well hey there! i'm fourteen.I like to chill,play bball with my friends,read,listen to music and do whatever a teen likes to do.I'm mature for my age.I don't act like a whiny little girl. status? taken.
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I have a really good friend. We are basically "online" friends, although we go to the same school. The thing is, he is too shy to talk to me in person, what should I do? (link)
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You go up to him and say hi first :) since he's the shy one. I mean you guys are "online" friends but why not be better friends in person?
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Same girl I've mentioned in another on my posts.. Anyway, today we got see to hang out for a few for the first time, prior to today we would just chat on the computer.. I was really looking forward to hanging out with her, and I had a great time except now it's all over and I really don't know when I'll get to see her again, and it's killing me.. She goes to public school, I'm homeschooled and I just don't get to see her much needless to say, and her parents are still "iffy" about me and more then likely do not trust me, but I've known her parents for about a year now..
Any idea on what I could do to fix this blah feeling or perhaps try to gain the trust of her parents so we could hang out more? I just would like to see her again and talk to her some more in person.. It's much better then chatting on the computer.. I really do love this girl, she's my first girl I've really liked and there is something about her I adore.. It just sucks when I can't see her..
Thanks in Advance!
Chase
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awww that's the cutest thing ive ever heard. well to make her parents love you. give presents to her parents and be polite and all. prove to them that you really care for their daughter. and u could try writing to her or calling her. I know it's not a lot but I hoped it gave u some ideas.
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ok this may be long im just warning you in advance. ok so im going to be completely honest. i am in no way a perfect or even close to be perfect person. i party, go out, and make mistakes. but lately it seems like i have just been worried about others way more than neccessary and taking crap that i shouldnt. it is mostly just one person. this girl is my best friend. we hang out al the time. but lately i think she is starting to think she can say or do anything and ill let it go. so i drive everywhere she wants to go on the weekends or even during the week. its not like she cant drive she just says she doesnt have the money, although i pay for absolutely everything and she pays for just gas and makes more money than me, but that really doesnt matter. so i take her everywhere and for some reason when she drinks she turns into a totally different person. she will say things at my expense to make me look bad, she will act like and even tell me and others that i do whatever she says, and she is very mean with what she says or does. this is mostly when she drinks but sometimes maybe when she is sober. when it is just me and her she is always like your my best friend i can tell you anything. buut when we are not she totally ignores me. it upsets me alot. i mean reading this may sound worse than what it really is. i usually just let it go. but the last couple weekends i have been crying about it. and for one it is embarrassing and 2 even if she does notice it she acts like its not her fault and everything is fine. i love this girl to death and would do anything for her. but how do i get it across to her what she is doing and do u think she is doing this directly to me or just because she has been drinking? thanks!!!! (link)
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well first of all sweety, your so called best friend is fake. if she acts like a sweet girl in front of you and mean around other people then she's a fake. so what if she's drunk or something, she's just using you and she takes you for granted. she's takes advantage of your kindness. do you want a friend who acts like a different person around other people. and if she keeps telling people that you do whatever she says then people gonna say that you scared of you. so just leave her and don't give. dam about what she do or say about you.
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16/f, please read, I WILL RATE!
I've been in this group of kids (a clique, in other words) for like 2 years now.This senior girl, Leslie, is the leader of the pack. Me and Leslie have been like best friends the past two years. Right when we met we clicked instantly and had so much in common. (Our goofy, carefree attitudes/behavior, and our all-around silliness.) I should make it clear that although she is a year older than me, we have the same experience level on subjects like drugs and sex-- NOTHING! Neither of us have ever even had like a serious boyfriend, and neither of us have ever even gotten close to drugs. We were SO far away from any of this permiscuous behavior. We were just bopping along not caring what anyone thought of us.
Well, around last spring, when some of our friends were getting ready to graduate, she started like not inviting me to things. If it was like a entire group get-together, somehow the info would never get to me and I wouldnt show up. But I am a member of the group- why is this happening (?)- I didnt know. Why was I missing the info that the whole group had gone to the movies, or that the whole group had hung out at whoever's house? I started missing more and more events with this group- It was getting to the point that I was missing concerts, parties, I mean, I was obviously being deliberately kept in the dark. It was obvious that an effort was being made to make sure I didn't get the word that there was a group event. Why would they do this to me? I was a main member of this clique! Im not like one of those "fringe" members that comes somtimes but not others, I had been a regular and great friends with each member of the group. Well, naturally, as I hung out with this group less and less, I had less and less to talk about with them at school, which caused me to miss even more events. We used to be so tight!
Well, I think I know what the problem is- Leslie started being all concerned about her image. She used to be genuinely laid back and cool- now she upholds an image of a cool, laid back drifter. She cares so much about what other people think- a thing that she used to not care about at all! Who she hung out with started becoming important to her. Now I have found out that she went to a hookah bar last weeked with some kids who have now graduated. Now, she is the type that loves to tell everone about how she hangs out with college kids and how shes done hookah. I feel like she dosn't invite me to hang out anymore because I'm too "immature" for her. No, I havn't had sex or done any drugs. But now she thinks she's all that because she hangs out with a little rougher croud once and a while and has done hookah. Hookah is illegal if you're underage but seriously, it dosn't make you a total badass!
The reason I am posting my problem is because the carnival is in town this weeked, its like the biggest event of the year and all the teenagers go to it- but they havn't invited me. Even when the're not planning on doing anything bad- they dont invite me! So my main problem is that I have lost my social life, and my best friend Leslie is too "mature" (she thinks) to hang out with me anymore! (link)
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well maybe she's growing up. like sometimes people chill with people who are their age. and you should at least know the consequences of being in a so called clique. I think you shouldn't really care about them and do your own thing. so what if you're being left out of the group. you don't need friends because you don't know if they gonna backstabb you in the back. do your own thing and don't worry about anyone but yourself. just know that you're know you better than them so don't worry. they're just b****es who hating on you.
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Im a senior this year and i am so close with my best friend jessica, but i started hanging out with my old friends...and im extremely close with them again, and are with them everyday. I still try and call jess and i see her at soccer practices, but she's started acting really bitchy towards me. I have'nt abandoned her...and its not that i dont care or dont love her still but its not really affecting me all that much...but i dont wanna completely lose her...so what do ya think??? (link)
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okay maybe ever since you've been hanging out with your old friends, don't you think jessica would be feeling lonely? she probably feels lonely and like you don't wanna chill with her. when you chill with your old friends, bring jessica along too. introduce her to them. make her feel like you're a true friend.
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so im a new student and it really sucks.
people here dont eat lunch. there are four groups of people and one of the groups are really stand-offish i tried talking to them, most are nice but it seems liek they dont want me in their group, they're also connected to the second group, and they're standoffish too. i have to ask people if i can sit with them for lunch, and they say okay, hesitantly. i cried today during lunch in the bathroom, i cried myeslf to sleep last night. everything here sucks and i hate it. i need help, what to do? i seriosuly count the hours till i go home. what should i do? do you think its because its only the second day and im a new kid?! PLEASE HELP ME. i cry all the time thinkin gabout thi.s (link)
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okay I'm going to high school soon and I really don't know nobody so I don't really care.but it's your second day . so don't expect it to be what u wanted. since you're new, it takes time for people to fit it. like people say it takes time for a friendship to grow. it'll get better don't worry. I bet you'll have lots of friends soon=].
xoxoxo-I hoped I help.
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