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Q: 15-f, Sophmore
So best friend 1 is REALLY starting to piss me and best friend 2 off. First off.

Basically, last year best friend 2 was apparently a bitch to bestfriend 1 when we would hang out. I didn't notice.
This year, best friend 1 is driving us insane.
She squeals, shes loud, she says 'fuck' every other word now because she think it makes her look cool.
She says 'I don't care' to EVERYTHING you say to her.
She calls everyone ugly behind their back because she's so damn picky.
Shes obnoxious, she doent listen.
She has hit my rioght in the middle of my face multip[le times after I tell her to STOP every single time. Which results into me smacking the shit out of her.

She insults us. It's either her way or the high way. She keeps bring up the past. She's basically a poser.

If you don't agree with her she'll keep going on and on.

Honestly, she is NOT smart. She doesnt go to class. She yells, if you poke her she SQUEALS so loud.
She's nasty. She gives her parents attitude when they're SO nice.

She claimes she could beat anyone up - shes a sissy.
She lies constantly

I might add more later.

I can see myself getting into a HUGE fight with her from snapping and probably being sued out the ass for breaking her teeth

Me and best friend 2 want to have a serious talk with her about her attitude lately.
But, if we tried to, she would close her walls, walk away, wouldnt listen, and would just be like "Yeah fuck you"

well, she's definitely not someone i'd like to hang with! You should tell her about herself and if she doesn't want to listen, then she's not worth it. If she doesn't want to be a good friend to someone who is trying to be good to her then she's soo not worth your time. Just kick her to the curb. Don't fight though, it doesn't really settle anything, it just makes enemies.

Q: Okay so lately, well ever since I started my
periods I have been getting 2 a month. Both lasting for about, 3 to 4 days each. I'm scared because I read somewhere that they could mean that you can't have children.
Any advice?
Thanks.

You sound just like the way I was! When I first start getting periods it was fairly often.. maybe every two weeks for about 5 months.. My mom told me that this happens because you're adjusting to your period cycle.. that's all it is.. don't worry too much about it.. It'll go away.. mine did.!

Q: 14-f

what are some good party clubs in Atlanta that an 18 year old can get into

..uhmm.. as much as I want to answer that.. You aren't old enough to go to one.. wait your turn.. down grow up too fast cause it's just gonna smack you in the face later..

Q: 14-f

am i a slut??????????
1. i get wasted
2. im no where near being a virgin
3. i have let people take advantage of me
4. i am either going to be a playboy bunny or a stripper somewhere....

do these make me a slut??????????? bacause everyone thinks i amm...and i kind of dont want them to

I'm sorry honey but you make yourself look like a slut.. You're doing everything you shouldn't be.. I have one solution for you & his name is JESUS! Trust me Hun, he is the only one who can help you and never let you down.. Just be smart about these decisions you're making.. because you know they are wrong! Does your mom approve of this? You should never do anything that you wouldn't do in front of your mom because that means you know it's wrong!

Q: 14-f

im 5'6 and 104 pounds... am i fat??????????????

No girl! I'm 16 & I weigh 130 lbs and i'm 5'7! I used to always think I was fat but im athletic.. & I came to realize.. it's just my breast! =)

Q: ummmm.....daimond as u know i was being interrogated yesterday. i was told that i'm too secretive, so i wanted your opinion and if i am how do i stop?

luv yas
~ashley~

Hey Ashley!

Um, no i don't think your being secretive unless there's some stuff about me that you didn't tell me. Did you keep secrets from a good friend or loved one? Well if you kept an important secret from some one that may make you a little secretive. But I'm sure you have a reason for keeping it! Take Care

~Diamond~

Q: hey diamond how r u?
but newayz yea jr. is like in luv wit me how do i get him to leave me alone(he's like 8)

thanx luv ya (NO HOMO)
~ASHLEY~

Hey Ashley,

I'm good. Um, the best way you can make him leave you alone is by ignoring him. Don't say anything to him and eventually he will get over you and hopefully find some one he likes at school or something. Hope it all gos well, Take care!

~Diamond

Q: OK. this is kinda long, BUT I NEED HELP!!! I've had this gf for about two months now and we've had sex and all, but shes kinda 'picky' i guess you could say.
Like:
She dont like me too look at her
She dont want it from behind (just front)
She dont like me to take off her clothes
She dont want me fingering her/eating her out
She dont like being on top.
plus some more....
but im an extrememly slow typer, and this isnt working out for me. lol.

but yeah
i guess my question is,
why is she like that? and how do you get her to like new things? She says she doesnt like to feel uncomfortable, but i wanna know how to tell her to more things with me. I was a virgin until i went out with her, and i wanna try new things.

I dont wanna sound like a jerk, but she was raped not too long ago at a party, and i was wondering...could that be why?

Well because she was raped she might be having flashbacks or is just scared to move on. You can try to make her feel as comfortable as possible and take things slowly and maybe she'll move on with you. Hopes things work out. Take Care!

~Diamond

Q: 14/f
he's 16/m
we've been going out since october 13th..
things have been great
no fights, no drama, nothing
but this past week, i found out he smokes
i've told him before i have zero respect for those who smoke
because my dad died of lung cancer
from smoking
i told him i cared for him too much to see him kill himself like this
and since then
he's been so rude to me
he told me he only smokes when he's at work, on his break
so every time he goes on his break,
he'll text me and say "i'm on break guess what i'm doing?"
and of course i'll say "smoking."
and he aggrivates me on purpose...
i like him so much and i don't want to let him go
he's an amazing boyfriend
but i don't appreciate him being so mean to me
and also, he works with this girl, amanda
she's always saying how much she wants to do him and stuff
and he just texted me a few minutes ago
saying "i have good news"
so i said.. "what?"
and he said "amanda's going to indy with me after i get off!"
(his brother's in the hospital and he's supposed to go see him)

i don't know what to do here
he's never been so mean to me
it's like ever since i found out he smoked,
he's been in a bad mood
please help me
i don't know what to do..

Well if you really like him you can try to talk to him. If you don't appreciate what's going on let him go. I know it's going to be hard but you can try. Especially since he might be cheating on you. I'm not trying to put you down but form girl to girl i think you should try to let him go. But if you don't think you can let him go then sit down one day and reason with him. Tell him about how you were hurt by your father and how you don't want that to happen again. Maybe if he really cares he'll put every word you say into consideration.

Q: 15/f gonna be 16/f :D

ok well im having a birthday in a couple weeks and i dont know what we can do.
Im gonna get some movies i dont know what kind yet...i was thinking scarey
its just gonna be me and 4 other girls
i need fun things to do...please help!

Dear 15?f gonna be 16/f

I love parties and i believe scary movies are a perfect choice. Unless your friends have phobia or nightmares lol! But other than that you should fix up some smoothies or lemonade with some popcorn or a snack of your choice and just improvise. Have Fun!

Q: does anyone know whenever i get my period, i get these horrible cramps where i have to leave school they're so bad. how can i get them to stop? does midol really work? thanks

Dear Period,

I know the feeling when you get cramps because i had to have my grandma pick me up from a field trip thats how bad i had it. The best I can tell you is to take whatever medicine best soothes you, put a heating pad on your stomach, and take a nice long nap. If that doesnt help try drinking tea or taking a hot bath. The key is to be comfortable and warm to get them to go away. Take care!

~Diamond

Q: Like alot of people at my school are saying that I am annoying and that is so not true and I am really upset. So how can I stop being annoying like really or how am I annoying.

Dear annoying,

You don't have to listen to what everyone else says. They can say what ever they want but that does not effect you as a person. If you are curious to know why they say your annoying then ask a good friend or some one you can trust. Take care.

~Diamond

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