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Ciao sono Jenn. This is my advice column. I'm always here to talk, and listen. Feel free to give a shout, and I'll try my best to help you. Always here to lend an ear. Always here to share a thought.

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Im 17, I started having sex 2 years ago. I now have a different boyfriend and we've been together for a year now. I started taking birth control over the summer and recently we stopped using condoms but I've still been taking my pills. Recently it started to hurt during sex, like a hard pushing or stabbing feeling. Then I started bleeding while having sex and that has only happened 3 times and not every time we do it. Then the pain just kept getting worse and now we haven't had sex in a while because I don't want it to hurt. I've been really worried about it. And now my period is 5 days late. What is wrong with me?

I am not an MD, so I cannot correctly diagnose, however I think that you should make an appointment with an OB/GYN as soon as possible. These things are (not to scare you) but not typically normal. This is something that is abnormal, and something you should ask a doctor about. As cliché as it might sound, just tell your mom you'd like to make an appointment. She'll be more impressed that you're being mature and approaching her about it, than hiding it. All I am trying to do is let you know - you need to get it taken care of. Do it for yourself. Because if something is wrong, you want to make sure it's being fixed or taken care of.

I wish you the best, and hope all is well.
If you need anymore advice, I'm always here.
Best of luck.

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me and my boyfriend have sex alot and the last few times afterwards i got this gross bubbly thing on the outside of the bottom of my lips, and also he told me it smelled funny i dont know if its an infection or not.
And im going to the clinic on tuesday
and i wanted to get tested for different things such as aids and what not i wanted to know if when they do your checkup they can see what you have and dont have, or if i have to take a test to see if i have hiv or aids and etc

Odds are that it is an STD, but by getting tested you can find out what it may be. If you're eager you can simply 'google' STD's and do your own research to best educate yourself about the sexually transmitted diseases.

Something important to think about; if you have infact recieved an STD, you should not be the only one getting tested. You are sexually active with your boyfriend, therefor he should be tested as well. He may not have the visual symptoms, but he could be a carrier, or maybe not.

It always helps to be as safe and precautious as you can be. Ways such as using a condom, or refraining from oral sex.

I hope I was of some help.

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About 5 days ago, my boyfriend and I had sex. We used a condom, but when we were finished, we noticed it had slipped off and was still inside of me. I immediately pulled it out of me but my boyfriend says it was empty. And I know my boyfriend ejaculated, he said he did. However, I've been on birth control for about 2 years and I also took an emergency contraceptive, "the morning after pill" about 4 hours after we had sex. The pill I took was called Plan B and required me to take 2 pills. One immediately, and one 12 hours later, which I did. Lately, I have been feeling extremely nervous and hungry, even after I have just eaten my stomach feels empty again. Also, my heart beats appears to be beating faster lately. I am not supposed to get my period for another 2 and a half weeks either, so I cannot take a pregnancy test any time soon. But my question is, how likely is it that I am pregnant? The condom also had spermicide on it by the way. Please help! I'm 17/f.

I first of all would like to applaud you for being so cautious with all of this, most kids are not.

You used 2 forms of birth control (being the birth control itself, and the condom), along with the emergency contraceptive - and the odds are slim to none that you're pregnant. You're pretty much guaranteed to not be pregnant after taking plan B.

If you're still worried in 4 weeks you can go to the doctor, but I assure you due to your cautiousness, odds are you're not pregnant.

I would like to say 100%, but then I'd be lying, so I'll have to go with 99%.

I hope I've helped. Also, in four weeks you should go to the doctor for the checkup if you're still very unsure. But I wouldn't worry, because you've been very cautious and you've used more than one form of birth control.

I hope I was helpful & best of wishes.

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okay i'm on the pill and i normally take my pill within the same hour everyday since i'm supposed to take it around the same time everyday. my friend told me that i have to take it at the same time within like 2 minutes everday. if i take it within the same hour is that bad?

It's not necessarily the best thing,
you should set an alarm on your phone for the same time everyday so that you remember to take it at exactly the right time. I suggest you start an alarm, and begin taking it at exactly (give or take a few minutes) the same time everyday.

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okayyy well i haven't had sex since about november sometime towards to end.
i was suppose to start my period december 17th but i didn't! i took 2 pregnancy tests and they both said not pregnant...
i still haven't had my period at allll.

what is wrong with me?????

If I were you, I would wait another week - and take another test. Then the week after that - take a test.

I know it's a lot of tests, but if you want to be thorough I suggest that.

If in two weeks you haven't started your period, I would go to the doctor, or a local planned parenthood and try and figure out what the deal is.



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okay...i'm 13, and just lost my virginaty yesterday. actually, i'm not sure if i did or didn't. i was raped by my next door neighbor who is 16, and has a gf. also, my bf came to find me, and caught me being raped, but he thought that we were actually having sex. now he's mad and won't talk to me because i won't have sex with him. i really need help talking to him and everything. and should i tell my parents? or not? help!!!

First of all, you should tell your parents. Then,
you can tell you're boyfriend later. I know it will be hard, but you need to tell your parents! Good luck, and best of wishes!

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I am a teenage girl. I get really horny and enjoy it when I see girls boobs. I'm not sure if this is unusual or not. I also get horny when I see guys to. I would never act in messing around with a girl. But I would and I have messed around with guys and I enjoy it. Guys give me pleasure, its just I also get pleasure from looking at girls. So do you think I am a lesbians or something?
Please help!!!

No hun, that doesn't make you lesbian.
It also doesn't necessarily make you bisexual.

Tons of girls find both seeing girls and guys sexually pleasureful, but not necessarily are they intimately attracted to both sexes.

You might just be bi-curious. This means that you are curious about being intimately and/or sexually involved with both genders.

I think if you are still curious and would like to find the most accurate answer, you should try and see which you're most comfortable with. But also hormones might slightly affect this, I've known people who are like that, and grow out of it, but that doesn't always happen. By the way you described it, you just sound bi-curious.

If you have anymore questions, you can just ask!

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ok, ive had the samw bf for a year and things are kinda gettin old. We make out alot and i blow him and such...he does return the favor, luckly. But i wanna know how to spice things up..u no so its not so borring...i rate well so plz answer!

Well i think you should leave sweet notes in his locker. sounds corny but i bet he will like them, and then go up behind him cover his eyes and say guess who, then kiss him! That also sounds corny, but its really cute and the guys usually like it! Good luck!

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