When it comes to relationships I've been through a lot. I used to be so desperate to be in one I'd get myself in the worst situations, but no matter how bad things were I got through them and now I'm in a loving, caring relationship and have been for almost two years.
I like to give honest, blunt advice and I won't write a book for an answer that can be summed up in two lines! I don't care about my rating, so I'll tell you the truth rather than what you want to hear. So if you don't like the harsh reality of what I'm going to tell you don't ask me private questions.
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Location: England
Age: 20
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How do you prevent razor burn from your vagina? (link)
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Use lots of shaving cream and shave in the direction the hair grows, not against it. Use a sharp razor so you don't have to go over the same spot again and again, and exfoliate the day after, regularly. I also hear that putting roller ball deoderant on stops ingrown hairs, but I''ve never tried if for myself. The more often you do it the less you get it, so if you keep shaving as the hair grows in you on't get it as much.
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I have only had 2 guys finger me before, but when both of them have done it, it didn't feel good at all. It actually hurt. I have fingered myself before and had an orgasm. I talk to my friends about being fingered and they all say they have orgasms from it. So is there something wrong with me? Please tell me what you think. thanks (link)
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No, if there's something wrong with anyone it's the two boys that fingered you - their technique. They're probably using two many fingers or not hitting the right spots or being too rough. They don't know if they're doing it right or not unless you tell them, so let them know gently if it doesn't feel good or if it does and guide their hands to the places that feel good, they'll probably find it a turn on.
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Late last year I mustered up the courage to see a gynocologist because my period is unhealthily sporadic. One of the questions they asked before the check up was "Are you sexually active?" At 15, I don't think it's appropriate to have a partner. However, I would like to know if they ask you the question because the office needs to know if your hymen is broken... or if it has to do with something else. In my case, my hymen is already broken, but I haven't had sex with a partner yet. What should I answer in the future? (link)
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No, they don't really care if your hymen's broken they just want to know so they can get a good idea of your sexual health. If you'd said yes they'd probably have gone on to ask about protection and what not. Just tell them the truth, that you're not sexually active. You'll probably get asked everytime you visit a gyno.
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Im a 16 year old boy who doesn't want sex....at all i have a girlfriend and i guess she expects me to be perverted maybe because her other boy friends were. Im a virgin shes not.She be offering me oral sex but i don't want it.then she calls me gay and all these other homo names.
I was raised on not being able to see people kiss at all if i said sex i was slapped,and i never seen a womans vagina ((Porn)) until i was 15 and I gagged when i seen it.Is this normal? am I gay? (link)
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That's not normal but it doesn't make you gay. It's probably got something to do with your upbringing, which is sad because sex is a natural, beautiful thing when done with someone you love. Not something to be feared.
Your girlfriend was probably mad when you didn't want a blowjob because she felt rejected. Tell your girlfriend that you respect her and that you think she's beautiful and sexy but you'd rather wait to have sex and don't want to rush it, and if you feel comfortable about your upbringing to help her understand. It wouldn't surprise me if she only wanted to do it because she thought that was what she had to do in a relationship because so many of her other boyfriends have expected it before. She'll probably be understanding about the whole thing. But if not most girls your age will be thankful for a boyfriend like you, so perhaps you should rethink your relationship.
Don't just rush into sex when you're not ready just because you feel pressured. If you take things slow and at your pace you might be able to overcome how you feel about sex.
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my boyfriend and i had dry sex, though im just the only one having my undies. i just want to ask if i can get pregnant doing dry sex. also, accidentally, mine and his came into contact but it was very quick. there was no penetration. can i get pregnant by that? im really confused and i really dont know what to do. please help me. thank you so much. (link)
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No. Well, it's possible but very very unlikely, about a 1 in a million chance. Don't worry. If he cums on your panties though, you should change them straight away in future.
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hey i was wondering how do you masturbate? i dont want any sites i just want to know from your point of view. should i lay down or what? also, when i do masturbate, do i get something called an orgasum? what is that? and does it mean i am sexually active and could get pregnant??
please answer thanks. (link)
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I think it's best to lie down. Often people just finger themselves when they're starting out and expect that to work, but usually it doesn't. When you start feel about, and try differnt things until you find what feels best. Your clitoris is at the very front of your vagina, put two fingers on it, or just above if it's too sensitive and move them in circular motions. You can't get pregnant from masturbating, it's the safest form of sex. An orgasm is like a release of tension that feels really good, you get when sexually aroused, and if you're doing it right you should get one.
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hi i am rohit. i have been doing masturbation since 4 years. tell me what are the ill effects of doing this? should i stop doing this? what are the advantages of this too? (link)
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There aren't really any bad effects of masturbation. It's totally normal and most people do it so don't feel like you're doing anything wrong and need to stop. Masturbation is good for relieving stress.
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ok...lets just say my boyfriends name is jim.well...jim still acts like a 9 year old kid.He always forgets things and hes always late to something cuz he oversleeps.He can barely support me cuz he doesnt make all that great money.I know i shouldnt be saying this but hes not exactly my "dream guy"and were engaged!!He just doesnt make me happy anymore and hes not my prince charming.I want a guy who will spoil me and can take care of me and support me.I've already told jim this and he says he will work on it but he will never do it.trust me.but anywayz,i want to leave jim but I know that I'am all hes got.When his ex g/f left him(who was my friend)he thought about suicide.I just dont want him to do it if I left him because it would haunt me forever.WHAT SHOULD I DO??? (link)
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I believe you when Jim says he'll work on it but you know he won't. That's what men are like, even if they do change it's only for a short while then they go back to the way they were. You shouldn't stay with someone and be unhappy just because of what they might do. Worry about your own feelings and break it off because the longer you leave it the harder it'll be. If he's got any friends ask them to watch out for him afterwards and call him once in a while to make sure he's ok.
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I'm not really depressed but ...................
Late at night (well not really late, just about midnight) at the weekends when I'm still up, for some reason I start to feel really sad, like i'm useless, and there is no point in living, not like I feel suicidal, I just think that my life is crap and pointless.
I don't know why, as usually, in the day, I think my life is quite good, I think I'm lucky, and this even happens on days that have been really great.
Why is this? Is it just because I'm tired, or is it more than that?
And how can I stop feeliong like this when its late?
(by the way, I dont get this feeling if I'm partying or with my friends late at night, only when I'm on my own, and I'm not doing much.
If it helps I'm 13/f. (link)
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Go to bed earlier, so you don't get to that point. It happens to a lot of people.
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Whenever someone cums in me it stings. It stings so bad I feel like I can't stand it anymore and I need to stick an icecube up there or something. someone told me this happens to some people. Is that true? and Why does it do this? (link)
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I know the feeling! It's almost unbearable. That happened to me with my ex. I think it happens when your not turned on enough, so it causes too much friction and makes it a little sore, then when he cums it makes it sting. Try having more foreplay before you have sex.
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So my boobs have been itchy lately and I messed around with this guy that I just met but we don't have sex we just dry hump and the last night we messed around we dry humped with his boxers off and my under wear on?? So I didn't know if that was okay as long as he didnt stick it in me or he didnt blow.. I'm a really paranoid person so I am glad I found advicenators.com instead of asking my friends sometimes because most of them are sexually active and look at me funny. (link)
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You have nothing to worry about.
As for the itchy boobs, maybe you're due on your period, or they're growing or it could be the material of your bra or the washing powder your mom uses? I don't think it's anything serious but if you're really concerned go to your doctor.
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can i be pregnant if i had sex one day after my period ended?
i'm age is 18 and i'ma female (link)
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Yes it's possible. A person usually ovulates between day 9 and day 15 of their cycle (day 1 starting when bleeding begins). But some people can be different, you never know when you're most fertile. If you had sex in the last 5 days go and get the morning after pill, and in future use protection!
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my doctor said im about to start my period soon. really how long is soon? because i went to the doctor for my phyiscal like in feb. or mar. i think it was march. but i wish i knew when it would happen. thanks. (link)
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Soon could probably be any time in the next year. Your doctor will have told you this because you'll have started going through puberty. There's no way to tell exactly when you'll start so all you can do is wait till it comes and keep a spare pad in your bag just incase it does.
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ok, my friend did this project in health class, and she used this article (i think it came from the newspaper). It was a 5 year old and she was pregnant! Is that possible or is it just a lie? (but newspapers dont really lie..so??) (link)
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It's very true actually. It happened years ago and there hasn't been a case since, so if it's a recent article your friend used then it's a lie.
To read the full story and the truth about the pregnant 5 year old check out http://www.snopes.com/pregnant/medina.asp
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how far would you go with a guy, and could you seriously answer the question? cause if you dont that doesnt seem to answer my question, dont be shy! (link)
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It really depends on lots of things, for example who they are, how long i've known them, the situation. With my ex boyfriend, who I'm still kind of seeing, I'd go all the way, I'd do anything with him. With some random I met in a bar probably just make out. On a first date, just a kiss. I always wait at least a month before I go all the way with my boyfriends, to let them know I'm not easy and so I get respect from them.
You haven't really given any information, so I'm not sure of your situation, but my advice to you is to go as far as you're comfortable going and as far as you want to. If that's all the way, then do it, if that means doing nothing then thet's totally up to you. If other people disagree with how far you go then let them, it's your life and your decisions, not theirs.
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