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Help I'm in competitive dance and sadly there is no bathroom or dressing room where us dancers can change I'm really not ok changing in front of other people and worst of all all of my dancer friends are flat and I'm not I'm so embarrassed how do I change infront of other people with confidence or discreetly! I need this answer ASAP! :( (link)
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I suggest you change very quickly or I have actually seen someone at competition bring like this big portable changing room to change in. It was pretty cool looking but I'm not sure what it is called or where you can get it. I would just google it if I were you if you're interested. I'm sorry, I wish I had some more suggestions for you but that is all I can really think of. Best of luck!
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I am 14/f. My best friend ( we will call her Jane) is being abused at home. We have told the counselors about it and i went with her for support. The woman who is abusing her is her dads girlfriend of 6 years who is still married to her ex husband. She is the one who is abusing her. She leaves deep nail marks that draw blood all over Jane's arms and neck> SHe drags her around the house by her hair and throws her around. It has made her head bleed. After we talked to the counselor, Jane was deathly afraid to go home. She was scared that her dad's gf would find out that she told. Long story short, she went home to a house full of enraged adults. Her parents called her a little sh** and carried her off the ground by her hair. She went up to the counselor today and told her and the social worker that everything was perfectly fine, but i knew that it wasn't, so i went and told the counselor everything that Jane had told me after she went home that day. Now she's really mad at me. She says she just wants everything to go away but i know that it wont just up and disappear. How can i help her? i cant just do nothing and watch my friend suffer. (link)
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I know that it is hard to just watch this happen, but you have done all you can do for Jane. You did the right thing by going to the counselors even though it might not seem that way right now. She will come around in time. Right now I think she is just scared and the best thing you can do for her is to let her know you're there and help her get through this. This is a very tough situation you are in right now and i'm sorry that you are stuck in this position. I wish you and Jane the best of luck. Take care.
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20/f last year I was raped by my ex boyfriend, long story short we drank (he led me to believe he was drinking but in actuality I was the drunk one,) when we went to bed I remember waking up to him doing the act. To this day I have not told anyone except a good friend, and my new current boyfriend (of almost 9 months) at the very beginning of our relationship, but I toned town the story a bit. Nobody actually knows everything that happened, and I can't seem to get over it. I have brought it up once to my boyfriend, and he consoled me (as well as wants to kill my ex) but I feel badly about the topic if it is to come up again, I don't want him to think I still think about my ex. Should I be over it by now? It makes me feel dirty and sick to think about it, I could cry.
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Aw sweetie, i'm so sorry that you had to go through something like that. My best advice for you is to get some counseling so that you can move on from this horrible thing that happened to you. That is how you're going to heal and be able to move on with your life through therapy. I have also had to deal with a lot over the past year and I am currently in therapy and I can't tell you how much that has helped me. I wish you the best of luck and remember that life goes on and one day, you will have moved past all this.
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-hi guys ! So I'm all bubbly and excited cause the director at my new dance school is deciding to let me have a trial pre pointe class. It has always been a dream of mine to do pointe and this the first step. I was looking for advice on what extra things I could do to prepare for this test. ! I'm a thick girl, 5 feet tall 125 pounds which is a healthy weight. I've done soft ballet for 6 years. I jog and excercise everyday but I don't think I'll be as flexible as other girls.
Please help me. ! (link)
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I am a ballet dancer and I have been on pointe for 4 years now so i know exactly what you are feeling right now. I highly recommend you do alot of stretching and practicing at home. You should stretch every night before you go to bed to improve your flexibility. You also should work on your feet by doing basic things such as pointing and flexing your foot and doing lots of relevays( sorry that is probably not spelled right) in all the positions. I wish you the best of luck! I promise pointe is a lot of fun!
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Ok so my goal is by the end of june to have my back handspring on the ground. I reccently started tryig it on my trampoline and I can do it absolutly perfectly. Qhenever I do it on the ground though I freakout and have a fear of doing is. How can I overcone this? Help! (link)
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I think you need to just do it. You need to believe in yourself and just make your body do it. You don't want to regret not ever trying to do it later on so you need to stop saying you will later and just do it this very moment. Trust me (i'm a dancer/gymnast) you will be so happy and so proud of yourself after you do it, even if it ends up looking a mess. You will just be proud that you actually tried it. Also I recommend that you have someone else there when you try it just in case. I really hope you get it! Best of luck and I hope I helped.
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Alright, I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for this (and I deserve it)... I pierced my lobes at home using a safety pin.
I used rubbing alcohol to clean the pin as well as my ear lobes. This was my second set of earlobe piercings - the first set was done by a professional. I have been wearing earrings made out of surgical steel.
At first, I had no problems with the piercings. Now, two/three weeks after doing them, one of them hurts very badly when I turn it, and the area around it is very kind of red and hard. The other one doesn't hurt at all but when I took it out to clean it, there was dark green stuff coming out of it.
I know it was stupid of me to pierce them by myself. Lesson learned.
Now what do I do?
Thanks :) (link)
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Well, it sounds to me like it is infected. You really need to go see a doctor so it doesn't get any worse. They will probably prescribe you antibiotics and it will heal shortly afterwards. But the longer you wait to see a doctor, the worse it will get so please see one ASAP. Also, I highly recommend you do not pierce anything yourself again because infection is much greater when not done by a professional. Best of luck.
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14/f.
I started high school in August but I actually started about 2 weeks late because I was in Mexico. I live in California. My grandmother was my everything. I loved her so so much. I hadn't seen her in about 8 years. On July 4, my aunt called my mom to tell us that she was in the hospital. Devastated we said we'd go to Mexico if she got worse. July 6 she had surgery because something was going on with her kidney. She was getting better but July 8 everything went downhill. She got super bad. The next day my mom and I drove to Mexico. I had asked questions about this because I can't handle stuff like this. Long drives, and the fear of being too late and my grandmother passing away. I've never physically lost anyone like this. About 2 months before all this, my boyfriend of 9 months dumped me for a girl he knew I hated. From there I stayed up miserable. He was my first love. The first guy I did EVERYTHING with. I was so heart broken that I began to self harm again. I use to because I got bullied and he helped me get through it. But I felt like I had no reason to stop since he was gone. And then to find out months later my grandmother was basically dying was the worst feeling ever. I needed him more then ever & he wasn't there. I stayed in Mexico for a month and that day came... The day I never wanted to face. August 4, 2013.. My grandmother passed away. I didn't get to say goodbye, I feel guilty cause i was with her when she took her last breathe but I couldn't talk, I couldn't cry. I was just feeling so broken. I've never felt that way. I usually didn't like seeing her in the hospital because I couldn't handle it until she came home then I saw her every day and tried to spend as much time with her even though she was basically on her death bed. I've never been to a funeral until hers. I came back August 19 and started school the next day. It was my first day of high school not to mention I already had too much in my head. I had so much stress. September 18 was the day I started talking to my ex. We got back together and lasted 2 weeks. He dumped me and left me for the girl I hated again. I had told him about my grandma and he still had the audacity to hurt me again. November 7, I got a message on Facebook and it was my ex. He was telling me he was miserable and wanted to kill himself because he left me. We hung out On the 9th and it didn't go good, but we worked it out and were together now. We have so many struggles. He had cheated on me & had left me for a girl twice. I know I'm stupid.. I feel like I have too much stuff going on and I don't know how to make it work. I think I'm depressed and bipolar. All these stuff messed me up. How can I get a diagnosis or something? And any advice on how to be able to trust and make it work with my boyfriend? Thank you so much , I apologize for typing a lot ! (link)
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My best advice to you is to get some counseling. I don't think you are bipolar from what you are telling me, but I do think you have some type of depression from everything going on. That is why I highly recommend talking to someone about it because I can tell you from personal experience that therapy really does help. I also think that you and your boyfriend should talk about everything that had happened and try to forget about the past and move on because you can't change the past, but you can learn from it and I hope that you two can work things out because it sounds like you really care about each other. I hope that I helped somewhat. I am so sorry for your loss too. Take care.
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I'm 18/f and I weigh 110lbs and I'm 5'4".
So I know that that's not underweight or dangerous.
The thing is that I lost a lot of weight when I was around 10 and used to be chubby. Since when my relationship with food is horrible. I've been losing and gaining weight every since. I never weigh more than around 113lbs so I don't gain very much. But I think about food the whole day. I think about losing weight all the time. Yet I'm unable to reach my goal. I always fail. I want to weigh around 88lbs and I know that's unhealthy but I just don't think I can ever be happy if I don't lose weight and reach that goal. I always go on pro ana diets and fail. I'm always jealous of anorexic people and I know it's horrible :( And this is just killing me. I hate myself for failing and I hate living because all I can think of is food. My mom doesn't care much because I'm not too skinny.
Do I have an eating disorder? My mom doesn't want me to seek help cause she thinks I don't need it so I'm not. I've asked her so many times if I can talk to someone but she just doesn't care so I just feel silly for actually thinking I have a problem. But I just don't know what to do anymore. Am I really okay and overreacting or do I have a problem? (link)
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In my personal opinion, I don't believe you have an eating disorder right this second, but may be on the verge of one. The thoughts of food and constantly losing weight is the first step in developing an eating disorder. I think you should talk to your mom again about talking with a counselor or therapist so that it doesn't end up going any further. Eating disorders are so deadly and I know that I don't know you, but I care about your well being and your health. I really suggest you talk to someone about this because it can really help. I am actually in counseling right now due to some other things, but I can tell you that it has really helped and i'm much better than I was. So please seek some therapy before you actually start starving yourself.
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