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I am seventeen, but do not let the age fool you. I feel I am more experienced than the average seventeen year old. If you want the honest truth for your questions, ask me. I will definitely not hold back.

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Ok, i'm a 18/f.

One of my guy friends and I recently excelled to the "friends with benefits" stage in our relationship. In the past week or three we've been inseperable, always flirting and kissing and such. Well tomorrow night he's coming over and we're talking about taking this a step further. I'm convinced we're ready, we have protection, and we've had a 2-hour conversation about it and the possible consequences. We're mentally and physicaly healthy and we both believe we're ready.

That aside, I am a virgin. What should I do to make this experience more enjoyable for the both of us. Will this hurt? Should I take special care of anything? Basically, what should I do to prepare for this?

Any tips or advice will be really appreciated.
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It really will not hurt all that much. You may experience some burning, but it probably won't be that bad. Honestly put the preparation aside. Go with the flow, and whatever is meant to happen will happen. Relax and enjoy it and do not overthink it.

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Iam 17 years old and iam not autistic but there's this boy at school who has the milder form of autisim i don't know what it is called i just know it's a milder form of it.my friends and I get so aggervated with him becouse he constantly repeats things over and over even though i know he can't help it i get so annoyed i start screaming at the poor boy.I even get mad at him if he stares at me for know reason even though i know it's probally becouse of his autisim and he can't help it.I don't talk to him about it I just start screaming at him like iam crazy or something and i know iam being a bitch to him right now and i feel terrible and I cry myself to sleep at night thinking about just all the terrible things i say by screaming at him i just feel so horrible and feel like such a bitch right now I just want to try to change and be nicer to him or at least stop screaming at him sometimes i even think about slapping him,but i just say to myself remember Rachel he can't help it he's autistic and that keeps me from slapping him if i feel this bad i can just imagine how he feels at night.I feel so bad about the way I treat chad that yesterday i really thought about committing suicide so I couldn't treat chad that way anymore so he wouldn't have to have a horrible day at school every single day please help me change.......

What you have to understand is that you have to change yourself.. It's sounds really dumb of you for you to cry about something that you yourself are inflicting upon someone else. How do you think he feels? He is the one that gets screamed at but all you can do is think about yourself. The one thing that you can do to help is get over your selfishness and learn compassion for others. Only then can you even begin to understand what another person is feeling. You are not the only one with problems and the only one that has bad times..Try to put yourself in another person's shoes once in a while, and as for your suicidal thoughts..you can completely change yourself..the power is in yourself..stop causing pain for others ,and slowly yours will go away and your life will be happier. Instead of being ashamed, think of how good it would feel to be proud of the way you treated someone with a disability like that.

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me and my boyfriend waited 9 months before we had sex .. now WHENEVER we hang out we do it like 5 times .. i dont want it to get old .. and i think we do it too much .. he feels differently but im not sure how to talk to him .. please help =[

it's just a new phase..enjoy it..

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So i gave my boyfriend a handjob and i got cum on my fingers but i washed it off and about 40 mins. later i masterbated and i got my period 4 days later and i read that even if you get your period you could still b pregant? do you think i am?

hell no you're not pregnant..don't worry so much.

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okay so theres this boy and ive had a bit of a sexual past with him and im like in love with him ,, however he has a girlfriend.
He lives in my neighborhood,but im moving like in a few days.
He's SO MEAN TO ME!
for example, he sat behind me on the bus
and i said something to another person and the boy i like buts in and said " shut up , he doenst like you"
and then SOMETIMES online hes nice,
i cant get over him and ive tried and tried.
What do i do?!?

im 13/f
btw.

oh young child, you're not in love..and i think you should wait until you know what a sexual past is before you create one..immaturity and sex don't go together

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16-f. ive been with my bf for 3-4ish months and were both really comfortable with each other. last nite for the first time i gave him a handjob and he fingered me. thats the farthest either of us have gone, both with each other and just in general. i feel a little guilty about it. i dont REGRET it, because, yeah we were both a little nervous, i dont know what his reason was, but mine was i just didnt kno how to do what i was doin lol, but also bc it feels like such a sin. i mean my familys not all church-every-sunday-pray-before-every-meal kinda stuff, but we do have a sense of faith.. and believe you should wait till youre a little older and with someone you truly love before havin sex or anything. my bf and i have both talked about this stuff, and i told him i wouldnt have sex till we were together for AT LEAST a year if not longer, and hes totally cool with that and all, and it was a mutual decision that this is the farthest we go for awhile. but i just have this idea in my head that im like going against God because we did that, and its weird. if it wasnt for that idea that like my family would be ashamed of me or that im betrayin my faith [i mean i sin ive lied and i cuss and stuff] but this is bigger ya kno. i dont regret it and im comfortable with him and i feel like we were ready to go a little further so thats not the issue.. but i dont know what to think i mean i almost feel slutty doin that but when i think of other people doin it, it doesnt seem like a big deal to me. i guess im mostly worried about what my family would think/say if they knew.. ahh help? lol

either do it or don't..quit worrying so much. be comfortable with who you are and the decisions you make..maybe i came of age too early..but i think you're acting juvenile. own up to what you do..don't feel guilty

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I am 20 years old an i am engaged to my wounderful boyfriend of 2 years..i recelty found out that this month he has been poking holes the size of tumb tacks in our condums.. i was woundering if there was a chance i am now pregnant...and what should i do..he dose not know that i found out???? i want kids i am just scared that we are not ready

your boyfriend sounds like a real freak! who does that? are you comfortable with that? i think you should ask yourself that question..good lord, the things girls put up with it...it really is unreal.

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Ok...so im not a virgin but everytime ive had sex i told the guy to keep my bra on. My reasoning for that is my boobs look bigger in my bra and i dont want it to be a disappointment when it comes off. I really hate it because my boobs look like they are like an A when my bras off. What should i do about that? And my other problem is you know how people have hair on there stomach? Well since im full italian mine is like dark so it kind of grosses me out what can i do about that cuz that also bothers me?

wow, shave your stomach..and i have the smallest boobs in the universe..guys are pigs..they don't care..:)

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