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I'm Ashley, I'm currently studying nursing in college and hoping to deliver babies one day :) I'm terribly obsessed with my best friend and sister. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few years now and I am busy being 21 and juggling 3 jobs :)

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I am a shy guy. I dont know why I am that way but I lack this confidence to initiate a talk with any girl. Too many questions come to my mind and its gone.

One thing that bothers me is what is the usual or normal duration of an intercourse excluding the time spent on the fore-play.

I am curious because first and the last time I had an intercourse, it lasted merely 1 minute. Is it a normal duration as a first timer or how is it.
What effect does masturbation has or will have on this duration?

What are the possible solutions to enhance the duration of intercourse?
How can I improve my confidence?

Its normal for your first couple times to be quick and its important that your partner knows that and understands that building your stamina together is important.

If you masturbate before, typically you'll go longer. But it isn't always about duration, focus on your partner during foreplay and get them off.

Use thicker condoms, if you aren't using condoms, use them. They will desensitize your penis and make the sensations less intense. Another method is to pull out during sex when you feel your orgasm building and just kiss or fool around without penetration. Try to think of things that turn you off when you get close, its not always effective but you can try it.

Ultimately, experience is the best way to improve duration. Sex is still new and it takes some adjustment for you before it gets a little less exciting!

Good luck!

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Okay so hi =)
I'm 16/f and I need some sex advice as the topic says.
My boyfriend and I lost our virginity to each other (sort of) last month and I want to do it again BUT the right way this time. You see when we tried to have sex before, it didn't go in all the way. It kind of hurt but for the most part it was an uncomfortable feeling. Probably because I'm not used to a penis being in there I assume. My question is how can I make it more comfortable for us next time and more enjoyable? Any real help would be useful.

A lot of foreplay before hand helps make things easier, and use lubricated condoms! Also, make sure you're in a comfortable position, even try being on top because you'll control the speed, and how deep it goes in!

Also, since it was your first time, it was uncomfortable, you get used to it more after a couple of times.

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I cant really get my hands on any KY jelly, so what are some other lubes I can use to give a hand job?

Vaseline and Vegtable oil.

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if i drink a lot for my first time will i be out of it and not know whats going on if someone trys somthing with me?

Its possible... I mean you'll know what's going on but when you drink your inhibitions are lowered so you might be more willing to do something you wouldn't do sober.

Try not to drink a lot, and have a friend watching yoru back the whole night, and make sure they're a dependable friend =]

Be careful and responsible!

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Iam 15 female &een dating my boyfriend for a year and i think it's about time for us to be sexual but i don't want to have actual sex and i want to know of somethings that we can do to each other without having sctual intercourse.

please don't try to talk me out of it.

I don't know if you count oral sex as intercourse but that's always an option.

You could give him a hand job, or he could finger you, or both.

You could have breast sex, TF, tuck, whatever you want to call it. All you do is basically push your boobs together and he sticks his penis between so its kind of like sex I suppose.

You could have dry sex too. This is wear you can keep your underwear on and he doesn't (or does, depends on your preference) and he basically just dry humps you without going in.

Good luck =]

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Okay so me and my boyfriend had sex over 2 weeks ago. We used a condom and everything and so i didn't really think anything of it. The condom didn't split as far as i know but now i'm really worried.

I'm probably over reacting but my period is now 3days late (i know that probably sounds silly) But i'm really worried and paranoid about it. The last 4 months have been precise and it's a bit strange that i'm not 'on' yet.

So yea.. ANY helpful advice really would be great - at least to help put my mind at rest a little more anyway!

Thanks a lot. x

You could be pregnant, condoms aren't 100% safe. I'd wait it out a few days, just to see if your body's clock is off. If it doesn't come within the week, I'd try a test =]

Good Luck!

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18/f

Since the first time i got my period its been in a routine cycle and i could always predict what day i would get it just by previous ones. For the past two months though it has been late, it was late 1 week last month and late 2 weeks this month, im not pregnant because i did get it, but i am sexually active, and dont use birth control. im curious as to whether there is a certian reason for this recent irregularity or whether its normal or thanks. thanks in advance.

Well if you change your diet, the amount of physical activity you do, or any lifestyle change along those lines I know your cycle can change.

Since it's obviously a pain, I'd go talk to my doctor.

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i'm either living what 90% of other women on the planet go through, or there's something wrong.

sex is pretty much uncomfortable for me. the first couple of times hurt, as was to be expected, but after that, despite trying out different positions, it still varies between uncomfortable and neutral. no matter how turned on i am when my boyfriend and i start, it always just ends up with me going through the motions and not getting anything out of it.
is it just that the media tries to make you believe that all you need is a dick moving in and out of you and you're set? i know that most women have no idea where their g-spot is or if they even have one, and i guess it's wishful thinking to hope that sex will automatically 'find' it. i have a great sex life when it comes to everything else, but actual intercourse (sorry, i sound like a teacher) is where i draw a blank. is it normal that i feel nothing and should just consider myself lucky that i find all other types of sex so great? or am i pretty much screwed (no pun intended)?

I would spend more time on foreplay. I know you've tried different positions, but maybe try moving around a little bit and don't be afraid to experiment! =]

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i have fantasies of my tennis coach who is about 35.
i'm only 15.
but i have no idea how to not think about it.
i mean hes attractive, but is there anything i can do to stop thinking about him in a sex related way.

I know a lot of my girlfriends and I have had weird fantasies about older guys, or guys we shouldn't have fantasies about. It's normal.

I think as long as you don't act on these fantasies, you'll do fine =]

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Okay, so I don't have a boyfriend nor do I want one, but I want to lose my virginity anyway. Please, don't tell me wait until you're with the one that you love, because I really don't want to.

I don't have any guys that I'm hooking up with at the moment, but I was hooking up with two guys, let's call them N and C, the other night. They all left for basic training. I'm tired of highschool boys (I'm almost a senior in highschool) all of the ones that I know are too immature for me.

Anyway, six months from now one of the guys N (the guy that I really want to do) that I was hooking up is going to be back. I got the other guy C (who I like more as a friend) to give him my address, and we're going to meet up and try things again. I really want to have sex with N, but... I'm really tight.

I know this because C couldn't get it in. Any ideas for becoming a little bit looser? That way, I won't have any problems in the future?

Try getting experience fingering yourself and stuff. And don't necessarily worry about being tight, just make sure you're pretty wet.

Make sure you use a lubricated condom and pounds of extra lube.

Either way it will hurt, but you'll be fine =]

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