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Q: Me and my boyfriend had anal sex and it slipped into my vagina. Can u get an infection from it?

if there was poop on his dick, yes

Q: does size really matter

if they know how to use it then no! [;

Q: I want to have a baby with my wife...
What do I do, I'm a virgin and I'm scared!

if you don't know the answer to this, DEFINITELY DO NOT REPRODUCE! thanks.

Q: Should i masturbate since my boyfriend is at work and im bored?

go for it!
nothing wrong with that, he probably does the same when your not there.

Q: What is the best and fastest way to get pregnant

find a dick?

Q: 15/f

he's 18 in a month, i just turned 15. i went to his house and we were fooling around. he never forced anything on me so when i suddenly yelled no and wait and he did it anyway i...well it hurt...and then i went numb. afterwards i couldn't walk and my voice was shaking and my entire body trembling. i tried getting away but somehow my legs gave out. then he realized what he did and apologized over and over again. i said it was ok....he wants to meet next saturday. after he did it my entire body was trembling and i was breathing so hard i couldn't cry. i was just.....idk. i know it was my fault for not being more assertive. but i didn't expect him to. he knew i didn't want to and apologized afterwards saying he was sorry for forcing me. it was all my fucking fault and i don't know what to do now. we were safe. but he wants to meet this saturday and i know nothing good can come of it and he'll just do it again. it's fucked up, but even though i feel traumatized...i'm tempted to go back. what's wrong with me? i know i don't want it so why is my body telling me to? i'm not a masochist. what's wrong with me? i should be weary of my abuser yet i'm drawn to go back. am i just fucked up? help me please. i don't know what to do.

okay, well i don't think this is a rape situation at all.. i mean you do have the right to say no.. but you really should have said it so HE knew it not quietly. People can't read minds there NOT EDWARD CULLEN. If you felt you weren't ready.. try shutting your legs. I don't think you have the right to call this rape.. it was just not your time to have sex.. you weren't ready and it happened so of course your going to freak out BUT IT WAS NOT RAPE. Try talking with friends or a councilor or something but if you go around saying you were raped.. your only going to get this guy in trouble.. for something he didn't do.. try reversing the situation.. if you want to be with him then you know just tell him you don't think you were ready for sex and you just want to take it slow and just hang out, so you had a bad first experience maybe his penis was to big for you or something maybe that's why you went numb.

just try talking to other people about there first sex expiernce for everyone, like you it goes bad.

goodluckk

Q: 18/f
so my boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months. Our relationship has been really great and I love him so much.... But I seem to have lost interest. I never feel like having sex anymore and find my self feeling jealous of single people. What's wrong with me, or is it just something I'll get over.

sounds like, you still love him but you either need a break, or maybe you should stay single and try and keep him as a close friend.

Q: I want to know is it possible to NOT get symptoms if your pregnant like, if I was pregnant for the first 2-8 weeks I don't get nausea etc.. stuff like that.. Is it possible to not get symptoms, or I need to get at least one symptom.. I'm really anxious... please help! Thanks so much!

everyone is diffrent i got symptoms right away but i know someone who didn't know she was pregnant until 5 months because she never got any symptoms, so you could be.. take a test to find out for sure

Q: I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her?

yes, you should brake up with her staying with someone ONLY Because you think you need to help her isn't a good enough reason before you dump her you should try telling someone in her life that cares about her weather it be her mother, father, grandparent, aunt, uncle anyones.. because someone needs to know about the break up to watch her and get her help if needed since shes suicidal you say you love and care about her that would be the best thing for her, it seems like she has her own problems that she needs to deal with. Someone who is telling you to cut yourself and encourage you to do it again? thats not someone you want in your life. It's a good thing that you stopped, and you realized its not worth it, try to tell her that? or not thats up to you but please don't start again nothing is worth it to do that to yourself. it seems like you have a traumatic past, you don't need this girl making it only worse for you, the person you should be with should make you happy all the time and be encouraging, not trying to make you have sex.. and with your background i think that the person should be respectful of that and wait until your ready.

i hope everything works out for you
gooodluck.

Q: So...i have been fingering myself since i was like 10 & i do continue doing it (im 14 now) but im beggining to get scared because one of my clitoris is like really large, brown and ugly, and i dnt know wierd. It makes me self councious and i dont know what im goin to do when i have sex or when my boyfriend gets into my pants to finger me. I just get really worried/nervous/scared. Do you know what this is? 14/f
~~~Olie (or u can call me Michii) D=

well first of all.. you only or should only have ONE clitoris hahaha.

i think your referring to your labia your vagina lips? i think thats what your talking about here:
http://content.revolutionhealth.com/contentimages/images-image_popup-ans7_vulva.jpg\

a lot of girls are self conscious about there vagina's everyone is but im telling you no guy is even going to notice it, trust me they really arnt as picky as society makes them sound and if some guy ever said anything witch they wont, then get rid of him he isn't worth it if he doesn't think every part of you is good looking.

Q: 16/f

my sister is going to planning parenthood and is saying that he had intercourse and is getting me after pills. how effective are they? and i'm supposed to take it after 14 hours since the sex. will it work?

there about 98% effect, it will say on the box and they work up to 72 hours after the sex

Q: 16/f

so me and my boyfriend had sex, and the condom didn't break.. it just leaked out from the bottom. and it got around my vagina... can i still get pregnant from that? and if i take after pills, would that help stop the pregnancy?

i know i know, i learned my lesson... i regret it.. but me and my boyfriend are awfully scared at the moment, i told my sister and she said if my mom found out then we're moving and i can't see my boyfriend away, and that if i want an abortion, then i'm going to have to pay for it myself for 300 dollars. and that i'm on my own. and he's telling his mom to help me get after pills. but i know one thing's for sure, i'm staying off sex for a long while. please help me!

okay, calm down.
im 17, and ive been through it to although i actually was pregnant lol, anyways your 16 if you know someone who is 17 years old you can give them the money and have them go to a pharmacy and get them the person only has to be 17 and you dont need a prescription, that way his parents wont have to know about it, and the morning after pills are good until 72 hours after the sex and they stop the egg from implanting into the uterus when you take them watch out for side effect when i take them it always gives me a fever. as long as you get the pills within the 72 hours you'll be fine! oh and the pills cost from 30-40 well here in CT anyways.

goodluck!

Q: Hi there
just wondering, what are REALISTICALLY my chances of still having a regular period, and being pregnant. My periods havent been late, and its not just spotting. However i do have wuite light periods since im on the pill. Please help me, i hear all these stories of women being pregnant and not knowing it.

i was one of those women, i had my normal or what i thought was my normal period but it was in fact a diffrent vaginal bleeding that can happen during pregnancy and i thought it was my real period because i had cramps, few weeks later i took a test out of curiosity because i had a few symptoms and i was 2 months pregnant. i would say your chances if you are sexually active and the guy cums inside you i would say your chances are 50/50 at least thats what happened in my case, since your on the pill though that effects your chances quit a bit birth control is about 98% effective or something like that so you should be good, although i know a baby who was conceived while there mother was on the pill so if your worried about it a week after your period take a test just to be on the safe side

Q: hi you just answered my question about being prego. and you said that about your period. and well i just got my "period" today and its heavy or well normal and i have cramps and everything would that still be a potential prego?and when you thought u had your period did it last the regurlar dyas it would with a regular period. ??

when i had mine i had it for 6 days, witch is normal for me thats why i thought it was my period and i did have cramps, and it was about medium flow but again thats normal for me, there is a slight posibilty of being pregnant but chances are your fine, i finally noticed i was by my next period because it only lasted 3 days and i was feeling odd so i took a test and i was pregnant, 2months pregnant in fact so i would say don't worry about it now because if you stress you can make your cycle change if your really worried about it take a test about a week after your period stops this time.

Q: ok so i started gettin my peirod when i was like 12. im 14 now and i have never had sex but my peirods stopped. what does that mean?

don't worry about it, your period can be irregular it happens, if you don't get it in a few months, i would mention something to your mom because something could be wrong, but chances are your just irregular.

Q: I was doing stuff with a guy and he wanted to cum on my boobs..but it didnt exactly go there, it dripped toward my vag area..like on it, but not in it..it was at the top of it and then i got up really slowly and carefully and rushed to wash it off but im really scared i could be pregnant. he said im not but i dont know

i don't think your pregnant, if it wasn't actually inside of you, theres nothing to worry about even if the guy came on your vagina, most of the sperm die when they hit the air so you should be fine, just make sure he has better aim next time lol.

Q: okay this probably sounds really stupid, but i don't exactly understand what dry sex is?

i heard it's great. but then if you don't exactly want to have REAL sex, it's not a good idea, right? because won't the guy just try and have sex with you then?

all dry sex is, is when a guy starts like grinding on you and making humping motions but your actually both clothed.. i wouldn't say its great now but maybe when i was 13 it was great lol.

you can have dry sex and not have real sex, the guy may get some blue balls but.. it happens i dont know how old you are or if you are sexually active if you .. you could give him a hand job or blow job instead of sex so he wont have blue balls. DON'T DO THAT IF YOU ARN'T SEXUALLY ACTIVE, DON'T DO ANYTHING YOUR NOT 100% COMFORTABLE DOING.

goodluck.

Q: ok so say someone has sex and the guy cums in you a little bit. The last time you got your period was on the third of july. until july 10 very normal and what not until the 16 of july you get something thats light brown and sorta red not that heavy and that goes on for a while then its sorta heavy and red and then it ends on july 24. you have sex and havnt gotten your period in the month of agust yet. is that normal? if you are prego what are great sighns of that in the first week or two?

while i agree with some of these people saying your probably not pregnant, although they are WRONG when saying " if you were pregnant nothing bloody would come out" i WAS pregnant and i had what seemed to be a period and it was pretty normal looking and i took a test a few weeks later and found out i was two months pregnant.. so what i had was not actually my period but it fooled me because it looked like it, it was actually what they called vaginal bleeding witch can happen when your pregnant it doesnt happen a lot but, it can happen so just keep that in mind, it happened to me.

Q: what if i never get a peroid?

consider your self lucky

but you will get it, it comes later for some..the lucky ones i should say

Q: I am a minor who is on medicaid
and I live near a clinic that knows I am on medicaid.
I am under 18

I was wondering if, I went to the clinic, would they give me a prescription for an emergency contraceptive, like plan b?
ALSO,
would my parents find out that I paid for it using medicaid?
or would it be confidential.
please, I have 3 days, I had sex last night. it's 3 am now.

just go to like a pharmacy if your 17 you can still buy them.. if your under 17 and you no of someone who is 17 or older witch im sure you do.. ask them to go in and get them.. i wouldn't go to the clinic and get them because its going to show up on your insurance report and your parents will see it.. they dont cost that much they cost about 30 in CT so im guessing anywhere from 30-40 bucks.. goodluck