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hey well i need advice. ok well i went out with this guy who i liked for so long. well we broke up after a week. (he broke up with me) so then 3 days later he asks my really good friend to homecoming and she says yes. they go to homecoming, make out right in front of me, then the monday we get back to school he asks my really good friend out and she says yes!!!! i got really mad. They always kiss and hug in the hallways and everytime they do i just happen to be there. my really good friend is in all of my classes too. should i be mad at her? how should i handle this situation. people tell me that i should be mad at her but i just am not sure what to do. if you could help that would be great. (link)
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talk to the girl, tell her that you still have feelings for him, and it wasnt right for her to date him .. cause it's the unspoken rule, you've got to wait a year to date your friends ex, and you have to have approval .. that's just how it is.
so talk to her, let her know that you dont like that she's dating him .. and take it from there.
ask her not to show PDA in front of you, cause it doesnt make you feel to well..
best of luck!
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you're taking forever to answer my question! (link)
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i am so sorry, i just answered though
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am i losing you? (link)
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well concidering i dont know who you are.. i can not answer this question.
advicenators is a place for people to come for advice, not to find out if they are losing a friend.
now if you'd like advice on how not to lose a friend.. i can help you with that.
talk to the person you think you're losing online.. not face to face, cause some one might get to shy and not say what they really mean.
if you make plans with them, dont ditch them.
be careful of not making two plans
remember that your old friends are just as important as your new ones, if not more important
make sure you dont make everything about yourself
remember that everyone is not as bright, smart, and friendly as you.
we all dont have the same talents
if you need anymore help, feel free to ask.
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thank you for your help!!
i imed my friend, and she said that it was nice to talk to me again. just talking to her made me feel a lot better, and i'm glad that things arent good, but better. i dont think i really want to be good friends with her again, just its nice to talk to an old friend and catch up on stuff :] thanks again! (link)
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yeah, i understand how you feel. maybe ya'll will start talking again and some time down the road you'll be better friends. but it's always nice to talk with an old friend. i give you a lot of props for taking the first step and i/m'ing here!
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alright, this is kinda long, so i hope you dont mind.
last year this time, i had a wonderful life. i had all the friends i would ever need, and i had this amazing best friend. her and i did everything together, and we were inseperable. then came 9th grade. we were both scared for high school, but when it came, all was great! Then, we started fighting. maybe it was because we were too close and knew everything about eachother? but anyways, over the school year i kinda got over her, actually really fast, and i kinda think she held on for a bit more than i did. but i made some amazing new friends. i only have a few, but they are spectacular. anyways, lately, i've really been missing this girl. she always helped me feel better when i was down, and she always had something positive to say to me when i was upset. i miss her, and i want to talk to her, but how? i want to IM her or something, but what should i say? thanks in advanceeee (link)
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everyone loses a best friend somewhere along the way, and it sucks. if i were you i'd just i'm the person and just be like hey. and see if you could start up a normal convo. and after ya'll are talking for a few min. just be like i'm sorry for all of the fights last year, i was wondering if you and icould start to be friends again. and understand that ya'll wont be best friends again, just like that. it'll take some time. but just let her know that you missed her and you are willing to give the friendship anther try.
anyother question? let me know what happends. best of luck! ♥
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I'm writing a goodbye letter to my bf (of 16 months) and i don't know what all to put in it... so could you help me out please.. just give me a few sentences or something.
He's going about an hour and half away (link)
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well if you two are staying together.
just tellhim that you'll miss him a whole bunch and that you love him and you hope to see him very often and then things will never change.
and if you'rebreaking up with him.
just be like i can do this long distance relationship but when you come back we'll hang out a lot. and i'll still love you and i hope the best for you where ever you're going.
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OK well like the other person said (the one who started off saying they disagreed with some weird comments about you, and then went into her question about her friend like calling her out on stuff but in a weird way.. im just trying to get you to see which one im talking about haha)
ok so i feel like i do that alot. Like i call people out on stuff. I don't mean to and I don't like it when I do. Actually I don't usually do stuff likethat. But Sometimes I get really annoyed with like everything about my best friend and it al builds up. It would only last like one day. So I'll ignore how annoyed I am and then finally I'll break down and just say one really mean thing but usually disguised as a back-handed compliment. It's so manipulative and rude and immature. I don't know why I do it and I'm not sure really what I'm asking. But I geuss i just want your oppinion on why i do this? Or what i can do instead? I hope you don't think I'm really horrible. I just wanted to give another point of view in a situation like this. (link)
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okay, first off i am very sorry it's taken me a while to answer this, i've been busy.
i know how you feel, i also do this some times. some times i just get so annoyed with a friend that i feel like i have to scream at her to get her to stop. and i do some times. i scream and tell her things that i shouldnt, but i still love her to death.
maybe you should talk to some of your friends, and just be like. hey, i'm sorry if i've been yelling at you, or i do yell at you, things have just been aggravation me a lot lately. and no mater what i say to you, you're still a wonderful friend and i love you.
or when you notice something about this friend just be like. hey, i love you, but could you stop doing ... and then say what you're thinking. cause this is your best friend and you should be able to tell her anything. and it'll only make your friendship stronger if you tell her whats on your mind.
i wish you the best of luck! ♥
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okay first of all let me just say that whoever the hell wrote all of those nasty comments about your thighs being too big or your nose being too high need to get over themselves. you go to my school so i've seen you around and you are so gorgeous justine...i think its so awesome how you are confident with your body and who you are because in a life like this with all of the "models too look up to" its hard. i don't know how you do it, but i admire you for that.
anyway, i have this best friend and she seems to be having moodswings alot lately...like one minute she will be all happy and ine with me but then the next she will make a joke out of something i do that bothers her. at first i just kind of blew it off and laughed at it because i realized i was being stupid, but its not like i can take any of it back and i dont like how she randomly calls me annoying or calls me out on something i do wrong. when i tried confronting her about it it turned into a fight. later i tried explaining to her that if i came across as rude i didn't mean it like that at all blah blah blah but she still does it. she is one of my best friends and i love her to death...i just don't understand why she can't be happy with me.
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thank you, that's really one of the nicest things some one has said to me, you are really a very sweet person.
about you friend.. i know you said that you've talked to her about it .. and that did not turn out too good.
next time that she does this, right there.. just be like why did you say that?
this might be a stage she's going through or maybe she's trying to tell you something.
I had a friend that used to do that to me .. and it made me feel like she thought she was better then me. and i hated that feeling. so i just called her out on it, we were in public and i was like why are you doing this?! you act like my best friend one sec. then the next you are my worst enemy. i can not stand it.
well, it turns out she didnt change and i just moved on, because i was not going to be friends with some one who treated me like crap.
i would talk to this friend, one last time. and tell her she's got to stop doing this or else you'll have to stop being such good friends for a while. and see if see changes
best of luck, let me know what happens ♥
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15/F Virginia. ok well i have these two best friends, kate and sarah and before i met them they were like best friends and now us three have become really close. we usually hang out every weekend, but sometimes they do stuff without me. like today sarah is at the mall with her mom, and im sure she invited kate, but she wont even answer her phone when i call. and yesterday we couldnt hang out because i had lacrosse and she said oh well we can hang out tomorrow so then now i just feel like she ditched me, and if i ask her about it she would be like we had no plans. so i dont no what to do. so can i have some advice on what to do... and like i want to hear something other than get better friends. because im not going too, but this kind of thing just happens once in a whilee. k thankss byee (link)
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i would still talk to her, just let her know how you are feeling. be like, i know we didn't have set plans .. but i just feel like you kind of ditched me.
i think that would be the best thing to do, she'll understand.
best of luck ♥
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ok so my school is like part of a group of private schools that are like invited to do this thing called cottillion (spelling??). Almost everyone in my 8th grade signed up for it, but i didnt and some other people didnt. anyways its like ballroom dancing and like manors lessons i geuss? im not really sure but everyone went to meet people from other schools and stuff.. anyays my friend Katie met this kid Kevin there and then they started to be friends. He asked her to be his girlfriend after like a week but she said she wanted to get to know him first. he told a bunch of his friends that she was his girlfriend (from what she tells me) and they told her about it. now her and this guy don't really talk. she told me once like way after they stopped talking that she used to like him, which was WAY obvious but she wouldn't admit it. she says she doesn't lke him anymore but she doesn't hate him. well i dont see him much but me and my other friend Megan went to talk to him last friday at a dance because he had waved at us and we hadn't talked to him in a long time, but katie left before we went. i don't think she likes him, but she acts weird when we bring him up. I don't know him too well, but i think i might like him because.. well i dont know why. Do you think its stupid to like him? Would my friend get mad? if no and no, then what should i do next time i see him to get to know him better? thanks.. and sorry for the amount of reading! (link)
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just talk to your friend, and be like so do you like ___ anymore, and if she's like i dont know, or no just be like well, i might like him a little. and see waht she says. ask her if that's okay. and if she is mad about you liking him.
if she says it's fine to like him then go ahead and like him, if she says no then back off.
if she says yes, that's fine. then next time just talk with him more. and if you/him have a screen name be like we should talk more, do you have a screen name? and maybe be like you're really cool, we should chill some other time.
and just take it from there.
but respect what your friend says, if she says i still like him then back away. be a nice friend.
best of luck! ♥
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I want to become friends with a girl in my grade but I don't know her very well. We have some friends in common but she isn't in any of my classes so whenever I try to talk to her it's really awkward. What should I do or say to become friends with her? Also the friends we have in common aren't like my best friends, but good ones. So i couldn't really ask them for help.. it would just seem weird. haha thanks for the help! hope i don't sound too weird. (link)
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you should find a friend that you are good friends with and that they are good friends with and be like "lets all hang out"
or you could have a party, or a small get together and invite the people you are both friends with.
but it would be really awesome for you just to approach this girl and be like hey, whats up? cause it'll show that you arent shy and that you'd be a great friend to have!
best of luck ♥
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Here is the letter that i worte to him but i couldn't give it to him so i send it through e-mail and iam just want to know if it is a good letter or not?
To Justin:
Today Iam wirtting you this and I want you know how I feel about you. Now we have been friends for about a year now. We never get a chance to hang out and stuff that doesn't matter as long as we are talking to each other. Whenever we are on feild trips we never get to talk about what we want to talk about and I know that kind of sucks tho. The feild trips aren't always fun tho but whats fun about them is that you are there =) When we first met at the golf place I remember when I first met you I was like "Thats Justin?" and you were kind of sitting there not talking and I was talking the whole time .Remember the Jackhammers Game that day was probably the best day I've spent with you. It was a lot of fun with you there and we had a great time there. But the worst part of the day was you tried to hold my hand in car I was freaking out at that ponit. You were like bugging me to hold your hand and I kept saying no! Those are the two good memories I've spent with you! I want you know how I feel about you and its going to be my honest god turth.You know we have tried so hard hanging out and doing stuff together it seems that its not working. The problem is with that is whenever your busy I can do something and whenever I can do something you are busy and I think that's kind of the problem and I understand that!. I can't imagine to discribe you in words it won't like come out of my mouth. I think your funny, sweet, smart, caring, outgoing, and cute!. Iam lucky to have you as my best friend if I didn't have you I would be totally lost. Your a great friend to me. Justin, I'll never leave your side no matter what and no matter what happends. I got your back meaning Iam always there for you! You can tell me anything you want Iam there for Justin! You know what you make me smile whenever Iam around you I don't know I've always had that feeling inside me and I really like that. Whenever Iam around I feel really safe. You are like my brother. Hey, let me tell you something. When I was hanging out with my "Girlfriends" we went out and when I got in the car I started to cry because of how much I've missed you and being with you. Well I've got question for you. How long you've liked me or "had a crush" on me? Its not a bad thing to tell me!
P.S.
Your amazing!
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i am kind of confussed.. are you writing him to tell him that you like him? becaues you didn't say that in the letter, but that's what i got from it.
so if you like him, and was writting to tell him that you liked him. it was a good letter
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well, me and this , Liza, used to be total BFF's. it was great, her and i took pictures together, we would spend every second free together, and we were just total BFF's. It was great, and i loved her. (not in an eeky way) Just lately, her and i got into a big fight, and we dont speak. i really miss her, and the good times we once had. We havent been friends and havent spoken for about a month now, but she had said some really hurtful things. its not like i want to talk to her, but i miss her being there, and we both know eachothers deepest darkest secrets, well i think so. i really wish she could just come over for a sleepover sometime, but i think she totally hates me. I have made a bunch of new friends and people like me a lot better now that i'm not friends with her, but i just wish we were back to before. Just a little time with her would be so much fun, but i'm scared it would be aqward or something, like we wouldnt connect. maybe she misses me too? should i just invite her over someday? i miss her, and i want her and i to have sleepovers and such again. i just miss it all. (link)
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i totally know what you mean. me and this girl were total best friends since the first day we ment. and then we got into this huge fight and stoped talking. i wish that we could just hang out sometimes.. but i was so scared to talk to her.
she i/m'ed me one day because she needed help with something, and i really gave her props for that.
we talk more, and we can just start talking.. and it's wonderful. her and i arent best friends like we used to be.. but we are friends.
so yes, i would i/m her.maybe not be "omg, i imiss you so much" but if you have some problem in your life, you could ask her what to do. or just be like "i am very sorry for everthing that happened, but i do miss you"
and let her know how much she meaned to you.
i hope everything works out.
i really do.
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hi.. lately it seems like my friend has been ignoring me, and i have no idea why. we have been best friends since 4th grade, but recently i've been getting the feeling that she doesn't want me around. she constantly fills up her schedule with other people, which she now considers her new best friends. everytime i try to talk to her about it, she acts like it is no big deal and says she still cares about me and all, yet continues to not have any time for me anymore. our whole group is kind of close, but i feel like a select group of people are trying to leave everyone else out. (sorry if that was confusing) i'm not really sure what to do anymore.. i understand that she obviously is done being "best friends" with me, but the way she makes it seem is that she doesn't even want to do anything with me anymore. and i just don't get what has changed.
sorry for the length. (link)
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wouldn't it be nice if we could be best friends with the same people through our whole life. i mean we had the best best friends in 4th grade right? but just like with everything else, time pulls you apart. but most of the time it's for the better.. because if you were best friends with the same person your whole life that you mean you never changed and you would never get to see other best friends. so maybe this speration is a good thing, whether you like it or not.
you can't make anyone be your friend, but you can talk to her about it. and you said you did. just try it once more. tell her you feel like she is trying to pull ya'll apart, and you feel like you are giving more intot he friendship then she is. tell her how important she is to you and how much you miss being her best friend.
maybe ya'll should just be friends for a while.. and see how that goes. because maybe that's all you're ment to be.
then talk to the people that are leaving everyone else out and ask them what their deal is. and why they are doing it. becaues you guys are one group, they need to ask like it.
i hope everything works out for you guys
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I made out with my bff bf and i regret it and i said sry like ten million times and she still wont forgive me. It was a long time it happened and now my other friend told me she still hates me and i wish i could kill my self b/c i still love her and she was the only person i could talk to i would do anything to go back. I dont know if i should get over her or try again for her to forgive me! She was like my twin sister and i hate4 my self so much and wish i could die!!!! (link)
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alright, so i bet you me and your friend could both agree on that was a very stupid idea.
you should sit down your friend and just say
"hey _______, i know what i did a while ago was a horrible thing to do. i knew that you and him were dating, and i knew that i shouldnt have. i just did it because ______(give reaason why, if you dont have a reason why just say "i wasnt thinking straight, and did it outof nowhere") i am so terribly sorry but i dont want to lose you. you are the only person i could talk to. and i dont want to lose you. i will do anything to get us to being friends again. Please, may i have another chance"
make her see that you are truely sorry, and you are willing to do anything to be friends again.
best of luck ♥
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Lately ive been feeling really down on myself. I feel like im not nearly as pretty as my friends.. and I'm positive thats what everyone thinks. Know how I can bring my confidence up?
-Concerned teen (link)
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it's normal for every teen to feel bad about them self. but this time in your life will pass.
you just need to stop compairing your self to your friends, yes they are amazing people.. but they arent you. there is no one in this world that is you, besides you .. there for you should not compair your self to anyone. it's wrong.
i know it's not that easy . trust me, i know.
but when you look at your self dont pick out your flaws. look at your good stuff. like wow, this shirt looks good on me today, or oh! my hair looks cute. because people arent going to give you compliments until you start thinking positvily.
good luck with everything, and you are beautiful ♥
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well i got in this really big fight with one of my best friends and some new girl who i became friends with and they like hate me really bad so i started hanging out with some other people and my two friends who i got in the fight with got everybody to hate my now like eceryone hates me but one of my friends even my new bff said she hated me now and i have like no one and im really lonely i tries apologizing but it didnt work and my friend that i got in a fight only is mad at me because i told her boyfriend she cheated on him which waqs really stupid but it wasnt right and so now my life sucks even more. what should i do? (link)
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alright, well first off.
you did the right thing, by telling the boyfriend.
i would talk to the girl, whose boyfriend you told, and say - "hey, i am really sorry, but if he had cheated on you, you would want me to tell you. i really miss being your friend and you mean the world to me. please, can we start this friendship over again."
and see what she says. i would then talk to the other people that dislike you right now and just be like "i am so sorry, i thought i was doing the right thing, i really dont want to be in a fight with ya'll . please, give me another chance"
and see how that goes. i think your best bet would be too talk to the girl whose boyfriend you told first, then talk to the girls who dislike you next.
when you are talking to the girls that dislike you dont talk to them in a big group, talk to them in grops of 2 or 3
best ofluck, i really hope this all works out for you ♥
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so i have this friend and i love her she's awesome. but sometimes she gets really annoying like she doesn't really act like herself. and she's really like attention drawing i guess you can say?
i'm in a class that i love because it's great and i love that i know everyone because then people actually talk to me... i'm really shy so it's kinda hard for me to fit in sometimes and this class i fit in perfectly.
problem... she's saying that her class is too hard and wants to switch into mine. i know it sounds really stupid but if she did i knew most of the people in there would talk to her and forget about me... cause that's just kinda how it is and i hate it. there all better friends with her than me and it's annoying because she kinda steals my glory or whatever you want to say?
she's asking me why i think it'd be weird if she switched into my class. and i don't even know what to say to her. cause if i explained it to her i think she'd take it the wrong way. and i don't want to start anything cause she's my bff.
if this makes any sense... help? (link)
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makes perfect sence, and i'd be the same way
just tell your friend that it would be a little weird because it is far into the school year, and if the class was really to hard for her, the teacher would have switched her out of it. and you think that she should stay in that class, because it is good to have a chalange.
or you could tell her the real reason why.
or you can just be like, if you do switch class just remember that i want some attention too.
♥ best of luck, let me know what happens.
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okay well lets just say i have 3 friends... friend#1 who i have been friends with since 6th grade and friends 2 and 3 who i just met this year... well last year friend#1 completely ditched me and talked about me behind my back to everyone..but now we are all good and best friends. but last year she met friends 2 and 3 who are really really nice and have been best friends FOREVER.. so yea now we are all best friends.. okay but then friends 2 and 3 always want to hang out with me and are always mad at friend 1 they ask me like if i am friends with friend 1 and i tell them the truth and stuff like yea she is my friend but sometimes she can be too loud and in need of attention.. okay so they are like yea it doesnt matter to us we just dont like her that much.. okay but sometimes friends 2 and 3 hang out without me and i feel left out.. i mean i have said are you guys mad at me and all but they are like omg no and friend 2 said that friend 3 usually can only have one person over but now they were are friend 2's house... im so confused and i know they want time alone but it makes me feel left out... IM SO CONFUSED can you please help me? this is the first time ive actually done this so i will rate you 5 if you tell me how to..haha okay thanks soo much (link)
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feeling left out is a naturally feeling. every body feels it, if they admit it or not.
i would just talk to friend 2 and 3 and tell them. hey, when you guys hang out i feel left out. i dont want you guys to redo your whole day just to make me feel better. but i just wanted to tell you guys.
then i would also talk to friend one saying,
hey, you are a great friend but some times you can get a little too loud and need attention, and that is a turn off. but you are a wonderful friend.
and see what happens from there ♥
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my friend just got a new boyfriend, well before she got a boyfriend me and her were really close, and she said we would never be any further apart if she had a boyfriend. Well when she got a boyfriend she started to not talk to me and ignore me and mi other friends. Im happy that she has a boyfriend and all its just i miss talking to her without someone there to listen, now i cant talk to her abvout other guyz b.c her boyfriend gets mad. I just want to start talking to her more again but everytime i try to talk to her she just starts talking to her boyfriend. Please help me, i rate good
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it's not right that she has dumped you and your friend for a guy. you really need to talk to this girl and be like hey, i feel like you are ignoring me .. and stuff like that.
try to talk it all out.
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