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re-lo.I am a blunt, cynical, nerdy nymphomaniac, incapable of shutting my mouth (partially due to chromosomal content). On several past occasions, I've managed to convince someone that my IQ was larger than my breast size, but my general intelligence and comprehension capabilities waver somewhere between a waffle cone and a gerbil.
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i think i may be a lesbian or bi! i have a boy friend whom i love but when i read things about girls and boys having sex it just grosses me out. but when i read about two girls i get sooo horny! i love my boyfriend but i just am really sexually attracted to girls.... i can't be... can I?
While it's common at your age to have sexual attractions that seem strange to you, and maybe don't correspond to the orientation you turn out to have, it's also possible that your bisexual or gay feelings have finally surfaced. People don't TURN gay or bisexual; it's something they're born with, and it's not the end of the world if that's what you end up being. Just because you're turned off by the thought of having sex with boys doesn't mean you're automatically gay. When I was a teenager, teenage boys were creepy and unattractive to me, and I only liked girls. As I got older, boys started to mature, and I found myself growing attracted to them, though I still primarily prefer girls. It's not unusual if one is bisexual to have different needs that are met by different genders. I mean, I still date boys, but I'm more sexually attracted to women.
My opinion: If you're attracted regularly to more than one woman, and your feelings for them are decidedly not platonic, you might be at least bisexual. Hey, it's not such a bad thing-it means that you have twice as many people as potential partners. Maybe you should eventually try girls out if your feelings strengthen over time. Just bear in mind that they aren't abnormal.
Oh, and I'm sure if you ever felt the need to tell your boyfriend about it, he'd be very accepting. ;) Most boys are.
Hope this helps.
okay well on friday this kid is supposed to eat me out. this is the first time that its gonna happen to me and like im kinda scared. like i dont have any regrets or anything like i know i want to do it im just scared like idk.. can someone tell me like what to expect and like tips or something.. ill comment high but if its stuff like about stds and to young or sumthing ill rate loww :]
If it's the first time anyone's going down on you, I think the most important thing to remember is to stay relaxed. I know this sounds selfish, but don't obsess about the guy (what he's feeling, whether he likes it, whether you look or smell or taste weird, etc). Guys really aren't thinking about whatever flaws you think you have. They're just happy to be there. This is about getting YOU off, not him (at least, right away)and he obviously feels the same way, or he wouldn't be doing it. So just relax and don't worry. It's common to be nervous, and if he's not a douchebag, he'll take this into account. Laughing or blushing or feeling ridiculously shy aren't weird, and if you get overwhelmed and want to back out, hey, if he's a good guy, he'll respect that. Anyway, laughing takes the tension out of situations.
Don't expect him to be perfect. Guys don't have girl parts, so there's a good chance they're winging it, at least partially. PLEASE don't be afraid to give him (non-judgemental) pointers. It'll lead to a better experience for you and him. He really will appreciate this, and it won't come off bitchy. And if it takes a while, don't get frustrated or embarrassed. You probably know your body pretty well, but he doesn't. Likewise, (I know this sounds weird) your body doesn't know HIM very well. It can take a while to get used to different techniques. Finally, if he doesn't end up getting you off, don't be embarrassed or ashamed. I mean, it'll just lead to more chances for him to do so, which are probably okay with you. ;) Good luck.
In health class yesterday a few people did a group presentation on whether or not emergency contraception should be available over the counter. I know it is in 5 or 6 states, but for the most part it's not in the US. The group concluded that it should be and it seemed like all 100 or so kids in the class agreed with them. I was kind of shocked because I disagreed. Emergency contraception can cause blood clots, heart attacks, all kinds of stuff. There are a few different kinds and I think that a doctor or other healh professional needs to perscribe them especially since they can be so dangerous. Yeah, it would be nice if they were more easily accessible, but wouldn't that just make it so that people relied on them? It's not a very effective form of contraception. If people are comfortable enough to be having sex, they need to be comfortable enough to be able to talk to someone about it if they end up needing emergency contraception for whatever reason. I had to get some once and yes, of course I was embarassed, but it was something that I just had to do. A consequence of what I did. I thought it was pretty darn easy. All I had to do was go into the health center and talk to someone about it. I hadn't even actually had sex, just a little....accident, but they gave me some anyways so I would feel better. I've seen so many people on here that don't know anything about emergency contaception. I think that we should be teaching kids about it and telling them how to get it, not making it so terribly easy to get. People will start abusing it if it's so readily available and I think that they will know even less about it. Another thing I see a lot of on here is people that know nothing about birth control pills yet they are on them! Am I the only one out there that believes that offering it over the counter is a bad idea? What does everyone think?
I somewhat agree. OTC emergency contraception might be misused. However, I'm sure that not only would there be an age limit, it would also be very embarrassing and costly to obtain. Sure, you can go out and have sex like a maniac and then rely on emergency contraception, but if it's, say, $40, (a reasonable price) most people that would abuse it would also realize that birth control or condoms would be cheaper. Taking it also makes you damn sick if you aren't already taking birth control. It might even be MORE embarrassing to buy emergency contraception over the counter, because not only would you have to buy it in front of large quantities of people, but everyone would know that you're irresponsible. Although it would make it easier in case of things like rape, where hours do count. There are all sorts of extenuating circumstances, and the fact is that sometimes you can't get to your doctor or clinic fast enough- they usually require appointments. And if you have to wait a day to get the contraception, your risk of pregnancy increases exponentially. So, bottom line, the people who would misuse it, who would probably be teenage girls, wouldn't have the money or guts to buy it OTC anyway.