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I'm so sick of being alive. Everything is so hard. I can't stand it. It's like I'm doing something wrong. I have few friends, but it doesn't matter because I don't like them. I don't like any one. People don't meet my standards and they never will. And when it comes to girls I have no idea what I'm doing. It's like there's some secret technique that every one but me seems to understand. My problems with girls contribute the most to my loneliness and depression. I'm unmotivated in school, because I care more about trying to find a place I belong, trying to find some one who understands me. I can hardly sleep because I'm always worrying about all this. I'm scared I'll never have friends. I'm scared I'll never have a good job. I'm scared I'll never have my first kiss or have sex, and if I do it will be with some one I don't want to do it with. Somewhere between now and the next few years I 100% sure I'll be dead. I can't take it anymore. I've been to therapy and they even locked me up like a criminal in a mental health ward, but to no avail. I hate life. I hate myself. I hate every one, especially if they're happy. I don't see things ever getting better. Please help me. And don't post anything about God, Jesus, or religion of any kind, it will be an automatic 1 on your rating.

i'm not sure youl like this answer. or even believe it. but like everything, its going to take time. i mean youre going to feel better..things will get better. i garuntee it. dont give up, but stop focusing on things that wont help you in the future (ie..youre saying girls) dont worry about them. even if your hormones tell you to. relationships just end up in heartache. there are so many poeple who feel the same way that you do. you just cant find them becuase youre putting aside seeing the good things you have in life. although to you it may seem lke you dont have many good things or youve had terrible experiences in the past, but you cant let that affect you. you just cant. it holds you back you know. and alot of people like you like to ignore the fact that there are so many people out there..SO many, who wish that they even had a CHANCE, and the opportnities you have. you might not even realize that either. that theres so much you can do with your life. you could be trying not to believe that, or like me long ago, feel like, well so what. this is about how IIIII feel, not about how much other people have or whatever. see i didnt want to answer this question at first. becuase i doubted youd believe what i had to say or wanted to believe it. im also trying to say the first step to being happy is to..become optimistic. dont let the unimportant things that you FEEL are necessary in your life bother you. i think im talking more aboutmyself in this thing that i am to you but im insisting for you to try at least, try to get all those negative things that you think about out of your head bevcuase theyre bringing you down. and this is coming from me, and i'm honestly a fucknut. i have a messed up head. and things in my mind from what ive seen and whats happened to me. i survived and so will you. you need to be strong and believe in yourself. that is the key. and you feel so differet from everybody. becuause they are happy. but you also never know, a person you see in school orsomething, that seems 'happy' to you, could have even cried themselves to sleep last night. im just trying to explain that your not so unbelonged or left out or whatever, becuase you see poeple, and you think what you see. who knows how they really feel or whats happened to them. you just judge from the outside. one of my best friends has even been in the looney bin countless times. we've all struggled. don't convince yourself youve got it bad. like i said, be optimistic. and try. and when you get older, and time passes, youll be hearig the same question like you asked and saying the same things i have becuase i know. becuase ive grown and learned. i wish you the best of luck in life, and dont ever, ever feel anything close to worthlessness. everyones got a purpose in life.
sorry for the length.