alway's..
me loving HIM!
Okay...I had this problem too...It just so happened that the guy i liked Wasn't using me...It just wasn't the right time to date. I mean, if you know him enough and can tell that he doesn't mean it when he says he likes you or when he does stuff with you, then yes definitely i would move on. It's just a waste of time to wait for somebody when somebody better is out there looking for you. and since you're young i really wouldnt worry about it and just have fun. That might be what he is doing also. Ask him about it...let him know whats on your mind and if he doesn't feel the same way you feel for him, the best thing to do would be to let it go bc for sure there's somebody out the much greater..everybody is made for somebody. Good luck!!
Leslie
Dear Leslie,
I just saw that you had an advice column and was wondering if you could help me out with this. Me and this girl became friends about a year ago and I knew her boyfriend. Her boyfriend went to the same school as me, but wasn't in my class so we didn't see eachother all too much. Well, about a month ago my friend got extremely mad at me over something ridiculuosly small. She saw her boyfriend and I hugging and made her opinion then and there that it was more than just a "friend-hug," which it wasn't. He told me about something personal in his family and was very upset about it and just needed a little hug. Well, now my friend thinks I like her boyfriend and her boyfriend like me, which is totally not true. I want to tell her the whole story, but she has blocked me from the internet and never returns my calls. She avoids me in every way possible. She was one of my best friends. I miss her alot and I just want her back in my life. Do you have any suggestions??
Signed, a sad friend.
Lucky for you since I went through the same thing not too long ago. Except in my story I actually did do stuff with my friend's boyfrend, only before I knew her, and when she found out, she started ignoring me in the same way your friend is. y friend was very close to me too. I think the most honest answer I could give you would be to tell her boyfriend to explain everything to her and if she still doesn't believe, then she wasn't that good of a friend in the first place. See, friendship is all about love, forgiveness, and trust. If your friend trusted you enough, she would still be talking to you right now. If your friend loved you enough, even if that hug was more than just a friend hug, then your friend should have enough love for you to FORGIVE you. Maybe not right away. Sure it's going to take some time, but...better late than never..right? Stay strong.
Leslie