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I'm BLAiR, Im a SENi0R this year, Finally! I have waited 4 years for this! I would like to say I'm enjoying it, but I think its one of my most challenging years yet. Im so excited to go off to college and meet new people. I hope to go to aTm! I love polkadots and duckies too. I have been through a lot with guys and relationships so shoot!
NO QUESTION IS STUPID!
♥BLAiR

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(Sorry, this is long) Well I'm going through a tough time right now. I feel like I've lost MANY friends that I've once loved. It seems like they've left me and they don't even care about me anymore. I only have like a lil true friends, and the one that was probably the truest has left me and I miss her. I dunno what happened, how, and why. It's too much to explain, but I can't help but to feel depressed a lot. So the main point is that I've lost like a lot of friends and even though I have some true friends, I can't stand them sometimes. My one friend that was like my bestest friend ever has moved on, and I just don't get why. Some of my friends I don't get to see that much anymore, and I don't hang out with people like I used to last year. Some of my friends have stopped calling or don't call as much as they used to. I know this is lame and overrated, and shouldn't matter, but I'm sure that last year, I would've been very high in some of my friends' top friends on Myspace. And they would've been high on mine too. Now, I'm like VERY low on there's. There are even people who are BARELY their friends that are higher than me! They barely even know eachother when I've known them longer and know a whole bunch about them. I've always been there for them. All my friends I have come to love are now the people I hate the most. And the people who have stolen my friends, I become jealous of them and hate them. One moment I can think they are kewl and nice, but the next, I just hate them. The first semester of my school has ended and I've been living my life as a lie for the whole semester. I hate being two-faced, but I think it's the only way I can survive. Everything has changed. I feel so unloved. This other person (I guess you can say she's kinda my friend), but our b-days were on the same day. She got like a ton of comments on Myspace (maybe even more and maybe including emails) with people saying Happy B-day and stuff. I didn't get much though. Not many people told me Happy B-day. :'[ Even the people who I expected to leave me comments didn't. Barely anyone noticed or cared. That's how it seems. Last Christmas (when I had awesome friends), I got Christmas + B-day presents. This year I didn't really get anything. Some people who I was growing more distant with got me presents last year. (I was surprised that one certain person got me a present(s). I just felt so awesome and loved when that happened, and when I got the presents I did.) Now they didn't and they changed even more. I really miss them. I miss the old friendships I had with everyone. All the friends I was friends first at the beginning of the year have pretty much changed and now I'm not really friends with them anymore. I feel very unloved. It feels like most of my friends don't even care about me anymore. I know what some of you might say. I can't get ove the past. I can't forget them. I also can't "dump" my backstabbing friends cause I still care about them and miss them. Even though I sorta hated them, I still was there for them when they were sad and stuff. I don't think I have the guts to confront them either. I feel like even if they did know that I felt like this, all they would do is say sorry and move on. I've been friends with these people FIRST and then they forget about me and love their "other" friends that they haven't known for a long time. I'm not sure if they even remember the good old days. They don't really talk to me anymore, when last year they talked to me A LOT. I feel like I have to impress them and stuff. My friends who have moved on have now changed, like I don't even recognize them anymore. They've changed who they are, to impress their friends. I hate seeing my friends hang out with these fake people. I have everything to offer, while others can only offer a lil. Please don't hate me for saying this, but my friend who was more interested in the girly/preppy-ish styles, was still friends with me, even though I was more interested in the punk/emo-ish styles. That was last year though. All her friends are more like girly girls and preps now. I'm not being stereotypical to all preps, but the ones who are friends with my "ex friend" are annoying. It's not fair. (yes, I know, not everything is fair.) I thought things were going great. Until after summer everyone seemed to change. These certain people that I was thinking about when I was typing this were like my BFFL EVER. Now we're just good aquaintances or something. Last year we talked about how we wanted to be in a lot of classes together and how excited we were to be in a lot of classes together. Now I'm in EVERY class with one of my friends, but she doesn't care. How could I be at the "top" but then be at the "bottom" so quickly? I'm so depressed. I feel so useless and I feel like I wanna die. I hope you guys understand what I'm talking about. I hope I'm not forgetting anything either, and that I said everything I wanted. Any advice? =\

I went through/am going through the same kinda thing right now. Im a senior in highschool and just this year my bestfriend since 6th grade,we dont talk anymore. due to a letter I wrote her about how I felt, but it easily could have been fixed. She said I have changed and whatnot. Its true people change and theres nothing you can do. I have done everything I can think of but theres nothing I CAN do. Im hoping she'll come around and hopefully before its too late. Im trying to be the good person by praying for her and stuff and supporting her still, but its hard everyday. I think about it and cry. I know exactly where you are coming from, there are days when I think why am I still here, Whats the purpose of me suffering everyday. But whatever doesnt kill you, only makes you stronger. I know next semester Im going to keep to myself and really focus on school work. How old are you? Get a job to take things off of your mind, and if you are lucky enough you can have one like I do wiht amazing people. Hope I helped in some sort of way =/
♥BLAiR

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my last day before christmas break is friday and i need to buy christmas presents for 4 friends (all girls) im on a tight budget and wan to get something REALLy nice(considering i only have 100$ and still havent bought presents for my mom dad and sister). please give me any and all ideas!! thanks

Well lets see: Friends: You could bake brownies and make bracelets and put those together, something small but meaningful. You could get pictures of yall developed and printed and put them in cute frames. You could bake cookies and get like $5 starbucks giftcards.
For mom and dad: mom you could get her like a little bath set (wal-mart), bubble bath ( my mom loves bubble bath), candles with a pretty holder. Hmm and Dad I'm not sure about. Does he like coffee? (starbucks gift cards). Does he like to read? (a book) I'll tell you what I'm getting my dad: Since I give him a lot of cards and he has many hes collected from everyone over the years, Im going to put them into a scrapbook kind of thing and he wants pictures for his office, so I got a really pretty frame that holds 2 pictures and im going to put my senior picture and dance pitcture.
Hope I was of some sort of help! =]
♥BLAiR

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I just found out that my best friend's dad passed away today. I knew that he had some kind of cancer and she'd been visiting him in the hospital for some time now, I also know that she did NOT get along with him. I never met him because he lived in SC and her and her mom lived in NC. (they weren't divorced, it's actually kind of confusing) Anyway, I'm just not too sure what to say to her. We've been friends longer than I can remember and I know this must be tough for her. I've had some friends pass away, but the only family I've had pass away was my great grandmother and my sister- I was young when my great grandmother passed away and I wasn't even born yet when my sister passed away, so I don't know everything she's going through.

I was just wondering if anyone here lost a parent and what others said to you that was comforting.

I plan on telling here that I'm here for her no matter where I am or what time it is, and I will be there, but somehow that just doesn't seem like enough... I don't know, I'm just looking for some advice on what I can say and what would be comforting. Thanks in advance.

This happened to one of my friends, 2 actually, i think you are on the right track saying im going to be here for you, if you ever need to call me or to talk im just a call away kinda thing. i think its best if you dont say oh im sorry blahddy blahddy blah because that just reminds them over and over and other people are going to do that. you are going to want to be right there, but she might just need a little space, just talk to her and see. =)
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i graduated high school last year (2005) i have been with the same friends all through high school, but once i graduated i started hanging out with a totally different group of people. my highschool chums tried to stop it but it couldn't be stopped, ive bin hanging out with my new friends for the past 2 years, but a few months ago my high school friends started calling me again and stuff. my new friends are ok with me hanging out with them, but i keep turning them down, i would feel weird hanging out with people i just left without saying why, im afraid if i do they will just outcast me and keep asking why i left their group. i want to start talking and hanging out with them again, but how should i do it? i really dont know what to do.. please help

just start out slow and work your way up! call one of them and be like "hey you want to hang out? go to a movie or something and catch up?" and just see how it goes and let me know. also i really dont think your "new"friends would have a problem with it (like you said) it just takes you warming up to the idea! =)
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(16/f)
alright so me and this girl have been the best of friends since 1st grade. we were seriously inseperable up until about a month and a half ago. i think she has changed so much. for the first time we started partying and we met some new friends over spring break. well now she has been skipping school..shes failing the 10th grade. she doesnt do any work..she did have a problem with drinking but then she quit drinking as much. she yells at her parents and cusses them out if they ask her to help around the house. well lately its like i cant stand her. at first i like this guy alot and i started talking to him first but then he started liking her cause she was flirting with him constantly and they started hanging out and she made out with him and she knew that i really really liked him. she flirts with every guy that comes along. my other friend liked a guy and my best friend did stuff with him. on top of all that its like if i say something stupid she blows up on me and says "fuck you" and cusses me out even more. it seems like everyday we get into a small argument. like today.. we were in the lunch line and my friend asked how this guy we know found out about her and another guy and i said " well she might have told him" and my best friend blew up on me saying "i didnt fucken tell him so dont go blaming shit on me..you fucking always say and ask stupid shit" its like i cant stand her anymore. i dont want to lose her as a friend but i seriously think i am starting to hate her. and im not the only one that feels like this. 3 of her other friends feel the same way. what should i do?!?!?!? ILL RATE HIGH

Eeek. im sorry to hear this, i think the best thing is maybe try and take a break from her for a little while. ask yourself is this someone you really want to be involved with, and does a true friend treat someone that way? you could also try to talk to her and maybe she will open up to you, because im thinking something is bothering her and causing her to act out. =)
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So like my BFF is like totally in love with her BF who she has been totally obsessing about for practically 5 years but starting going out about 5 months and a half ago and I like totally really like this guy to. The problem is you know he is like going out with my BFF. My BFF thinks I like hate her BF. Which is so not true. I've been talking on my cellphone with her BF since May because my BFF wants her BF and I to get along. At first we didn't like each other at all because of a past situation like way back in elementary. But all summer we talked and I like totally like this dude now. He has been telling me that he is planning to break up with my BFF and she is so excited about their 6 month anniversary and she has like the whole weekend planned which is in like 2 weeks. He plans to break up with her soon, like before then. I know he likes me a lot, but he also likes my BFF, but he likes me more because he says he can tell me anything and that I am a great listener, that I like really understand him. Don't get me wrong he totally likes my BFF but he doesn't think they are right together. Should I tell me BFF about the break up? or should I let i hit her when it comes and during the mean time soften her up about him. Do I tell her I like him before or after? Or not at all? Should I chance going out with him when my BFF is totally in love with him? Help!

wow girl that is a question right there. i cant really tell you what to do cept tell you that chicks before dicks. friends are for life, boyfriends are temporary. really it never lasts...unless you are older and ready to get married ...ya know? i have just read a book on relationships. it says if he will do it FOR you he will do it TO you. this means if he breaks up with ur BFF for you...he will end up breaking up with you for another girl. do you get it? i dunno if i was you i would just let the break up happen...then maybe 2 weeks tell her you have a crush on him...adn see what she says about you going out with him oor something...im sorry girl im no help am i? im sorry but i try. if you want more just drop one again.
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Hey advice-giving people! I have this friend who acts like I should be devoted to him and I should have no other friends beside him since I've known him since pre-k. Ok, well, one of my other friends, Jessica, asked me to go to the beach with her and I said sure because well.. the beach ROCKS! But anyways.. We told John Ross (the obsessive friend) not to tell Brittany (our other friend) because we knew it would make her mad at us. Ok, well he went & told her & it made her mad. He's ALWAYS doing stuff like that. How do I tell him to shut the freak up without losing him as a friend?

tell him whatever u say to him stays between you and him
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okay ive been friends with this guy for a little over a year. i dont like him like that this isnt about that. well we got into a fight bcuz his girlfriend told him i said all these bad things about him. thats not true. he wont take my messages he wont even talk to me. his girlfriend totally ruined our friendship. i wanna no how i can get into his head that i didnt say those things and his girlfriend just said that.

PLEEEEEEEEEEEZ help!! ill rate 5s for good help

well u know the saying friends come before girlfriends or boyfriends? well tell him that say u'll be here after shes long gone...now who are u gonna trust?
hope i helped!

♥BLAiR

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i cant decide whether i should ask this girl that i like for her number, i know she kind of likes me back, but im nervous that i may be pressuring her and i dont want to screw up anything between me and her. i know it would be best if i waited a while before i asked her, but i really want to now...

hahaha...im not saying anything...u decide for urself

...if its kevin. lol
orrr ill feel stupid

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hey when my friend is on her period and she keeps telling me to do stuff forher and her excuses is always " I am on my perios and i dont feel good" and i cant help but do it for her cause i am just that good of a friend. Should i tell her to do it her damn self or keep on being a good friend?

u shouldnt have to do everything for her...does she do it for you? i just say do it ur own damn self!

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a guy friend says u look sexy or u look cute, or good in a particular outfit does that mean he likes u??

well it could means he likes u...in my case it did...but then again he could just be saying WOW u look really nice or something...ya know?

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