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Im 18 years old.I love giving advice to people.I try the best i can. Im going to be having a baby very soon.I love spending time with my friends and chatting online.Also writting in online journals, going to the library and spending time with my boyfriend and family. Also enjoy fishing and going to my lil bros baseball games , and going to the movies
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okay, so ever since i came to my school, in second grade, this girl, we'll call her "teresa" has been my best friend. we could like write a book about eachother. sometimes i think she noes me better than i noe myself. haha! but, the thing is that ther were a whole bunch of new kids this year. one of them we'll call "melanie" and the other we'll call "claire". when melanie came into school, teresita was being her friendly self and started greeting all of the new kids and introducing herself etc, etc. so her and melanie supposedly become really close. oh, she can have a friend! but i couldnt make friends w/ another one of the new kids, which is claire. so, teresa, knowing that melanie calls me a bitch and kinda bullies me around. i mean, my gosh, she's a real bitch! but i mean, gosh, sumtimes i dont think i realize how much shit i take in from a lot people. im too nice to those those people. but thats just the way i am. the only way i can really blow my top is by writing here. i hardly ever get this way w/ people cuz im too shy to tell them off. but i put my foot down. im not taking crap from those people anymore! so, i tell teresa, right? i tell her that i'm sorry. but i cant be friends w/ sum1 thats friends w/ her b/c she is a serious bully. i mean, we've even had to talk 2 the principal about it b/c the girl is out of control! she thinks that she's hot stuff, and shes not even close to it! and its silly, at my age, it really is. im 14 yrs old and i just think that its really silly that i hav 2 talk 2 the principal @ this stage! but, the thing is that the school has its own network and its like my school e-mail. and she's sending horrible e-mails during school hours! so... yeah. it had to "be brought to the attention of authority" haha! anyways. and she IM's me such mean things, that i had to block her! and teresa is like nothing. hanging out w/ her, laughing. and everyone is accusing me of ditching her and hanging out w/ claire. just b/c teresa decides to go w/ a girl that cant stand my guts. i dont know how to explain this to her! people even told me that i had to choose between them and claire b/c they dont like claire. but u noe, its really stupid. b/c sum1 that i thot was a true friend, look wat she did to me, and this girl is just sum1 to hang out w/ since my friend ditched me! its like she's on her side. thats so unfair! i've always been ther for her! why duz she like melanie so much if she's that way w/ me? its really just annoying. please let me know what you think. i rate high!
I must say that this sounds liek something i've went through before. But your friends are going to have friends you dont like and you are going to have friends your friends dont like. they need to choose am i going to not be her friend just because shes friends with this other person. Although i think if a good friend is letting someone bully you around thats not right. Real friends would atleast say ease up on her dont be so mean . Im sure if she got to know you she'd like you.Most girls who are bullys and say mean things to you are jealous of you and want to be like you or would want to be your friend , but there way of acting as if there better then u when infact there the ones who are the loser. They act like there the sh*t.I think you need to talk to your friend , and then tell all your friends to accept the friend you have because shes been the only good friend to you at this point. You shouldnt have to choose your friends because other friends dont like um. Im sorry but that is childish and its sad when the principle has to get involed. tell them they need to grow up . if the principle isnt doing anything , you can go to the cops for harassment , i've done it before and get a restraining order put agianst the girl. That way she cant talk to you , and if she does she'll get arrested and sadly sometimes it has to lead to that because teenage girls are dumb sometimes. Your not doing anything wrong. Just keep your head high and know you better then that .
Ok, last week my 3 friends and I got in a fight, them vs. me. It kinda sucked cause i was like, definatly on my own and no one coul dback me up on anything, so we arent talking, none of us. And I want to talk to them so bad I just cant because I dont think they even like me anymore. One of those 3 friends was like my friend since 3rd grade so I see her as a BFFFFFFF. And shes the one who doesnt even want to TRY to make it work again. She even told me that we should just give up and that we arent gonna be best friends again. Hmm. what do i DO?
Well it does kinda depend on what the fight was about. try and talk to her , if that doesnt work give her time to chill , im sure she'll relize how much she misses you as friend. SOmetimes peopel say those things , but they end up forgiving you and misses each other. try a talk.
Im sure you to can rebuild a friendship , it may take sometime but im sure u can work through it. Even if u dont hun , its her loss , because people like that arent worth being friends with.
mDezzy--->
one of my best friends ever is friends w/ my enemy ((lets call her sam))! no one in our skewl likes sam except for my friend because she lies, shes a slut nd a bitch!! its one thing when youre excluded w/ yur bbf! its another when the person who took yur place is your enemy! wut can i do? how can i make her understand?
the best way to handle it is to tell her how you feel about it.You need to just tell her. Dont not say anything to her cuz then she will not understand. If i was in your shoes i'd tell her listen i really dont like that girl. But if your friend likes her and your her friend you will still be her friend. Some friends as you get older are friends with people you dont like and u have to suck it up and understand that they like other people too . Its a pretty crappy thing and believe me i've felt the same way you had , so just tell her how you feel sometimes that helps . I hope i didnt say anything that sounded like i offended you . *mDezzy---->
My friend is so annoying ive been dating this boy Josh for a week or so and she flirts with him in maths becuase she sits next to him. She does it on purpose then going on websites in lessons and searches for love metres then types "Abbie" then "Josh" and then she calculates it and i say to her "Omg you fancy my boyfriend" and she is like no i was just wondering what %'age it would come up i was like yeah BallS**** its so annoying every boy i like SHE likes and the MOST ANNOYING THING IS she can get anyone she wants. She has everyone and just flaunts it right in my face when she is ment to be my "Best friend" and when ever i confront her she gets her older sister on me and stuff and goes round the school spreading rumoours bout me and josh and stuff so no one likes me. Then i tell her to p off and get out my life then she follows me and my girls just b/c she is on her larry i hate her i seriously wish she wernt invented!
Shes not your friend if shes doing that to you. She wants what you have sounds like.But if shes going to run to her sister thats so mature. thats about 2nd grade bullcrap. you need to ditch her ,, shes not worth the time.Friends dont do that crap to each other. there are better friends then that . *mDezzy
i hav a crush on mi best friend wat should i do?
I had a similar deal. My friend though liked me. a lot . He told me , you should maybe tell them how you feel and how your starting to like them. Thats only way you know something can happen. *Mdezzy*
I have a friend and she is one of my best freinds and she is really nice when hanging around me but when she starts hanging out with one of these popular girls at school she starts calling people retards and idiots and gay. we hate this one girl at school and we talk about her because she gets on our nerves. after that, the next day right after she has talked about her she goes behind my back and hangs out with her how do i get to know if she goes behind my back and talks about me and just hangs around me because she wants to tell people what i say and stuff that i do????
Most of the time if a friend says things about someone and hangs out with the person they ran there mouth about then , they probley do it to all there friends. She probley is that type of person , a person who talks about other people and her friends to make her self feel better.
i'm currently a senior in high school (counting down the last few days before graduation!) and over the last year, i've met an incredible friend. i met him last august, but over the last nine months, we have grown to have the most complex friendship i have ever had in my entire life; we immediately connected, both having similar interests in literature, music, opera, coffee, etc. he is a year younger than i am, thus when i leave for college, he will be in his last year of high school.
he is currently going through a lot of emotional pain and stress in his life. i admire him him so much for all he does; his parents have just recently separated and he takes care of his two younger sister. i see how he takes charge, takes on more responsibilities than either of his parents do. in addition, he has grown to be an extremely central part of my life.
i'm going to be a good five hours away from my friend next year. he isn't very close with many other kids in our school, or even outside of school, thus i know our separation is going to hurt him (as well as me!). i keep telling him i'm going to come back and visit, that i want to see him and i'm looking forward to seeing him in the school musical next year.. he insists that once i'm gone, i'm not going to come back; he insisted the other day he feels as though he is inferior to me (which i don't understand, considering he is extremely smart, did much better on his sats than i ever did, and has a musical gift).
i have seen how he has lost a lot of people in his life; he refrains from expressing much emotion around me because i believe he is afraid to let me in, afraid of losing me.. how can i assure him that i will keep in touch, that i will come back, that he won't lose me? i tell him constantly that he means to much to me, that he is unlike anyone i have ever met.. but i fear i tell him too often and it all sounds so fake..
Well its hard for someone to believe what you say , so i say to him you'll see. Call him keep in touch with him ,make some suprise stop bys . Tell him 5 hours isnt that long and tell him how he means to you , and you wouldnt want to lose him .
this is driving me crazy...all my friends have bf's besides me..yet im not the prettiest girl in the world..but every where i go someone says something about their bf's or how they hate being single..and i am 15 and never had a bf...can someone help me?
Dating is a hard.SPecially when your friends are all dating and your not. I had that same problem . Are you a shy person ?Maybe you should try and open up more and be more noticed. You dont have to be the prettiest girl in the world to have a boyfriend. Believe me on that. YOur prince will come .