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I'm a 19 year old female. I have a boyfriend and we have sex regularly. I frequently masturbate in order to reach orgasm. (He can't get me off by fingering me or going down on me - but we do continue to try). Recently when I've masturbated I've felt like I peed slightly. Is this possible and if so how can I prevent it. I don't want to do this with my boyfriend - it would be very embarrassing! Thanks! (link)
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It is pretty much impossible to pee during orgasm. When you are orgasming, it is possible to have female ejaculation (squirt). It is said to be extremely intense pleasure, and I would killlll to be able to do it. It could also be that you just needed to pee before you got down. So try peeing before hand, and if you still feel like you might pee, just relax your mussels, and you might end up squirting!! Google female ejaculation - and find out how to reach it, becuase it sounds like you are one of few women who can achieve this easier than others. If your boyfriend watches porn or talks to his buddies at all, he should know what squirting is, and would be more than happy if you could do it. I would suggest telling him that sometimes you feel like you are about to, and if he would like it if you did.
Good luck! hope i helped
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19 f
ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and he went in really deep. im just curious if its normal for a girl to look bloated like the day after (link)
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if you were pregnant, you wouldnt be able to tell the day after. thats ridiculous. i have felt that way before, but its usually becuase of pms or just not eating right, which can make you bloated. if it keeps happening, ask your doc, drink lots of water, and less sugars.
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Me and myboyfriend were making out.. getting into it, whatever.. and you know he was kinna out of breath and everything and i felt like... almost a pulsing in his "region". is that normal? what does it mean?
thank you!
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it is normal, and it means hes getting hard becuase he is turned on. next time you feel it, rub your hand over his pants and feel it.
he will go crazyyyyy.
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Me and my boyfriend have been haveing sex for awhile and he never used a condom because I was getting put on birth control. Therefore I know its not a condom but I just started my birth control and he started saying it burnt when he had to pee after we had sex and now I am having it and the burning last for awhile. What could it be?? (link)
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Hey
You could have a urinary tract infection, but its not contageous - and its not too serious, so long as you get it fixed. Go to your doctor and get checked out to make sure, becuase it could be a few things. Cranberry juice helps fend utc's away.
good luck!
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14/f
i have done everything sexually except for intercourse and well anal but thats just gross.
Now i dont wanna hear all the stuff about oh your too young. because what you say will not effect me.
i have had the same boyfriend for a good amount of time. i havent done anything sexual with anyone but him. now i would like to know if a doctor can tell that ive gotten oral, fingered, givin head, and all that stuff? because if they can im screwed. lol
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why would you be screwed if your doctor knew?
they cant tell unless you tell them.
dont hide what you've done, especially with your doc. If you guy has herpes on his mouth, he can pass it to you through oral. If he doesnt wash his hands, he can give you a bacterial infection from fingering you. there are many things that you need to be aware of when you are just "fooling" around, and many things you shouldnt be afraid to tell your doctor. it comes down to your health. Be honest so that you wont have to suffer later on.
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I know what foreplay is and all, I'm not immature or anything...but I dont understand the concept of it. It's supposed to get a guy going, and have him last longer during sex...but how long do you have to wait after fooling around before having sex? I know guys have that peroid after orgasming that they have to wait until they can again...does that have anything to do with it? And will it help at all if you finger or do oral on the girl as well? (link)
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For the guy, if you want him to last longer during sex, make him cum during foreplay, and then get him to finger you/eat you out(im assuming you are a girl? maybe not, its hard to tell, but you catch my drift) and warm you up so that when do you start having sex when hes ready, you will be closer to orgasm/climax... becuase it generally takes a girl longer to cum than a guy.
As for how much time it takes, just ask him, or see when his dick gets hard again - that will be a good way to tell if he is ready to go again. Either way, after he cums the first time, get him to fool around with you until hes ready again, and you will be more than ready.
Hope this helped!
What TINA DUH said, if you want him to cum really soon after starting to have sex, then dont make him cum during foreplay. But why would you want him to cum faster? Thats ridiculous. You want to make it last longer, so yes, make him cum during foreplay.. (especially if he cums sooner than you both want him to), and then like I said, give him the time he needs and he will last a lot longer.
Experiment with it.
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my name is bre i amd 13. i reallly like this guy. he calls me hott and stufff. and always makes jokes like one time i was laying down and he said, " i am going to be on you in a few seconds" andd he wants to makeout out with me because he told me. and my friend. and me and my friend are going to a movie with him and hid friend saturday and i know something is bound to happen! i dont know how to makeout!!!!!! i am not scared at all i just dont know. i know a million people have asked this question. and i am sorry. Do your instincts really kick in? i sure hope.
love BRii (link)
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Just make sure there isnt much saliva in your mouth. You can swallow with your mouth open - just push your toungue to the back of your mouth. Practice a bit. You dont have to pucker your lips like people do in movies and so on - just hold them together and move in when he does, SLOWLY! And make sure that the tongue isnt too crazy, just a few little in and outs and play with his tongue a but. TRY NOT TO BREATHE THROUGH YOUR MOUTH!! its all about breathing through your nose. you dont want to breathe into his mouth!! Again, Breathing through your nose with your mouth open, just stick your tongue at the back of your throat... although im sure you have breathed through your nose before. ahahhaha
and.. since you guys are only 13.. he will probably not really know what hes doing either. so follow these tips and you will be better than him!!!
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Ok. I'm really confused. I've a couple of questions about fingering:
1. How deep do you have to go 'in there' to pop the cherry?
2. Does it pop after finger is insterted for 2cm only?
3. If it does pop, does the blood look like period blood or different (like blekh skin leftovers or something)?
My period finished yesterday. I was fingered today and found blood on my panties afterwards. Is it 'leftovers' from my period or was my cherry popped? And again, it wasn't more than 2cm deep but it hurt like !@#$.
Sorry for making this disgusting but I need answers.
Thanks loads in advance.
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It probably was either
A)'left over period'
B) since the fingering hurt so bad, he may have ripped you inside a bit, and it blead.
It's ok - maybe you are just super tight or maybe there wasnt enough lube and too much friction. Go SLOW. Make him do it really slowly and gently. I'm not sure if it was your cherry, its possible, but I dont know how hard he was fingering you. It's also possible that you have already popped it from physical activity like horse back riding, and other things like that.
If it was a cut from him, it will heal naturally. Remember to take it slow next time and try to relax your muscles, I know its hard becuase you might be nervous, but try your best!! It will feel a lot better soon.
Good luck.
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ive never been fingered but my bf is gonna finger me soon i think..and we're close and im ready and everything i just want to know will i bleed, like on his fingers? i use tampons so does that mean th hymen is already stretched out/popped? (link)
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Make sure he only uses one finger to start out. And after a couple times, you might want to use two. But it depends on how comfortable you are with it. As for the bleeding, you'll never know until it happens. He knows that this is your first time (I assume?) and it is possible that you might bleed. Just make sure he goes slow and there is lots of LUBE! (spit, lube, or you may have enough of your own!)
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15/f. Is it possible to be at such an early age?
1. I don't trust ANYONE. Not even my parents. Nobody understands. Nobody WANTS to understand. They don't want it to be their problem. They shrug it off. My parents make up excuses to not have to deal with me, since I'm at the *uncontrolled teen* stage of my life.
2. I cut myself
3. I don't talk to anyone. I'm antisocial, and I seem to hate everyone/everything.
4. I cry for no reason. I'm very sensitive and have gone through a lot of personal pain in my life. (getting raped).
5. My parents's pressure over school is KILLING me
6. I seem to have the need to be PERFECT at all times, and it's driving me CRAZY.
7. I think life is worthless. I think *I'M* worthless. I'm incredibly pessimistic.
8. I want to see a therapist and have had suicidal thoughts.
9. I have a really serious case of OCD.
10. Nobody in school like me. People reject me/ignore me, and never want to talk to me. I have absolutely NO friends. And the people that ARE supposedly my friends, have no trust from me. I believe they're there to just use me and screw me over. I don't consider them anyone towards me.
11. I have no one to talk to. Nobody to spill my feelings onto and have them help me.
There are many more *symptoms*. But I didn't want to make it too long. This is pretty much an outline of what is happening to me. Am I seriously depressed? (link)
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Yes, you are probably depressed. It would almost be unheard of if you were depressed due to these personal experiences. It is O.K. You will go tell your doctor, she will prescribe some medication, and you will feel better. You should see a therapist, or just talk to me whenever you feel badly and I will listen. I want to listen, and I want to help. I'm 19/f and I am optimistic and caring. Life will get better, you just need to start fixing yourself up. You can get the help you need, just see your family doctor and she will help you from there.
message me.
Best of luck.
msn is lesley_27 @ hot...if you have msn.
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14/f. Haha I feel stupid asking this but people say they trim their pubes. How do you do this? How short should you go? And when you shave your bikini line, how do you not get the razer bumps? And any other information about grooming down there would be helpful. (link)
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Make sure you have a new sharp razor, use shaving creme or soap, and shave with the grain. so basically shave the opposite way you shave your legs - downwards, instead of up which is against the grain. also - I see the other responses say to put a lot of lotion on it after - but if you do put lotion on, I would suggest that it be a gentle lotion and not be scented, becuase it can sometimes irritate the pores and cause ingrown hairs and so on.
After the first few times you shave, it should be smoother and you should get less bumps afterwards.
Also - dont shave it everyday, that will also make the skin more irritated. ALSO - if you are planning for a day at the beach or something like that, wait a while before you shave either the day before or the day of, becuase the longer the hair, Id say no longer than... 1cm, the smoother the shave will be because the hair will be softer.
Good luck!
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well this is pretty embarressing but whenever i open my legs i get this really nasty smell and i discharge way too much. i don't think its an infection or anything cause its been this way since around i hit puberty which was like 4-5 years ago. is there anything i can do to get rid of the smell? (link)
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you probably have bacterial vaginosis. I had this same thing for a while while i was in high school and was too shy to go to the doctor. it is nothing serious. it went away after a while, but DEFINATELY go see a doc and they will definately help you. its worth it and you will be so much more comfortable.
do not use soap down there, dont use bubble bath, dont use powder or perfume. wear cotton undies and pants that arent really tight.
you probably know all this, but its just a nice reminder!!
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how do i know when my husband is having an orgasm?
how do i know when he's pleased? (link)
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I have had this problem with guys before - sometimes you just cant tell in certain situations. Tell him you want to know when hes cumming/orgasming, and that it really turns you on. He'll give you the heads up. Conversation/dirty talk is probably the best thing.
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this is a little weird, but what percentage of people do you think shave "down there"? would you suggest it (link)
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definately do it. no guy likes a girl with fur.
Shaving will probably give you razor burn for the first few times, but it will get better. And you will feel a lot better if you do - as soon as you are comfortable with the change. try to avoid putting moisturiser on right after shaving too.
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hey..well this is really weired but i have a boyfriend and we dont go out much becase my mom wont let me. so we always talk on the phone every night for hours. and i just want our relationship to get a little deeper so i was wondering what can i say to him to get him horney without him thinking im weired or him knowing that im trying to get him horney because that would be weired, and feel awkward
all answer would be greatly appreciated thanks! (link)
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Tell him you wish you could go over to his house so you could lay really close to him, snuggle if you will. Then keep going on about how you like his arms around you and you wish he would run his fingers all over you. And vice versa.
That should get things started.
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