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Q: i can't take life. i honestly can't. every morning when i wake up i'll try to think of something good that might happen today, but the truth is it's just another damn day. where i'm still my miserable and lonely self. everything in life is too disappointing. I don't have friends or a boyfriend, well i used to have a "friend" but she always tried really hard to make me feel worse about myself. Just now she even asked my "why?" when after she said that guys stare at her 24/7 and I told her they do the same to me. She's such a hurtful bitch.

Every time i have a date set up w/ someone who is interested in me, HE BREAKS THE FREAKING DATE. So all my relationships end before they really begin. See it's just my luck.

I want to commit suicide but I can't because I'm afraid of the pain.

Please don't say anything like "Oh everyone feels this way sometimes." because i feel this way ALL the time. all the god damn time.

people ignore/exclude me whenever they can. i don't even do anything bad/mean.

and also please don't say "oh honey everything's gonna be okay things will get better!"

because i've already heard that too much.

therapists/counselors don't help me. i've seen too many of them. can i be put to sleep or something? like a dog? is that possible?

what can i do to take life? i just want to die so badly. don't say anything like "oh just pray about everything and it'll be okay." I'm not a christian and i never will be again. i'm agnostic because it's the only true religion.

it's not like i've had any horrible tragedies or anything, but i still am just as miserable as anyone who has had them!

god i want to die. help.

no body wants to read long answers so here you go

i sympathize but you have it easy, seriously you might be really sad and depressed but think about how many people have it so much worse. your selfish to take your own like and hurt your family.

Q:
i\'m 14f. and theres this guy whose moving state pretty soon, and we want to see each other before he goes. before school ended we almost went out, but then he backed down, then wanted me back. i made out with him a few times. hes almost 16. he said he wants to have sex and make some memories before he goes. he said hes having a leaving party, and there will be alcohol and his parents r gone. but i dont know if i\'m ready or whats gunna happen. i\'m just worried about the consequences and stuff. dont say \"just tell him your not ready\" cuz i would be except for what could happen. i just need to talk about this and need opinions.

thanks so much xx

BAD idea.
BAD idea.

a] no offense, hes NOT into you if he backed out of going out with you. He only wants you for sex.
b] Alcohol leads to other issues. If your drunk, and hes drunk your not going to use your best judgement.
c] you'll probably get busted.

Q: hi im 13 and i have masturbated about 10 time with back of pens cucumbers and random things in the house which you shouldnt masturebate with im scared about my period i turn 14 in 3 weeks will this affect my period coming im scared about if i damaged something i have stopped masturebating now please help im really scared thank you

cucumbers?
wow girl.

Q: So, my friend's boyfriend and she were making pubic hair shake and she drank it and now she's afraid she's going to get crabs b/c her bf has crabs. Can she still get crabs from drinking this after it's been in the blender

Wow, your an absolute idiot and i'm just hoping so bad she gets it. your such an idiot, seriously.

Q: Okk,well i didnt really know how too work this.And i didnt know were too putt it...But

ok,so my brother finger me ...I'm not sure if he touched his penis..were he could have touch cum//I have missed my period i'm 2 weeks late.Is it just me stressing..Or my period has skipped this month///Or am i pregnet.. i do have a the flue..Does this have anything to do with it..I keep stresing to make sure my tummy isent growing please helpp..Please...I jsut don't know what tood doo...

Thanks xxx

ew your a dirty gross incestuous whore.

Q: 13/f/usa

Hey, I had this friend when I was in 6th grade,(I was 11 at the time) Let's call her carrie,and her brother used to always come home drunk at night. Well, she used to tell me that she was really scared that her brother would do something to her. Well one night, when he came home drunk, he raped her, and the night she told me, she committed suicide. Well, now I'm in 8th grade and the memory of her and her story just sorta haunts me. my brother comes home drunk all the time now, and to make it worse, he has anger issues. well, now I'm really scared that he might rape me. Can you help me please? I'm like really paranoid.

okay i'm a realist. you need to not listen to the people below me, they all offer the same advice 'TALK TO YOUR PARENT. TELL SOMEONE!' well you know what? Thats not going to help, you need to take action now. I suggest locking your door. Its simple but its what i would do, and if you have friends down the street try to sleep over their houses or something. Also, i know its immature or whatever but I still sleep in my mom's bed sometimes. Hes not gonna touch you if your with her.

Q: ok well i went on my boyfriends myspace and i saw a message to another girl this was

it she aint 13 but umm its nothing even serious ne more and the girl is suicidal i think so if i try to brek up with her she will do something to herself so im sl;owing breakin that shit off i no i coul,d do better i had u didnt i?

well... that was about me so i confronted him n turns out it was this girl amber who wants torbeak us up now hes saying he cant trust me, and im fraid hes gunna break up with me, what should i say to him when he calls me, and how can i gain his trust?

wow. hes a jerk. break up with him first. Just the fact he thinks he can do better gives you the right to leave him. if you stay, your making a bad descion. also, i think you should find a new cute guy so you can basically prove to him that you can do better.