hi everyone....
hay im sally, im 19. i love to give advice so ask me anything and i will answer as best i can!
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i am currently studying family and children studies certificate III at wollongong tafe and i love it. i love kids and one day i hope to become an early childhood teacher and work with 0-3 year old children. i'v been writing poetry since i was 13 and i hope that one day i can publish them in a book! that is one of my dreams.
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so keep those questions comming...please comment back, i'd like to know if iv helped or not thanxxx i have a blog! feel free to check it out: http://justsallyy.tumblr.com/
xoxoxoxo :) xoxoxo xoxox
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I live with my grandparents. My friend and I have been friends since kindergarten. Well I promised her that I would go to summer school. But Then my grandpa died. My friend is like a part of the family my whole family knows her so it affected her too. Well when summer school came she asked me if I was going but I told her that I'm not going to summer school because then my grandma would be alone. She was like " But you promised!" Then she hung up. This was like a couple days ago. We just got over a fight too. Now every time I call she won't pick up and I leave messages but she still wont call. How do I get her to at least talk to me? (link)
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of corse she cares, everyone has a different way of dealing with death and this may be her way to deal with it. she is probably finding it hard and thought that you two going away to summer camp together was her get away, her chance to try and forget or get over what has happened. and to do this with someone who is feeling the same way as her. she is probably upset with you because she feels like she is going away to summer camp to deal with it on her own.
i think you have chosen the write thing by staying by your grandma, she is family and she needs you at a time like this. i know that your friend needs you too at a time like this and its always hard to chose the right thing to do but my advice is that family comes first.
its clear that they both need you but you really need to go and talk face to face with your friend and explain to her why you have chosen to stay with your grandma, she will understand and maybe you two can spend some quality time together before she goes away to summer camp and you guys can write and call each other while she is away.
stay strong.. hope this advice really helps you xx
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Sunday is my best friend's daughter's birthday party. I'm her daughter's godmother, so she invited me & my boyfriend. I'd love to go, but the only problem is her boyfriend might be there. We used to be good friends with him, but there was a bunch of drama a while back so now me & my boyfriend really don't get along with him.
Do you think we should go to the party, or should we stay home to avoid any possible drama? (link)
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Hey. go to the party. it seems important to you or you wouldnt be asking this question. just keep your distance from him and it should be ok.if he tries to start anything just walk away.
be the mature one and dont fight with him cos you'll only upset your daughters friend and spoil her party. xxsal
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is it okay to not want people to go to your house?
cuz i always go to my friends houses.
do they want to come here? (link)
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hey thats perfectly normal. a lot of people are like that because there house is messy or they just simply refer to get out of the house and hang somewhere else.
they might want to come over your house but if you'v never mentioned it they might feel awkward about saying anything about it. also people feel rufe inviting themselves over.
talk to them about it. if you dont want them over just tell them that and that it has nothing to do with them. but if you want them to come over invite them. xxsal
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okay well. i keep making excuses for a guy that wants to come over.
i think he has a girlfriend.
i dont think he should come over if he has a girlfriend.
but im nervous if he doesnt have one.
help!
i cant keep making up excuses.
its makin me feel really bad. (link)
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just ask him if he has a girlfriend or not... cos if he doesnt he sounds interested in getting to know you and eventually he'll stop asking to hang out.
when your chatting at school and he asks to come over just causually say "do you think your girlfriend would mind?" see what he says. you'll probably call him off guard but you need to know before your friendship goes any further. xxsal
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what does it really mean to "open up" to someone? is it just telling them your secret? why does some people someone open up to someone even though they havent known eachother for long?
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opening up to someone is to be yourself around them and bot be afraid to tell them what your thinking... its when your more comfortable around them and you can talk about anything with them. its pretty much when you fully trust someone to tell them your secrets you could say.
people can open up to others they havnt known for long if they click really well and just get along really well... they may find each other easy to talk to and connect with each other really well. it doesnt really matter how long you know someone just how well you connect with them.
it happened with me but i didnt talk to this girl for ages and then we finally talked and clicked straight away we became best friends very fast and my other friend didnt like her and asked me why i was good friends with her all of a sudden when i never used to talk to her...
see it doesnt matter how long you know someone it just happens and its a good way to fiund true friends...
hope that helps xx sal xx
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im in 4-H, and its a really neat thing to do. But my best friend in 4-H, me, and two other guys and my sister want to hangout as a group. theres ages of 16,15,14,12(almost 13) 3 girls, and a guy, maybe two guys going. And we want to hangout...but we dont know what to do! We get kinda bored of bowling and movies...laser quest might be too expensive, any ideas? And my one friend cant ice or roller skate..so think of some FUN stuff for us to do! We're all pretty close, so...we need something fun to do! (and not too expensive please) thanks =D (link)
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hey... why dont you get lots of movies-old, funny, scarey ones, whatever you want. get lots of junk food or pizza and have a movie night. or if you have a wii gaming console get lots of games for that to play.
i do that with my friends its heap of fun and we stay up all night watching movies and in the morning we watch the sunrise=]
you can also get water bombs and have a water bomb fight maybe the next day or something.
we play games with the water balloons like:
-my fright stands infront of the garage door and moves one end to the other like a moving target with her back to me and i throw a water bomb at her thats fun
-throwing a water bomb around a circle; throwing them really high and seeing who it pops on is another fun game to.
-you can make up your own too.
i hope this is something fun for you guys to do it will be a change from what you usually do thats for sure=] have fun! hope i helped! xx sally
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Okay, my boyfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks now. I'm very happy and so far our realtionship has been practically perfect. The only problem isn't really a problem between us but between my friends and I, particularly my best friend. My best friend, I'll call her Lexi, isn't really as into guys as my other friends and I are. For a while we were both single and together constantly which is why we got to be best friends but now I have a bf and I think she's getting mad at me for wanting to be with him and talk to him a lot. I know that boys come and go but friends are forever but I love hanging out with my boyfriend becuase we don't see each other very often. What should I do? (link)
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hey you just need to balance the time you spend with your bf and the time you spend with your friends equally so neither of them feel left out.
tell her how you feel. talking about the problem between you both will help a lot.
besides if you dont spend much time with your bf then you should have time to spend with your friends and your friend should understand that you dont see him very much.
you both just need to talk to each other and both need to listen to how eacj other feels and youz should be right.
hope i helped. xxsal
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Im 16 straight and I have a problem with my best friend.
She is a little older than me. She is like my sister and I her brother. but what I need help with,is that she loves me more than that, she wants the relationship to go further. Im ready for that yet and I don't feel the same towards her.
I've never had a girl friend before and she has been with guys that have tried to have sex with her or have sexually harassed her. She says that Im the her knight in shining armor.
I don't want her getting hurt again.
Please help me with this. =( (link)
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you need to talk to her. tell her how you feel, that you dont have feelings for her and that you dont want to hurt her.
you need to clear the air before she takes it to heart and tries to go futher with you.
besides you cant make someone love you if they dont. it doesnt work that way and she needs to understand that.
hope i helped xxx sally=]
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Okay, I'm so annoyed with my supposed "bff's". I have two of them Josh and Katie. We are all attatched to the hip as most people would say, but latley I've got the sense of otherwise! You see Josh is my cousin, and Katie is just my bff, but since the begging of the year weve been all three friends. But now it's like I'm invisable. They'de rather be together then with me. I feel so depresed, I wanna be with them too! I know that Katie likes Josh but I've got feelings too! I don't know what I Should say or do. HELP! (link)
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hey im thinking that your cousin might like katie too so that might be one of the reasons that they are leaving you out. just talk to them and tell them you want to hang out more cos there leaving you out. there your bffs they'll understand. its better to wort it out sooner then later.
hope i helped xoxo
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Okay so I have 2 bffs, Kenzie and Bri. Bri and I have been friends since 4th grade, Im in 6th now. All of us are. Kenzie & I just met this year.. but anyway
well we all had this major fight for a really stupid reason and it really effected our relationship, even after words. Kenzie and Bri were never mad at eachother, so their relationship didnt suffer, just the one with me. They were all ganging up on me and stuff, and it was really annoying.
Well now they ALWAYS have plans together, and I feel left out.. It is really upsetting me and Ive tried telling them how I felt, but they just say "Well maybe you should make plans FIRST" But that is hard to do, considering they always have plans. And then on the bus they use MY phone to call and make plans for themselves, not even asking if I want to be part of it. It is really upsetting me. Ill ask "Hey can I spend the night tonight?" And shell say "No I want Bri to" and It just makes me want to cry. Today Im going to Alex's (youve heard about him, lol) birthday party with Kenzie. Its fine when kenzie and I are by ourselves, and its the same way with Bri and I. Bri always says we used to be like this *crosses her fingers* But now we are like this *sticks thumb and pinky finger out, all others down* and it makes me sad. They take it as a joke or get mad at me when I try to talk to them, and I dont want parents involved.
Thanx in Advance!
ALSO. Bri gets mad at me for stupid things like rolling my eyes. I dont know if that helps *laughs*, but w/e
P.s. I know this is off topic, but what should I give Alex for his birthday considering I have no money, at ALL.
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hey i know girls can get a little bitchy but you need to talk to them about it, one on one so they dont have each other to hang up on you. then they might really listen.
try a different approach like instead of asking if you can hang out with them and what they have planed, make plans and invite both of them like "im going to the movie you guys wanna come, we can go back to mine after" see if that works.
you could write them letters.
tell bri that you two have always been like this *cross fingers* she just didnt know it everytime she does that and it will soon change her mind.
you could make your alex a mix cd of his fave songs or fave band...
hope i helped xoxo
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what does friends with benefits mean? (link)
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hey its two people who can have sex and so stuff sexual stuff together without any strings attatched and there not going out, it is just a bit of fun...
xxsal
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i slept over my family friends house (girl, my age) and we were watching a movie with her brother (2 years older). she fell asleep and me and her brother were watching. and then he was kissing my neck, and we then started making out. then it kind of got carried away and we went into the basement, and he wanted to go really far but i just let him feel me up. i dont like him at all.. but my question is, should i tell my family friend, because that would completely change our relationship and awkward between me and him, and i want to avoid it..
youre first reaction is probably going to say to tell her, but try putting yourself in my position.. its really hard. thanks in advance (link)
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hey... well i think you know that you need to tell her what happened i mean you said it yourself. But you have to think about who it is going to effect and how everyone will react i mean sure they'll get over it eventually but you still need to consiter them.
if you and your friends brother arent going to take it any further and it was a one time thing then there might not be any point telling anybody cos what people dont know wont hurt them right.
but if it is going to become something more then your better off telling your friend.
i know you said you dont like your friends brother but he could like you so you should talk about it with him first to hear what he has to say and how he feels before making uo your mind wether to tell your friend or not.
hope i helped you xxx sal
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k so i have a tight group of 4 friends including me, and me and one of my friends keep having private conversations because we trust each other...the others get really mad when we have a convo and are like at least include us in it and its really really frustrating because some of the things i cant trust them with...are they over exaggerating or just jealous? because i think that me and my other friend deserve to keep some secrets...
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its good to have a friend you trust enough to tell her your secrets but your other friends are all feeling left out and maybe even jelouse of how you two have become so close.
its nice to share things with someone but its not really nice if you leave other people out. i mean you dnt have to tell your other friends your secrets if you dnt trust them enough... cos there getting mad why dnt you and your friend have your private convos when the others arent around cos then they wont feel left out,
or you could call each other after school or at night.
you could tell your friends about how you dnt trust them enough to tell them your secrets but that might cause a fight. xxsal
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we have a big sister little sister program in my school.
my big sister is a junior. what should i get her for christmas? please give any suggestions you have!! (link)
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i now the perfect gift you can give her. you can get a nice photo of you and her together and buy a really nice photo frame to put it in.
its sweet and its a geat gift coming from you given the sircumstances.
or you could buy her some jewellery mayba a little silver pendant and chain... my friends always love what i pick out for them, or if you want to go simple you caould buy her her fave box of chocolate and some flower.
hope i helped. xx
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so, there was this boy i saw in 06, at a show, and we had this.. i dont know, unspoken understanding of each other. it was like, mutual, smiling, laughing, not very much talking, he left before the show ended (it was in a small coffee shop), I never thought I'd see him again. speed up 07, i saw him the other day, talked to him even, he didnt remember me. But i wouldnt expect him to... haha, but now I know where he works. I dont even know if he has a girlfriend, but how do I casually like.. I want to hang out with him or something.. ahhh. (link)
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hey... just causually go to his work and pretend your not there to see him, and when you see him just say "i didnt know you worked here... how are you...." or " i forgot you worked here... how have you been...." or something like that... then you should chat a while and then just before you say goodbye to him just say "we should hang out sometime ay..." and say when.where. i hope that helps good luck xxx sally :)
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Okay so i have a boyfriend. And he's so cute and funny and i like him soo much. He is sarcastically mean to people but he's joking all the time about things that he says and i don't think that people know that. Like i know that he's joking but everyone's like wow he's so mean but he's not! My friends always say he treats me like crap but he doesn't! I think its because i only told them when we used to get in fights..but we havn't gotten in a fight in a long time. My one friend has been spreading rumors about him and saying all this stuff and she wont stop no matter what i say. She's my best friend and i'm not sure if she's like trying to get us to break up cause she doesn't like him? It makes it so hard to want to hang out with my friends when i know they'll just bash on him. (link)
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well first you should say something to your boyfriend about how he's jokes come across mean and hurtful rather then funny jokes. he doesnt have to stop joking around he just needs to know how people react to them and take peoples feelings into concideration.
just talk to him about it. As for your friend, people will do anything to get what they want and you never know how far they will go... your friend has no right to spread rumors about your boyfriend especially if there not true. i think you need to talk to her about it and tell her how its effecting you and how you feel about it.
i know she is in the wrong but try not to approach this in a mean way coz you dnt want to lose her.
tell her about all the nice things your bf does for you and how you dnt fight anymore. i think the problem is that she doesnt like him and once she knows how nice he is she will start to like him...soz its long but i hope i help. xxsally:)
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i need sweet sixteen themes, im planning on having one...please help i need as many as possible (link)
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hay you could have a dress up party... it might sound kidish but my friend is doing that for her 16th and she is inviting like 40 ppl! so itz gunna be really ggod. or you could have a formal party...
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i love my boyfriend named danny but there is 1 problem i like some1 eles the same named chris but chris makes me fell better about myself thn danny.what should i do
xXNEED OFF SOME HELP :(Xx (link)
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we all are attracted to people we are close to and are comfortable to be around, so its easy to get confused about this stuff.
i know how you feel coz this situation has happened to me. i got away from both of them for the weekend to think and sorted out my feeling.
they became very clear after that coz i couldnt stop thinking about the one i really missed and wanted to be with.
you just need to take a break from everything and sort out your feeling and clear your head.
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alright, well my friend is dating this guy that i like. and i have liked him for a loooonnng time. since the end of last school year, and she just started dating him last week. but, he always talks to me and like flirts with me. i know it sounds wrong on my part but me and the girl hes dating arent that good of friends, were more of aquantises(or however you spell it) but anyways, we both liked eachother the first week of school & we both knew it but we never told eachother. i just don't know if i i should tell him i like him or what?!!?
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i think you should tell him because you will defiately regret it in the long runif you dont. if he really likes his girlfriend he wouldnt be flirting with you so he might like you to. even though he has a girlfriend you should tell him besides you cant control who your feelings land on and you said yourself your not close with his girlfriend so i say go for it!
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how do i get people to want to talk to me? and be loved (as friends) and be interesting? ahh, any help! i'm desparate! thanks (link)
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hay
the only thing you can really do is be yourself... its not worth it trying to be someone your not.
just be yourself and say what your thinking... make conversations with people,be nice (well i dont have to tell you that lol),happy and funny.
be the bubbly you. you just need to show everyone the real you and once you have they'll love you!
good luck xx sally
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