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me and one of my guy friends have been friends for like, 4 years and everyone always says we should go out. we always laugh it off and say that we never would because were just friends but the more i think about it the more i kind of get what everyone is saying. we get along really well and our personalities to match up pretty good but i have that lame fear that if we go out that we wont be friends if it doesnt work. i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him. i want to try it out and date him but i dont know if hes thinking what i am and i dont know how to tell. were like best friends and everyone thinks we like each other or that were flirting or that were already going out. thanks soooo much (link)
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I hope you know that confessing your true feelings to a FRIEND can only bring two things: It's either you gain a boyfriend, or you lose a friend.(this is what I keep on telling people in the same boat as you....)
That's the truth.
What hurts even more is the 'fact' that things won't really go back to the way they used to be.
That's just the way it is.
If you want to take the risk, go on. But it's like gambling...you're uncertain of what the result will be...
So you better be wise in your decision....
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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i have a friend who enjoys making me feel bad about stuff i have no control over. She likes this kid who absolutely can't stand her because she's clingy (i'm not trying to be mean, but i just thought its good to include every detail) she's absolutely in love with him and if he doesn't answer her on AIM she freaks out with the "are you mad at me? what'd i do" etc. He doesn't like her, but he does like me, and i like him. And she just can't accept it.(i sounded like a bitch, but i didn't mean to) Well he and i talk and may date, and she's always saying things like "i don't see why you talk to him, he's an asshole, if i were you i would have given up on him" and then she tries to make me feel bad or something by saying "i really like him, but there's nothing i can do, he likes you.. it's because i'm ugly...i just wish i had someone like you do" and stuff and i don't know how to politely tell her to shut up about it already. i mean, she just is always such a downer and i just can't take it anymore! i want to be friends with her and everything, but not if shes gonna be obsessed with him and always jealous/angry or whatever. (link)
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Real friends aren't supposed to pull you Down-- they should lift you up.
I think your friend is one heck of an INSECURE gal..... That's why she's trying to pull you down. Oh, and she's a good hypocrite, too. Sorry if that's kinda mean but it's the truth. She's trying to sound pathetic just so you would just leave the guy to her. Well actually she's really pathetic.
It's already up to you if you still wanna put up with a "friend" who constantly pulls you down or not.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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I`m going to start out by saying this will be long, but thanks so much to anyone who reads this all and helps me out.
I have this best friend, Casey. Words cannot descibe how much of a bff she is to me. She knows everything about me, and always knows what I`m about to say. Were with each other 24/7 and we hardly fight. She`s practicly my sister, we do everything together.
A week ago, she got this new boyfriend, this guy that I didn't like before she started dating him. His name is Nick, he`s 12, shes 13. Casey is a virgin, he isn`t. They`ve already done sexual stuff together and its their first stupid week together.
Last night I was hanging out with both of them and Nick lit up a ciggarrette, and exchanged some pot with another older guy. He offered us both some, Casey would have taken some, but didn't when she saw how mad I got. We were way back on the golf cart paths somewhere, and it was raining, I didn`t want to be in the situation so I started crying and ran away. I was lost along the paths cause I had no clue where I was. Casey didn`t follow me, even though she promised me earlier if I wanted to leave she would come with me. Nick chased after me, blew smoke all over me, and burned me with his ciggarette to make fun of me. I ended up calling Jordan, my other best guy friend, he and his mom drove 45 minutes back into the woods to pick me up only to find I was stained with the smell of ciggarrets, and crying all alone, cause I knew my best friend was slipping away. I don`t know what to do, she used to be a good girl, she never would have done any of this. Now she won`t listen to me, at all, she said she`ll never accept any of the drugs, but I know she will, she almost took them last night and she told me "they were no big deal" She got mad at me when I left cause I was being "immature and embarrassing her" When my dad picked me up, after Jordan dropped me off at her house, he smelt me and now he thinks I`m a smoker, and won`t belive that it wasn`t me. What should I do? PLEASE PLEASE guys, I`m really upset, I`m losing her, please. (link)
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First of all, your friend is the one who's acting immature.... NOT you....
I really want to say that you should probably just cut your friendship with her, But NOW is NOT the time to do so....
Why?you might ask.....
It's because at times like this that you should be there for your friend.
When your friends take the wrong direction, you should always be there to guide them back to the Right track.
It seems to me like your friend's boyfriend is a bad influence. Oh, and not only a bad influence, he's such a jerk, too.
Talk to your friend about this stuff because she needs ENLIGHTENMENT so bad......
You wouldn't want your friend to take the wrong direction, right?!
But if she starts acting like a jerk, too, then maybe it's time to THINK things over.
As for your dad, you can tell him that some stupid jerk blew smoke all over you and that you would never smoke in your entire life.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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iight I'm a guy and I have this bestfriend which is a girl. And in this friendship is like no other friendship. She gets jealous when I talk to girls and vice versa. We have arguments everyday like we're a real couple. I'm confused, are there hidden feelings or what is going on? (link)
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From my point of view, i think there are hidden feelings somwhere.....
You know, love is territorial. And with the way she's behaving, she definitely has feelings for you.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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Mike was one of my best guy friends. Our relationship together was going really good,and nothing was akward. I know that he used to have the hotts for me but i never felt the same way. Well as time went on i started to like the guy, and made the mistake of telling him. When he found out everything between us became akward. Now he has a girl friend and we havent talked in about two months!! Ok im going crazy! What the heck did i do wrong! or what can i do to make things normal between us again? (link)
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I've been witness to that kinda thing a lot of times already-- my friends telling my Other friends that they fell in love with him/her. And you know what I learned?
There are only two things that can happen-- it's either you gain a Boyfriend, or you lose a Friend.
It seldom happens that things will be back to 'normal' after that, really.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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So..there's this gurl & i guess we're " best friends" well like 1 min. she'll be fine w/ you and then the next she goes crazy and talks behind ur back and says all this crap about you that's not true!
I don't know what to do because i thought we were friends...?
Confused. (link)
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The way I look at it, she is NOT a REAL friend. I don't know why you even call her a FRIEND.
Real friends Never, as in NEVER, mess up with their friends' lives, especially behind their back.
Gather your thoughts and think if you want to continue your so-called 'friendship' with this so-called "FRIEND" of yours.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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Im goig to a new school next year with my best friend, she is great and ive known her forever, but im a fraid that if i hang out w/ her alot that, i wont make alot of new friends. plz help!!! (link)
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Why are you afraid that you won't make other friends if you hang out with your bestfriend a lot? Is she sort of a "hindrance"? Is she possesive? Isn't she happy when you hang out with other people? If not, what are you Really afraid of?!?!
You said that she's been your bestfriend for like, Forever. And it seems to me like you are gonna Ditch your BESTFRIEND just so you can make Other friends.
Can't you befriend other people with her around?
Let me tell you a bit of my own story: I have a really wide circle of friends and I even have TWO bestfriends.Take note: my two b f's aren't that close to each other. It's just that the other one came in first than the other.
I don't know why you're scared that you wouldn't be able to make other friends with your bestfriend around cuz hey, I didn't have any problem befriending other people considering that I have two b f's.
Hope I helped you a lil' bit.
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okay...is it at all possible to feel as if you are totally in love with someone and then for a little while not feel as strongly and then a few days later feel in love again??....yea weird...i know but idk...
~thanks!
-Rosemarie (link)
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Honestly, I don't think it's really love that you're feeling right now; i think it's just a "case-of infatuation-mistaken-for-love".
That has happened to me a gazillion times already--you know, thinking I already love this guy and everything but then when i REALLY THINK of it, I realize that it's just infatuation or sometimes just a plain Crush!!!!
Hope I helped you a lil' bit!
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i have a really hard time meeting people. and when i do meet someone, i don't leave a good impression. they either forget who i am or they don't like me. is there any way to make better first impressions? (link)
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The easiest way to get friends is through SMILING. A lot. When you smile at people, they'll think that you are approachable and friendly.
Then, strike up a conversation. Being a good conversationalist takes quite some time but you can definitely learn how to be one! I know it's a cliche but having self confidence really helps. Practice having a nice and sensible conversation with a close friend first, if you want. Then start doing this with other people. Being a good conversationalist also means being a good listener. Listen to what the other person has to say and avoid interrupting the person when he/she is speaking. The rule is to listen as much as you speak.
I hope I helped you a lil' bit! ;)
Have fun creating new friends!
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