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19..female. i'm a very outgoing girl. i'm very confident in myself but not to the point where i'm cocky, i hate people like that. i just love to have fun. i'm crazy loud and heard to be funny/fun to be around. the problem is..

girls HATE being around me and guys because they feel like i get all the attention and like i'm asking for it. but really, its just how i am. its not my fault that they give me the attention?

for instance..last weekend me my friend and her neighbor went to go see her boyfriend. i was in the back seat and we pulled up to his house and i was like hiii!! and then i was just being gooofy and stuff while my friends neighbor was talking to her boyfriend. i didnt seem to think i was doing anything wrong until i hear that she feels like i was trying to get her boyfriends attention and stuff..? i was totally blind-sided. because thats not how i am at allll.

is it wrong of me just to want to have fun? sorry it attracts boys attentions but i just hate when gilrs dont like being around me because they feel i get all the attention and am an "attention whore" when really... its how i am?

I think you are just one of those people that everyone is jealous of because they arent like you. you are just really outgoing and friendly. dont stop being that way just because people dont like you. be who you are thats the best you can be. and if people have a problem with that then they dont deserve you.

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okayyy so like my friend i dont know if shes lying to me i hear all the time she is and i have known her forever what do i do ?

well a lot of the time people who lie will tell you a story once and then when you ask them again they will change the story up somewhat. because they change it. but some people just forget. people who are good liars a lot of the time know all the tricks but if you go on google or any search engine and look up lieing or signs people are lieing you should be able to find expressions and ways to tell that they are lieing.

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So, my best friend about 6 months ago moved down to her dad's house.
But she still visits her mom. Which when she does, we planned to hang out.
But when she first moved, she didn't even tell me. I found out from a teacher at school. And she talked to me on myspace, called me, etc. like everything was normal. And then I confronted her about her moving. And she just said "Sorry, I meant to tell you." =/ But I forgave her for that. But she came down to her mom's this weekend. She promised to call me and to hang out. And my friend, Hannah (also her friend), started telling me about the amazing weekend her and Haley (my "best friend") had and how I should have been there. O.o Which is what we planned at first. But I never got the call. And lately she's been telling me she's going to visit and call me, but she never does. I've canceled plans once thinking we were going to hang out, but she never called.
And it's not only that she's not keeping to her word, it's that I feel we are growing apart. And I still at least want to stay friends with her, but I don't know how. Should I try talking to her? Or just forget about it? =/

ive had a friend like this.
1. try to confront her. and if you thinks shes lieing dont even try to be her friend because thats all shes gonna do.
2. it sounds like shes trying to make your friendship not work.

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i have a friend who is new to my school.she follows me everywhere and she is annoying ,and tries to hard.i want to find a way to get rid of her without hurting her feelings because i used to be and act like her.

1. you know how it felt like to be her. so give her some slack.
2. introduce her to people you think she will have stuff in common with.
3. maybe get to know her better and maybe if you give her a chance you guys might end up being great friends.

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Okay so I don't feel like having a party for my birthday but i just want to invite like a couple of my best friends over. I have no clue what to do except maybe music/dancing and movies. What other things could we do?
Im 14 by the way. thanks.

you can do makeovers
watch movies
eat
dance
just have fun
truth or dare haha
thats always fun.
play pranks on people.
just the fun stuff

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16 f

So I just found out my best friend is bisexual . Ok bigg deal right? So why doesn't everyone else at my school see it the way I do? Today in school I sat with her during studies and heard people wispering all sorts of stuff and I overheared one person in perticular say "omg maybe that's her girlfriend" it just pisses me off how people are so sterolistic these days and judge one another for the stupidest stuff I hate drama I hate stress I try to avoid it everyday and now because of that once stupid person everyone is beginning to get the idea that I too am a bisexual and I certainly am not (not that there's anything wrong with being bisexual I'm just saying I wouldn't fitt under that category) and the last thing I want to do is avoid her or stop talking to her because I'm not that kind of person . How do I stop everyone from thinking this way without going to that last suggestion? Or how do I avoid all of this?

you shouldnt care what people say they are just stupid. i swear. just ignore it believe me it will be old news soon.

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what could we do this friday thats like really fun! ok so i dont really want to ddo the mall thing or movies or go out to dinnner becuase we do that almost every weekend and we want something new to do.. we already though of a sleep over but ehh not so awesome! ya know? so i was wondering if anyone had any ideas on what we could do thats really fun???

were 16 if that helps anything :]

movie night.
if you live by a beach go to the beach or lake or something
camping
you can do a sleepover
umm have like a little party
maybe go to a party.
just find something fun to do

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17/f
okay soo here's the deal. my friend ben started goin out with this girl named holly. and i didnt really know her until i heard she was making up stuff and was trying to make me and my cousin (also my best friend) go pick her up cuz ben "supposively" wanted to see her but he didnt. ben was starting to lose his friends because of her so i went up to her in like october and sorta yelled at her. my cousin and other friend didnt like her at the moment either. but now my cousin is friends with her and on new years eve her and our other friend were like oh my god answer this and i didnt know who it was and i seen it was holly and i was like "what do you want" and she is like can i talk to allie (my cousin) and im like she is driving.do you want me to give her a message? and she like hung up on me. my cousin says she is scared of me, and bens older sister was like is that girl still being mean to you? but i dont know what she said back. and like the next day my cousin is like why did you hang up on her holly, and she is like she wasnt saying anything, and this got me really mad because she was lying about it. but whatever and then my cousin was like oh were you with ben on new years eve? and she is like no and she was like dont worry he didnt kiss any girl, and then our friend nessa yells in the phone "YEAH EXCEPT WHEN MANDI (me) AND BEN WERE KISSING IN THE BACK SEAT" i felt kinda but but she was just like "what?" it wasnt true tho! i didnt kiss him, im not like that. i feel kinda bad being mean to her now because honestly i dont want any "beef" with her, i dont have a reason to but wouldnt it be weird if all of a sudden i was tryin to be nice to her? and i dont wanna apologize because that would be like...umm okkkay? and my cousin and nessa would be like what the hell, i thought you hated her. i dont really see this girl, because everyone thinks i hate her and stuff so they keep me away from her. any suggestions??

thank you soo much. sorry so long but i'll rate ya!

gosh she sounds horrible for the stuff she has done. i kinda think she deserved hearing that. but anyways just say i didnt kiss him i dont know why people think i did. and just end it there and if anyone sayd anything just be like whatever someone said it not me i was just making the story straight. well i hope that helped.

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me and another friend, have two other friends, who wont leave us alone. they are just very annoying, not in the gossipy way, they just act like 8 year olds. thier older than us, but they act younger than us. and they are very sensative. when we tell them that we dont want to hang ouw thih them anymore, they still follow us. and we dont want to say that we dont want to be their friend, like we dont want to come out and just say it, cause the last time we did that, they went home, and told our parents, and then we got in trouble. so we need a way to tell them, with out actually telling them. weve already tried telling them that we needed a break, and they said that we could do that, and then the next day, they followed us everywhere again. and they brought their parents into it, so then we had to be friends with them. so what is a way that we can tell them we dont want to be friends with them, without actually...telling them??

-shelby/13/female.

tell them you cant hangout with them and just leave. and if they start following you. you can always go to the principal or counselor and tell them they are stalking you. maybe they will get the message....

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I want to make a new screen name--i want something i'll live with for a while.-i'm a dude btw

why dont you try mabye a screen name with your favorite band or artists or a short lyric from a song of your name. something like that?? hope i helped :]

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