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Q: hey...
anyone who's good with computers...
everytime i switch my homepage it just keeps going back to the old one..how do i change this..and also..there is this toolbar on my main desktop and i dont know how to get rid of it. HELP!!
thanks in advance=)

you have a browser hijacker, its Ad-ware (which is part of the Mal-ware catigory) You need a program called "Hijack this" and Lavasoft (USA) does a program called "Adaware" that will help but the first program I mentioned should do the trick.

Q: So.. why do you think teens place more emphasis on their appearance?

Its all really about find out who they are, I used to do the whole short hair and spoked thing, not my hairs shaggy, I wear jeans mainly with holes and white teeshirts... its plane and basic my favorite piece of colthing is my sweatshirt that has holes all over and no longer keeps me warm haha. most people dont like how I look and wouldnt take the time to get6 to know me but the few who do really get along with me and we are fast friends.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..

Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views.

I think your in the right place hun, and I agree with every one.... You should stick with what you feel ok with and wait on sex.

If you want to talk to me about the subject some more IM me at Devoidxandroid

-Brendan

Q: So basicly i just got my heart broken by this guy. But I want to go out and show guys i am worth having and see if some guys are interested.. what can I do to go out and meet new guys or show some of my male friends that they should start getting interested? Do you get what i mean?

Thanks
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Being a guy and just getting out of a relationship I can feel you on this topic. I have to say just go hang out places and dont be shy about talking to people not only will you makje new friends but you will meet guys (I go to the local coffee shop and talk to girls - now theres always a friend there) and even if you get shot down once or twice theres always next time and every thing works out in the end.

-Brendan
AIM: DevoidxAndroid

Q: This is going to seem really ridiculous, and I am sorry for asking such a stupid question. I'm too insecure for my own good sometimes, I think.
I'm meeting my boyfriend for the first time ever in 3 days time and we're picking him up at the airport really early in the morning. I want to look my best for him. I never look really good in the mornings; so I'm just wondering where there's anything I can do the night before to make sure I wake up and look and feel nice and fresh. Is there any creams or exfoliation that i should use for my skin, or anything? Should i get up early? Thanks.

They list this under "Fashion and Styles" but I think this is an issue of how you feel you look. I (Being a guy) can tell you that if he thinks your cute/sexy/beautiful it doesnt matter what time of the day it is beacuse thats how he feels.... alot of girls worry about how they look in the morning but honnestly its not any diffrent than before you go to bed.

-Brendan

Q: Okay, first of all, 18f. Second, some background - there's this guy who had been confusing me, teasing me, making fun of me, and being kind of a (good-natured) asshole to me for about two months. Somewhere along the way, I developed a crush on him...weird, I know. He's different, though. Guys aren't usually able to confuse me like he did. He's intelligent and interesting. That's like, exactly what I need in a guy.
Thing is, he kissed me the other day, and completely gave away the fact that he liked me the night before when we were hanging out...so I didn't exactly push him away.
So I like him, he likes me. That's a big problem for me. I got out of a fairly long term thing in like mid-October, and pretty much decided single was the way to go for me. I've always been kind of a loner and I've felt trapped in relationships before. I didn't like that feeling. I'm almost afraid to end up in anything complicated like a relationship with him 'cause - for one thing - I dont want to lose the friendship if it ends badly. I don't want to feel stuck, or tied down right now, at all. That's totally not what I need.
However, it's a mutual crush. I mean, what better grounds for a relationship?
I just don't know what to do, because I want to be with him but I'm afraid of that trapped feeling, and all that. I don't want to go back on my word to myself (I said I'd stay out of relationships for a long time because I was sick of the complexities and the confusion and drama they always ensue), but if that's the case, why do I want to be with him?
Argh.
My first instinct is to run away from my feelings/from him, but consciously I don't want to do that. AHH. I guess I wanna know what you guys think I should do.
Please lay off the chatspeak/all-caps. Both of those are extremely obnoxious. If I have to read your answer more than once to understand it, you're not getting a five.
Thanks =)

I hate to be the bad guy (Reading every one elses posts.) But I think I should take the time to point out the other side of the issue.

I too have the issue of: "I just don't know what to do, because I want to be with him but I'm afraid of that trapped feeling" and a relationship just makes the feeling worse (I cant say it will for every one or every relationship beacuse I know that I would be ok if I were some one I knew for a long time)

However~

I am a risk take and If you truely believe this will work out (Or you think it will and could tell yourself that you want to work out that bad I think you should go for it.

Theres both sides of the issue..... if you need some one to talk to about it any more you can IM me at Devoidxandroid.... Just tell me your the person who made this post.
-Brendan

Q: i know this sounds really horrible, but please just answer.. does anyone know good ways to break two people up without being involved? like lying to them or anything. it's urgent

Im not going to tell you not to lie beacuse its not my job to baby6sit you but nomatter what you do some one will find out it was you in the long run.... no matter how hard you try to cover it up.

Q: Well I have this friend, she's a year younger (7th grade) and we're like best friends. Well I told her who I liked the other day and she said she 'likes' him to. we both like another person ( her other is different than mine) but I don't think she really does. We agreed not to let this come 'between us', but then the next morning, she asks him out he didn't answer her yet, but I'm really upset because I reaally like him.
what should i do besides talking to her because i already tried that?
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I wouldnt call her a friend if shes willing to do something like that to you but...... If you really feel shes a friend you should let it go beacuse even though she upset you - you shouldnt let a guy get in the way of things.

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Names Brenda, I work as a steel fab. I drive forklifts and operate cranes all day... We all have our hobby's, right? I love the rush of extreem sports and im always down for something new.

My motto is "Work hard, Play harder"