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the names Kassidy. im 16. i go to freedom high. i love running. && hanging out with my friends. oh... im VERY loud. but a FUN loud. not bad loud. : ] yeah...i definatly have blonde momentstm. but its okay cause people still love me anyways so everything is GRAND. [ha] well hopefully you love me too. ;) kaythanksbye!
p.s. im good with any advice so ask me anything or ill just help ya out!

you can take the blonde to the ranch, but you cant take the bikini off the blonde.

♥KASSIDY






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ok i'm gonna make this short a few of my freinds said come an play football i sed no i gotta revise (this was all done over teamspeak *microphone voice chat for pc*) then i said i nearlly done i might be able to come out now and he said i wouldnt bother it would be un-even teams then he just leaves saying i'm off out as if he doesnt want me there ¬_¬ not only did it hurt a bit but i also know he does it without knowing *i think* so what to say to something rejecting? without being harsh back just letting him know what he's doing.
(by the way only used football as an example hate it really ;) lol)

Say '(Name) I would like to be honest with you, I have been feeling left out, and I would like to be included (in whatever it may be)...is that ok?'
Something like that. they will understand, it really is all about being honest with yourself and others, if you dont tell people that, how else are they supposed to read your mind? they dont know how you are doing at the moment, so speak up and tell them how you feel when you are being rejected!
♥ KASSIDY

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So, I never realized this until today, but my world is changing so fast. My best friend doenst go to my school anymore, my worst enemy returned to my school, my other best friend is moving half way across the country, & i feel lik all my other friends and the rest of the world is moving on without me. I've been crying for the last hour because i feel lik the world is moving to fast and im just not ready for it all. I feel lik all of my friends are changing and growing up so im thinkin i should start changing too but the problem is i just dont want to. I'm so confused, please help

sometimes, you just have to hit the pause button on the world and think about yourself and whats really going on inside with you. that has happened to me, im just like WOW i cant beleive that went by so fast until it suddenly became known to me. You need to be in control of your life, and take the PRESENT and be in there rather than the future, or the past. You might realize your focusing on one thing, when your missing out on other things. Have some alone time for you, just you! Take a brisk walk, and let it all out, you will be caught up in the moment again. But now you just need to catch up on what has happened and let all your emotions flow right out of you. Your growing up, and have just realized that. I know to the exact. I'm in high school, and I'm like omg im going to be graduating in a couple of years and I dont want to go because I have missed out on certain stuff in school already. Live in the present! Thats what I have learned the most!!
♥ KASSIDY

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i was walking up the stairs today with some of my guy friends when one was like, "melissa(me) bryan's looking at your butt". guys say that stuff alot but for some reason this time i just got tongue-tied. do you think he was? what can i say back to that kind of stuff when guys say it to me? like what is something i can say jokingly? and any other input?

im pretty sure he was looking at your butt. guys check you out and they obviousely dont want you to notice that. but your friend did. so next time someone notices him checking you out or you notice. say "Do I look like a grocery item to you?? I see you checking me out!!"
its flirty and jokingly so yea guys check out girls a lot, its a compliment..learn to love it!! =)
♥ KASSIDY

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people say don't JUDGE a book by it's cover then why do FIRST impressions mean so much?

My history teacher always said "First impressions are always your last impression" which is true. But really we never actually see the person inside. We see how they are on the outside like what they look like but not how they truely are. People judge people mostly by the way we look. Because thats like the first thing we notice when we see new people or meet. Its what first comes into our minds. Not like "oh this person's personality is bright" like you cant notice that you have to actually know the person in order for you to know that. But since you may look at a book and think that BOOK is just a boring book, or love, or disgusting kind of book. You have to actually read the book and it takes some time to know what its about. Same goes for a person in first impressions. Hope I helped. And next time you see a book pick it up and read what its about, lol dont even think about looking at the cover. You never know what you may think! :)
♥ KASSIDY

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About a bit over a month ago, me and my friends met lots of new people. They're really great but I'm so shy around them, and find it hard to approach them. One of my best mates has the same problem, but another one is absolutely fine and is really confident with them. One of the girls has starting joking about how quiet me and my friend are, but it's just that I'm shy, I don't want to be known as 'the quiet girl'.

How can I overcome my shyness? Are there any things like visualisations or anything like that that can help you get over it? Or anything else?

Please help, xxx

Be yourself. If you are constantly trying to hold your true personality in, it can be difficult to feel comfortable around other people. Face the fear that is bothering you. Smiling is a good way to start, and shouldn't be too embarassing. A small smile in the direction of a stranger may just brighten your day, and will brighten theirs, too! When you're prepared, you can try speaking to new people, using a light, friendly attitude. Be yourself! Find situations where you know you feel comfortable. Surround yourself with friends or others who bring out the best in you, and build up your confidence through them. Eventually, this will translate to other, more uncomfortable situations.
♥ KASSIDY

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i'll make this short (13/f)
one of my guy friends (goes to a different school) and i are really close. we met in camp a few years ago and we were friends since. for the past 2 years i didn't go to camp with him, but we stayed in touch. now he admits to liking me, but i don't exactly feel the same way. i care about him a lot, and i think i'm afraid that it will ruin our close friendship. should i give it a go? or stay true to my feelings (i'm not even sure if i like him)?
help is highly appreciated.

no i really dont think you should. because realtionships with people who go to different schools really do suck. even though you guys sound very close. i wouldnt give it even a shot. just be friends for now. tell him its nice that you have feelings for me but in the future we are good friends. because just think along down the road when you guys are going out theres going to be a "hard to deal" with long distant. then you break up its difficult and then find it hard to even to remain friends. so please just trust me I would go for your gut since you exactly DO NOt feel the same way about him. dont force yourself into liking him just because he has strong feelings for you. it will be better in the long run if you guys remain friends. =)
♥ KASSIDY

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19 f
ok so ive recently gotten a boyfriend and hes really special to me. I also have my friends. theyve both met but thats pretty much it. I feel bad if i go out with him and leave my friend out yet on the other hand were in our first stages of still getting to know each other. I dont want her to be mad at me...ahh any advice would help thanks!

there are some other possibilities that you can do. maybe invite your friends to come along with your boyfriend( his friends 2 if you like) and it could be more fun to go in a big group, and maybe less awkward in some cases. that way your friend wont be so mad at you. then other days you 2 can go out alone and tell your friend that its OK to go out.
♥ KASSIDY

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I want a friend who i see all the time and hang around with mostly and not sometimes i mean all the time and i cant see most of my friends that arent that close
But i want a friend who i see all the time

Try to have your weekend plans figured out in advance.
Hang around people who like to have fun and go places, it's hard to have fun with people who never want to do anything. Try hanging out with more out-going people. See if your friends are doing anything. Go out of your ways to help people, maybe that friend might just come along. Call a friend. Think of a special friend whom you really admire, love, and just is always fun to be around. Then start haning and talking to her more. Tell her a compliment you just love.
be willing to make conversation with anyone, don't limit who you talk to. Invite people along even if you don't know them well. Be more friendly, then one day or soon you might just find that friend (BFFE) you were looking for all along!!
♥ KASSIDY

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