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Ok. I am going to a new school this September called South County. I'm leaving my old school and all my good friends there. So, the last day of school, in the afternoon, my friend called me a b****. And I found out. :( She called me that cause I was mad at her for all of a sudden being so sensitive towards me and what i had in my profile. For 3 weeks, she would IM and start harassing me and asking questions that would just get to you, like: you left our school, cause of us didnt you? you hate us! those 8 years i had together with you were all wasted". So i got a new sn and didnt tell anyone at that school. she would go on my xanga and start bugging me again. so i called her to settle it. and we did. but i didnt trust her cause one night i got on my old sn and this girl and my friend were talking behind my back. like starting rumors about me saying that i hate everyone from my old school and naming my other people and what i said abut them. and i didnt say anything like that! helppp!!!

i think you should talk this out with your old friends. ask them why they thought you were leaving them because you hated them; and tell them that it isn't true. if they hear it from your own voice, they should believe it. and if they don't... go ahead and tell them why it isn't true. explain to them the facts that say you didn't have a choice. if these friends aren't going to the new school, tell them you'll miss them. let them know that you still do care about them, and that you can still keep in touch. in the meantime, have a great time at South County... make some new friends. but try not to act like you're totally ignoroing your old ones. let me know how this works out.

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my friends are changing... theres 2 groups i hang out with, preps and my other friends, when i go to middle school do u think they would change and the preps don't like my other friends but they are all my friends, what should i do?? should i just not be friends with one of them??

plz answer!

you can be friends with a million people, as long you're true to all of them. it doesn't matter if the groups get along... they may argue, but it's not your fault at all. i doubt one group will slowly transform into the other and they'll easily just start to get along, but it could happen. you could even try to help them get to know eachother yourself... just don't push it. start by simply asking, "how do you feel about (other group's name)?" take it slow, but stay friends with both of them no matter what.

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My friend is going preppy, and she's not talking to me anymore... I guess she doesn't like me, but she told me that she was gonna invite me to her b-day party but she didn't then she told me that she was gonna invite me to the end of the year one... And she didn't invited me. Should i talk to her or what should i do?

is this the same person who asked the same question a few days ago?
whether or not it is... i'll still say that it really is your choice if you still want to be friends with her, talk to her, anything. you're right; if she promised you that you would be invited and she broke the promise, that's not much of a friend to me. then again, it wouldn't hurt to ask her about it; she could have a good reason. again... it's your choice.

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Heyy....Well lets start like this... this gurl in mi class (im in 7th grade n a gurl) is well was reely nice n she said she would invite me to this party cas i helped with it a lil but then she didnt so then i thought she woold invite to her end of the yeer party n then she didnt again! She was really nice n she use to be so caring n stuff but now she turned into a prep n shes not nice anymore... should I still even talk to this gurl?? Shes gettin annoyin n stuff so i dunno wut I shoold do.....

hmm... if you really don't like her, it's your choice to still speak to her or not. it's pretty bad that she didn't invite you to either party, but maybe it's just cus you guys have grown apart since she told you you would be there. there are always reasons. otherwise, you can always try finding a more loyal friend

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(continued from you last question)...but he wont understand...if I say I dont wanna go wit him he wiuld take it all personally and then would hate me. and i dont want him to hate just because of a stupid dance.

explain to him all that you can your reason you don't want to go with him. he's your friend. he should truly understand. if you really really wanna keep him, go to the dance with him. it's not like it's a bad thing to go with your best friend. best friends can make great couples, but if you're just not ready, tell him that. let him know.

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A guy asked me to the dance. And now he said he doesnt want to go with me. How mean....but he still says he might ask me again later....i dont want to go with him anymore cause he might say i dont wanna go wit u anymore....but he is one of my best frinds....what should i do?

if he's your best friend, there must be a good reason about why he didn't want to ask you out anymore. if you really don't want to go out with him because of that, don't. make your own decision. if he's your best friend, he'll understand.

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I went to a party and played seven minutes in heaven. I had to do it with my best frind. It was amazing! He is the best kisser I know. He asked me out. And I wanna say yes...but I have a boyfriend. Should I say no to my best Friend(I think we could have a really good relationship goin out) or should I dump my boyfrind?

well, it depends who you feel more comforatble with. if you've been together with your boyfriend for a long time and don't want to part with him, maybe wait until that dies down to hook up with the other guy. but if your best friend is your perfect match, which could be true since you were already friends, then you COULD dump your boyfriend, but do it carefully without being rude or anything. also, don't get together with your best friend RIGHT after you break up with your boyfriend, because he'll probably need time to get over it, ya know? i'd suggest you don't tell your boyfriend that you're dumping him to see someone else. that'd most likely break his heart. be nice about it. =]

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My best friend has a crush on me....i sorta like him as more than a friend but i am not sre....what should i do?

think about this. are you ready to be in a relationship? are you comfortable spending time with your best friend in a closer way? sometimes people can feel queasy about having best friends has boyfriends or girlfriends. if you're one of those people, let him know how you feel. since he's your best friend, he'll totally understand that you're not ready. but if you really do like him, and if he's a great friend, then chances are he can be a great boyfriend, too.

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me and my friends are ALWAYS getting in fights. And everytime it is ALWAYS my fault(even if I wasnt fighting)It is REALLY starting to get on my nerves. I really try and work things out and tell them I wasnt even involved but they just get madder. What should I do?
Blamed

dear Blamed, if you weren't the one fighting, it must not really be your fault. you should explain to your friends why it isn't. if that doesn't work, catch them in a good mood and talk to them about it, and don't let go of the situation. if they start talking about a different subject, get right back to your point. hopefully they'll understand how you feel being locked in the middle, and might even stop fighting so often. also, try not to get into those fights by not getting bossy, too demanding, or bad-tempered. hope it works out!

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ok well i have a boyfriend and ALL my friends tell me how ugly he is....and i no he isn't the nicest thing to look at but i don't care about his looks...i only care about how he treats me and how he acts....its starting to bother me how they ALL say that HELP!!

don't listen to those so-called "friends" you've got...just because a guy is ugly doesn't mean he's not a nice person. it doesn't matter how hott the dude should be, it matters what his personality is like and how much you love him. you'd think looks are part of love, but what's the point? it doesn't show what he's like on the inside. remember not to prejudge anyone from the outside. keep loving him. =]

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He finally asked me to the dance!!!..But now i think he wants to go as more than friends. I dont think I am ready for that. I mean..he a a really great guy...he seems to really understand me but i am just not ready for that. What should I do?

that's fantastic that he asked you to go with him to the dance! i can understand how you feel unready to be in a relationship, so i suggest don't get too tense around him. if he makes a move or anything, tell him to slow down or give him signals to let him know that you're not ready to commit a new couple. hopefully he understands how you feel, and maybe later on if you two still like eachother, you can hook up. =] thanks for keeping in touch! be free to tell me what happens next!

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ok i have this guy friend and we met in august 2004 so not that long ago and then like 2 weeks after we met he left for college but we became really tight like we consider each other family...and i know this is a little late, but what should i get him for christmas? i never have any money(i am trying to save it for a trip) so if anyone has any ideas let me know

you've probably heard this before, but it doesn't matter what you BUY for a person, it really matters what's inside. i suggest you make a card for him from paper and scraps of fabrics, or with anything you have that doesn't need money to buy it...and in that card you can write him a nice long letter explaining how much you love that you guys are friends, something that will really touch his heart. and, if you guys are REALLY great friends, maybe he'll understand that you don't have enough money and you could just give him a great big hug for christmas. he'll probably love that. =]

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i seriously dont kno wut to do bout this friend of mine.. .im 14 nd i have dis friend who never invites me 2 any of her afterskool sleepovas but were like bffs in skool... she also alwayz puts up on away messagez like 'i have so nd so over nd were havin a blast yea ur jelous of our party' nd its so annoyin cuz i dont understand why she neglects me online nd after skool but were so close while skools in session

okay, this girl probably isn't your friend. if she seems to not like you or doesn't hang out with you anymore or tries to make you feel jealous, she probably doesn't want to be your friend anymore. if you enjoy all this neglectance, i would try to keep in touch with her. otherwise, i think you should talk to her and ask her about this. if she's a true friend, she'll understand what you're talking about.

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hey...i wrote u b4 bout a skool dance i am going to....well the guy still hasnt asked me and i am kinda worried he wont...he gets really nervous round me...but we r still really good friends....but last night we got in a fight...we made up and everything but i think he is still kinda mad at me(even though he says he isnt) wat should i do???

if you really like this guy, how about asking him to the dance? it wouldn't hurt a bit. if he refuses, he either doesn't like you or just needs time to cool off from the fight. another reason he hasn't asked you out yet is probably because he's nervous or he wants to wait till the exact moment before the dance. who knows...he could be planning some surprise for you or whatever! but my advice: just wait till a day or two before the dance and see if he changes his mind. if he doesn't and you really want him to and you really like him, go ahead and take charge yourself. and if he wasn't telling the truth about not being mad at you, that could mean that he isn't an honest guy to be with. glad you kept in touch, please send me more updates when it's time for the dance!

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Alot of times ii feel neglected by thiis one friend. He always throws parties and he never inviites me. What do ii do?

if he doesn't invite you to any parties, maybe he's not a "true friend". do you hang out with him at other times? that could be one of the reasons you're not very close. try to hang out with him or just get to know him better, and maybe if you guys have the same interests, you can get to be better friends.

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i feel like im growing apart from some of my close friends..is there any way to prevent this??

Signed,

Missed Friend

i can totally relate, Missed Friend. usually the reason for growing apart from friends if because you don't really talk or hang out anymore. try to plan a date with them like a sleepover or a day at the mall. then you guys can have time to talk and catch up with each other.

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